this question about how to avoid running out of things to say when talking to girls seems like the dumbest question you could ask because the answer and solution are really simple by the time you finish watching this video you'll know exactly what to do and you'll have solved this problem for good never to face it again however there's one thing I don't want to happen to you that you fix the issue of awkward silences only to find yourself in the friend zone so in this video I'll also explain the topics you should talk about with
her the point is this video is going to be legendary after finally breaking the ice with a woman most guys transform into human questionnaires immediately bombarding her with a barrage of mundane get to know you inquiries the same dull questions your aunt might pester you with at a tedious family party not only does this Relentless interrogation bore her to tears but it also prevents her from genuinely engaging in the conversation men often leap frog from one question to the next without taking a moment to expand upon a topic she clearly loves to discuss it's like
they're speed running through a dating app profile hoping to unlock some secret level try this instead whenever you're talking to a woman and you ask her a question follow up her answer with a statement rather than sprinting to the next question as if it's a race this not only shows that you're actually listening but also demonstrates that you can connect on a deeper level it opens up the conversation to more fun or intimate topics transforming it from a monotonous q and a session into an engaging dialogue who knows you might even discover she has a
secret hobby of training squirrels to steal jewelry for example you so do you have any pets huh yeah I actually have three of the cutest cats in the world you ah so you're one of those cat people huh huh stop it haha no I'm not one of those crazy cat ladies I just love my cats you they say people who like cats tend to be more independent than dog lovers as you can see by following up the question with a statement you're able to expand on the topic and inject a bit of fun and banter
into the conversation instead of ticking off a checklist of questions you're now engaging in a playful exchange that can lead to more interesting territories perhaps even discussing the merits of cats plotting world domination once a man senses any sort of rapport with a woman he often becomes petrified of shattering that fragile connection so he clings to Safe topics like a drowning man to a life raft unfortunately this strategy tends to be counterproductive usually ending up boring a woman who was previously interested it's like being served plain oatmeal when you were promised a gourmet meal disappointing
and Bland try this instead once you sense that you've sparked a woman's interest begin qualifying her with questions or statements that place you in the role of the selector this means making a statement that might disqualify her as a potential partner don't worry you're not actually rejecting her you're creating a playful Dynamic where she feels compelled to prove herself to you I talked about this topic in the series on how to attract women but I'll explain it to you again so you can understand it better it's best once you finish watching this video to go
back and watch the entire series to gain a deeper understanding let's use the cat example to illustrate you so do you have any any pets her yeah I have three of the cutest cats in the world you hm we would never get along I'm a dog person and I've heard that dog and cat owners tend to have a really intense sexual connection but disagree on every other possible Point huh oh really well maybe we could find some common ground as you can see you've taken a safe topic like pets and skillfully steered it into more
intriguing territory even sprinkling in a hint of sexuality by saying we would never get along you're subtly challenging her placing the burden of approval seeking on her suddenly the conversation has shifted from polite small talk to a playful battle of wits as men we often love to talk about facts events and amusing surface level Stories the kind of stuff that makes for great small talk but doesn't necessarily light anyone's fire while these topics can fill up the time they tend to limit you from exploring areas that really ignite passion in a woman women get their
fix from talking about the mystical or diving into deeper levels the emotional meanings behind facts events or those amusing stories if if you never hint that you're capable of communicating on this different wavelength you're missing out on a golden opportunity to separate yourself from the herd it's like being a black and white TV in a World of Color try this instead next time you're talking to a woman try using a cold reading to go beneath the surface and get her to open up about her feelings a cold read is simply stating something you've noticed about
her and then making a deeper observation about it here's an example you could use when she mentioned something about a previous date or guy she knew you I can tell just by the way you're talking that you're the kind of girl who goes on a lot of dates but has trouble finding someone you're actually interested in then when you find that person you usually lose interest very quickly huh yeah that's so true you I bet you really love Adventure sometimes it scares you but deep down you crave something exciting what's probably happening is that every
time you meet these guys you sense that they're not going to satisfy that Adventure you crave huh exactly it's like they don't understand what I'm looking for this example allowed you to delve into the mystical and emotional Realms disqualify the other guys and at the same time present yourself as someone new exciting and different who just might be the cure for her ailment you're not just another generic option you're the Intriguing new chapter in her life's novel since most men stick to interview mode topics like work in school they seldom have a chance to demonstrate
their passionate and excited side to a woman instead they talk about subjects that bore even themselves and in turn bore the woman it's like listening to elevator music when you were promised a live concert try this instead when you ask a woman what she looks for in a man many will mention the word passionate while we usually take what people say they want with a grain of salt in this case it's completely true enthusiasm breeds enthusiasm when you talk to a woman emphasize the things you're passionate and enthusiastic about having passion towards something can elevate
a relatively mundane subject like cooking into an engrossing conversation if you love to travel let her feel the excitement you get from exploring new places if you're into building your business let her see the leader in you let your entrepreneurial Spirit shine bright if you love music art or movies don't hide it under a bushel this doesn't mean bragging about your knowledge of these subjects it means explaining what about them really drives you women like men with Drive men who know what they want and go after it let women see that side of you after
all nobody ever complained about someone being too interesting when most men approach a beautiful woman they put her on a pedestal and treat her like royalty they become deafly afraid of offending her so worried about looking cool or saying the perfect thing that the conversation quickly Fizzles out it's like trying to dance while wrapped in bubble wrap awkward and ineffective but as we've previously discussed in how to attract women series women want a guy who is fun to be around the truth is we're all still children at heart although many of us love a good
