I'm Dr Orion taraban and this is cycax Better Living Through psychology and the topic of today's short talk is women punish the men they like so ladies this is an episode for you I'm going to explain how you might be messing up in your relationships with men this is going to be bitter medicine for some of you but if you take it in the right Spirit it might actually significantly improve your relationships now before I explain what I mean by this please remember to like this video And subscribe to the channel it takes less than
a second costs you nothing and it's how you can support me in my mission to deliver free high quality content to the world so thank you for your help now in order to illustrate how women punish the men they like let's consider a little thought experiment let's say you have two men in your life one guy you could kind of take her leave he's decent he's okay to have some fun with every once in a while but you're not that emotionally invested in him and the other guy well you really like he's handsome charming makes
you laugh treats you well and seems to have good potential the more you like him the more you envision a future with him and the more emotionally invested you become so two guys now which of these two men are you going to be annoyed at if he doesn't text you back right away which of these two men are you going to get jealous of if he spends time with other women which of these two men are you going to pester if he's not showing sufficient enthusiasm and doing what you want do you get what I'm
saying the second guy whoever he is apparently has been able to successfully attract you and engage your emotions and as a consequence of that he increasingly becomes the target of your negative emotions if this guy doesn't feel like he's getting the same slack and permissiveness that you would give to the guy you don't give a about he's not going to stick around if he has any decent optionality and that's how your attraction drives good men out of your lives now I'm not saying you have to put up with bad behavior what I'm saying is that
Emotions Don't Change the definition of bad behavior good or bad right or wrong is determined by the explicitly negotiated agreement of the relationship or by some overarching morality that both parties voluntarily subscribe to not by how you feel about the person involved murder is no less of a crime if no one liked the person who was killed and it's not more of a crime if everyone loved the deceased do you understand so I'm going to give you a good litmus test to help you determine whether your negative emotion is Justified when a man you like
has done something you don't the test is simple if another guy that you didn't care about did the same thing would you be angry or upset if no then maybe this guy hasn't done anything wrong if the guy you could take or leave doesn't text you back for a few days don't get all up in arms if and when the guy you like does the same thing absenting some explicit expectation to the contrary if the guy you could take or leave dates other women when you're not around don't make a big deal about it if
and when the guy you like does the same thing absenting some explicit expectation to the contrary this is your emotion talking and you need to find a way to work through that yourself because if you punish men as a consequence of your attraction to them your disincentivizing them to be attractive to you just keeping it a buck what do you think remember to like comment and subscribe for the algorithm and see the about tab for more information on donations consultations and sponsorship opportunities thanks for listening
