today you're going to understand nine points that exist in the mind of all girls these nine points are weaknesses you'll understand them with me clearly and I'll explain to you how to take advantage of them I'm not just going to list them for you and leave it at that I'll show you how to use them to your advantage so listen carefully the contrasting personalities you need to have two contrasting personalities not just one for example if your personality is generally kind you should also have a darker more mischievous side or let's say you have a
strong calm and composed personality one day you and a girl are walking down the street and you hear a song playing loudly suddenly you start dancing out of nowhere when she sees you dancing she'll get confused and won't understand what's going on she'll think to herself isn't this guy strong and calm why is he dancing who is this person really these kinds of questions that keep running through her mind will make her think about you constantly and they will reinforce her belief in your strength how if you've been following my series on how to attract
women you'll know by now that women are attracted to strong men but what I don't want you to do is to always act as the strong man 100% of the time if you do that she won't believe in your strength and will feel like you're forcing it that's why you should always try to incorporate an opposite side to your personality if you're kind add a dark and bad side to you this will make her think about you more and at the same time it will increase your mysteriousness by the way soon I'll be releasing a
video in this series dedicated solely to mystery and how to increase the mystery in your personality but for now I want you to focus on adding a contrasting side to your personality and trust me you'll be surprised by the results talk to her about someone who looks different from her this tactic is very important always talk to her about someone who looks the opposite of her for example if the girl you're interested in has black hair mention a blonde girl when you're talking to her say something like I knew a blonde girl who used to
impress me when I worked at XYZ company and then continue the conversation or you could mention a famous blonde actress and say you're a fan of her acting and keep talking casually but when you talk to her speak naturally don't make it it seem like you're throwing her a hint or a signal just talk normally to fully understand this tactic let me explain something about girls you have to understand that girls tend to overthink a lot from the moment they wake up in the morning they begin to overthink for example if she's walking down the
street and suddenly sees a crying child she might think about that child all day creating scenarios in her mind trying to understand why the child was crying she might even start feeling sad for the child even though she doesn't know him and only saw him for a few seconds this is part of a girl's nature she overthinks everything and this overthinking is one of her biggest weaknesses so when you're with her and they talk about a girl who looks completely different from her even if you only say a word or two she will keep thinking
about that girl when she goes home at night she'll keep wondering why you mentioned that blonde girl she'll think does he like blond am I not attractive to him am I not beautiful maybe I should dye my hair blonde in other words with just one sentence you can make her think about you all day and this state of mind where she is thinking about you and trying to understand you is the quickest way to her heart and it's the fastest route to love in short talk to her about a girl who looks the opposite of
her don't be afraid to criticize the girl this point is more about you as a man than it is about the girl as men we often fear hurting a girl's feelings and we hesitate to criticize her for example if a girl is smoking next to you you might not have the courage to tell her don't smoke or blow the smoke away because you're afraid of seeming rude or impolite but in reality this is just a misconception that Society has ingrained in us if you tell her blow the smoke away even even though you may come
off as rude she'll actually admire the confidence and strength you're showing but you shouldn't be overly critical all the time your criticism needs to be thoughtful for example if she wears something that doesn't look good on her tell her that outfit doesn't suit you or if she takes a picture that doesn't look great tell her that picture didn't turn out well this honest criticism has a strong impact on the relationship because when you criticize her your compliments become much more valuable I want you to remember this phrase for the rest of your life when you
criticize her your compliment ments become more meaningful if you always compliment her she won't give much importance to your praise but when you criticize her from time to time the compliments you give become special and she'll desire them more think about yourself if someone is constantly telling you you're smart you're smart you're smart after a while you'll stop valuing those words but if someone who has never complimented you before suddenly says you're smart you'll appreciate that compliment much more this is natural as humans we give more value to rare things by the way this isn't
just a weak weakness for women it's a universal human trait I'll be making a video soon on this topic as part of the social skills series but for now just remember don't be afraid to criticize the girl because criticism is the foundation that will make your compliments valuable later on that was point three let's move on to point four talk to her about something she's not good at if the girl doesn't know how to do something or struggles with a certain area in her life you can use this to your advantage in a subtle way
listen closely to this let's say a girl tells you she doesn't know how to cook wait for some time and then one day during your conversation casually mention something like I really admire girls who know how to cook but don't say it directly the topic should naturally flow from what you're already talking about when you bring it up don't dwell on it for too long don't just go up to her and say I love girls who can cook while staring at her because that will make her feel like you're directly targeting her and she may
try to respond defensively however when you mention it indirectly later when she goes home she'll keep thinking about that point I'll repeat this again the more a girl thinks about you the more she'll grow attached to you share your weakness with her this point is very important so pay close attention share your weakness with her why I get a lot of questions from people who are afraid that a girl will discover their weaknesses listen carefully I'm going to tell you something very important that I want you to take to heart if you have a weakness
