this is you and this is a girl you like how do you get her number or contact information that's what we'll learn in today's video and I will give you a perfect technique to approach a girl that guarantees you a yes response every time as we discussed earlier in the series on how to attract women it's important to stay calm in all situations if you're relaxed before you approach someone things usually go well but if you're nervous you might seem less confident which can lead to rejection for those who've never been to a club or
tried talking to a woman in Social settings getting into the the right mindset can be tough just thinking about approaching a go might make you anxious the best way to overcome this fear is to take action so should you go out and start approaching women yes but start small don't jump into full conversations yet instead approach 10 women each day and simply ask them for the time that's all make sure you're not wearing a watch and if you have a cell phone turn it off this simple exercise can boost your confidence after a few days
you'll notice you feel more at ease set your own goals and plan accordingly choose the right places asking for the time in nightclubs might not be the best idea opt for Cala spots like Parks malls or coffee shops it's also helpful to do this exercise a few minutes before you plan to start talking more it boosts your confidence and makes you feel more comfortable approaching women by getting a Target I mean to find a woman you'd like to talk to if you're new to approaching women it's a good idea to avoid nightclubs at first going
to a nightclub without much experience can lead to disappointment many guys try to meet women at bars and clubs get rejected and then feel feel discouraged from trying again the main problems with nightclubs are high competition many other guys are trying to do the same thing defensive attitudes women might be on guard because they're approached frequently loud music it's hard to have a conversation over the noise instead consider other places that might be better for beginners hobby classes like yoga salsa dancing or aerobics are great options these places often have many women and few men
giving you more chances to practice without much competition you can also try places like restaurants coffee shops public libraries or malls there are plenty of options if you think about it once you've picked a place find a woman you'd like to approach this is your target approaching a woman who is with a group can be harder than approaching someone who is alone but don't worry too much about that just choose someone you'd like to talk to here's an important tip make your approach within 5 Seconds of deciding to do so why because the longer you
wait the more likely your brain will come up with excuses not to you might talk yourself out of it and let insecurities take over the more you hesitate the more nervous you'll become and you might end up not approaching at all and now let's move on to one of the most important steps in today's video do you know one of the major reasons why a lot of guys get turned down when they first approach a woman it's because they don't know the right way to approach let's take a typical case here what would an average
guy do when he approaches a girl he first stares at her then starts walking up to her and as soon as he reaches her he says something like hi I am Fred can I buy you a drink at this the girl goes my boyfriend is standing over there Fred turns and walks away now did she really have have a boyfriend maybe or maybe not but it sure was a good excuse to get rid of Fred women who regularly go out always get thousands of such men approaching them on a regular basis you see none of
these approaches will ever work since women are strongly programmed to turn down every approach of this kind furthermore girls automatically assume that any guy who approaches them this way is only looking for casual sex and nothing else and even worse there are guys who have a large collection of those witty pickup lines and regularly try them thinking that would help them pick up any girl but guess what these are the type of guys who get turned down the most you see the key to approaching a female successfully is to get her comfortable in your presence
before you move on to other things why because as long as you try too hard to get her she will always sense that you're on to something fishy and she will put up her wall of Defense before you can even think of anything it will get to a point where she would do almost anything to get rid of you therefore it is very important to get her comfortable in your presence so how does one do that well first of all you must work on how you approach approach the female here are some very important Keys
you must take into consideration one never approach her from the front where she can see you coming this is a very common mistake most newbies tend to make regularly if she can see you charging towards her she will know that you are coming her way and she will put up her Wall of Resistance even before you say your first words two never approach her from behind this is another huge mistake guys make regularly there are a lot of guys who approach the girl from behind by either slightly touching her on the shoulder or starting the
conversation without notice this always scares them and they will instantly avoid you this can completely ruin your chances of ever picking up women therefore always keep in mind never to approach a woman from behind so how should one approach her you should always approach her from the side this is by far the best way and will always get you the most success an approach from the side does not scare her and also she can't really see you coming right towards her so she doesn't put the wall of Defense up a good way of doing this
is to walk past her and just tilt your head in her Direction and start the conversation however make sure your chest is facing the other direction that means talking over your shoulder this is a very non-threatening posture and she will be very comfortable when you talk to her in this position the next part is starting a conversation and this is the most crucial element so how does one start the conversation as we have already discussed above direct approaches never work therefore in order to start conversations you have to act in a manner that demonstrates that
you aren't trying to hit on them here is a very common opener I regularly use in order to do this you must use your cell phone and pretend that you are talking to someone as you spot a woman you would like to approach just pass by her as usual look over your shoulder and pause a little then holding the phone next to your ear say oh here's someone let me ask her then say my friend here on the phone says girls lie more than men is that true her no I feel men lie more than
women then hang up the phone and say I am in a hurry but my friend said never to trust anything a female says half the time she would be lying her I totally disagree then say yeah I mean it can't apply to all females and this is where you have success successfully opened your conversation and now you have her attention it's important that you say that you are in a hurry and have to go you see the reason why you must say this is because now she knows that you won't hang around too long which
lowers her defenses and at the same time you demonstrate high value but there are some things you have to be careful about here a lot of guys try canned openers which might or might not work in all situations there are guys who are so strict on theory that they would only use the lines they memorized without observing what the female is actually doing for example I have come across many guys who would just stop some random girl in a hurry and say hey do girls lie more than men and mostly they get either no response
