DRA. ANAHY D'AMICO - PODPEOPLE #029

[Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] [ Music] [Music] [Music] our guest today is a writer, presenter and psychologist [Music] Hi everyone, how are you, your vast knowledge, experience of 41 years of training, she provides sensitive and effective guidance on topics such as emotional dependence, toxic relationships and family conflicts, it is not convenient for her to change, she just leaves me the child for a month for you to take care of, then she will pretend that she doesn't understand, blah, blah, she will Talk a lot of swear words will hit, which is how people dedication and promoting self-knowledge

and collective well-being is an inspiration for all of us, you Anahí people meet to see and hear people People who Do People who happen People who inspire our chat today is with Anahí danico Good evening my dear, thank you very much for your presence Thank you very much Look, you are an honor You have a wonderful career and You did what I call wonderful work, which is to raise awareness among a large public because we have always had this thing of talking about relationships, friends and family, mother, father and you brought this into a language

that people could have access to for a long time, I mean you started the family affair in 2004 and came out nine years in 2022 23 it ended in March of this year it ended in March 19 years not of total approval from the public I loved doing the program as I learned there Ana with the others, right we teach values ​​then look and It's really yes, that's always been the doubt, right? So, I know, we would do things together, yes, because we don't have a crystal ball. Cristina and I never took part in the

selection on that day of absences . the program to record I always had 100% freedom to say what I wanted, right, and I was good, very tough, often so incisive because because I had little time to say something that Jesus had to be surgical, right? You understand, but it's wonderful, just that We took things together because no one has a crystal ball, how am I supposed to know that it's a lie that you hate your neighbor? I understood why they went there, right? A whole huge group of people who have reality went through the selection

of other producers' people, if they agreed, the producer couldn't see it, right, so if it was heard because they were talking, I would take it away, but then they would talk to me first, then, many I took him to the office because I stayed, I could do it, especially in an abusive relationship, I said, now go back home with him right, because The program doesn't have police power, right ? that we see in the office is that I don't exactly go there and talk to people, right? But now there's something that we observe a lot

that people say Oh, that doesn't happen, that's something from a soap opera. Life is Much More surprising and than fiction than fiction that story what imitates what fiction imitates life or life imitates fiction certainly fiction imitates life and always behind life is always ahead whether for good or bad I think I've seen a lot of things, I haven't seen everything, no one has seen everything, isn't it, we're surprising ourselves more every day than there are a lot of wonderful people, so we're always discovering every day, one at a time, each day, a flash, now something

interesting Nair, the program ended this year But I've never seen so many people interested in toxic or abusive relationships , so what do you think is happening Ana, why do people ask me this question, right? About this Millions of videos of content So it's not known but I think there's something I think it's being accessed more that's why it's being talked about more but I think there were values ​​and until recently I think the beginning of the years 2000 2000 I think there was a lot of that thing like that I didn't see that but

that's because he loves me that's because he takes care of me he doesn't want me to go out in ridiculous clothes and he sees jealousy as a Sign of Love exactly but we had to swallow it Ana, otherwise we wouldn't be able to handle the woman's trajectory, exactly, so how has it changed and the woman still doesn't really know what she can do because it's a freedom, she's smeared As incredible as it may seem, it seems that's how it evolved, but we still realize that it's not always like that, we're having a fight and an

evolution of women's rights, but you still see how wonderful it is, I think it 's what gives us this freedom to have this expression appear more, but at the same time, at the same time Alex, she wants her husband And then she is no longer submissive as she was, so it's this shock and Job, some Men obviously have no difficulty seeing if the woman in this role is not being submissive, not saying amen, not taking care of him like Mom, right, because that's what I say in the book A gente Os Contos because what I

feel for someone is what that someone does to me, defenseless, anguished, that person can't stay with me or else I'm not for that person, right, we have to admitting everything, okay, it was good while it lasted, okay, but it can't be for someone else, it can't be for someone else, but it's not, you told me, daughter, no man is faithful and if you didn't know, woman, you won't have a man by your side now if you If you want to be powerful the way you are you run the risk of having to change a lot,

it certainly wasn't my mother because my mother wasn't true because my mother was like that when my father arrived she would take off his shoe and give him a massage, never you you'll see me doing this, not for nothing, I don't understand, I'm not like that, this can happen from time to time when you have a foot massage or receive a massage, but the best meat was for him, you know, that model really And for them it worked, they were in the marriage of 60 or so years that we don't change, right, that's what I'm

saying if it works well in that dynamic OK now we have to know if that other dynamic is for us which I find interesting so if he was worthy for her to do it So, that means it was a traditional couple but at the same time there was a lot of exchange and there was a lot of ping pong between the two. He passed away in 2015 and he already had dementia, which I said, my God, she gave me life, she's taking it away. So I had to transform so many feelings inside me, right, and

I focused everything on gratitude, everything, my mother also went crazy, but that's fantastic, what you said because it's my mother, no, no, this transformation, sometimes in the place we occupy, right, you studied us. talks a lot about the subject and suddenly there in our house we are living it and we don't notice it so much and you see it and sometimes in college we don't go through this I've known Ana for a long time but when my mother was 68 years ago I still haven't met her, I didn't know Ana and I had to go

on a trip And when I was during that period of the trip I think she was very stressed for fear of something happening to me and she got lost inside the bank's roulette wheel, that roulette wheel turntable then that immediate blackout And then when I got back in the eighth car your mother has Alzheimer's that thing I said oh my God but as I was working I didn't realize this with me and then I came to work with Ana and then Ana saw me sad so I don't know what you noticed, no, your mother had

an acute anxiety attack and so on, but for a moment I was like, my God, how come I didn't see my mother get sick, right? your mother who is there but at some point you feel that way that I can do better for my mother of course yes that's what I could have done better of course yes that we blame ourselves for failures I also asked myself I give so much Pitaco in other people's lives, I give so much advice, I do so much therapy and in my marriage, you know, it went down the drain,

right ? For so many years of training, right, I'm 43 years old, I'm already crowned, so we You'll learn from hearing so much from witnessing so much, but my whole family was always like that, I was very happy with my parents, I always had a good childhood memory of relationships like that, typical of the situation we lived in because my brother was born older than me, at six months he had cerebral palsy so he became quadriplegic And then the whole family and I say who has special children three years who has special children don't forget

the healthy child because it is something that happens a lot I had no right to suffer because she is your brother, right, she said it to your daughter, do you have the courage to say that, you have everything, I had episodes of freezing, I couldn't walk, look, so today, I've known for a long time that I wanted to get attention, but what I did, I turned all of this into my pain, not being able to need it, I couldn't, so this was fuel for me to join the dance and help and care too, so I

couldn't be anything other than a psychologist Because my family's entire history is about caring, so We take care of my grandmother, taking care of from my brother until he died, then my father got sick, he already had cancer , he already had a stroke, you can imagine everything, right? I'm the only one, right? So I often felt sorry for myself, I said, but who takes care of me, right? Then you become strong, then everyone thinks you don't need anything or anyone, so we start falling into traps that we make ourselves. right, we don't put ourselves

forward, but they were very good parents and my father died, my father was like that, he did everything my mother wanted, my mother was right about everything, this irritated me deeply, he was a great husband and a good father, yes, that's right, right? you know And then when he was fine, the day before he died he told me in the ICU Daughter, daddy is going, I said, oh, dad, imagine, everyone knew, so I said, but don't worry, I'm going to take care of my mother, who is perhaps his biggest concern She was the only one,

the only one who was holding him there, dementia, then he said, I said, don't worry, I'll go, I'll be patient with mom because She already had Alzheimer's and we know it's a nightmare in the early stages Then he said no, no, daughter, he really squeezed you, you have to love your mother, if you love, you will take care, patience, you won't have it, even if you love, but love has to be greater than patience, no And at the moment Lucidity What a thing, right now what's wrong with me? It was scary about Alzheimer's, I was

talking. Did my mother have all this inside her and didn't talk because things that lose their filter and start to come out offended me? I believe that she doesn't create things that she didn't have, that's also why many people question that, right, Cláudia herself said that, but we have to understand that she's cursing someone who isn't you because she, when she says that, this woman didn't give me anything. eating is making me hungry , it's stealing my money , isn't it? person to Take care of, she will say the same thing, yes, and they do

everything the same as when they were robbed of getting the money, right? My father was all three of me, I went to live, I took my family, we went to live with my mother to take care because they didn't They left the house at three o'clock in the morning, my beautiful Italian beauty, we're hungry. I mean, I was going to work straight away today, I have caregivers, but at that time I said, I'm going to die, they're going to stay, I'm going to die, they 're going to stay, but that's right. And that's it, right,

you don't have a structure or knowledge that you can attach to life and then you die sooner. I've had an Alzheimer's patient whose caregiver, wife and mother-in-law died before him because they irritate us so much, they give us so much work. in the emotional sense, they run away from all your energy because nothing is enough and after 5 minutes you are poisoned, five minutes Daughter, where are you, mother, because my mother reached a stage where she called me, that's normal, change, but I trusted you because you are the mother figure right , So it's really,