tell her about it before she finds it out on her own this is a very powerful technique and few people know about it if you have a particular issue let's say you don't know how to dance and one day you go with a girl to a club and start dancing and she notices you're terrible at it she'll see this as a flaw and think less of you for not knowing how to dance but if you go to her beforehand and tell her that you don't know how to dance then you're doing two things first she'll
see you as confident because you admitted it to her this shows that you don't care about her judgment and that's a sign of self-confidence at the same time you'll make her feel empathy for you remember the word empathy well because empathy is a key part of a woman's nature we can even consider it one of the biggest weaknesses of women why do some people use the pity strategy to get closer to women because when a woman feels empathy for a man it becomes difficult for her to say no and she feels a strong attraction toward
him but let's be clear I don't recommend using the pity strategy to win over a girl because even if it works once it's unlikely to work again and you could lose her I recommend using empathy while maintaining your strength and masculinity that's why I'm telling you if you have a weakness let her know about it and by the way since we're talking about empathy I'll share a technique I've been meaning to talk about for a while but didn't get the chance if you ever get sick or need something and you're already in a relationship with
a girl ask her to take care of you if you're sick and need medicine ask her to go to the pharmacy and get it for you women naturally love to take care of others so if the situation arises ask her to look after you when you're with her show that you lose control a little like a small child who wants to hug her or gently touch her you become spontaneous and when she does something cute you hug her and let go of that strong composed side of yourself show her this side but there's an important
point to stop here and discuss this technique shouldn't be used all the time it depends on the girl you're dealing with most of the time in the first date it's better not to do this or if it's your first time talking to the girl don't use this technique wait at least until the second meeting and start gradually don't suddenly go for a hug out of nowhere the key is if it's suitable for your situation show her that you lose control when she does something cute or wear something that looks good on her this will make
her like you more because she'll feel that you're spontaneous and unafraid to show your admiration for her at the same time this is one of the best ways to avoid being stuck in the friend zone by the way I'm considering making a video about the friend zone in the how to attract women series if you want me to do that and if you're currently facing this issue let me know in the comments please make her put an effort to attract you how can you do this listen carefully because this is the most important point in
today's video make her put an effort to attract you let's say for example you tell her that you like philosophy after some time ask her do you like philosophy at this point there are two possible responses she might say yes or she might say no if she says yes it means she's trying to impress you this is something inherent in all girls they want to be liked her attempt to gain your approval will make her more attracted to you if she says no Then when she goes home she'll start thinking I told him no and
he likes philosophy what's he going to think of me what's his opinion of me now as I mentioned before every girl has a natural weakness she wants to be liked in this case after saying no she'll keep thinking about you and wondering did I lose his interest this reflection will make her want you more so in both cases you win the key is to put her in a position where she feels like she needs to earn your approval but if she answers no and doesn't seem to care about impressing you don't sit there trying to
convince her or say things like oh philosophy isn't that great or try to follow her lead in the conversation if she says no just ignore it or change the subject entirely if you want in summary the idea is to let her know that you like something then later ask her about that thing and let her put in the effort to prove that she's worthy of your admiration set boundaries with her by Nature girls like to be controlled by a man who knows how to lead and establish dominance this is a weakness that many of you
might already be aware of but what you might not know is how to apply this control the simplest way is by setting boundaries you need to show her that you have limits for example if you tell her I don't like girls who smoke and then she pulls out a cigarette and starts smoking in front of you get up and walk away immediately don't stay sitting next to her over time she'll stop smoking in front of you or let's say you're planning a trip together tell her I don't pay for girls we'll split the costs and
then stick to that boundary by the way there's a question that comes up frequently who should pay the bill should you pay for everything or should you split the costs this question doesn't have a single answer it depends on what you want to do and what works best for you just do what makes you comfortable especially in the early stages if you've just started seeing the girl and she isn't your girlfriend yet if you can afford to pay then pay if you can't don't pay and split the bill the important thing is to do what
suits you and don't worry about her opinion or society's expectations make her realize she's not the only one in your life a girl will often ask you from time to time if you're seeing someone else most men feel insecure and respond by saying I'm not seeing anyone else but that's not what you should do instead say something like yes there are a few candidates I've shortlisted let's see who gets the job saying this won't just make her jealous it will also push her to work twice as hard to keep you around women are naturally attracted
to men who have multiple options and this is a weakness I've talked about a lot in the how to attract women Series so if you haven't watched it yet I recommend going back and watching the full series and with that we've come to the end of the video if you have any issues let me know in the comments so I can know what to talk about in the next video this was the dark needle and see you next time [Music]
