she's out of your league this is an idea that has been drilled into my head since I was 14 years old I accepted that lie blindly until I was 25 I assumed there was a league that all Attractive people belonged to and I wasn't part of it because I was not tall enough not muscular enough not rich enough not funny enough not successful enough not Alpha enough basically not good enough I carried that not good enough burden around and it made me feel insecure around attractive girls it pushed me to overcompensate trying to make up
for not feeling good enough I'd buy girls drinks try to impress them confess my feelings all these things that didn't work and each time they didn't work it only reinforce my belief that I wasn't good enough have you ever experienced anything like that I bet you have your own version of this story it's a pretty common thing for people to go through but here's the good news it's not your fault and it's not even true I'm going to share with you a technique you can use with a woman who is very beautiful and I'll show
you how to play with her mind but before that I want to talk to you like a brother and I want to discuss this issue about the phrase she's out of your league there is no League there's no such thing as good enough those are madeup arbitrary Concepts I know it might feel like they're true because most people seem to agree with them but just because the majority agrees doesn't make them right the majority of people go through life on autopilot they're not critically thinking about their beliefs like you are right now they're just following
the crowd and if you look at the major areas of life happiness health money relationships the majority is often wrong about all of them most people complain constantly have no clear goals are unhealthy broke and their relationships are dysfunctional they're experts at finding things to be miserable about so why would you want to think like the majority you don't right you want to stay as far away from the majority's mindset as possible most people just follow the herd and that's fine if you're okay with getting the same results as them but if you want to
live life on your own terms and do it in a way that makes you happy you need to stop doing what the majority does but that doesn't stop the majority from being loud and in your face does it this idea that she's out of your league gets reinforced everywhere on Tinder in por on billboards in Super Bowl ads in locker rooms and even in YouTube comments and sometimes you even reinforce this lie to yourself for example when you rank women on a scale from 1 to 10 you're buying into the idea of a league think
about it what are you really saying when you call a woman a 10 you're judging her solely on her appearance you're ignoring her personality deciding that you definitely want her before even knowing if she's a good person you're also saying that compared to other women she's better than they are and in a way you're implying that she's better than you how does calling a woman a affect your confidence does it change how you act around her if you talk to a woman you perceive as a 10 are you really connecting with her as a person
or does it feel like she's somehow above you here's something I wish someone had told me years ago if you put a girl on a pedestal you'll always see yourself as beneath her and she'll have no choice but to look down on you make sense I'm not saying a woman's looks don't matter yes some women are more physically beautiful than others that's obvious you're never going to see a stunningly attractive woman and not feel something that's natural that's just being a man my point is this appreciate a beautiful woman but don't bow down to her
don't lower yourself beneath her look her in the eyes and meet her energy don't put her or anyone else above yourself whatever you believe about yourself will eventually come true if you see yourself as beneath the women you're attracted to then that's where you'll stay but you could choose to look at yourself in a different way right have you ever realized that you have the power to choose how you see yourself you don't have to stick to your default settings you're in control here and if you knew there were other ways to look at yourself
and at women why would you choose the way that makes you feel bad wouldn't you rather choose the perspective that makes you feel confident excited and open to new possibilities of course you would and now I will share with you a technique that will not only help you take control of the mind of the girl you're talking to but it will also help you get rid of the idea that she's out of your league let's say you've just met a girl and after talking for about 3 minutes things are going pretty well she's smiling being
friendly asking questions and generally enjoying your company at this point most guys think okay this is going well I should keep doing exactly what I'm doing then a few minutes later she gets bored and leaves or she gives you her number but never replies when you text her sometimes she might talk to you for hours making you think she's really interested only to tell you later let's just be friends the takeaway is the solution to all of that it's a simple concept you give her your approval then take it away at Key moments this is
most effective in the early stages of conversation right after you meet her and are getting to know her but before you've really connected or gotten comfortable this is the initial attraction phase and many guys mess it up by being too too nice too agreeable and ultimately too boring if you have watched the entire how to attract women series you will already know that women seek the attention and approval of a man they perceive as valuable but here's the catch if you give your attention and approval too easily she won't value it especially if she's very
attractive as she's used to getting attention from men all the time when she gets something for free constantly it becomes easy for her to take it for granted on the flip side if you make her work for your attention and approval she'll value it and she'll value you in conversation you can do this by selectively giving and withdrawing your attention and approval when you pull away at the right moments she'll start chasing after you the more she chases you the more you tap into the law of effort justification this law states that the more effort
we invest in something the more we want it make sense when you take away something she wants she'll chase after it and by chasing she'll want it even more guys who don't have a lot of options tend to be too timid to try this they stick to being nice and accommodating afraid to pull away because they don't want to ruin the moment or lose her attention if they do attempt the takeway they often don't fully commit so the girl doesn't take it seriously this hesitation comes from thoughts like what if I make her mad what
if I pull away and lose her attention it's important to understand that these thoughts are rooted in scarcity the fear of losing the one girl whose attention you have because you don't believe you can get another but scarcity is an illusion in reality there's no shortage of women to spend your time with there's an abundance out there far more than you could ever have time for so fearing the loss of one girl is as irrational as a millionaire being worried about losing a single dollar guys with plenty of options don't stress about losing one girl
they don't take it personally they also understand that women enjoy being teased and love chasing after a guy who pulls away from time to time it's the act of chasing that turns her on and makes her want you more so that's the idea you pull away and she chases after you this is a simple playful approach here are some examples if she says something you disagree with uh-oh you're losing me when she tells you her age you're way too young old for me if she flirts with you oh you don't want to flirt with me
I'd be so bad for you if she calls you a jerk you know there are some really nice guys over there why don't you go talk to them if she acts bratty that's it I'm breaking up with you by the way if you're still watching and you haven't like the video yet come on bro you're sending me some mixed messages about our relationship here and here are some more playful lines you're trouble aren't you get out of here trouble I can't be seen talking to you that's it I'm divorcing you you can keep the beach
house but I'm taking the dog I think I'm too high maintenance for you I said I wouldn't date bad girls anymore get out of here I'm going to have to ask you to leave don't say anything you're cute you'll mess it all up you must have driven your parents crazy isn't it a school night do your parents know where you are your parents would never approve of this you're taking this way too seriously you're messing it all up you're back to square one with me Missy that's it you lost me I'm not talking to you
for 2 minutes let's play a game let's see how long you can hold your breath where's your off button you're dead to me I'm high maintenance you need to whine and dine me I'm emotionally unavailable I can already tell we'd never get along I can't talk to you we're just going to fight all the time and I'll win the key is to be playful and introduce the takeaway early in the conversation when things are going well you'll come across as a lovable Rogue and it will change the whole dynamic but before we finish the video
I want to let you know that I've created an online course that contains a step-by-step formula that will make women attracted to you regardless of what you think you're lacking in it you'll find exactly what women are attracted to in a man on a deep psychological level Beyond superficial things like height looks or money you will find a link in the video description anyway if you have any problems let me know in the comments this was the dark needle and take care of [Music] yourself but he's not coming back again so he's gone then you
won't see him again it was convenient but you won't be staying friends and you know that
