[Music] [Applause] [Music] [Music] welcome you to this edition of managing differences in relationship and marriage i want to appreciate god for the feedback we are receiving from you concerning the impact of these messages and we pray that the testimonies will be permanent in jesus name we want to encourage you to keep turning your testimonies in let's hear your feedback and as we receive your feedback we will continue to pray along with you trusting god with you that your marriage will keep getting better by the day in jesus name today the ingredients we're going to be
discussing in managing differences in relationship and marriage is disagree to agree the purpose of your disagreement in marriage should not be to destroy the marriage the purpose of disagreement in my your marriage should not be to end the marriage so the purpose of disagreement in your marriage should be to eventually come back to an agreeable point that can move your marriage forward so in other words the purpose of disagreement in marriage is to better the lord of your marriage when you disagree with your spouse on the matter or when you disagree with your partner on
any issue at all it should be with the aim or the primary aim of coming to find a common ground that can help you to move forward from that point it is not possible not to disagree it's not possible two people cannot be working closely with each other and one will not step on the two of the other person it is not possible for us to have a perfect situation where there won't be any reason to disagree but when disagreement comes we should be looking beyond the disagreement how our resolution to the disagreement will add
value to our marriage so what it must be managed in such a way that it is not allowed to degenerate into irreconcilable differences you know our disagreement must be managed in such a way that we don't allow it to degenerate to incorrectly irreconcilable differences what are reconciliable differences there are differences that are beyond reconciliation differences that are beyond intervention differences that are beyond remedy differences that are capable of tearing down the wall around your marriage differences that are capable of terminating the life of your marriage prematurely so these are irreconcilable differences so the disagreement must
be well managed to lead to agreement when you have disagreement on any issue some couples their own disagreement is about their children and how they will raise them some is about how the home can keep running some is about everyday survivor some is about career change some is about location and relocation some is about appearances some is about commitment to to god and godliness some is about so many other things but whatever the issue or the point of disagreement is you must sit down with your spouse and come find a common ground and come to
a peaceful resolution that can strengthen the foundation of your marriage hebrews chapter 12 verse 14 says follow peace with all men and holiness without which no man shall see the lord follow peace with all men and holiness without which no man shall say the lord if you walk by the principle of this scripture following peace with all men then it will not be difficult for you to follow peace with your spouse you follow peace with your spouse and holiness because it is a major determining factor for you to see the lord so do we have
any man who wants to see the lord out there follow peace with your wife do we have any woman who wants to see the lord out there follow peace with your husband because without it you will not be able to see the lord so disagree to agree immediately there's an issue of disagreement set your mind beyond the disagreement how your marriage will continue to flourish after this disagreement and as you do that the lord will become strengthening your marriage the lord will be honoring your agreement the lord will be supporting you the lord will be
blessing you with the needed wisdom to continue to pundu the kenu of your marriage until another episode when i will be coming your way with another beautiful ingredient in managing differences in relationship and marrying goodness