intellectual conversation from time to time when we're out at a bar or on a date we just want to relax laugh a little and have a good time forgetting about the worries and stress in our life and the best way to do that is to keep the conversation playful and fun try this instead the whole point of teasing is to create a fun environment where a woman can loosen up and open up to you teasing basically means being silly with her it means treating her the same way you would your playful younger sister it involves
picking on her in a fun and flutatious way effective teasing means you'll have to drop your cool guy image for a while and just relax and have some fun don't be afraid to be a little goofy the world won't end if you crack a smile here are some examples of teasing getting ready to give her a high five then pulling your hand away like you changed your mind imitating her in a playful manner suggesting she she's coming on to you wo slow down there at least buy me dinner first telling her an overly exaggerated lie
then picking on her for being gullible enough to believe you wait you actually thought I have a pet dragon as you can see these are the same sorts of things you did on the playground in the fourth grade they worked then and they work now plus they're a lot more fun than discussing the weather one of the biggest problems men complain about is running out of things to talk about this usually happens for two reasons first the conversation stalls because they don't recognize how to smooth change a conversation threed second they don't provide enough new
Freds for the woman to grab on to it's like being on a sinking ship without any lifeboats what often happens is a man will ask a question and then immediately begin to think about what he's going to say next because of this he isn't really focused on listening to what the woman is saying and misses new conversation topics that he could have easily transitioned into it's like she's handing him a golden ticket and he's too busy looking at his shoes to notice try this instead the next time you're talking to a woman always try to
present her with several different topics she can latch on to when crafting your sentences for example instead of just saying I love baseball which limits the conversation thread to the topic of baseball say I love baseball because when I was young my father used to take me to games and now that I'm older I feel a real sense of nostalgia toward it now instead of forcing her to talk about baseball she has the option of transitioning to one of the other Freds you've brought up she can tell a story about somewhere her dad used to
take her when she was a little girl or she can talk about things that make her feel nostalgic when she is talking you should be listening for the same opening she is giving you for example if she says I love to cook my mom taught me how to cook and now I even find myself watching those cooking shows on TV instead of just staying on the cooking thread you can say yeah I'm the same way with those travel shows on TV I start watching them and get sucked into all the amazing locations so where would
you go on vacation if money wasn't a factor do you see how easy it was to transition to a new topic simply by taking one word TV and improvising off it to a completely new topic it's like playing a conversational game of jazz improvisation is key most men are under the false impression that beautiful women don't want to talk to them this is not the case beautiful women crave fun and flirtatious conversations just as much as we do the fact is there are so few men who know how to Peak a woman's interest through talking
to her that she is actually dying to meet a man who can you're not bothering her you're potentially saving her from another night of dull conversations about stock prices and weather patterns the main reason most men don't communicate well with women is that they let their nervousness and anxiety prevent them from showing their fun side the second biggest reason is that they don't talk to her in a way that she responds to they're speaking different languages and not in the cute romantic comedy way women are different from men as we talked about earlier women love
to discuss the meaning behind actions and the emotions they evoke it's also true that the emotions that arise during a conversation will subconsciously anchor them to you this means that if you're talking about relationships and she starts talking about all the bad feelings she EXP experienced with her previous boyfriend she will begin to associate you with those feelings congratulations you've just become the emotional equivalent of spoiled milk try this instead if it's true that women will anchor negative feelings to you then it must be true that women will anchor positive feelings to you as well
this is why it's important to draw her into a positive emotional state one way to do this is to tease her as discussed earlier another way is to ask questions and make statements that prompt her to talk about specific feelings she has for something if you're talking to a woman and she men that she likes to go snowboarding instead of talking about facts such as which mountain she usually snowboards at or what kind of equipment she uses get her to talk about the feelings she experiences while snowboarding for example you did you do anything fun
last weekend huh yeah I went snowboarding I had the best time you wow I love snowboarding I think I'm literally addicted to the rush I get going down the mountain what about you what excites you most about snowboarding huh well I guess it would be that feeling of Adventure going so fast being a little scared but not wanting it to end because it feels like you're living in this example you've taken the topic of snowboarding and talked about the meaning behind it and the emotions it evokes since these emotions are positive you've put the woman
in a positive mood and she has subconsciously anchored the feelings of Adventure excitement and truly living to you it's like you're her personal excitement concierge and before I finish the video I want to respond to a comment I received on the previous video from someone who said that because I sell a course they feel like the videos I make are just for marketing my course I'll respond to this comment because I believe this person isn't the only one who has this idea many others watching might feel the same way my dear brother with all love
all you need to do to realize that this belief is wrong is to watch the videos I publish in this series it's literally impossible to find the information I give in this series for free on YouTube and even if you paid money you wouldn't find it the topic I'm discussing is something I'm deeply passionate about and my main expertise is in studying human behavior the subject of Social and emotional relationships took me years to understand and every video I create I explain it to you from the bottom of my heart believe me I genuinely want
to help you improve your social life as for the course I sell I do it because I can't put the content on YouTube this platform prefers shorter videos ones with heavy editing or those that cover a variety of topics if I were to put my course on YouTube it wouldn't even get 5,000 views because each video in the course completes the one before it with detailed information however if you're unable to afford the symbolic price I set for the course I swear the information I give in this series it's something you wouldn't find even if
you spent hundreds of dollars and that's all for this video if you've been watching until now and haven't liked the video yet come on bro this was the dark needle take care [Music]
