when we talk about girls there are certain things you must do and there are other things you should avoid since we started this series I've been telling you what you should do but even if you're as Charming as Brad Pit if you make the mistakes I'm going to tell you about in this video you'll never get to see that girl again let me tell you a story to explain it clearly a young man was sitting in a park when he noticed a very attractive young woman reading a book on a nearby bench the moment he
saw her he thought to himself I should go over and talk to her however when he actually considered approaching her negative thoughts began to fill his mind causing him to hesitate he froze and before he could do anything the young woman closed her book and walked away he sat there frustrated and angry at himself for missing the opportunity but he wasn't ready to give up just yet after some thought he realized that she seemed to visit the park regularly determined to speak to her he made up his mind to return the next day and approach
her the next day as expected he saw her again in the same spot but just like before when it came time to make a move he found himself paralyzed with fear he stood there staring at her from a distance unable to take a step forward this pattern repeated itself for several days each time he would tell himself that today would be the day but each time he ended up Frozen in place watching as she eventually left finally after about a week he managed to push himself to walk up to her nervously he approached the bench
where she was sitting pretending to be interested in the book she was reading he fumbled for words and awkwardly asked is that book any good the young woman looked up smiled politely and said yes it's one of my favorites encouraged by her response he tried to keep the conversation going but his nervousness made it difficult ult he could barely string together a coherent sentence and after a few uncomfortable minutes she politely excused herself and left despite the awkwardness he was encouraged by the fact that she didn't immediately dismiss him so he returned to the park
the next day hoping to build on their previous conversation but each time he tried to engage her his anxiety got the better of him the conversations remained short and stilted with him struggling to keep her interest nevertheless he kept returning to the park desperate for another chance to impress her after many days of constant effort he finally managed to persuade the young woman to go out on a date with him however What followed was a complete disaster they went out a couple of times but by this point the young man had become increasingly attached to
her his feelings grew deeper and so did his insecurity now instead of just visiting the park once he found himself going there several times a day hoping to see her his thoughts became consumed with whether or not she liked him and his emotions swung wildly depending on how much attention she paid him that day eventually feeling overwhelmed by his own confusion he decided that the only way to resolve his Fe feelings was to confess them one afternoon after yet another brief and awkward conversation he blurted out I really like you and I'd love to take
you out sometime young woman seemed surprised but after a moment she responded I'm flattered but I really just see you as a friend I don't want to ruin that her response left him feeling even more confused and disheartened he thought that maybe he hadn't tried hard enough so he continued to pursue her but every time he brought up the idea of going out she gently but firmly turned him down insisting that she valued their friendship as the days passed she started to distance herself she began spending less time in the park and when she did
come she seemed preoccupied no longer engaging in their brief conversations one day he decided to call her and ask why they weren't talking as much when he brought it up she told him that she had been really busy and had a lot going on but that they could catch up another time however that time never seemed to come so where did this young man go wrong if you analyze the situation closely you'll see that he demonstrated several traits of a low value male which ultimately sabotaged his chances with the young woman here are some of
the mistakes he made and before we continue let's get this video to 3,000 likes one he put the young woman on a pedestal simply because of her looks high value males never give a girl too much importance only because she is good-looking this is the most important attitude you must cultivate into your personality at all costs never show a woman that you consider her to be too good-look let her know that you don't really go by looks but by personality because good looks are easy to find but personality is a rare trait the moment you
act this way around them you will instantly be awarded with the tag known as that special different guy and this is what what most women are looking for in a potential mate two he agreed with her way too much to keep her comfortable this is just another horrible idea that Society has hammered into the male brain kissing up to a woman does not mean she is going to like you by agreeing with her on everything you will just give off a very weak Vibe which will make her feel that you're trying to seek her approval
or permission if you always play by her rules and agree with everything she says you are indirectly communicating that you don't know how to get the recognition you deserve from her therefore you are scared that this agreement might work against you and you are also displaying that you don't consider yourself to be good enough which makes you fear losing her in fact this is something we see all over the place some average guy manages to initiate a conversation with a hot girl millions of thoughts start running through his mind he starts fearing that he should
choose the right words or he might screw it all up when he can't come up with anything to talk about his fears increase and he starts asking boring questions like what do you do for a living Etc he thinks whatever she says I'll just agree with it so that I don't make her mad I don't want to come across as rude after a few minutes the girl thinks this is so boring how do I get out of this she makes some lame excuse like I need to excuse myself to the washroom she leaves and never
returns therefore as you can see it can be pretty scary when you don't know what's going to happen next and this is the fear that makes a lot of guys believe in the theory that women hate men who disagree with them women want a challenge and you will never be a challenge if you agree with them on everything three he desperately saw after the young lady's approval and acceptance this attitude only added fuel to his level of insecurity and push the girl away a high value male never seeks a girl's approval or acceptance the moment
