How To Sexualize Conversation Over Text (Text Examples Breakdown)@PlayingWithFireChannel

from there she responds and says this is normal sex to me hahaha implying like she's she's down with all of these um hair pulled choke bent over randomly which is good obviously positive he comes back says good now i know you can handle handcuffs bed restraints toys multiple screaming and sweating guys i'm here with my man alex from playing with fire today we're going to be discussing sexualizing the conversation over text what's going on alex how you doing hey man awesome glad to get into this and uh show the guys how to sexualize properly awesome

so first thing i wanted to jump into is a couple do's and don'ts of how to properly centralize conversation we'll show you some bad examples what went wrong and then we're also going to be jumping into a good example and you guys could see the night and day difference and obviously the difference in result as well so alex i was wondering if you could give us a couple quick little concepts of socializing the conversation and some typical mistakes that you see in your clients and your guys in the mastermind group yeah so the biggest mistake

guys make when sexualizing the conversation is they go from zero to a hundred in a few messages so you have to think of women's sexuality like a knob you can slowly turn it but if you jam it fast it's gonna [ __ ] backfire against you and get electrocuted in the face the second mistake guys make is they don't know how to socialize in a way that appeals to women so most women are not going to be turned on by and then i take you out back behind the dumpster and dog style [ __ ]

you right like like the crass type of writing that can appeal to men does not really appeal to women that's why books like you know my secret garden or whatever they call affinity shades are very popular but if you read those books they're very like it's very drawn out that's why uh for example a lot of women are really turned on by a man's voice they like the all the cues right not just the visual so it's important to really be descriptive in your language i think the third one is just honestly bad grammar there's

nothing that turns a girl off like you know like you're sexting her and it's just like poorly punctuated and bad you're just mixing up there and there and all this [ __ ] uh so you also got to make sure your punctuation grammar's on point for sure i mean a lot of these concepts are super similar to in-person pickup which is like my main focus same concept with x with escalation right it's not like you're not just gonna not talk and just [ __ ] lunge at the girl and make some extreme escalation it's always

in baby steps progressively calibrated to the girl and what you just described with like sexualizing over text is a pretty similar concept so i thought it'd be beneficial if we first jumped into a bad example of a guy trying to escalate things sexually and you know as i kind of read through the text i'll put the text up on the screen we can kind of break this down and you know message by message talk about what was done properly what he could have done better or differently to get a better result conversation starts off with

just the guy saying hey troublemaker girl responds pretty positively she says lol how'd you know with a winky face he comes back says i can see it in your eyes girl comes back says may like to have some fun here and there and then the dude comes back and says i can dig it tell me you have my other weaknesses or my other weakness and then she says oh no what might that be and then i guess here's where it kind of takes a baby step into going towards sexual a kinky and wild side he

says yeah so so far uh the first three texts the guy did fine on a kinky wild side that doesn't really make too much sense like kinky and wild side like i would have i would have said you know what are your weaknesses a kinky and a wild sound like how does that even like make sense i might have said something like a potentially nice booty or like uh you know a uh sense of advent like anything something like that but again we're getting into semantics but they do matter a little bit but so far

the guy hasn't [ __ ] up it's i think the [ __ ] was gonna happen a little later on actually she responds good she's like ha ha add alcohol in my system and it's a [ __ ] party so she actually responds pretty good i think then he comes back and says my kind of girl you know what happens to trouble like you she says lol enlightened me boy he says they get punishment so here he missed a little opportunity so she said boy right so it's there's a little bit of double standard if

you call a girl a girl that's fine but if a girl calls you boy unless english is her second language it's like a little bit like i don't want to say insulting it's not she doesn't mean to be insulting but it's like a little challenge so at this point i would respond with boy question mark right so you have to be able to take a step back from like i can see in this guy's eyes he's trying to centralize and a lot of these lines i'm recognizing from you know my videos but you still have

to be able to take a step back and you know like play the situation like it's never going to be like this it might be like right that's what i'm saying the escalation's always calibrated it's like if you have laser focus on making a sexual or laser focus on kissing the girl there's always something else that's in play that you need to be adjusting your approach to so um glad you pointed that out so he comes back keeping it sexual says they get punishment she comes back and says lol is your dick's name the punishment

okay so i guess she's pretty funny like she's having fun with it he comes back and then says nope it's handcuffing you bending you over my lap and spanking you hard while i grip and pull on your hair so here is the [ __ ] up so he was not able to read those conversations she's playfully trolling him like she's not maliciously trolling him but she's playfully trolling him so the right response is to playfully troll her back so when she says oh is your nickname is punishment i've been like how did you know how