I think we didn't know that it's not up to us, right ? what to take care of a person who doesn't remember that you are that but she remembered my brother so that's because I understood that girl and I came in I also helped everything but what about me, right so when he died she cried she was lucid when he died in 2000 okay And she was crying she was crying she was crying Oh my God she won't be able to stand it she's going to melt there's no more water to come out of this

creature and then one day she started I want to die I want to die I said look mom I really hope you die she She looked at me and I said, you know why, if he left and I stayed, I'm not enough for you to have the desire to continue living like I love you, so if you think it's the best for you, never again, she said, never again, okay, go. taking care of my Beto, I mean she remembered my brother who died 20 years ago and she didn't know who I was . but my

mother, she was his teacher at ACD, he was a cemetery , he left in the morning, I didn't see him, he arrived late with him, right? I understood, I missed it and your father It made up for it a little bit, my father, you make the balance, right? They were great within what they had, right? There is an explanation because what happens to our memory is a mechanism that needs an affective seasoning or something very bad or very good that marks it, for example, psychopaths. They don't have this affective memory, that's why he repeats the

same mistakes because it is indifferent like the birth of your brother and then the paralysis was so marked for your mother that it would be one of the last memories to lose because it was so traumatic so in reality it is much more because of the issue of she had she had a mourning That boy became quadriplegic, right, because in reality she had a healthy son and she had that healthy son, he died at 6 months and another one was born that she would never have the courage to say but in her head it is

obvious that she was in mourning and it is obvious that she She asked why that's the case, right? But it's true that she had a perfect son and he and when the problem happened, he really passed away. Yes, that's a joy, she passed away. It was fantastic, so the sun, which I thought wasn't Right on my head. Of course, it's yours. age also needed all the care but I was left with the share of achievements So I had to be beautiful I had to be I was demanded so I had to give it to the

grandchildren you know because everything was centered on me I was going to achieve at that time but also There is also something Nair that your father, he was able to see this because he is like a man who is a worker who leaves and so on, he was able to try to bring that balance, he spoke well or badly, she has much more balance to deal with as a mother, mother It's what hits rock bottom with A child, so I'm going to have to take on the role of my wife here to help and that

it was a gift and that it was a gift from your father, it was because if we look, right? The father is always very we belong to one today, I think the parents try to be together but we are from a generation where they had to be on the street working so this man also doubled down because he worked to earn a living he said we have to make up for it now and when I I got married the first time I separated my mother I was 20 got married early marriage I played 23 I

played I thought I was a teenager I'm 64 how cool how cool look at you DNA then my marriage lasted less than a year I dated seriously lived for seven years that very traditional thing, right? You understand, I had to get married, come on, ahem, I got married, nothing else in the cloud, they believed it, but it was with him, with him, he was the first steady boyfriend and so on, I separated my mother, you said you were going back home, what are they going to say that mine mother's mother My father was a lie,

you're going to live alone, Dad, I don't work at the time, I didn't work, I was just finishing college, I won't help you, I'll pay for it, you'll learn to be a woman, you'll live alone, come and sleep here whenever you want, Daddy wants you, you were very cute. because he knew that his mother would give him a weight like that, the defeated one came back, you do it too, it was love, that was you passed because I couldn't make mistakes, I had to be perfect but he knew the weight of your mother's da da

da da da da da from the vision of her fans that she had Blue clinar he did an act of love daughter you go to him he gave up the love of being closer to you to spare you this judgment because you were already there wanting it or don't you hear there separation well really you I'm sure you wanted to separate but nothing is a pain and then going back to your mother's house your mother is still here in your head so I went to talk to him, right dad, the guy I got married, the

guy is a piece of shit daughter, seven years old, right, but I wasn't together but that prayer like that you couldn't do anything Ana said I only got to know her after I got married Ana said something very Fantastic you want to meet a Real person travel spend a little time with them travel live do everything really understand that thing you saw that you were going to do so he gave me a lot of it, it was an Intense Love, right? I missed him a lot, when I was young too, I graduated at 22, he's

young, very young, really young, and for example, you, you're talking about there were three weddings but when did you realize the type of relationship you wanted for yourself when I understood that I could be myself I understood I didn't need a mask I didn't need a mask I'm not a housewife I don't know how to take care of the house I don't like it It's not something I like to do, right, but I'm attentive in another way, even easy, a treat, something like that , but I don't expect from myself as long as I want,

the way I want, you're as nice to you as you are. with me, right, because my disappointment in the first marriage was very big because I was very in love on the honeymoon, we got married a wonderful wedding in the stomach, you know, in the liver, in the kidney, then my marriage didn't last a year But do you think he did that Because he was feeling that way? he did it as a matter of humiliating you or not having today Ana because when we decided to separate he was crying sobbing I love you but what

happens to you then I said oh no you don't know exactly he has existential problems he doesn't know what he wants his life too and then I cut off the whole family I loved his family that was it was a love it was a complete love right the complete kit came because he didn't call me he's going to come back he's going to come back so I said look you'll forgive me I love you, my heart, but I can't get over it like this, you know, having contact with you, knowing him all the time and

I've never seen anyone again. That was in 85, never again, not even him, he's I've crossed him a few times, but I, he, he shakes me, no love, I understand the pain still happened, right, because it was so very difficult to deal with rejection, he was two years older than me, he's young, very young, I don't know if he started dating too early and he's going along with it and so far, so now I'm going to pay to see And then he didn't want to anymore, which is a right he has, but that, you know,

was very funny, but first, look, let's postpone the wedding, I didn't have it there, right, because in the apartment you could go down for a walk, disappointment, right, it's very Wow, you don't know what to say what to do Then I said you regretted it What do you want to annul the marriage no no it killed me No we won't Ah let's continue right Exactly exactly I was in love even after seven years of dating right it continued continued And it was a passion not only for him, for his family, right, family, he loved his

family, he had a niece who I literally loved, the wave came and went quickly, it's quick, but it's very good because I'm another person, then it took a while to meet someone else because your book says it like that love doesn't hurt and it's something we talk about in the office because sometimes after a disappointment a person I don't want who thinks it's going to hurt that they're going to feel that way it didn't take long for me to have something firm I left and kissed you understand But not like that one thing took me

a long time to I actually fell in love like that, passion was something that matured, I began to see other things in men, right now that dying passion I feel for myself but was it not good Because that's what love is? sure hard drug you want it for everything I don't like feeling that way I think passion is a heavy drug of awareness of stress because you you live in function of that person wanting to see wanting to hear wanting I find passion for things the most exhausting I think too and you don't even allow

the love that you look at with a sweet eye to put sugar on everything Caique you said seven years but if you hadn't lived together something, passion wouldn't let me see and Feminine omnipotence I think my love will too make him understand he will change we have this we grow up listening to this daughter woman makes culture there is always like this you start dating we are young Just come future luck like this, not with you it will work out with him he needed a woman just like you keep feeding yourself that as if you

were responsible, it's exactly not a bad thing about the guy, but it's not true, daughter. Now you fix it, he can say I am, right, but that's when we still don't have our complete identity, then these Things are done. a fictitious ego, right, because as you said, I loved my family, my family should say you were my daughter-in-law, I expected my niece, Auntie, you are the best auntie in the world and then you create your identity based on what others are about him and him. It was difficult he had a genius Wow, if I had

I think it would have been three years more, you know, he was very difficult and I calmed him down, so anything there calls, you know, those things, I thought I was magic, right, magic calls that calms him down and you think that this helped you trace this beautiful path that you have to say yes because I understood that we are never because of anyone This is so wonderful I can't live without it my life is over so you have a testimony, right I had episodes of depression I thought it was cool, it's horrible to have

depression but I started to understand it in a different way than the people you experience You have a different view, right? So I think it helped me Yes and I say no one dies because of anyone and first love has to be yourself If you don't Love yourself first, no love can be greater than the one you feel for yourself, if you don't know where you're going, you get lost all the time , right? We're already crazy, yes, now I don't want any more pain in love, I prefer to be quiet, loving myself, because I'm

dying, it doesn't hurt, it hurts, my book is fantastic, what hurts is passion, what hurts is breaking expectations, you put so much expectation on others and forget to invest in yourself so you invest your money in someone else and then you are left face down when the other person leaves and you discover that on top of everything taking your money is fire, right? Exactly [Music] if we are not whole how you do it is useless for you to be happy understanding this I think it's very simple when we remove the cultural influences you want to

see something it's from a long time ago, country music has always praised the fossa, yes I betray you But you are the man of my life and treat and we have had an Absurd growth in country music in the last 20 30 years which was very different from bossa nova in the middle of the last century where Bossa Nova was an exaltation of women of the Beauty of the boat there was everything, something you saw that was much more about love than about passion, then the countryman comes with a passion that is unbridled, you betray

me But I want you, I don't know what, but you are the love of my life you break me but I love you It's funny that when Marília Mendonça came and entered Sertanejo, the first time I started looking at country music I saw her talking like this, this girl has a different vibe I went to listen to the songs, right? What did I see? which she said exactly the opposite, you don't want me, there's no problem because now, bye tomorrow, if one day you regret it, Who Doesn't Want It 's me, so it was a

paradigm shift within the country music industry, I thought it was really cool because I think this thing about us even more so in a woman who knows everything but doesn't make a woman is much more dependent than society on what others will say, men, no, because men have always done everything wrong in secret, no, no, and women, they do Things, but they generally do things more openly, and they do it, but we have since Little girl learns that we have to be taken care of exactly as if we would never be enough, right when you

start to recognize that you have strength, right that you don't need to be saved, that's really easy because these stories are bullshit, right? book The Drawing Story ends when the transformation has to begin happily ever after forever she doesn't exist Beautiful Perfect Wonderful So if the fairy tale ended then your wedding had been beautiful wonderful and at the ceremony at the party everyone was there like Wow, it's over, it's over the film, right, it just ended up being happy, which couple is this couple, it's going to be happy, the plane takes off, the guy gives

me a loose paw, a paw like that, exactly perfect, right, like, it ends when it has to start, right, And this book, what was it like to make this book, love? it doesn't hurt, it was based on experience Ah, so tell us why I didn't have that many complaints about the relationship, I spent 20 years there, you know, 19 and a half years, this thing about feminicide is much more recent, so when I got there I Started to see the complaints about the man who beat her and she kept quiet, that thing didn't have many

