I still remember one day when I was sitting in a bar with a friend we were sitting talking and laughing until I saw a girl the moment I saw her it felt like I'd seen an angel my eyes widened and my heart started beating fast I thought to myself I have to go and talk to her the moment I said this to myself my mind started racing I wonder if she's with someone I have no idea what to say to her maybe she doesn't want to be bothered I shouldn't say anything it wouldn't be welcome
I wish I knew something cool and confident to say right now and about a million other thoughts that didn't help me at all but the main thing I kept thinking was that I'd regret it all night if I didn't go over and say hello to her then I paused and thought to myself what's the worst that could happen so I got up walked over to her and said exactly what was on my mind hey how's it going I felt like I'd regret it all night if I didn't come over and say hi immediately two things
happened first I felt a huge weight lifted off my shoulders because I wasn't putting a ton of pressure on myself to seem cool or to say the perfect thing I was just letting my natural thoughts flow out and it felt right second she absolutely liked me we started flirting back and forth she got us free drinks from the bartender and everything was going perfectly and all of this happened because I stopped trying to act with fake confidence and dropped my shield I let her see me as I am since that night this has been the
only way I approach women I don't try to act cool or Force anything to happen I just say what's on my mind I firmly believe that anything else is just a crutch or a shield to hide behind and here I'll pause to tell you a story a long time ago I read a study that discussed the psych ology behind the way a person laughs meaning it explored how each person has a unique laugh and how it evolves over time anyway to keep it brief and avoid making the video too long there are two types of
laughter loud laughter and quiet laughter if we go back hundreds of thousands of years when humans lived in tribes you'd find that the tribal leader or the strong men laughed loudly and with a lot of power they had no problem laughing with intensity and weren't afraid of anything whereas a weaker person didn't laugh loudly because they didn't want to draw attention to themselves and so on the theory is long and there's no need to go into its details since it's not our main topic but in short a strong man laughs loudly while a weaker man
laughs quietly in our current time most people laugh softly due to school and Society where loud laughter is somewhat considered impolite so now almost everyone laughs quietly but that's not what intrigued me the most rather it's something else that your way of laughing isn't something you were born with it's something you develop over time like body language or your accent it's something in your subconscious and if you want to change it you can meaning you could start today by trying to laugh more powerfully like this and with time this will become your laugh and you'll
do it naturally I'll go off topic a bit here and I know this advice might sound silly or weird but trust me if you can change your laugh and make it a powerful one like a viking leader you won't believe how much your social life and interactions with women will change laughter is one of the most important things in human connection and is among the top things that attract women to men and men to women as a man if you see a woman with an an attractive sweet laugh you'll feel drawn to her likewise if
a woman sees that you have a strong confident laugh she will instinctively feel attracted to you even a sexual attraction it's simple and something you can start doing from today but this isn't our main topic and at the same time I know most of you won't try it because it seems odd but since I'm a nerd and a weirdo the day I read about this I started applying it and tried to change my own laugh I still remember meeting with my friends we started talking and when I laughed I would laugh loudly and in a
strange way when they asked me why I explained the study I'd read and the insights I had learned about how a strong man is the one who laughs powerfully at that moment one of my friends looked me straight in the eye and said no you're wrong if you want to have presence and be strong you shouldn't laugh much you should be serious most of the time so people will respect you when I heard him say those words I felt angry not because I had spent an entire night reading a 150 page PDF on this subject
only for him to come along and tell me I was wrong but I was angry because of the world we live in now because of the movie and shows where people see the gang leader never laughing so it seems to them that they too shouldn't laugh and should be serious without going into too much detail think of someone you know who is always serious and ask yourself would you want to be around them the answer is often no and if you think about it for a moment you'll realize that they probably don't have friends and
no one talks to them and this applies not only to their relationships with women but with everyone this excessive seriousness and lack of laughter is like a virus in your social life and since we're talking about women here you have to be be spontaneous with them you shouldn't overthink or worry about anything just be natural and say whatever comes to mind being spontaneous and not taking things too seriously is the most important quality you should have if you want to attract women and live happily if you try to recall anytime you manag to capture the
attention of a girl or group of girls you'll likely find that it was because you acted naturally and didn't try to look cool so let's get back to the topic of the video every time you find yourself trying too hard to appear cool or confident remember me and ignore that overthinking girls like a man who is at ease with himself who doesn't take life too seriously who enjoys the moment and laughs remember women are always reading you and deciding how they should feel about you when you're not being completely honest and genuine about your intentions
they sense it it shows on your face your body language and in the subtle ways you react in the moment you need to create an interesting attractive conversation that makes her feel comfortable and open with you this is the essence of the authentic approach look since I started this series on how to attract a women there's been one question that comes up more than anything else what do I say when I approach a girl I'd always give examples of openers and lines you could use and I'd see many people in the comments asking for more
examples and lines and a lot of them liked those phrases but the truth is they never actually solved the real problem the real problem was that they felt nervous thought they needed to hide that from women they believed they needed to say a lot of stuff to make up for their feeling of inadequacy toward the girls they were talking to and if you rely so on that years from now you'll still face the same issue and won't be able to speak comfortably with women for me I have tried hundreds of pickup lines but the one
I currently use and find the most effective is to walk up to her and say hey you're cute I wanted to get to know you I am the dark needle I introduced myself and tell her why I came over to talk this is the authentic approach I never try to hide my intentions or pretend I'm not attracted to her in fact I want her to know I'm attracted to her why should I be ashamed of that why would I want to hide it why would I put up any barrier or obstacle to getting what I