did you how did you know that already or something like that play along right but if you just ignore that and treat as if it's like a serious text and continue to escalate that just comes off as like you're very one-dimensional and you can't like read the situation and then the girl kind of starts to mock you because the last thing you want to do is be that like horny on calibrated guy that's like sex sex sex sex sex and then the girl's like okay like this dude is like just like so one track one

dimensional so then she replies back saying ha ha ha make sure you add a gap ball can't have a [ __ ] speak and i think again she's like he kind of exemplified like he doesn't get it at this point by so she's again playfully trolling him back she's not opposed to sexting or talking the sexual way but she is more like she more wants to have fun and just like like kind of like crack jokes rather than get into like dirty talk which is to be expected because they've been talking for what like five

ten minutes he comes back and says [ __ ] can't speak during punishment and i wouldn't stop there which is like over the top and uh so he's just like so stuck on sexualizing the conversation he's not able to see the cues that are just like developing in front of him basically as a result of this just no response he then double text uh three days later says unless you're shy of course again no response and then two weeks later says ola chica and that's kind of where the thread fizzles out so yeah basically what

happened here is the girl just lost interest in the guy she's like oh like this guy's like super boring like it's not a guy can have fun with yeah sure it's a guy who's horny and who wants to have like every guy but it's not a guy that i can laugh with not a guy i can have a good time with right because he clearly is not picking up on the cues and he's also not very socially aware with that being said let's jump into an example of good sexualization and and we can kind of

compare the differences and what that looks like so the text combo opens up with him saying i'm curious about something and then the girl fires back says what are you curious about he says but first i need to ask if you're open-minded and then she comes back and says very so then he comes back and says do men realize that you're quite submissive to the right kind of dominant men so what he's doing here is a general cold read so this is something that's gonna be applicable to pretty much every girl like uh you know

like if you say something i can tell you have a kinky side that you only let out with the right guy that's gonna apply to 99 of girls so he's doing another he's doing a very general cold read it's like some old school pickup tricks but it is effective especially when it comes to sexualizing like you seem like the kind of girl that enjoys orgasms like yeah like who doesn't but like the girl doesn't see it that way she's like wow how did he know so what he's doing he's initially baiting her into it and

then he's like letting out so so far he's doing a good job but that's what the first guy did too the first guy also beat her so it's gonna matter what hap what he does after this he also didn't go like crazy over the top with the bait though it's like i think the term submissive is a good word to kind of bring it in that direction without like going over the top or anything like that and also shows the girl uh i get it a little bit you know so she comes back and says

so you are the right kind of dominant man question mark and then he says yep ever been with one what do you think of that response i think it's a good response i might have just simply said yes like just a simple yes would be even more powerful uh but yeah so that's the right way to uh he's basically she's saying yes and then he's reframing it have you ever been the one so she's challenging him and he's challenging her back right which is good he's not like over qualifying himself uh yeah i'm super dominant

i'm gonna do x y and z blah blah blah yeah that would be the wrong way too the way to fail that because it is the way to fail that would be to start qualifying yourself or go logical like yes you know my loss girlfriend was my sub and blah blah blah or to get butt hurt and be like how dare you question my dominance uh those are the two ways to fail that the way to pass that is to simply say yes or yes and then a smooth reframe have you ever been with one

yeah putting it back on her so then she comes back and says i think my type is dominant men for sure so then he responds i'm very passionate and aggressive when it counts i can tell you'd love having your hair pulled bent over randomly and being so definitely brings it more sexual at this point um i would say a little bit more calibrated and not as i guess vulgar as the other guy if that's what you call it yeah yeah yeah vulgarity can definitely work against you it's good when you're actually having sex with a

girl or in person yeah at that point it's good to be vulgar but like in this stage well gary's gonna work against you yeah that's what guys often ask me to when when is a good time for like sexual talk and third time i'm like when you're [ __ ] the girl you know i mean it's okay to give her a little glimpse of it but i mean i i usually save a lot of that stuff for when i'm actually having sex so it's gotta be refined like you're you should never write like a middle

school horny teenager you should always write like a confident dominant sexual man right like so it's it's like a little like think of like christian gray right like not the best analogy ever but how would he write like would he write like can't wait to take right like from there she responds and says this is normal sex to me hahaha implying like she's she's down with all of these um hair pulled choke bent over randomly which is good obviously positive he comes back says good now i know you can handle handcuffs bed restraints toys multiple