resources, which we already know, right, that it was from Penha already, but there wasn't, it wasn't talked about much, right, it wasn't talked about much, right? And then we recorded a lot This was a lot of abuse, it wasn't just in the abusive relationship between the child and the mother, the mother who didn't accept her son, the family, right? And of course there is a limit to human conflicts, they are always the same, so I would change the character, but it was the same conflicts of carbon and hydrogen continued, it's really the Range of conflicts,

that's why art never repeats itself, it's talking about human conflicts with other characters, yes, but they are human conflicts and you started to make this selection of these cases, then I started to see that I really needed to explain the beginning of this, where it comes from and why we think that way that we act like that, right? And then the book was born, right? And there, really, because there you saw all types of abuse and you separated it in the book like this, right? only about relationship relationships [Laughter] I really witnessed it there, right,

it was scary, tell me a case that caught your attention Wow, that's what I say a few times, right What a shame that I missed out on the rich material, I should have written down everything, I never did that every Once a program leaves you thinking about the things you said, that's why people thought it was agreed, it's not possible for that to happen and it gets worse because today we see feminicides, we say this, it's much worse, look at me There was a shocking case in which the guy had been cheated on, so he

married this woman and he didn't believe her, she didn't believe him, but right, what did he do before the wedding , he told you everything he could about this woman, he married for that, you know, kind of like taking revenge, he destroyed his and hers, yes, and she stayed there and he put a collar on her, tied her to the bed with a chain while he was working and you could say whatever to her, but he's not, he doesn't do it That's bad, if that's the price for him to have peace of mind to understand

that I'm not going to cheat, I said she won't cheat on you because she's in chains. Let this woman go so you can see what She's going to do. Then they wanted to kill me, right? But look, it's too much. right, because look, look, if you tie me here, sit down, my mouth will speak, look at how it stays silent when I speak or cuts its tongue, of course it stays silent now, at ease, darling, it's so how can a guy submit to having a woman who is with him or not for him because she's

tied up She's tied up, he didn't see that either, right? That's what I wanted. She's already in love. We're talking about, we 're not giving names here, it's a gigantic guilt to think that she deserved to be a chained person, but then we'll see the past, right? I went to talk and Then, she witnessed domestic violence her whole life, her father massacred her, she ended up almost killing her mother with a beating. She was fine there, you know, on a leash, she wasn't being beaten, you understand, her repertoire, that's what we see in the hamburger

for children whose life prefers to live on the street because an evil on the street she can protect herself from at home more than at the abuser's house, you know, Another case like that, but this specific case, you never knew, we didn't have it, they accepted to go as a man like that too accept going there, right? He went. Where did this girl's family also confirm this ? I really tie it up. he leaves they are wonderful at first protective exactly like a woman goes after protection much more than I give love exactly it wasn't

enough to your son you're not enough you're not whole until you have a man it starts in the very creation of the world According to the Bible, he took a piece of Adam's rib to complement it, I find it metaphorically very beautiful, very interesting, but I don't believe that God created an individual and took a piece of that individual to create another, it's as if he took a piece of a human being to create a tiger to create a camel if he created every thing Be that as it may, because he designed the design of

the universe he can create whatever he wants Whenever he wants, so the story of humanity begins as if we really were a piece, you need the complement, you, in order to exist, needed to take a piece of the other's body, it wasn't going to happen, that's already the protection, it's already superior, exactly because of a piece of rib, it was a piece of heart, it wasn't a little piece of the serious thing, it could have gone worse, even better, it was rib, it could have It could be even worse, right, let me do a double

take You said you had children, this couple They all always have children because children are what they say, she's my wife, exactly, I said, do you want to go out, do you want to give them to everyone, do you want to have sex with everyone wants to have a child with every man you have a relationship with, that's one thing, but the woman also associates that she will only fulfill her mission with that man by giving him a child by giving him a child and many men don't want to Not even having a child, he

just wants to legitimize it so he can have the coin, he's coming, he's cheating on me, but I'm afraid of losing, he goes there and makes a child as if that child was going to hold on to what he's marriage Is not alone, exactly , it's time to change the diaper, son, they said It's been to me several times in my face and then we think What kind of person is this person who comes into the world, right? This child already comes with a mission to maintain a marriage that wasn't good, I think people should

review this a lot issue of having children and I think that nature in 100 years or 200 years will not be this thing where everyone can have children if we are evolving towards a greater level of awareness of responsibility I think there will come a time when Nature itself will have a sensor like this child, if you really want it, you will have it because anyone can have it, I don't have it, I'm very perplexed because anyone can have it, right? couple and say like this, you wanted this child, we planned it, we did it,

we fought, it's difficult, it's enough for a woman to discover that she can't have it, then she freaks out at us, as if it were as if she wasn't Being a woman, that's why, but that comes a lot from the church, yes, but That 's what I'm talking about about the Catholic Church, even if an accident happens and the man loses it, he has the right to annul that marriage, then that marriage can be annulled, if he hits you, you can't annul it, so you can see how that's tradition, right? I'm talking about church, right?

That's one thing the law is, you know, if I hit you, you have the right not to live with me anymore, but marriage isn't like that, it won't be annulled now if I have an accident and lose movement and I can't anymore If you breed, then you'll have your marriage annulled, it's crazy, in reality it's all for you to perpetuate the power of the thing material is you give that love that we swear there right in joy in sadness in health never I treated I had an experience of eight couples who didn't have children they

were fantastic they were so united much less stressed because they didn't make their lives on top of others They both warned there was one that he died with Mário died at 94 years old and Mrs. Elsa he is a consortium of Nelson was younger than he will Die at 84 and He lived a while later and he said like this I count the days until I find She again doesn't have much meaning in my life because the future of life I won't find a woman that I will like like I liked her so I'm counting

the days here I am then he went to a nursing home and he said here I read poetry people I read, he wrote a lot of poetry for her, it's actually very funny that she talked like that, Mário, I think you've already written me more than 300 poems, my son doesn't need it anymore, but I want to, I keep doing it, so I saw couples without having children who had a very different reaction to not being able to have children and many positively didn't even consider adopting, they were happy there, of course, it's logical, it's

very wonderful to have a child, I love my daughter, but would it be if she hadn't been born? right, my life, so I would be unhappy, I would be a woman, right, I tell my daughter, she will have children if she wants, whenever she wants It's because there is also this cultural thing, you know, when the honey download comes back and then when will the next one be? the first child That you will take care of your life, right, but there's a lot of that, but I see today that a lot of people don't have

children, but they have pets, right, a lot of joy, right? But expectations are different, right? It's much more a matter of affection than waiting for custody. shared, it has to stay, right? But there are a lot of people who are mute because the child has that expectation, it will be this, it will be that, the pet knows it won't be, right? So I think it lowers expectations and the person ends up being happy in that, yes, right? I'm bringing you two here to spice it up a little for you, I don't know if I think

it's always existed, because you're a little alone. Besides me, it's no big deal, because I know you like people, but they're the people I have as a reference. I think it has always existed, but now there is greater freedom to talk about it. marriage for three, marriage for four, marriage for five, right ? my view now I'm not speaking with conscience, okay, I'm speaking as a person is no good for me I think that in my opinion someone is going to get hurt in this story there are three of us I think that one of

the three of us is going to be hurt in my opinion so I prefer it but it's something that we see a lot like this, I'm going to get in there, it's another line, one is I'm going to have a baby because I'm going to support it, I'm going to maintain this marriage and the other is I don't like it but my love is so great for Ana, I'm going to allow it, I'm going to be able to change her, then you start to get sick, something starts to show disrespect, then the point has come

but you're no longer respecting me But you went in knowing that, not going in was already assuming disrespect, losing than a new wave I I received a couple who talked about it and they, Doctor, what do you think, I said, I think this was a time in the 70s and it didn't work anymore and the secret life comes back, it won't work either, but if you want, it's instead of you, I wouldn't get On that boat, when people live very difficult, it's very difficult, the expectations are different and that sense of you having someone, if

you want me, so many others, exactly is I. Yes, I think that you can even like two people makes me like this a lot. ask because this person has something that I really admire that I like and that I like but the other thing is also a freak but you can't have everything no one has everything there's no one in us but they look for you for that too like look at me I like her that in the Family Case I say do you want to take it because you want advice if you pay me

a session so I can tell you what you have to do then I'm fine but that's not therapy They say you would do it I am I have three stories another age another, right, but I've never seen it work it works One gets hurt or falls in love or starts watching the other have sex in front of you if you can't deal with it then you get jealous because they treat the other better than you What are the limits What are the limits [Music] is a third party person because then, my son, if I'm going

to have To bring in a third person to add spice to our marriage, it's but I've already heard Alex 500 Look, can you imagine, 42 years of practice, I've always heard that, my lover feeds my good marriage and it's absurd, I I think I've heard from women and women that what do you think about this? So if you need a third element, you need to have a tripod to be able to maintain a partnership. Is there something very wrong, which is what I keep questioning. Let's see where it is. gear they all fall into sex

fall into sex because marriage let's agree I like marriage and I like routine I don't need big I'm good at life so it's cool I like that but marriage the routine swallows you up it's a bill It's a problem with your son's school, he's sick, I don't know what, you're not going, you work outside the home, you have to take care of the house, you know, even with help, but you have a thousand responsibilities to get home at night, you're all hot and horny and kill the guy in bed so he doesn't look outside then

the routine goes crazy then what does the guy do he loves his wife He does love his wife I believe it, right, it's just that he thinks He can do anything that's the big problem because why the women can't do the same, so women can't do the same, neither can the guy, right? It's because he's here, everything matters, no one, it's all the time, exactly, and there's one thing because the person has to know how to choose what you want, you want this companionship of of little sex and a lot of complicity you know who

