You don't need money to get women: the three things that work

I'm Dr Orion terban and this is psyx Better Living Through psychology and the topic of today's short talk is you don't need money to get women this is a very common misunderstanding among men and like many misunderstandings it actually has a grain of truth to it that has subsequently been misinterpreted or overgeneralized the grain of Truth is that all of the things being equal if a woman is presented with two otherwise identical options and one is Rich and one is poor then she is almost certainly going to select the rich man in the sexual Marketplace

like why wouldn't she however this just means that having more money is generally seen as an asset to women in actuality you don't need money and you absolutely don't need to be rich in order to get access to women I know this from personal experience and I know this from working with thousands of men let me speak for my own experience for a minute this may come as something of a surprise to you but when I was a broke actor in my 20s it was easier for me to get women than when I was a

successful doctor in my 30s strange but true and I'll talk about why I think that was the case a little bit later in this episode my point is that while you might need money to keep women around in the long term you definitely don't need money to get women in the first place too many men believe that being high value is just a euphemism for having high net worth it's not so let's talk about what's behind this fascination with money I made an episode a while back called beware of attraction proxies that you might want

to check out if you haven't already attraction proxies are things that we hope will do the work of attracting people in Lo of actually doing the work of attracting people for some guys an attra ction proxy is a six-pack they think I just need to get a six-pack and women are just going to start throwing themselves at me no that's not how it works for other guys it's a fancy car and they think once they see my ride they're just going to be lining up man and that's also not how it works like a man

could literally be earning an eight fig income and some women are simply not going to care and the women who do care simply as a consequence of that piece of information are also probably not the women that man is going to want to have to deal with the point is that these things are not the Silver Bullet that many men hope they will be every month I'm telling you I work with guys who fly private and own Super Yachts who are looking for advice on how to get laid I guarantee that there is an unemployed

broke dude living in his parents basement who is smashing tonight I guarantee that that is happening somewhere and that means that there is a woman out there who is willing to look past all of those things because he gives her other things and these other things actually are instrumentally related to getting laid now there are three things that help a guy get women any one will work but if you have all three even better and the good news is that none of them will cost you a dime let's go through them thing number one is

confidence confidence is the consistent felt experience of success so it's easier to be authentically confident with women once you've enjoyed a sufficient amount of success with women until you reach that point however it's possible to be like psychotically confident it's psychotic because it's not really predicated on reality based evidence and it kind of requires that you turn off a part of your mind that say remembers all your past failures or IM all the way things could go wrong and this isn't necessarily a bad or crazy or unhealthy thing like football quarterbacks need to be psychotically

confident to some degree in the sense that they need to be able to get up after being sacked and trust that on the next play their defensive line will hold and they can get the yardage that they need psychotic confidence kind of just never considers that it might not succeed which actually increases the odds of success all other things being equal thing number two is the ability to engage a woman's emotions this is the real core of being attractive like one way to be attractive is to have a symmetrical face a rugged jawline and well-

defined arms however that's not the only way you can be attractive by being humorous and playful you can be attractive by being mysterious and unpredictable you can be attractive by being dangerous and edgy you can be attractive by being cocky and bold this is because attraction is functionally the ability to capture attention through emotional engagement you can do this by being super hot but most of us aren't so most of us will need to find other ways to capture attention through emotional engagement which absolutely exist many average looking guys have mastered the ability to engage

a woman's attention through her emotions and these guys do not have a problem getting laid and thing number three is being a contextual Alpha with respect to getting women it's better to be the biggest fish in a smaller pond than to be a bigger fish in a bigger Pond who is not the biggest fish in that pond and I think this phenomenon is directly related to the success that I enjoyed as an actor in my 20s even if I was just performing in some Fringe theater in New York City if I was the lead I'd

be on that stage for two hours and during that time a hundred people would be looking at me and listening to me and paying attention to me and applauding me do you see even if that show was of no particular significance in the history of the world like within the mood of that experience I was the king of that little castle and occupying the dominant role in a status hierarchy no matter how small or potentially ridiculous that hierarchy is really effective at getting women this means that even if you're a smalltime musician playing to eight

people in a dive bar on a Tuesday or you're the guy that gets everyone together for a magic the Gathering tournament or you're hosting a local event on investment strategy you can occupy the highest rung on a ladder almost irrespective of who you are that said you might have to build the ladder beneath you okay but expending that effort will make it more likely that the resultant social strcture serves your best interests won't it these three things confidence the ability to engage a woman's emotions and being a contextual Alpha are what actually get man laid

they are not proxies they directly solve the problem and the more you exercise these Solutions the more you'll realize that the belief that all women just want relationships is wrong like that's a myth there are plenty of women who just want to smash there are plenty of women who just want to have fun however they're only going to show you that side of themselves if they're attracted to you that is if you're able to Capt their attention through emotional engagement cars money a six-pack won't help you if you cannot do this however if you can

do this you don't need the other things so if you're a man looking to expand a sexual optionality I would highly encourage you to learn these things rather than spend a lot of time energy and money trying to create indirect and ultimately ineffective solutions to the problem of access hopefully that clears a few things up what do you think does this fit with your own experience let me know in the comments below and if you've gotten this far you might as well like this episode And subscribe to this channel you may also consider becoming a

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