[Music] we live in a culture where most people are dabblers today because today it it if you ask me what does it take to be happy and give it to one word progress progress equals happiness when you're making progress in your body even if you're not there yet you feel good you achieve your goal and you just sit around you're not happy we got to grow we got to make progress it's easy to make progress in the beginning of something in the beginning of a relationship who doesn't have a good time right in the beginning
of starting a business if you love what you're doing of course you're gonna have a great time in the beginning ending it's easy a job it's fun in the beginning it's novelty it's new mastery is when you've worked in the beginning of learning a sport how fast you learn tennis i mean just like zooms up here you didn't know anything you thought love you know was an emotion you find out it's a score you know you go like this but then you hit this plateau and most people in that plateau they go wrong job wrong
relationship wrong business because it's not instantly fulfilling them but the people that go i'm going to fight through and go deep i'm going to find a way to break through i'm going to find a way to learn and know more about this any human life so that i can help as many human beings as possible and it won't be it's because i've lived it there is a power in mastery and how many people do you know are really committed to mastery today most people dabble in a million things they master nothing and they wonder why
they're unfulfilled because they're running for the sugar the next thing that feels good instead of getting past what doesn't feel good and getting to where you own something that's really that's what my life's about and i think in people's lives there's only maybe a half dozen seven eight categories that really matter most people you know they major in minor things they focus on stuff that doesn't matter they know more about this celebrity going in and out of rehab than they do about their own personal development but i look at and say if you look at
your body without that everything else is out the door you don't want to be richest man in the graveyard that's not going to do it if there is energy if there's vitality of their strength it's gonna show up in your relationship it's gonna show up in your business show up in your life that's it you gotta master you can't dabble it's too important emotions are everything you got a ton of money you got everybody loves you and your primary emotions are pissed off and frustrated then your life's pissed off and frustrated doesn't matter if you've
got a billion dollars or a million people loving you your life is not great relationships intimate relationships especially it's where the most juice in life comes from is where the most pain comes from most people it's worth mastering instead of dabbling you know really looking at what are you going to do with your time and mastering your time instead of having a checklist you cross it all off you can mistake movement for achievement i want to squeeze out of that time what matters that creates value for me and for everyone i care about and love
what about your career or your business most businesses are dabblers that's why they don't make it 96 you know in any 10-year period of time four percent make it that doesn't mean they're profitable and it does not mean they're enjoying themselves right or they're getting anybody else to feel good really mastering money so that it's it's not a question in your life you can do and be and give and share as much as you want you're not stressed about it you live in a place of abundance and then spiritually ultimately whatever you believe you got
to live it and it should lead to growing and giving if you're growing you feel alive if you're giving you feel ten times more life and i think if someone can celebrate and give then that spiritual state so to me those are the areas i look at mastering you know business for sure but it's the areas of life that matter most and most of where we spend our time doesn't make people feel fulfilled that's why the average person is not fit and healthy the average person is not in a relationship where they have tremendous passion
you know i'm not a dummy i'm not a positive thinker i know the truth the average person is not successful in business the average person is not earning what they want to earn but you know what very few people have those things but a few do a few are happy fulfilled spiritually alive financially strong their business is growing they have passionate love affairs everyone's going to measure themselves differently because everyone values things differently some people value success or significance some people value love more some value just basic levels of certainty um so when i look
at the specific metrics i really look at metrics of what are the things that need to be measured to know if your life is going to work or not so i look at it as our whole lives are guided moment to moment by the state red learning how to change your state not not fake but to go from pissed off frustrated freaked out to back in your center or creative or determined or something that's going to move you forward it's going to create a better quality of life for you and others that's a critical skill
set so moment to moment our life's controlled by our states you know if you're an angry state you're going to respond differently if you're feeling playful but what controls those states long term as your model of the world your world view and i look at that as having as a metric three things that i look at i look to see first what are the targets you're after everyone has different goals and dreams and desires what's underneath it i began to see that there are these same six human needs that we all have the same needs
we all have a need for certainty that we can avoid pain and we can have some pleasure some comfort we all need uncertainty we need variety or we feel dead inside if you're totally certain you're bored if you have total variety you're like freak out and it's not a balance it's learning which of these you need more as a person everyone's developed a different set of values in that area um need of the need for significance to feel unique special important they need to feel loved the need to grow and the need to contribute some
people value certainty at the top of their list that's their center of their target i don't want to do anything else i know it's going to work i don't do anything unless it's the same if you change anything they freak out if certainty is the number one thing on your list everyone has the same needs but if it's number one i know how your life's gonna be i can predict the direction of your life and therefore the destination to some extent if you're driven by love first you want certainty too but love is higher you're
gonna behave very differently than if you're driven by significance i have to be the one which of those needs are the top two on your list because they control your life most people focus on being significant we live in a facebook world where people fake their life put new filters make it look different than it really is tell stories that you know are totally full of it to make themselves look good because we live in this kind of false world where significance is more important than love and it separates us and the other one that
we see most often is certainty people want to be certain before they can do something you can never build a great relationship because if it's based on certainty then everybody's got to stay the same never change which means you're never going to grow which means you're going to be miserable so my metrics are what's driving you i want to see is it healthy or unhealthy what does it take for you to feel certain some people need a billion dollars some people just need to trust god and extraordinary life is life on your terms and there's
two parts part one to have an extraordinary life is mastering the skill of the science of achievement how do i take what i envision and make it real and how do i do that quicker faster better easier the ability to manifest what you come up with that's a skill set but i can tell you that the science of achievement there are a lot of people that are damn good at that and they still don't have an extraordinary life they have an extraordinary life you see it as extraordinary but i get the phone call from the
multi-billionaire who tells me wants to do this thing on his business but what he really find out is he's miserable as hell and he's hoping somehow i'm going to rub off on him on that side so the second skill is the art of fulfillment if you want extraordinary life you can't just achieve you got to be fulfilled as simplistic as that sounds but it's an art it's not a science i ask people how many you love robin williams everybody racing all around the world right he made people laugh people were touched by him so how
good was he at the science of achievement i mean he want to be a great comedian make the whole world laugh he did he wanted to have his own tv show he did one want the number one show he did it he wanted a beautiful family he achieved everything and he hung himself he had drug abuse he had alcohol abuse the most his life because he made everybody happy but whom himself that's the ultimate failure i believe our lives are controlled by one force decisions i certainly believe in force greater than myself call it god
if you will grace whatever you want to call it the universe but i also believe it gives us choices and the decisions we make control us much more than the conditions we meet it's not the conditions it's your decisions decisions what to believe decisions what to do decision what to give you know look back 10 years ago five years ago 15 years ago and think of a decision you made that if you would have made a different decision you'd have a totally different life today better or worse i don't know but totally different [Music] you