you count on or do you want crazy sex because crazy sex also passes then people that day my dad you have mind-blowing sex For how long how long does it exist there is no body for that, no body can't stand it You throw yourself on the bed tired, you think you 'll feel like it, right? Then I see hypersexualized women saying they're so horny, what women say Doctor, something's already wrong because I 'm not horny, you're normal now, this hyper sexualized person. Not today There is an Anahí pattern which is that pattern of hormone implants

because women are crazy, put in a dose that can't be removed, you know, one day they said you're going to put it in, you don't put it in, no, I don't put it in, I put it in what was a little gel that didn't work I stop, understand No, but it works reasonably well , but here I can stop when there's a problem now and the little implant that you put there lasts two three years if something happens then you say it like this and to take it out, don't take it out, stay there, stay

there like how a foreign body stays with a foreign body and people do it, it's an absurd thing I need to see mine wasn't even put on but you're saying something like that that makes me reflect here because I think that even in Humanity at some point this sex ends this thing about us having sex three four times five times, that at first, then it starts to soften, by the way, as a unit as a whole, we're having much less sex, it's true, research was carried out in England, I think about five or six years

ago among young people, the level of sex has dropped a lot about that, too, we were attributing the series to streaming, hi guys, but you can watch series and between one little chapter and another, I think we have each theory, Ana is lacking, you know, that's what I think we live in a Much more digital world where people touch each other less, they talk less, they hug less and I think this has repercussions now because of me, relationships are becoming very virtual, exactly you date virtually when you meet in person you lie Have you ever

seen this the terms a patient relationship mainly with women it's a dating app but look they complain that the guy talks to them then he comes here it's a crazy joke right WhatsApp and talks and sex on the phone that's photos videos That's What are we going to get married, we're going to be young, I love you 15 days later the guy disappears, right? Talk to me, talk to 10 others, I said, but you do this, the woman does this too Get out of this place of being a victim of yours, I'm going crazy, I

say, I want to empower , right? We can know how to choose, not the man gives signs to the woman, she wouldn't arrive anymore, why do we insist, we seem to like skating in the mud, we can do it differently, now We have to be tall, we have to know ourselves, we have to know what that luck is your triggers because in this dive we drown a lot of times but at least you can act differently I can't stand victimized women anymore I say we are much more than that men too why do you stay

with women who have 500 because the men's complaint is that now the woman has a child with everything that is a man and then we have to support the child that is not ours because there is a woman then, right? Then the woman does what she already had this child, right, what do you feel? that you are being used and abused Get out too but I think he doesn't feel this man who says that oh I got married and and with her she already had children and then what happens he comes into her life he

becomes a wonderful Father to those children who don't They are much better than their father, but seducing women is not because he loves children and wants to be cool, but to be nice to everyone and then he comes and then he puts it to women in general, look, I accepted your children, right, any man who accepts his children So that woman Wow He loves me he is accepting my son it is proof of love she is wrong for wanting a man to take care of her children because the children are hers and he is wrong

for making it a seduction factor is accepted It's all wrong then and now, right, so let's question, let's not okay, stay alone, stay alone because fear is that of being alone or alone, right, you have a friend, you have to be afraid, terrified, men look for you a lot or are they a little afraid of what women women my my channel for example my my followers my followers I have I think 10% men 90% women so they they feel like they are in a disadvantaged minority I made one a follower said do something oh what's

that one called a tinder ah tinder come here on your channel not on Instagram, right ah make an introduction live you can use my Instagram here to get to know each other I don't know what didn't happen There were half a dozen men understood just for a woman-woman relationship it was although people take advantage of it, you know, so it's complicated, but they don't, the Mig tals started there once. I made a video about it, I told people, we don't, we don't have to compete, that rivaling A man is not better than a woman, a

woman is not better than a man because What's going on this competition this rivalry now I'm going to tell you about the woman because now she thinks she can do what she wants so she will understand what her place is what her place is but they won't until they don't get hard on me but there are a lot of men who also complain about women who suffer with women, I even think that there are women who make men suffer a lot, I'm not saying absolutely not, but it's also the size that this man leaves because

that way, if the man sticks to a woman who She is either faithful or a person who creates embarrassing situations for him , whether at work or in that sense, the moment he realized this, if he continues. So people don't realize that to end suffering you don't have to accuse the other, massacre the other or To die, just get out, what's the problem in French, why do you think this has to be a thing? It's like in the Family Case, whatever happens, Cristina and I were left taking away the figure, who was also terrified, right,

like, looking at that. right No, she said now in the break she said now I want to see what you're going to say now, you see now it's screwed because there's nothing you said in this situation, you know, people, you stayed quiet for the entire program and then when it got to the end you had to go there to give that closure then the director started saying that I could make specific interventions because sometimes you have to have that time when you have to close It's true to wait until the end Sometimes people don't remember

anymore It's like they're so spoiled and the audience provokes, obviously, right? I said, people, the moment passed, then he said, who wants to carry out interventions, I said, I want there, that's what you just said here to us, did you hear what you said, so the guy, right, but much less, I think who was at home until You know, the person feels like it's shame and they're being exposed because many were ashamed, it wasn't because they were embarrassed because one of their companions wanted to, they didn't go because they got a fee, right, But they

knew TV, Cristina Rocha, or I knew SBT. I thought I could see Silvio, right? What he did with hair, makeup ? It looks like Folia, right? It made a beautiful photo and many also went to seek help, right? Psychological help? I think the great thing about the family case is that it took psychology into the community for me It's an elective profession and it's made it something that what I said, you managed to bring this to a very large, very large audience, nothing in psychology, I don't know how to speak beautifully, but I don't want

to say it, you don't need it to understand, you weren't invited to give a lecture And for those people who know that when you are called to give a talk in a shopping mall you will continue talking like you talk there, I definitely think that this is Ana's difference in the books, you know, that's what we try to do here, what What's the point of talking About terms ? meaning Why did you go there, a vanity that I think is always bad, right, like, oh, I know, I speak beautifully. People look but it's okay And

then you communicated what I remember when going through life, adding if you help someone already Thanks, it's not what you said, right? You tell someone why you're in this relationship. Maybe they won't listen to you at first. I can't. One day, 20 years will pass. She is processing a change that you haven't seen that you are unaware of, more than the energy of her change reaching you, I have patients who, after years, come back and then you can do a session. Look, I wanted to tell you, remember that, I already remember. imagine, right, I don't

remember what it was like And then there is a time when a person matures, it doesn't mean that they will see that at that moment, They leave with the notion that it's not cool but it gives that to another story, everyone has time, that's it, right? It's everyone's time And when she realizes that energy that you were the vehicle she connected to, even if she doesn't see you anymore, but that energy comes back to you in some good way, I'm sure of it. How nice it is to see a patient come in with that tormented

face and leaving is better, exactly, but light, she also felt welcomed there, right, she listened to a lot of things but at the same time you gave that welcome but we have a welcoming profile, don't you, you also have a photo in the videos, you talk about why the person is already shot for the love of God and then what about my ego, right, we have to be good, we can take it completely because you no longer expect the person to respond, they will, we know that you just said it, I don't feel like I'm

less of a less competent psychologist, but No need, no, you didn't understand, you couldn't transform what you said into an effective change at that moment, I don't know either, I'm sure it's her time, I've had a patient like that in an abusive relationship that I said, look, I'm not going to see you anymore because it's going to happen. a tragedy I've already tried everything I could you needed protection you need a lawyer because this way the storm is brewing the Tsunami will arrive and because I like you so much I can't stay without moving and

doing nothing because I don't want to have this guilt, so I wanted you to call a relative of yours, we're going to see a lawyer, we're going to explain, ask for a protective measure because I can't see you anymore, knowing that something really bad is going to happen soon, so what did she say? No, I'm not going to call my mother, I'm not going to call my father, I'm not going to call my brother, I would give any possibility, it could be a friend, it could be a friend, I have to share this with Someone

would break up and I would send them to a great-great lawyer who sometimes worked out, sometimes didn't, but ended up working out most of the time, other times, she said it like this, look, So we're going to stay here because I thought you would always support me, I said. but I'm trying to avoid you Maybe it's an act of love and support that you're not even capable of understanding several times I said that And then even then I disappeared like two three and then one day A police officer calls me like look here Police station,

Mrs. so-and-so, she was beaten by so-and-so, I already knew it was a tragedy announced, I still said wow, it took me three years, I still said that, my prediction, but I had been beaten so many other times that this time the police were called because it must have been a neighbor who came, something has to be done something to get the scoop on, right? And then she goes to the police, not because she's undergoing treatment, I said she wasn't there three years ago, but whatever to report about how long I was in the case, I

don't have any problem, I'll open it now, it was such a date that she The last time you came here was the date, I think this could help, so this happens and I go to the mall, pass by the same husband or boyfriend, I don't know, she's already with another woman and she thinks she was with him and the guy ran away of me pretending he didn't see me Yes, of course, but he thought what I was going to be like I regretted it because we suffer, we get involved with people So there comes a

point where we say, find out how to do it because people say psychologist are you thinking if I left you should have separated, distanced men Have abusive relationships that they threaten like if you tell this Doctor it's I'm going to threaten her I don't keep calm it's public but at this exact moment I'm filing a police report What's going to happen? rain catches me let's ask if he made the rain already some but what happens I record everything online so it's because you've already been through things So what do they think we who do the

head Where did you see that you do the head There hasn't been one for a long time we can talk but that's it Until it was light the woman came to me a woman came to me and then Doctor I need to go to couples therapy I said why are you alone here he doesn't want I can do it alone there I spoke logically during the therapy she concluded that the marriage no longer existed it was over, ok so I'm going to separate it ok Be happy, left Months later a new patient came in and