a girl realizes that you are seeking her approval she would be turned off within seconds always remember that attraction isn't something she has control over seeking approval is a strong attraction killer and she would never show any real interest in you as long as you seek her approval and there's a way to avoid this problem don't talk too much I always tell you this because it's very important from my experience when someone talks to a girl and ends up being the one doing most of the talking he starts focusing on himself and tries to convince
her that he's the best man she can get this is something that happens automatically without you even realizing it that's why you should let her do most of the talking and always make the conversation about her try to make her the center of the discussion and take yourself out of the equation this way you'll avoid the problem of seeking her approval four make it clear to her that he wants her from the beginning this is a very important idea because I always see guys making this mistake you must make sure that you don't tell the
girl how you feel about her too early on and you should not be the first one to say I love you the reason is that the moment you share your true feelings too early in the relationship she tends to go through a strange process where she feels like she has conquered you and thinks okay I have him now what so the tension and attraction you've built by demonstrating all the traits of a high value male get killed now you aren't too hard to get anymore and since we have already discuss that females can't control who
they are or aren't attracted to they will not be able to feel attracted towards you after they know you are into them the only way to deal with this is to keep them confused and insecure which means you must never tell a female whether you're in to her or not therefore as long as she has to guess what's going on in your mind the attraction will always be present five another mistake that guys make is trying to solve the girl's problems brother this is the quickest way to end up in the friend zone this is
known to be by far the biggest mistake most guys make when it comes to dealing with women you see a woman doesn't want you to solve her problems as you might think the moment you solve her problems you instantly get placed into the provider Zone which also means you are like her big brother trying to take care of her listening to her problems is one thing but solving them for horor is another when you solve her issues you are doing the work for her which again subc communicates low value eventually she would see you as
someone she could turn to when in trouble or when she is having an emotional Outburst but she will never consider you as a potential lover the way men view this and the way women view this are completely different men feel like real men when they come to her rescue but in her world you become just another nice guy trying to give a helping hand women don't discuss their issues with you seeking a solution they just want you to hear them out all they want from you is to be a good listener and nothing else trust
me women have ways to deal with their problems themselves so don't try to solve them for her six don't act too disinterested if you've watched this series from start to finish or if you're someone learning the Dynamics of pickup you're probably doing something that a lot of guys do they think it's important to act disinterested in the woman but some of them don't really understand the difference between being disinterested and being rude the way it should be done is to first show a bit of interest and then a bit of disinterest but never complete disinterest
a lot of guys act so disinterested that it's almost like they are telling the girl to go away a girl will never stay around you long if you just keep on showing disinterest what it really means is that you have to show her that you are interested but that doesn't mean you will chase her around for attention the pattern should be one line that shows interest and another line that shows a bit of disinterest for example you look cute in this dress but pink would have been better you see this sentence involves interest and disinterest
at the same time by telling her that she looks cute in the dress you have shown active interest but by telling her that a pink dress would have been better you have shown a slight hint of disinterest interest as well some guys do it the wrong way for example this dress isn't looking good on you you should have tried pink now with this sentence you have shown this interest twice and it will actually come across as highly rude because you just directly insulted her seven never discuss your problems with women a great way to kill
all attraction is to discuss your issues or problems with women you should be tough enough to deal with your problems yourself women want to see you overcome the problem instead of just discussing it with them by sharing your problems with a woman you indirectly tell her that you are not strong enough to deal with your own problems therefore you either need her help or sympathy to make yourself feel better another thing is to never share your insecurities with the girl never tell her what you're bad at how many failures you have had in the past
or how you still struggle with a lot of things in life this only gives out a very dull impression which is a direct attraction Killer By the way sharing your weaknesses isn't necessarily an attraction killer but there's one situation where you can mention your weaknesses you have to be laughing when you say it you need to be making fun of yourself in a humorous way which shows that you don't care about her opinion we can discuss this topic in one of the upcoming episodes of the series eight never give a direct yes never be easy
for a woman a lot of guys are quick to fall into the yes Circle constantly saying yes even when they might want to say no to certain requests this is why you must make her work a little to get a yes response from you for example if she asks let's go shopping today you should respond by saying something like no first we will watch a movie and then shopping you see never be direct with a yes either set some conditions before agreeing or let her request you more before you give in to a yes an
important point to note here is that this should only be done according to the situation for example if she is sick and says please take me to a doctor you shouldn't say wait a couple of hours honey I'm watching football here only do this with random requests not important or urgent ones nine never let her get you mad or upset if you get mad or upset over a girl's actions it's a clear sign that you are not in control and she is the one who actually controls you if her actions can make you react then
she is the one driving you there might be times when girl says some really nasty things to you but you should never react by showing anger or losing your cool be like a rock in the storm and act as if nothing gets to you no matter what in most cases a girl might just be trying to test you to see how you react in the extreme situations if you react the way she predicted then you failed the test and this is a very important topic that I will discuss in a separate video by the way
do you still remember that story I told you before that's an old story of mine and that guy was me so please don't be like me [Music]
