How to KEEP A WOMAN: the past is prologue

I'm Dr Orion taban and this is psycha Better Living Through psychology and the topic of today's short talk is how to keep a woman so this is something that is very important for men to understand especially men who are considering going down the path of marriage and children for these relationships to succeed it is essential that you maintain a woman's long-term commitment this is because the more you invest in any one woman the more leveraged you are in that relationship and the riskier it becomes For You especially in contemporary Society there are no risk-free options

boys but there are ways to mitigate your risk in a long-term relationship and today I'm going to be talking about one of the easiest ways to keep a woman around for the long term if that's what you're interested in doing now this is going to be a hard pill for many men to swallow but the fact of the matter is that everything that you've ever done for a woman is irrelevant it does not matter if it's in the past it's gone and this can be very frustrating because some guys have done a lot for their

women they've taken them to Fiji and they've bought them a car and they've given them a ring and the house and the kids on their timeline they have done a lot for their women and these men often believe that what they have done somehow entitles them to some measure of consideration love sex respect or commitment now in the present moment and unfortunately that's not true I'm sorry on some level I think this is a failure of interex understanding the conception of reasonable entitlement is how men think it's not necessarily how women think if the two

of us were at a bar and you bought me round the next time you needed a drink I would buy you round why because I would feel in some small way as if I were in your debt and I would feel compelled to discharge that debt through equivalent action and this is likely because among other things if I didn't do that you would eventually stop buying me drinks and I might also earn a reputation as a sponger and this could detrimentally affect my status in our shared Community which has very negative consequences for men now

women have their own inex status games but they're not quite the same as men's and both games change in intersexual relationships so inspecting that incurred debt reasonably entitles you to some equivalent action from a woman is probably not warranted that's just not how it works with them women are like your stomach reminding your stomach that you had dinner last week isn't going to help if you're hungry today your stomach needs food constantly and when it hasn't had it in a while it will painfully remind you of that fact even if you've eaten three meals a

day every single day of your entire life your stomach will tell you will never tell you that it's had enough to get you through whatever time you have left the issue is that no longer how long you've been eating you're going to experience problems if you L don't have access to food and this is especially relevant for men in relationships with women because eventually you kind of run out of things to give her just consider the way things tend to progress along the relationship escalator all right I just gave her my commitment now what well

then I told her I loved her okay what next well I suppose we'll move in together okay then what um I guess I can propose okay great now what well we'll have a a wedding oh she'll like that now what uh well I guess I can give her a kid or two uhhuh okay and then and then you you don't you don't have anything else you may have 50 years of life left my dude and it's precisely at this point when the man is as invested as he could possibly be in the relationship that women

are subject to leaving with the cash and prizes why because a divorce is the only thing left to give her this is not a good position for a man to be in now before I go any further if you're liking what you're hearing please consider sending this video to someone who might benefit from its message because it's Word of Mouth referrals like this that really helped to make the channel grow you can also hit the thanks button and tip me in proportion to the value you feel you've derived from this episode I rely on your

support to make all of this happen I really appreciate it I will also soon be starting a Weekly Newsletter so if you'd like to opt in you can do so on my website and finally if you're thinking of going to grad school check out my toprated gr study program at Stellar g.com wrote it all myself you love the content let's get back to it another way to think about this is that everything you have ever given a woman is like safe she can't lose it and it can't be taken away from her she can't lose

all of those trips and holidays her memories can't be taken from her and all the time and energy and money that you've spent on her can't ever be refunded all of those things are safely hers because they're in the past and so can't ever be taken away what you have to understand is that if a woman leaves she takes with her everything you've ever given her the only thing she loses when she walks away is that which she wants and hasn't yet received what keeps a woman in a relationship is what she hasn't gotten yet

this and only this do they lose when they leave this is why as a man it's always always essential that you remain future focused whatever woman you're dealing with needs to be looking forward to something that she wants and that she hasn't yet received and that's also why it's a good idea to draw out what you give her as long as possible you do not want to paint yourself into a corner by giving her everything that she wants too soon because once she has everything that she wants what can you Poss possibly give her and

a woman who does not expect any future benefit from a man is not going to stick around just like you are probably not going to stick around to spend the rest of your career in a dead-end job so you have to cultivate desire in her for things that she can hope to receive now successful seducers do this all the time they call this future faking they paint a woman a beautiful picture with their words that they never ever have any intention of fulfilling and that's dangerous and low Integrity eventually if you play with people's hopes

long enough they get fed up and leave so this can't really be an effective strategy for keeping a woman around longterm though it can and does work for short-term prospects in any case I don't really recommend it so the desires you cultivate should not only be things that she wants because if they are things that she doesn't want uh there's no compelling reason for her to stay in the relationship anyway even if she doesn't have them yet but they should be things that you're actually willing and able to fulfill on a reasonable timeline as well

and there you have it to keep a woman around long term you need to cultivate in her desires for things that she might want but hasn't yet received that is her incentive to stay in the relationship as she will lose these things and only these things if she chooses to leave I wish it were different but that's just how it works with women what do you think does this fit with your own experience let me know in the comments below and if you've gotten this far you might as well like this episode And subscribe to

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