recommended you, that's how many Reginas have been in our lives then she came in talking normally So I said that I'm divorced, I don't know what, okay, why did you come to me? He said, no, nothing, my life is fine, I just wanted to look at the face of [ __ ]'s daughter's daughter who made my wife abandon me, but I I didn't know who I was Panic for you to pull who is what is the case I said can you explain it to me better he was talking I know but my little legs are

getting worse because you know and you alone there, right I always answered until late at night because you doing a lot of things I said Oh okay, when I found him I said yes maybe if you had gone to couples therapy like she wanted things would have turned out Exactly, but he wasn't friendly until the end he ended up leaving but then I saw that I was at risk, no, he just went there to throw it in my face, that's all, but I already got a bigger fright, so I said guys, right, how do people

solve their emotional problems, right, because We're always going to assume the other person was to blame, it wasn't him, it wasn't him. never, no, because the guy was threatening his wife and I said, have you ever heard of the Maria da Penha law? Then he stayed, because at the last table, I almost melted, talk about how easy it is to die, it's very easy, willing to kill, no doubt, I won't be answering any more today, but while I answered I had something like a security system button alarm button directly on the security guard this is

wonderful you can touch everything everything had it all filmed the time you entered the time you left everything not the room but since the campaign no one went up But even if it was to deliver Rosa downstairs, come down, get it, it's a bomb, come down, get it , but look, it's been many years, right? There was a time when they called me, they got my phone number through CRP. Do that, well, to make the story short, she was pregnant, she couldn't afford it, she didn't want it, she couldn't afford to have this child, she

said, I'll only have this child if you take care of it, I want you to raise it, but then it's already a delusion, Right? No, she chose me, I met her, she went to São Paulo, she wasn't from São Paulo, she went to São Paulo and she had the child, you never saw her, not as a patient, but I said, come here, no, because on the first day, what an invasive thing, I just got a daughter by choice Imagine if this trend catches on, people don't want a child, they'll just have an abortion But you're

crazy, she had a problem, why, no, no, she has a serious problem because I had someone who was a non-patient, she never was My patient I met once On the street, the person goes very well and sees me And then I don't know how to find out my old address, I'm not even there anymore, and then she started leaving messages, some things at the entrance, I said, do you know, I've never seen it, there was a system of security there was the video there I said I don't know you I don't know you then one

fine day she got my email from the office and she said so that I can be very calm Doctor I know you I am an adopted daughter I know you are the mother I was Her mother was the one who had abandoned her, but she was forgiving me, you understand, and you changed, you had to change, she was a person who went into really psychotic crises and I had nothing to do because how am I going to do a person who goes into psychosis that she struck two three o'clock in the morning from Saturday to

Sunday at the parade of champions arrived at my doorman, no, doctor, here it is so-and-so, you're going to Avenida, I said to Avenida, I'm sleeping in a photo there at carnival, he thought I was going She was going to give me a ride there, I was going to take her there to meet me, so there are things that are delusions, a person wanting to give you a child, a person saying that I am a mother and that she forgives me that I abandoned her, now she has no problem there. you see that there is already

a border with Psychosis, you know, we don't even have a way to respond, there's no way to give it, there's no way to give it, but you know it won't leave my head and she left the phone and I called later After a while I said how are you, I'm sorry because I went don't call me but there's no purpose but then it passed but here it won't leave My head then it says abort because I know I wasn't going to create it but then I wanted to know a little best part of that story

but she responded well at the end she had it, she got it right Because it was because the guy didn't want her husband and the guy she was dating and left and then he got it together and the baby was born to the family, it wasn't, it wasn't Body psychosis, no postpartum that happens, doesn't it happen ? It's very similar to how you wanted me to assume that I was a mother and you wanted her to be the mother of your child, but why do you think I have to raise your daughter because I like

the way you understand trust, right? I felt a lot of pain . You lose track of us, you know, that she had a moment of Psychosis, so in that sense of getting to that point, it must have been me, certainly, in this case, there were others, but in this case I later went to find out, she had actually come out of a hospital, ran away You know, I'm sorry, but I can't take on motherhood that doesn't belong to me, of course, take on something, but we have to be very careful because there are things that

are a way out of reality that happens a lot and are conditioned by evil merely no Oh, there's a lot of nonsense they say, but no, I'm no longer seen as I think the auntie knows, I think it is, but I think when the young kid comes to sing to me [Music] that used to happen in the Family Case But you see it's because I want some opportunity I think there was a problem ah I have so much awareness, thank God I have so much awareness, right? How come there are women who don't get this,

right? And how many? There are a lot of clueless women and clueless men and clueless men too? I'm going to spank you, I will, do you want it? seeing her all so strong there on television, you know everything, I'm going to sing to her, she's going to fall for me, she's going to fall for my words and she's going to taste the poison that she stays there, now talk about this case that you told, Anahí, about the guy who went there and He said I came to look at the face of the woman who ended

my marriage, this is not a psychopath, this was a narcissist. That's because if he were not a psychopath, he would continue to be tormented, right? Now he was the narcissist, then how did you use it to take away my object of satisfaction? Because the narcissist He wants my food today I'm happy because I already have another object that you won't have access to, register and go there and scare me, yes, you see, right, because the big problem, for example, relationships with narcissists, you must have had a lot of women or many men who have relationships

with narcissistic women also that we seem like it's just one side isn't it that it's more frequent it's more visible now the narcissist he he in reality he just wants that supply he wants a reserve right yes he No, you break up with him and he wants to continue knowing that you are there at his disposal, it's very bold of him, Exactly how are you going to live without me, right? Mothers S, there was no point in us even saying this, but we were once in a bar, me, my husband, my daughter and my son-in-law

and a guy came with his wife and a child and he said I can hug you, I said of course, right? What was it, he said? Thanks to a video I saw on your channel, I discovered that my mother is a narcissist, so everything I suffered that she did to me made sense, I was able to free myself, right, and I was able to understand that I'm not that trash she said we were It was so impactful for me, I said, people, look, we have to keep talking, talking, saying that people had no idea about

this, right ? He does this because he is very insecure, whether due to insecurity or not, you cannot destroy someone's life, someone's self-esteem, we certainly cannot justify it, justifiable and in any case, right, so the narcissist, people had no idea What a personality disorder is. It's very difficult to change, the person has to really want it but it's not the person for him because it's the way, that way, he needs that supply of feeling wonderful and it's interesting that they don't break up with anyone, right, they always want it, they feed that. So every now

and then he sends a message and the person says something like this, you see, I think he likes me, he said that when he solved the problem, I don't know that he will look for me there, but look at cases of narcissistic men, women look for me like they look for me. more like therapy, right, so they really destroy them because they, they will, if they deteriorate, it's an impressive thing, they can't see what the guy is doing. Sorry for all the behaviors, right, but then you can also kick all the crutches because otherwise you

destroy Exactly exactly so first you have to help this woman to see how to improve, to become stronger, to begin to rebuild herself. There are people who are like that who feed themselves, right? From this godliness of this wonderful thing that happens, you know 10 Thousand times better than I have. a power she this attitude bites blows this emotional seesaw this reward mixed with punishment becomes addictive it seems that the brain the person she can't live without it because after it ends it becomes very cute because that reserve supply and she is so destroyed that

when this delicious part comes, it comes in, it seems like it messes with the chemistry, it seems like it wants it, it seems like a drug, it's incredible because it's like a drug, even the reward, right, you do that when you did the research in the laboratory with mice that you did If he did something you wanted, you would give him some kind of reward and he would automatically trying to do that, then it would give me the shock, I never managed to do it exactly, but I think this thing of coming back cute is

addictive, it's munchies, I make munchies, people, right ? It's with us, it reflects how we treat each other exactly, right, I teach you how you have to treat me, which way, which way, right, Betray me, beat me and I'm always here available, he will never respect you because you don't respect me, the level of aggression of losing anger increases, you allow it, he doubles it Let's see how far you go What is your limit, like a child testing it, let's see how far you can take it, but in this case the man has also lost

because the woman is not she, she doesn't have more self-will she is no longer a challenge she is no longer interesting because she is a reflection of what he wants her to be exactly so he will look for someone else he will still abandon her he will still say you are no longer the same person and he helped to destroy and there are women who do this to men, it's the talk of a narcissist, it's always tearing the other down, you're no use for anything, you do everything wrong, right ? It's difficult, I'm going to

listen because I'm going to look for you until I look for you It's very rare but the process of change is very difficult and he has to move away From relationships because if he doesn't fast on relationships he automatically moves gears to have it again suffering, you understand, so he almost has to give up for a long time to undo that mechanism that is already activated in his head and we see that it is working and all this that we do that we see colleagues doing that people have recognition like that I'm toxic I don't

want to be like that how can I improve she already names she identifies she names that in the past it was all hidden it's because the process of human evolution is very slow it's very slow but it's inexorable that we don't do it exactly Of course not There's no way we can't do it, that's why we never give up because there's always someone who will wake up one day, I think we were born for this, we're taking this journey to improve, to wake up to better things, sometimes it takes a long time Sometimes one life

is not enough Sometimes we will do this much more later on but it's the process And if we are a vehicle I already think it 's really cool that's what I'm saying I don't mind a patient not understanding anything But I do sure of the love with which I passed on that information, it opens a door to the person's progress and opens it, I think. And every time a little door like that opens, I think it lights up our journey, even literally, even if we don't know, there's that day when you get up happy like

this, today it's a beautiful blue sky, I think someone woke up to something that was said, I think we have to remember how our mission is, you know, no one here is Mother Teresa of calculation, but for example, I think this is what I have to do there's a difference in helping someone , otherwise it doesn't make sense, right, and I know you have this line too, I've seen you talking about it because it's not what you do with it all, if it's not to help, when I joined SBT I said my God helps me