or total avoidance simply because most guys don't really observe what the girl is doing at the point of approach you should always work according to the environment and never rely solely on canned openers you see the best way to open conversations is to be as natural as possible for example imagine you are at a restaurant and you see a pretty girl sitting across the room now a good approach in this situation would be to go up to her and ask her about what she is eating or drinking something like this you hey what is it
that you're eating her oh this is XYZ dish you I'm new to this place and can't really figure out what to order I think I should order this dish is there anything else you can suggest huh oh yeah also try blah blah you see how easy it was to open the conversation again now a common question most guys have is what if she is in some neutral environment and I can't really find much to open with well in that case you should observe what she's wearing and comment on that here's an example you that's a
pretty interesting bracelet you have on what's the story behind that her she would give some response you yeah it caught my attention that's why I asked you about it by the way I'm John H hi I'm Jen and you see how easy it is another great way to open any conversation successfully is to never ask a question but to guess it this means instead of asking her what do you do or where do you come from just guess it instead for example you are you from California huh no what makes you say that you well
you have the Californian look about you huh what do you mean you well look at the way you're dressed I have a friend who dresses exactly like you and she is from California too all you guys tend to dress like Barbie dolls why is that and the conversation is successfully opened again it doesn't really matter what you ask her but it's fine as long as it is a guess or assumption she will always have that why do you say that lying and that will help you open the conversation successfully and by the way if this
video reaches 4,000 likes I will leave in the first comment a document containing 26 examples of openers you can use usually most guys feel lost after opening because of not knowing what to say next after some time there Comes That awkward silence where the girl thinks okay here is this going this is probably the hardest part of the whole deal the hotter the woman the harder it would be to get her interested it's pretty easy to open conversations but it's hard to take it to the next level unless you know how to further transition the
conversation into sparking strong emotional attraction you are only building up casual talk and nothing else when it comes to getting her interested I want you to apply everything you've learned with me in this series series the qualifying technique the listen like a therapist technique body language the push and pull technique mystery tell her a bit and leave her begging for more everything you've learned with me since the day I started this series but there's one technique I haven't talked about before and I want you to listen to me carefully and pay close attention to it
talk to your Target's friend more than the target this works really well when you're approaching women in groups normally most guys pay a lot of attention towards the girl they originally targeted and tend to ignore the rest of the group this would actually work against you since this makes it obvious to the Target that you are interested in her you should rather spend more time on the target's friends this will make the girl you are targeting feel a bit jealous because you are not giving her much attention but the good part is she will get
more Curious now since you are making her work for your attention here is an example consider being around a group of girls say this to your target hey are they your friends she would say yes they are then you should say be a good girl introduce me she will most probably introduce you to some of her friends you should instantly start talking more to one of her friends and completely avoid her for a few minutes after a few minutes you will see your target working extra hard to get your attention which also means she is
now curious about you physical touch is an extremely important aspect of getting her attracted to you when you say something from a distance it won't make that much of an impact but when you say something with a bit of playful physical touch its impact will double here are some super easy routines you can use to easily touch her stare at her hands then grab her fingers and say oh nice nails but I think they would look better in pink nail polish stare at her forehead say you have something on your forehead she would say oh
what then do a slight cleanup with your fingers and say okay all clean now stare at her hair say wow nice color or how did you get it curly like that is this real hair then touch it and the very common way of doing it is giving a girl a high five say something like you are cool just like me we will make a great team give me a high five and then give her a gentle high five if a girl lets you touch her once she has already put her defenses down and now she
will let you further escalate into more intense physical things like hugging kissing Etc if you've done everything else correctly getting her phone number should be straightforward once you've had a good conversation with her transition into sharing an interesting story while telling the story you might say something like oh I just noticed something interesting about you then continue with your story she might ask what you noticed but keep her Curious by telling her you'll share after you finish the story when the story ends she'll likely ask you again about what you noticed at that point check
the time and say oh I'm running late I have to go hand her your phone and say here enter your number I'll tell you what I noticed and share something else with you later often she'll enter her number because she's interested in continuing the conversation by handing her your phone you also ensure you get the correct number you can even give her a quick call to confirm in case she gave you the wrong number say oh playing aren't we she would most probably say oh sorry I gave you the wrong number by mistake let me
do it again at this say no never mind I don't want it it was great meeting you and walk off in case she totally refuses to give you her number then you have done something wrong or not built enough attraction yet in this case say come on giddy up I don't have much time here if she still refuses then say a friendly goodbye and walk off that's right don't wait a single second more just walk off always remember that in order to make her give you the phone number you should always provide a motive in
case you don't have good stories to tell or can't think about any stories to get her interested just come up with other motives which would persuade her to give you the number for example say something like my friends are having this party on Saturday it's one of the coolest events which happens only once a year I have free passes you should come then hand her your phone again and say here punch in your number I'll let you know the timings when you ask her randomly for a phone number by saying can I have your phone
number you will always get put down or even if you do end up getting some phone numbers the girl will not remember you after a few days simply because you didn't create enough attraction for her to remember you it's important that the moment you get her phone number you exit the venue you don't want to bump into her again as that would just make it a bit awkward at the same time all the work you did in creating attraction might reverse and with that we've come to the end of the video if you have any
issues let me know in the comments so I can know what to talk about in the next video this was the dark needle and see you next time you FOC problems not putting the blame on me so I won't pick up I don't want to talk about you know that we disagree
