but that's amazing no that's something I don't that we don't think about a lot is like instead of just looking at the world why don't you clean the weapon that you're looking at the world with you you got it cuz people think of it this way Theo people don't experience life they experience the life they focus on right so right now there's a if you're happy you are deleting all the things you could be pissed off about or frustrated or worried about in the world if you're unhappy you're deleting all the things that are great
in your life Wow and our brains delete and they distort and they generalize so if you don't direct it you get whatever shows up what's wrong is always available what's wrong in the world it's always available what's right is also available it's just which one you pick and it isn't about positive thinking because I I've never been into positive thinking people think I that's what I do it's not I believe in intelligence and so when you're in a lousy State of Mind you treat people poorly you don't perform at the highest level you're not happy
when you're in a great state of mind you treat people better perform at a different place and it's one of the reasons the humor is so valuable it changes People's State and then you know all of a sudden they're in a different place respond in a different place when they're laughing them when they're pissed off yeah so why not train yourself to do that you've trained yourself to find what's entertaining or funny and just about anything is what makes you as good as you are in that area you have developed patterns of how to do
it you may not even be conscious of them all and this this goes right into something I was thinking about since it's like the new year you know and happy New Year to you and um and yeah CU people so often say like New Year's resolution and they're like but that doesn't really that's kind of like a oneand done it feels almost outdated that idea but how do you CH I guess and you just kind of answered I guess like how we change our perspective so like so we change our attitude you know that's really
what you need to have a new experience yeah you there's three decisions you're making every moment your life your audience can test this out the first one is what are you going to focus on now when I say make these decisions Theo I don't mean you're making them all consciously right so whatever you focus on that's what you feel if you're supposed to meet your boyfriend girlfriend husband wife whoever at 7 o'clock you get there at 7even they're not there some people are pissed off some people are worried it's the same event if it's 7:30
and they're not there they've not called they not text now what are you feeling some people go I'm really pissed off I'm really worried I'm really single you know really single I'm it's 8:30 I haven't showed up I'm full I didn't wait for the bastard you know but the point is whether you're angry or whether you were worried had nothing to do with the event it's the habits of your mind the person who's worried thinks oh maybe they're in a car accent person's pissed off they did it again so the first decision you make is
what are you going to focus on and most people have patterns of focus so there's three I'll give you your audience can test out do you tend to focus more on what you have or what's missing what's missing yeah do you tend to focus more on what you can control or what you can't control probably what I can't control because but it's out of desperation because I feel like I have to control everything well that's not a bad thing you can't control everything right it's an illusion but you can influence so much you can control
everything in you okay and then the third one do you tend to tend focus more on the past the present or the future the past yeah so so those three patterns if you do all three of them if you constantly look at what's missing it's hard to ever stay fulfilled or happy yeah so you have to always do something to try to make yourself happy because you're always noticing what's missing that's just where your focus goes there's always something missing there's always something that's not missing there's always something beautiful if you focus on what you
have you're going to be more fulfilled second one if you focus on what you can control what you do it's why you have your own business is why who you are but a lot of people focus on what they can't control it's overwhelming they're stressed out they think of all those things so if you constantly focus on What's Missing You can't control and the past which you can't change what that makes is either angry or sad or frustrated or depressed yeah instead of just being like I want to have this New Year's resolution another rule
for myself I need to change the ruler that's you got it you got it's like I need to that's what I need to change but a lot of people times we don't even see that we're the ruler yeah a great a great metaphor you know you know like if you wanted to go to a I don't know if you're into racing at all but like a Lon a 24-hour race or Baja 1000 you could have a amazing car Ferrari mer it's not going to last you have to re-engineer that car to be able to take
on the desert or drive for 24 hours or go to the ones that are in the desert there where they have a pipe so that when you go down it still can get the air to the combustion of the engine we have to re-engineer ourselves so the times in