to make a difference to make a change in the life of I can help someone I can be useful because and there to talk sometimes at the end of a program They went after people so how come it had become obvious that they got the cases that worked and many also didn't think why they should die [Music] you understand, but there were some cases Where Cristina was kicked out of the program because she criticized her mother, she hit her mother on the program You have no idea what was edited because it was very worse, sometimes

there was swearing, there was a program, everything was pi pi, it couldn't be done, there was so much swearing, it was all absurd and there was something involving physical aggression, you know, you had to hold it back, but that stopped because the Public Prosecutor's Office said we're going to reclassify, it's going to say at what time, but at the beginning than me at the beginning of Cristina because at the time of Regina Volpato it was calmer it was calmer it was much calmer Then I said it like that it was before I didn't enter The

program started in April, I joined in May, and then I understand, I received the offer to stay fixed because I was a psychologist in the program, I was crazy, they didn't think so, I didn't know where else to look, right, so then I received the offer and I stayed, but then losing the thread, what was I talking about before, no, we were talking about the couple in the story that worked out, then you said that they were wanted for a case that had a fight and Cristina threw it out [Music] My God, it's back to

out there, Cristina She hit her mother on the show, not the couch, and not Cristina, then she stuck to the chair, then the insurance company came and took the chair and took it, then it became a meme, it just passed and then she came back in a drama And really, she was very different. because when she left there they destroyed her in a way and then I think she saw that it really couldn't work anymore, it couldn't work like that, we don't even know, we can't know if she really understood, she did it or went

there to try to improve a little to not to be beaten on the street, our lynched woman, she went there to avoid being beaten on the street, you know, a case that also made me cry a lot, you know, there were times when I couldn't contain myself, I couldn't, there was a boy he was a transvestite. He was a woman in the program. he was put together and the mother said things to me and said I can't believe what I'm hearing I can't believe it, you know, that and another one also that his sister he

took care of his nephew He heard he left Master you have to get protect your mother, I said, I understand that you don't understand why he doesn't understand, but you need to say what you 're saying for you to hear, I mean, your son was straight, you loved him, now he turned around, he turned around, no, you found out that he He's gay , he doesn't love more than love , right ? animal is what And why do you stay in this you know that's why you became a godmother of the parade Who was that

with the pants that's cool that's wonderful and it wasn't even that popular at the time it wasn't it was a year before the pandemic already I was always a defender of the community, so they invited me to be a name there, godmother, it wasn't godmother, it was another name, Bonfim [Laughter] so I went and stayed there, I've never seen so many people there in São Paulo, people and it made goose bumps from their hair down to their toes. You know, three million people, 4 million people and the story, right, when I was passing by in

the car, everyone, Doctor, I said, Because you gave this legitimization of being human, right, of humanity, I even understand, I didn't tell them, You decide to come out of the closet, just You've been planning for five years how you're going to say it, but you come to your father with that idea already worked out. But despite them having an idea, five years of wanting to tell you and you get there, you want the guy to understand for a while, it's a process. also of acceptance , it will mourn that imagined son, you know, that he

would bring his grandchildren that thing that we really do, right? depending on your son's sexual orientation, I'd rather have a murderer son or a dead son, I've heard that, I'd rather have a dead son, even a son like that, trust me, my loves, I've heard that, I've heard that too, right, patience, I'd prefer him to I would have died, right, but that's what I'd rather have a rapist son than a murderer, a rapist who doesn't have one, right? So I and I said I would go for it when it's delicate, I also don't go there

to decorate anyone, to destroy anyone, but it would be a reflection, right? You give me credit, right? How do I deal with this pain, with this lack of love? It was like loving each other, loving each other, you know, because I went crazy with that excuse, we don't want it because we're at risk on the street and why exactly do you kick him out of the house? and he also doesn't understand many things that almost even back then, you know, I remember that right at the beginning when I graduated, that was strong for me, but

today I'm very happy that he's very happily married, so he lives outside the country, he became a journalist is the husband was already a journalist but a guy he started therapy with me because he started using glue glue with a shoemaker but I saw that there was something besides that he had no other way, there was nothing but there was a reason because it bothered him to smell glue And then I went, you know, looking at his life story to summarize, his father died when he was 15 years old, his father's partner helped him take

over the house and then He discovered there and then at that moment the involvement of his father's partner with his mother, and one day his mother travels to take care of his grandmother Apart from this partner who became his mother's boyfriend, sexually abuses him, it really affected him and so on, and then he, in that physical education thing, goes to take a shower, he started to look at the boys differently, that started to bother him and he went openly talk to the mother, mother, this is happening, she said, I prefer a son who smells and

glues than a homosexual son And so his coming to me was after he had gone to a rehabilitation clinic where it was very bad, so I don't know what what did he say You allow me to talk to your mother then he said but you allow me to talk about everything and then I already loved this mother for a conversation and brought the whole trajectory of what was behind it all and that's how it was to summarize, right? so she picked it up, he didn't accept it directly but rented an apartment for him, then he

met this guy while going to college Journalism and from what I found out, the two of them ended up together, but people, sometimes it's not just It's a story, it's because in reality it's not wants you to know That the son is because They will attribute it to her as if she had gone wrong where you went wrong because the mother is the one who determines that she still had that concept, right, the boy was gay I said that because you hair stopped playing with your makeup imagine playing exactly so that hurt me a lot

mami it hurts to this day yes you know it's very unfair now just a cool tribute right It was really cool It was really cool I stayed there resident angry people because they were Saint Warrior all day hours and hours and hours it ended 8 o'clock at night I got there 8:30 in the morning I got in the car there truck but I was I was doing it but I let go so much I arrived at night laughing so much blowing kisses 12 hours my feet to my back but that was so gratifying for me

and their energy is something, you know, it's something that moves us and it's difficult, you know, not to reject someone, you know, if you can be a good empathetic welcomer, make a positive difference in someone's life, because You'll do the opposite, screw up the other person's life. another detonation to destroy self-esteem the corn why talk about it Anair our social networks, right because today we live in a social network thing that there are people who are there to detonate to destroy to bring down you see this you realize this no You notice on my networks

that obviously there must be a lot of people who don't like me but I don't Hater I've never suffered like that, but it's a moral virtuosity it's a hypocritical thing I say whenever I can people let's be more generous What is this? If you detonate a person, they can kill themselves, you don't know what that person is going through, what they're feeling, this Cyber ​​bullying, this crazy thing, you know, people are in niches, they come together to destroy, it polarizes everything that's happening, right, look, the internet came to really make a difference, but not just

a good one. Unfortunately, I think the internet, networks are good, we don't know how to use them exactly, but I think there are people who are using them as if they were judges, as if they were judges, they are there, it's the Holy Digital Inquisition right, but what are we seeing in terms of Character because that's what people only say because no one is looking in the face because face to face no one has the guts to do that, so what is that because of all of this, it's inside people, I'm like scared I get

scared The vast majority of my networks are also super kind No, I can't complain about that but there are people, there are robots too, right, there's a little show that you see, the ID looks like an Android from I don't know what Why is it? Underline ​ a client level now it's funny you have no way man husband because those who have this one she had it was better truth it's her truth you're already saved you're already free truth you don't need it anymore virtual truth it's true truth God already told you no I never

sent it again I wanted me to respond Do you know why what you say like that oh no I make a video talking about such a thing No it's not like that I say it's not like that your experience [ __ ] Don't you understand that There is something for everyone? Ready world that talks like this oh there was no need to say that that No you didn't say that other aspects people the social network is open you didn't say say it do I will have the pleasure of being there and applaud yes that's not

clear my dear Since when did we invite I saved a little question to ask you, yes, what do you think about betrayal, what would betrayal be for you, with your experience with everything affective, lovingly or betrayal in general, let's get to the affective, what do you think is an emotional betrayal, I think it is the breaking of a contract is not because we will never leave an agreement that is agreed treaty is not expensive If we propose to have a monogamous relationship Then it is valid for both of us this agreement can be redone, changed,

it can have ended of care but as long as there is this agreement, right, you commit, it's a moral affective commitment because you won't stop feeling horny for someone else Feeling attraction to but you have an agreement You have an agreement you love you will honor it so it's one more thing of complicated character than of attraction we are monogamous in Series We stay with one at a time, don't we but then why want everything so I have difficulty forgiving betrayal I even believe that you can cheat even though you love I believe that I

agree with you right, but then you didn't achieve in your mind what you set out to do, so it's not a cool thing that people have so much difficulty changing their contract before cheating, you do it at 20 years old, probably at 35 you go because you have contracts with 20 years old, if you say, I'll only go to the cinema if you go, maybe at 30 you think it's very good. I think that yes, women are cheated on more because there are studies showing that women are cheated on. the man has the more he

brings, the more macho he is the sluttiest woman, that's what 's changing now, anyway, even so, there's a little step forward, I've heard between getting a round and a non-round, you understand, men take a lot, right? now so that the person doesn't want to recognize that or not because the woman Thinks that this man is looking outside because she doesn't know. So she pretends that she doesn't see what it is, she puts up with it because of that because they say look, I had a patient who told me , my wife cheated on me, I

said she cheated on you, you got it, it's for sure he said no, no, you don't understand, she's embagliou Oh, and he was like a king, she cheated, he understands because he wanted a wonderful, hot woman, you see who I was with I got married, it's another woman, I'm no longer with the same woman, I'm no longer with the same woman, you want to be a father, right? No, but that wasn't in the agreement. to lose weight for her, think carefully and if she is right and what's behind it Look at transformation programs in Caso