want now let's pause here because if you've been following me in this series on how to attract women you'll have noticed that I always tell you don't offer free validation to girls don't compliment her and don't show her that you want her in this video I'll explain this concept in detail and you'll understand clearly how to show interest in a girl you like let me introduce you to a technique called Shameless interest interest without any shame in fact when I start talking to a girl I'm attracted to one of the first questions I ask is
are you single there's a clear intention behind this question right I'm asking because I'm interested in her and I'm upfront about it I'm not trying to hide it I also enjoy finding new ways to let girls know I'm attracted to them stop being so cute you made me forget what I was going to say what an incredibly adorable person you are I can already tell that I'm going to like you should we just skip everything and get married already if you're trying to make me like you it seems to be working by the way you
can use this technique whether it's the first time you're meeting her and starting a conversation or if it's a second date but if you meet by chance or if she's a classmate or cooworker work ER you can start with casual conversation and wait until you're on a date to apply this approach the biggest reason guys get lost in Gray areas is their fear of showing direct genuine interest in a girl this straightforward interest clears up all the gray areas and makes things completely clear black or white it's incredibly simple honest and authentic and it doesn't
require any sort of game or excessive cleverness but it does take courage girls are attracted to courage remember that at the same time however you shouldn't show her that you're entirely sold on her so how do you do that as I explained in this series if a girl is even a little bit attractive she usually has a kind of high ego meaning that when you speak to her she assumes by default that you're interested in her if you try to hide your attraction she'll either see you as weak and unable to be natural or she'll
put you in the friend zone so there's no problem with showing you're interested but you shouldn't show her that you want her listen carefully this is a legendary rule to always remember there's no issue with showing her she attracts you the key is not to show her that you desire her completely meaning you can say something like I like your hair which is casual at the same time if there's something you don't like you can tell her that as well and by the way some people might misunderstand me here and think I'm telling you to
compliment her but no there's a big difference between showing Shameless interest and giving compliments for example you could say I like your hair which is Shameless interest but if you say your hair is beautiful that's a compliment and it's something she hears all the time if you do this you'll convey two things first you'll stay in the friend zone as Compliments are often for friends second you'll seem weak because you weren't able to express your interest honestly and this is the difference between a friend and a lover a lover says I'm interested in you while
a friend says you're beautiful this is something I want you to remember throughout your life when talking to a girl don't compliment her outright if there's something nice about her tell her that it interests you at the same time let her know what doesn't appeal to you you have nice hair but I tend to Prefer Blondes anyway I went over this explanation in detail in previous videos one last thing I'll explain before we continue is that when you talk to girls the actual words you say don't have much value on their own attraction for a
woman is linked to the feeling that your words generate so when you approach her and say I like you and I want to talk to you this communicates that you're confident and not overly concerned with what she might think of you attraction is 80 to 90% non-verbal this means that what you actually say when you first approach a girl isn't really important what matters is how you say it you could introduce yourself directly talk about the weather tell a joke or use any clever line taught by dating coaches these days personally I prefer to keep
things simple and straightforward so I don't overthink it and stay relaxed because the true points of Attraction aren't in verbal communication but in non-verbal or what we call subcommunication this includes your tone of voice body language the way you look at her the way you're breathing and so on subcommunication speaks directly to the subconscious which is where emotional and sexual desire come from and do you remember what I mentioned in one of the videos in this series how women are naturally attracted to men they believe other women want men who have multiple options well there
are some key differences in the behavior and subcommunication of these men compared to those who don't have options here's one major difference men with options assume that women are attracted to them they're used to many women being interested so when they meet a new woman they assume she's attracted to them too and even if she's not it doesn't bother them they don't get flustered nor do they take it personally or make a big deal out of it compare this to men who don't have many options they typically assume that women aren't attracted to them because
that's been their experience in life so so far if by chance they find a girl who shows even a hint of Interest they cling to her feeling like they won't find anyone else deep down they don't believe they deserve the women they desire so they try extra hard to compensate for that but have you ever noticed that the harder you try to make a girl like you the less she actually does that's because guys who try too hard are subtly communicating that they don't have many options and women aren't drawn to men who lack options
I know I keep repeating this concept but that's only because it's so important women want men with options and men with options assume attraction if you were to assume attraction you'd look her in the eyes introduce yourself and tell her why you came over hey you're attractive what's your name and if you're feeling good and have something attractive or awesome to say by all means go ahead and say it but only if you genuinely feel it because that will come across in your subcommunication if you're not feeling it if you're nervous or uncertain don't overthink
it just introduce yourself and tell her why you came over make it your mission to find out who she is and if she's interesting and worth your time to talk to anything beyond that is over effort which actually works against you what you say the first time isn't important and won't be remembered what will be remembered is how you showed up and how you made her feel by the way do you remember the story I told you at the beginning that's not what actually happened the person who went and talked to that girl wasn't me
it was my friend who was with me as for my story it ended while I was still thinking about what to say and that night ended without the girl and without my friend I deeply regretted missing that opportunity but I learned a lot from that experience and if my my mistake can help someone else learn and benefit from it then I think I'm glad I made it so please don't be like me brother
