hello ladies and gits welcome back to my main Channel today we're going to be talking about body language secrets all the way down to talking the way you move the way you act tips tricks whatever based on psychology which is going to make you more attractive more appealing more charismatic more likable blah blah blah the list goes on so why is body language important it's not really important because it actually signals to the world who we are and our confidence and how we feel about oursel and the world but it's important because actually can shape
who we are for example if you guys ever heard if you pull your shoulders back and stand in this superhero pose you automatically will feel more confident that is your body language signaling to your brain that I feel confident when I do this therefore let's behave in a more confident way if you're giving a presentation and you have this open body language you know you're taking up space which we'll talk about in a bit you're moving around you're signaling to the audience that you are secure and that you are someone they should be listening to
body language is your superpower because we can also fake our body language for example in instances where I am not feeling confident or I'm feeling a little bit insecure I will be very very mindful of my body language and how I'm presenting to the world so if we're feeling insecure and unconfident naturally we want to take up less space which means we hunch our shoulders and we probably have a downward gaze and if we have a downward gaze we're indicating that we are submitting right now okay we don't feel good we're looking down with we
feel Weak and Powerless guys pull your shoulders back do some posture exercises you can't have this Aura of confidence yet you still be like this it doesn't work like that fix your posture and posture is not actually just about pulling your shoulders back by the way it's how we walk so it's got to do a lot with our hips and also our gate when you are shaking hands with someone I never ever want you to give them a weak handshake when I was 12 my mom had a bookshelf of like business books right a lot
were by Donald Trump and she'll give me them to read and I will never forget he said in his book never give someone a weak handshake I won't do business with someone who has a weak handshake because it's a signal of who we are and our conviction our strength I always remembered that since a very early age and now whenever I give someone a handshake it's I have a very firm grasp and every time they will compliment me I contact we touched on this point earlier but you want to have good eye contact so eye
contact like this for 3 to 5 seconds and then you can look away and come back look away come back people who are insecure they will always look down or they'll look anywhere but you have you ever been on a date and the other person or you are so nervous that you might look at them and then you immediately look away I know there's been times where I've been really nervous and I find like I can't even make eye contact with them and I'll be like but that indicates nervousness and that you're not feeling that
confident in the moment so especially in situations where you need to show that you are confident for example if you're going into like a legal battle okay your your lawyer and the other lawyer they're having a face to- face conversation when they're presenting an offer to you if you are looking hesitant shrinking your body language looking down they can tell you're Restless you don't really know what's going on you don't feel confident about your side of the case strong eye contact is so important and if you are feeling really nervous and you're struggling to maintain
that eye contact something I do is I blur my eyes how you move if you are moving fast or you're fidgeting like you're constantly moving around or you know you're just playing with things on you that is indicating again nervousness restlessness not a lot of confidence you want to move with confidence and Poise and slowly because don't forget if you're commanding attention in that moment you control time so if you're moving fast and you're talking fast which is another point it's very clear that you don't know how to control time also what is more seductive
say I want to fix my sleeve okay and I go done or mhm taking up space so we talked about this a little bit earlier remember if you're unconfident you're shrinking yourself you don't want to take up space you're probably like closed off body language together like this looking down at your phone when you take up face like I am right now I'm taking up the whole frame I'm moving my hands another Point open Palm gesture signal confidence but yeah taking up space moving around if you're in a meeting you want to use your arms
your body language if you want to command the room you should also stand up walk around and make eye contact with everyone in the room the best public speakers are always the one who look around the room and maybe they'll gaze at someone for a couple of seconds and then they look around and they they really make sure to scan the entire ire room when we just hyperfocus on like one person in that room we're not commanding the audience we're not giving our attention to the rest of the audience and it's also yes signaling on
confidence talk downward if you're American or you're a valley girl even me I can fall into this but we need to talk downwards so Americans tend to have this upward intonation at the end where they it's like the Kardashians they're asking a question and they talk upwards instead of downwards so downwards is very authoritative and like you're making a statement and it shows confidence in the way you speak pausing in your speech it shows how you command a room as well for example I just paused what is she going to say next having a tilted
head it actually is subconsciously implying to the other person that you are very engaged in the conversation and it makes someone feel special they feel special around you they naturally like you more I find when I'm really interested in the conversation or I find myself attracted to someone my head will be so tilted I hate it there are times when I'm on a date and I catch myself like a yeah mhm and I have to literally be like let's not do that again and then throughout the night okay having a genuine smile guys is my
smile fake or real right now I guess we'll never know a real smile we actually consciously know what it is and it's where our eye creases they crinkle which is why when people get BOTOX it's actually not very comforting to the other person when you're speaking to someone with botox cuz you can't even tell if they're giving you a genuine smile or not did you know facial expressions are seen as more attractive so if you're getting that premature Botox when you don't need it and you're like completely Frozen it can make you look older and
more unattractive lower the tone of your voice if you want to be taken more seriously this is something you can do usually when I'm filming my YouTube videos I talk like this I'm moving around but when I do my meetings I'm going to be taken more seriously then if I'm talking like this in the meeting hey what up everyone unfortunately if you do have that higher pitch voice it is harder for someone to take you seriously I mean look at Paris Hilton when she changes her voice from from her normal voice to a baby voice
you you immediately notice the difference in the room and how you are responding to her when someone's talking you're in conversation nodding signals that you are paying attention and you are engaged in the conversation what does that mean you make them feel better they like you more slow your breathing this is a big one for my anxious people including me I tend to dissociate a lot get anxiety and I breathe fast and I cannot help it cuz I will feel so stressed out so something to be mindful of is your breathing and meditation can really
help with that and just connecting to your body more cuz you will notice in situations where you do start to breathe more fast it's probably when you're nervous lean in you're talking to someone can lean in a little bit you probably know what it signals by now what does it mean if we are doing body language which signals to the other person we're engaged they subconsciously like you more you look more confident blah blah blah the list goes on okay and finally you probably heard of this but mirroring movement mirroring someone's movement again goes back
to the earlier points however this is kind of funny I told you earlier I'm very very aware of people's body movements as well as my own especially if I'm not present in the moment so usually it happens on all my dates like I'm not quite present I'm not enjoying myself so I'm really watching their body language and I'm watching my own and I remember I went on a date with this guy who I could tell he really liked me and I was a bit like like I don't know so my body language I was leaning
back he would be like this to me and I'd go mhm and I would take a step back or to the side he would take a step I would fold my arms he would fold his arms I would be scratching my head he would scratch his head and I don't think he was actually doing this consciously I think he was completely unconscious but I noticed it and I noticed if people also do it on purpose so so if you really get to know these things you can clock it in yourself and with others I also
know there are times where I'm like oh I feel really bad right now I kind of I want to slouch and I'm like no we can't signal this let's pull our shoulders back right now someone let's be confident so it is important to know these things okay like I said you go into a job interview and you feel like that day like maybe something happened your cat died you don't want to be at that job interview you feel really weak you feel unprepared you can slow down your tone talk downwards lower your voice maintain eye
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