de Família once it fell off and I lost my temper because I started looking at couples It's because my wife looks horrible I think In her, she's depressed, right? I do everything I don't know what to show her, then they came looking beautiful, transformed, with tidy hair like that, there are no ugly people, there are people who can't take Care of themselves, I don't know, now, yes, now, there, when I went to my speech, I I said so, look, I'm going to tell you something Have you ever looked in the mirror, you look horrible now

they're with you, right? Women also like well-groomed, smelling men who don't go to sleep with their underwear on because they said it on the program. saying that, okay, right? My wife is sleeping, I don't know what. I said, people, it's an exhibition, you know, you're the same, you also need a transformation, Cristina, let's talk to the director, let's make sure they deserve it too because they have to go out with you Why are people afraid to speak up, right ? So now the woman says everything, let's prepare because now she's fine, now let's see, let

it pass next week, we'll do a transformation with you too, because sometimes I think it's going to happen, it was sensational She must have laughed a lot, everyone must to have been that laugh, Right, other people, people look like those, they have rejuvenated themselves by 30 years, it's an impressive thing What does a haircut do ? much more from the inside But if you can, you're already vain, put a little lipstick on yourself but that's what I'm saying, it's not for someone else, if it's for someone else, you don't keep it, you don't do it,

now I don't want to see myself look past a mirror and look at me and say, wow, what horror, exactly, well, I've transformed myself, right? What have I transformed into? You wanted to know about general betrayal, and now let's go general betrayal, right ? sometimes we notice a Genuine regret because you notice a Genuine regret we are not perfect either, you know you can't be radical but betrayal is something that shakes your structure because you trust betrayal hurts because it is always from someone you love and that your enemy's life is at stake you already

know someone very close to you that's why it hurts that's why you expect it You have trust no I didn't expect it that's why betrayal is so treacherous Exactly it's a total breach of trust, right? it's a break And then you felt like a person, too, in turn, you can give the right to forgiveness, you can reformulate and make the relationship even better, many times, even as a couple, this couple can also not work out Naim, when one forgives, but the rest of your life throwing that in your face my Jesus and then you will

continue to be unhappy because you are in prison and so is the other one and the children who are in the middle here the rest of your life is either you lost or you forgive me otherwise you will live forever that thing too, you know, no, I took him back but he was a little late at home, it's already turned into hell, that's what I'm telling people, it still happens that people think they are half and that people don't understand that we are whole and ourselves, if this is not the case, we are very far

from understanding life. If you need someone to be happy to be safe, you Already have to question yourself. Surely, right? Because we will add up, we will share, we will do well. If we help each other, we often help each other. Of course, now if I can't live if the other person doesn't validate me or help me, right, how do you expect the other person to make you happy, how do you give a Cruel responsibility like that to someone, it's very transferable borderline happiness we talked about the narcissistic personality which is a struggle because the

borderline has this affective existential void so he needs the other almost as if it were oxygen to breathe, yes and it is difficult Wow, it is very difficult, so they are people who can submitting almost everything and not losing and they end up losing because of this because by submitting you becomes such a banal object of maneuver so repetitive that even the person who wants that change comes to a time when they have changed so much that they no longer even like what they attracted but Even so, I see, for example, I treat people with

borderlines a lot, right, when you wrote, you think it's too good, I put my hand too much because they say it's too good, but in Reality, that's not love, it's a dependency, but it's what they call less, right, but I think that the other is too good and they love themselves at all and I saw that when I said that, look, let's start, that's it, that's it, there's only one thing, you can't have a relationship for two years, but it's impossible. If it's for If you treat yourself, you will have to discover that you can

survive on your own Of course, it is not impossible, there is life on the other side of dependence And then maybe it will work, oh, but without a guarantee, the guarantee that you can succeed now, it may also not work now if you continue with this system you already know that it fails we already have a 100% error rate we can have a 50% success rate, everyone who came across it managed with one step, right? who no longer still attach great importance to the emotional relationship But they all came to the conclusion that we don't

die without this, it's essential for you to change the paradigm of dependence, I don't know if you've ever been cheated on, yes everyone has, but I wow the world It's already been, do you think someone hasn't been? If not, you don't know yet, or you might not know, but here's the thing, I 've always asked myself this question and I thought I read something that made so much sense to me. What is it that we are so afraid of abandonment? and rejection, right And then I was reading once something came like this and it appeared

on Instagram that this is cellular memory because in the past in prehistory, being abandoned or rejected by Death, you wouldn't survive alone because the human being, we homo sapiens, arrived, we arrived through collaboration We had that thing of The men go here, these women wait for when the hunting arrives, so we prepare, because we are very fragile animals, right? A lot of hair, no strength for cooperation, just for that reason, and then when we are rejected We have the feeling that we need you to see how a physical solution takes a long time to redo

what I said, so the physical evolution of the Physicist is very, very slow, right, that's when I told you that the thing of the day is going to When a physical evolution arrives, I think there will be a genetic mutation that will only have a child who really wants one who has an emotional connection who wants to give another being the opportunity To live, right, and be that being's partner and I think there will also come a day when the People will come to the conclusion that with knowledge I no longer need to be that

human being who depended on that to live, today you have an apartment You go to the supermarket, you don't need to kill a chicken, you go there and take a little piece, you still put this one here this one, I don't know what you don't need, you don't need to do the hunting, you no longer need the man who goes hunting to bring you food because we have all this, we live in caves, but it's amazing how people, for not knowing our history, history of humanity they reproduce the same mechanism we only have one solution

which is the evolution of consciousness which is to see all this and say the body acts like this because it went through this but my mind can do a lot differently I won't die from this and the We don't die, we don't die even when we lose our father, for example, our mother, the root of the root of a tree, exactly, but we survive and I'll say one thing, I think we have to better choose the battles we want to fight over. You know that Ah, I think the Herd movement Don't you think that we

are like this today, I usually say, I'm a person who, if I go to a shopping mall, there's a store, I don't go in because when I write consumerist writings, I saw that everything was planned So I I refuse to be manipulated there's one more there I think I say no I'm not going there I go into a quiet empty store in a little while we'll go to the store I'll leave I'll come back another day on Monday I'll talk to the saleswoman on Monday What time do you work because Monday is calmer because then

I don't want to join the movement because people are going And then I always say this, we alienate ourselves collectively but we evolve individually, there's no way salvation is individual, that's what we don't have way we were born alone and will die alone and that's it we have journey companions it's an individual search I thought it was beautiful your father's satisfaction moved me because like that my biggest dream and I hope to be able to achieve it is to die lucid to die lucid and know that The time is coming, you know, this thing, like,

but this is fantastic, you know, because generally people die in the hospital, in the ICU, they're intubated, okay, people, however you go, This journey must be very strange when you wake up, you don't even remember when you were intubated, you Imagine, I think it's a gift these people who die at home and Elza Soares Elza Soares says I was very well and I'm going to bed with a cup of coffee and then the people went there, do you want me, I'm going I'm the same thing so what a privilege and what a privilege you had

to see this moment, right, a relative, a loved one, leave with this tranquility, with this tranquility, with this love for my mother, right, for my mother, for me, for me, I think it was more because of you, you promised to take care of him, he didn't ask you to do so, you knew that that's calming him down, that's love, people are thinking it's love, it's this kind of thing, it's the guy who thinks the ass is hot, it's the woman who Do you think the guy, Wow, his chest is hot, that's not love, you're distortion,

you root for the other, partnership, right? I think it's partnership, and today there is love between everything, right, between friends, between children, between parents, between siblings, not everyone is prepared to love That's the question, but I think love is the beginning of not knowing how to be loved and not knowing how to destroy all relationships, It's a sin, you know, you don't know how to be happy . that love is the beginning and the end of everything and whoever has not discovered love has not reached the end even if it takes many lives if there

are many but somehow me too I was going to ask you this about your faith I am spirituality how do you deal with him I was born into a Roman Catholic [Music] but I always felt like I had to have something before how is it that my brother was born perfect, normal he had nothing and at six months he stays like that his whole life the family revolving around what that means because he already has a sinners Agree why not because if it's in one thing no this is a sin he committed how exactly there

isn't that, right but I believe in God I believe in a creator there is, right no It makes sense, nothing is made out of nothing, right, and I've already had situations in which I felt that God was there, protecting us, making things better, you know, we have experiences, right ? missions, right, so I'm trying to fulfill Mine, right ? I wouldn't like to have this, I wouldn't like it , I think it's possible to have lightness because I really believe in the law of cause and effect in everything in life, in everything you can see

everything, right? being harmed I prefer to be harmed me too I say we went through a robbery situation at work he was very excited I think it was the first time he was going to experience it it wasn't the betrayal it was the robbery it was the receipt right And then for him like that Not first, it's not the first time, maybe it won't be the last But I'd rather be the person robbed than rob someone, I don't want this machine either, neither do I, right? That's what Ana really said, I prefer a servant to

one who was robbed because I take down I also no one wants to be hurt I'm never an idiot but between doing something that will hurt someone it will come back to me so much so that there are things that have already happened in My life that I said, it's not this justice that will take care of it Let's give it time and I really understand this perfectly what you're saying and it calms the heart I don't know if it calms it gives me movement like this It's as if I activated an internal God but

we have the Divine particle exactly, right? turns everyone into a brother, so Oh, how beautiful, right? Who picks up the violin? How can I kill a person, make the person suffer, harm their life so much? I think there are a lot of people who do that, today we see the scams on the internet the virtual scams of pics You wouldn't rather have suffered you know he did he sent me a dick from a penny what do you mean I don't understand but how did you get into this using Oh I didn't know he sent a

message to me on WhatsApp No , mom, I made a portability , I'm going to temporarily keep this number, I didn't even think that it wasn't possible for her to do this portability, but anyway, right? Message But I didn't even care that it was this other portability thing for me, I didn't even remember that anymore, I was working doing my own thing, right ? I'll give it back Okay, I'm slow at a lot of things, but I'll do it to pick up my daughter, but because now they're taking photos of their children because they're on

social media, and then they come back and post a message from another phone, but with their child's photo, that's exactly it. No, it's the worst thing that we get when you don't even stop to think like that, people, that's not her key, that's not her CPF, right? But I found out because the guy within an hour, barely even that, about 40 minutes, sends me another one Send it, I'll need to do one more, I said, Oops, fall for a scam, call me, Bruna, who cares ? So, a friend of mine noticed That there was a

photo of her son's daughter with a different phone, but she saw the photo, whoever decorates the phone today, look, now I know mine and I'm forced to, when I answered, I put this here, guys, so the patients but I don't know, I don't know about anyone else, we don't memorize anything anymore, he doesn't use his brain anymore, exactly for memory, for this type of memory that we call short, medium to long term, why would you repeat that, I don't know anymore the number of people So you don't look at the picture, it's there, the picture,

so now you know when I would do something like that, right ? It's something that you wait for there to be revenge, no, but something they're going to lose something because they took it from others who don't really belong to me in terms of energy and vibration. That hurt me because I felt like I was made a fool, I was injured, I'm not tearing up. money, you know, it could have given R$ 3000 such a different fate, exactly, so this has to have a consequence, I think it does, I think it will have a consequence,