screaming oral orgasms and sorting so let me just point something out so what i like what he did here is he's upping the ante because at the end of the day you have no way of knowing how kinky the girl is like some chicks for some chicks handcuffs are like boring almost it's like no big deal right for tricks range of bdsm and for some tricks handcuffs are like too much so i was like whoa man like i'm not down for that so you really have no way of knowing until you talk to the girl

so the best way to do it is to just kind of keep upping the ante until like you get to a point where like okay this is probably where she's at and then you just kind of build on that right so he's doing that correctly you don't want to go start with the handcuffs right you want to build up to the handcuffs yeah i mean the progression here is like bringing up the idea of submissive dominant she's receptive to it he keeps it subtle with the response puts the challenge back on her uh she responds

positively again saying i'm into dominant men then he comes one step further upping the ante with the uh passionate aggressive hair pulling choked bent over randomly and spanked which is definitely up in the ante i wouldn't say it's like almost too over the top i don't think yeah i agree with that like especially for sure though i feel like choking would be the one i would take out of that because choking can go either way like a good amount of chicks like to be choked but for some it might be too much so yeah that's

the one that probably belongs in the second text a little bit more right but in this situation she actually responded positively to it but saying this is normal so that's a good indicator that he can even go a little bit if he would have jumped in with the handcuffs screaming orgasms and and this choked and all that one sentence earlier probably would have been too much i think but like by doing that step in between allows for a nice transition pinging seeing where she's at with the whole thing this is normal to me good indicator

we could go further with it too so from there uh girl comes back and says yes 100 do you have a safe word which again super positive she's all about it and then she says okay the best sex i have had is when a guy made me start so heck yeah again all just indicators that she's on board with this whole thing and now she's extremely invested like this is a date that's not going to be flaky because very few guys are able to i call it hooker like to the extent that he has at

this point so she's going to prioritize him over most of the other guys that she's talking to on tinder even guys who might be a little bit more attractive than him because he's really hooked her with the whole you know because the best she's ever had is a guy that made her in her mind she's like this guy's going to make me swear too you never want to say that like oh i'm going to make you start because as soon as you say that it's like saying i have a big you say that the girl

thinks you have a small but if you show that you have a big you know maybe through like whatever having big energy or whatever yeah one of her friends tells her that you have a big then suddenly it's a different story for sure for sure so he comes back and says it's peaches referring to the safe word um gotta honor gotta honor the state somehow and then uh from there also like because he's he's throwing humor in it which is the first guy could not do you could not balance using the humor so yeah you

should be able to you know have a normal conversation as well while you're sexualizing and throw some humor in there it shouldn't be all sexual good point as well so um so the message is it's peaches gotta honor the state somehow and then says but then still stays on point as well and says perfect i'll be sure to make you score four to six times on our intense date then she then says [ __ ] so real question how do you become a psychologist um he then comes back and says i'll tell you over text

it's a long story shoot me your number so one thing actually i wanted to point out because as i was reading the text i i felt like it was a little abrupt that he just kind of jumped into the number close so yeah do you think um it would have been more appropriate to just soft close setting up the date and then once that kind of is agreed upon then transition to the number or i guess it does 100 agree with you that's what i was saying i would have said uh when she said oh

how do you become a sextologist always said long story i'll tell you about over by the one that's soft closing for the day she would have said oh when this is bottled water happening it'll be like soon what's your schedule like that's figuring out her logistics she would have said ah blah blah blah cool how about friday night sure said yeah that works cool shoot me your number right at that point get the number and this way all the work is done all you have to do over text is just confirm right awesome so there

you have it uh bad example of how to centralize versus good example and all the little concepts in between any uh closing statements or final thoughts out no i mean i think that sexualizing is like more of an intermediate advanced concept it's 100 not essential for texting like you can totally set up a bunch of dates and hook up with girls without ever sexting so don't think like you have to sex it is definitely a good skill to learn because it allows you to do some cool [ __ ] like for example you can get

girls who normally insist on meeting in public meet you straight at your house because you made them pour you over text you can get girls who are normally very flaky and flake on all the other guys to meet up with you because you made them so curious so there are advantages to being able to sexualize but it's not a necessity but the biggest thing again is to be very slow gradual and progressive don't go from zero to 100 and always leave the girl wanting more so don't overdo it this is a common intermediate mistake guys

they start getting decent sex and they start getting positive reactions and they just keep going and going going and eventually the girl loses interest right so you want to get her to a high point and then close awesome guys so if you want more from alex i put his channel in the video description definitely check out playing with fire a lot of good uh text game as well as infield breakdowns just pretty much everything you're kind of like expanding this thing into different lanes pretty soon we're gonna have videos on like how to fix your

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