No, not in the same way as we have the Divine particle. You are too, I believe that if I told you I do it well This energy will vibrate and it will come back even if it's not an easy gift, it might not be exactly you that I'm going to receive Exactly this flow but it's spinning but it's spinning and I'm going to receive it and the same thing if you do something like that It's going to turn around, that's why the plantation has to be good because the harvest is inevitable, it's certain, that's right,

dear, our moment has come here, which we call the moment, pipinho, he's our mascot, right, and he's the unfortunate little brain that's still in the summer. right, who's wearing sunglasses and a very carioca cap and we're going to do something like ping pong, say a word and you'll tell me what comes to mind, it doesn't have to be immediate You can say more, explain why there's no problem, the first word is gratitude what moves the world I believe it is the feeling that most mobilizes human relationships our energy our health everything without gratitude I thank

God every day for my health for my sheet for my warm bed for the smell of comfort you know everything in minimal Things I am very grateful I think it is essential and you can see the difference today because some people confuse gratitude with education gratitude is another thing than saying that you are simple Oh you are humble No I am not humble I am normal I don't have because it's different from that, no one is more than I am, I'm not more than anyone, and let's go, right? So they confuse a lot because there

are people who say, gratitude, gratitude, gratitude is a movement without depending on what comes, what comes, thank you for what's bad It's the oldest, it's the biggest, it's the most difficult exercise, but I'm grateful, I get a lot of trouble, but I say that this came to teach me, that I have to learn from this, because I'm going through it like me. I believe that everything has a story Be honest in another life exactly so it's for growth I appreciate the bad things even though I protest that I talk like this I call God the

commander of the universe Commander I don't understand gloves But that's okay Let's play let's play one day I want to understand a film That marked you Oh that marked me the fatal interaction Fatal Attraction this betrayal film Do you remember this film Totally it was Michael Douglas Michael Douglas Oh that very famous White the The way she said she was a psychopath but she refused to be used, that means you used me one night, now it won't be anymore, you're going back to your little wife, he thinks everything's fine, then it's his fault, I thought

it took so many years of betrayal and the betrayal of the relationship , kidnapping the girl, shaking the structures of that wife and the wife killing her in the end, as he said, the right one won, exactly, he really went into despair, right ? I found this film and there's one thing, you know, because there are people who talk like that, oh no, because man is more instinctive, more like animals, we have a privileged brain, frontal love so that we can differentiate ourselves from animals, because there are a lot of people who are like that,

but in nature, nature in quotation marks because we are Very different animals we can fulfill contracts exactly the lion doesn't go between you understand It's like, the monkey doesn't go but we see a number of neurons, right ? in the jungle so we can exactly we can resist temptations This film really impacted me I like horror films police thrillers [Music] everything is based on self-knowledge including a message for those who are watching If you don't know how to where you have to go where you are going you deviate if you get lost you don't understand

triggers you don't set limits you don't understand what's happening why do you get robbed why don't you get out of stealing that's all and you keep getting the victim of the universe, right? There's a passage in Alice in Wonderland, right? There comes a time when she goes running, she comes face to face with the rabbit and tells him where I'm going, where he's going, I don't know where I will Look, if you don't know how to plant anywhere, it's exactly The mechanism, I think it's very important for you to be able to live together. If

you don't put yourself in the other person's shoes, you jump to hasty conclusions, right? It becomes coexistence, it becomes very impossible, right? that trying to understand , even if understanding it doesn't satisfy us, but the heart is as they say, right? things have a reason for being, we have to decide whether we can live with it or not, even if you leave, that doesn't stop you from having empathy for that person because that's how it works for me, I understand your suffering but then I 'll be violent myself exactly so why do people think that

when you become therapeutic you often leave a person you're loving a book yours my love doesn't hurt Love doesn't give you the courage to be the courage to be wonderful wonderful Music Unfaithful da Marília Mendonça So you had this perception that Marília Mendonça brought a different concept to the country people until she slapped the country men in the face, in quotation marks, that you, you talked so much about the suffering woman, now we are giving that we don't go and we can leave we can support it but we can also turn around I loved her

voice she has many songs thousands of songs I wouldn't know but Unfaithful I think she's beautiful to this day I go in in case I say it again [Laughter] but it's very cool, right, she took a bath It's funny that this girl died, oh my God The song, right, from when she died and she was releasing that song That song helped me end a relationship, you know, I just put the song on and shared it, but what you're saying goes read that the song Goes talking, you know, that one, it was ending, if you notice,

we 're no longer going to the room, the bed was something like that, it's getting cold, everything, you know. Arrive, come back, each one doesn't need to freeze, each one, let's follow each one on their own path, understand Marília Mendonça Marília Mendonça and Paulo Gustavo for me were two losses that I don't agree with, it's funny Paulo Gustavo and she was much younger, she 's 43 Paulo 28 two more losses really felt that we had Ana was saying something one day and stopped to think about it and now thinking about her too he always uses

his mother that thing from the play and so on, I don't know what and he left this mother that he I always wanted her to have this place, She is today , right? And Marília Mendonça's mother also, who always fought hard there to raise her, right ? it's short but it's violent the power of her voice that entered my heart at the time of her lives her Live was the most popular at the time in the world in the world she blew up YouTube and I thought she was beautiful, fat in that way of her

boy, a powerhouse in that voice absurd and the lyrics are very different, incredible, right, incredible, it's good that we were alive to see it, right, these comets go from living this moment, they're comets, right, happiness, oh, happiness is a daily search for little things, I don't, I don't keep an eye on great happiness, you know. having to feel good having my family healthy being able to help my patients I love what I do what I love, right, these are happy moments, being able to help someone, being able to have fun with someone, being helped by

someone, being seen, being missing Me, right? So everything This brings happiness, it's a belief, a faith, being able to take care of my mother, you only have reasons to be grateful, here's a good thing, we are also very happy, very happy, even a phrase that defines you or that you like, I wanted an anti-phrase, so do that one first. from the Little Prince that you are responsible for that, no, I don't believe that anymore, it doesn't make sense to me anymore, I think that everyone has to be responsible for their own relationships, where they want

to enter and when they want to leave, so that's it, Little Prince. Prince grew up grew up exactly It's about time he decided to say that we are all responsible, that's because it 's horrible, right ? he had for our granddaughter, there are people who are missed, he caught her, he died, he didn't, Oh, I'm thinking about Beto, and you thought about Beto, Ah , so you caught, she was little when Beto died, when he died, A purpose in life to continue doing what I did. I don't want to change anything, right? I want to

improve, right? There's a lot to improve, but if God allows me to live like this, the way I am, it's very good, with the lid closed, everything fits perfectly, right? There's sadness, there's trouble, there's There are doubts, but it goes on, everything works out, that's what courage is all about, right? It's exactly you, I have it. I have a comic that says, take one fear a day and show who's boss. That's right, that's right, you're scared of us. you will always feel fear it is an emotion it is an emotion of what you feel in

reality it is your body it is your brain We are not our brain but we are not our mind we are some acquaintance this one sees it all when we are privileged to have self-knowledge to see and knowledge to be able to know the road we are going to see, we are much more than that, right? It's true, dear, leave all your messages for your followers where I can find you on YouTube on Instagram your book your course everything so love It doesn't hurt, right? When people keep buying, they like it. I have my channel

on YouTube, which is the chat with Ana and Damico Drana and Da Mico on Instagram and Anaida Mico on Facebook. Tik Tok, it's all the same name, right ? I have my collection of glasses, which I launched I kill your eyes but I didn't know you have a collection because I collect I have 130 prescription glasses I wear 6 prescription glasses I really can't go without glasses, right? to São Paulo and then they designed the Italian acetate, he's amazing, Paulo Paulo de Laurent, so he has my glasses, which are also all there. Everything is in

my Instagram bio. It's always there and let's go and take other courses and other books, other books, stories will give me the pleasure of one day doing a live with me, let's leave it later, it will definitely be a pleasure, dear, thank you very much, you're the one who doesn't Do you have any idea, look, you know, the good thing is there are people who, when we meet, we confirm that thing that we've known each other for a long time, like, he's one of those people, I don't know what we've done in other lives, materially,

Nothing, for sure, no. and when we went to São Paulo, let's go, dear, we are finishing another episode of COD people And today it was with this wonderful Anahí damico Look, if you don't know, go to her Instagram and follow her because there is so much to learn, so much for you to discover that in end of everything it's you and yourself and that's wonderful a big kiss see you next time people