I'm just going to say it sharing every single little detail of your lives to people you consider your friends is not smart and as someone who has a very very close relationship with her best friends and tells people Secrets there are some things that you should just simply not tell anyone and I know the trend right now is to be like a mysterious girl but one thing about me I'm going to Yap okay I am a talker okay I love talking to people about my problems about things that are bothering me I am in no
way a mysterious girl but that doesn't mean I'm not a private person that doesn't mean I don't have things that I keep to myself for a reason here are seven things that you should just not tell anyone if you like content like this be sure to like this video subscribe if you're new here this is where us sure ways in which I'm getting my together so that you can get your together but number one you shouldn't tell people ways you're getting your together and I know that's very silly because my entire channel is about being
authentic with people but I only share things that I've actually realized I don't share with people realizations I'm still going through especially when I first meet people because when other people can sense you're unconfident about yourself or you're working on certain things it might not be intentional but they might use it to your disadvantage use Nuance with this what I mean by don't tell people ways in which you're getting it together are very personal ways you're getting your together I'm not just talking about oh girl I need to go to the gym or oh my
God I really need to get back on my I've been a little disorg organized recently I'm talking about oh I'm separating from my relationship right now and I'm in shambles unless you can really trust that person don't open up to people you don't know about really really personal things you're going through unless you know you can trust someone it's really none of their business and you're protecting yourself by making sure you're keeping your private life private now that one's obviously very nuanced but moving on to number two you should never tell people your financial situation
it's not necessary for someone to know what's in your bank account don't just be going on your bank app and just letting people look at your screen you know what I mean the only person who should be knowing the exact number in your account is your bank teller especially if you're starting to make a good amount of money let people assume you're broke like what's the worst thing that can happen if you let people assume that you're not making as much as you do it actually gives you a leverage you don't need to be the
type of person who is super flashy and shows off oh look at what I'm doing look at what I'm getting CU at the end of the day that's your accomplishments that's what you're choosing to do with your money and there are people around you who will see that you might have a certain financial situation and you know try to get closer to you or try to sabotage you and I don't mean to fear Monger but it's just not something people need to know again like you don't need to be like oh my God is this
person trying to sabotage me just keep that in mind especially if you're starting to make more money than you usually do not everyone has your best interest in mind and that's just life number three your past nobody needs to know nobody really needs to know it's none of their business especially if you're starting to date someone try to share only what's necessary when it comes to your past even when it comes to people you trust because at the end of the day unless a situation is still impacting you to this day you don't need to
be sharing with people these deep dark secrets from your past or things that have happened to you what needs to be established is trust if you don't have trust with a person you're sharing these things to you they don't really need to know anything about your past because it's irrelevant and when I say never share these things to people what I mean by people is just the regular average person you meet on a day-to-day basis your co-workers your acquaintances and yes even some of your friends because again not every single friend needs to know the
past versions of you especially if you're starting to be new friends you have your old friends who remember you from that era of your life it's not necessary to share your past with the new people in your life because it shows you might not necessarily be over it yet and just as you also shouldn't share your past you shouldn't share your future endeavors the things you are about to do if you have a business plan that you're starting to do you don't want to just start telling everyone about your business plan because you don't even
have the blueprint yet you don't know what's going to happen I feel like sometimes you need to keep certain things private until they are meant to be made public until you can't even have it be private anymore like it's almost forced from private to public and in the best way too because so many people are going to be like wow you've hidden this from me for so long like you're so dedicated to what you do you've put so much work into what you've been doing next you shouldn't tell people your good deeds that you do
I feel like there's a level of inauthenticity that comes when you tell people every single time you do something that oh I did this good thing like all right cool when you do good deeds just out of the kindness of your heart it shows your character a lot more than br in about every single time that you do something for someone next you shouldn't tell people your failures we have a tendency in our own mind to maximize our failures and minimize our efforts and like the ways in which we actually didn't fail the ways in
which we actually succeeded and so because we maximize our own failures sometimes we overshare our failures to people because we are focused on those failures we still aren't over them but this just doesn't make you seem like a confident person doesn't make you seem like someone who's resilient and willing to try over and over and over again if you're seen as someone who succeeds 99.9% of the time you wouldn't be the type of person who keeps talking about your failures because that's that. 1% of the time 0.1% of the time at that it is perfectly
okay that you failed and unless you're sharing your failures to then maximize your successes it's not really worth it next don't tell people about how others have done you wrong wrong and I know this one's probably the hardest right obviously these situations suck and sometimes you do need to vent to someone again vent to someone you trust but regular people in your day-to-day life they don't need to know how someone screwed you over you don't need to drag your ex on social media or drag someone through the mud on social media just to make yourself
feel better about a situation that happened and this is something I had to realize because I've had a lot of people do some really messed up things to me and I really wanted to just talk about it you know I wanted to come on the internet and disclose all of these things that have happened to me but I didn't because I realized that the best revenge I could seek out is literally never mentioning them again and just succeeding on my own succeeding without them acting as if they just don't exist anymore they don't exist in
my reality that and when you meet someone new and you talk about how someone else has wronged you it gives them Leverage and it sucks but it does it gives them leverage because now they know about your past they know about what has really hurt you and the last thing you shouldn't tell people is don't tell people what you're looking for especially in dating do not tell people I'm looking for this this this and this don't list off qualities that you want in someone when you're dating them or even in a friend sense because people
will put on a mask in order to get into your life especially if you're successful there are people who will come into your life and act like the exact thing that you are wanting instead tell people I know when I see it you know like I will know what I want when I see it and then their true character will come out because they're not going to paint a picture of exactly what you want and try to become this image in your head that you're wanting they're not going to become your prince charming or your
princess and then all of the sudden later down the line that's not even who they are with that being said you guys I hope you guys found this video helpful this is just a short little video because I'm trying to post twice a week this month so it's not a podcast episode but I remember I made a video talking about why you should keep things secret or you know a private life or something about that I don't even know and a lot of you were asking me what type of things you should keep private in
your life and this is my answer I feel like it's best to make sure you trust people and it's also best to sort these things out privately with yourself before you are vulnerable with other people about them that or Mak Mak sure you have a therapist or you know you journal or have some type of Outlet to share with people sometimes I do voice memos and I know that sounds a little crazy but when I feel like talking about a situation instead of telling someone else because in my opinion sometimes when I tell other people
I'll still leave out details and now this person just knows half of the story instead of doing that I'll just do a full voice memo on the situation and be real Raw and Uncut with myself this authenticity I formed with myself then bleeds into other areas of my life because I'm self-sufficient enough to know I don't have to gratify myself through telling other people about situations or oversharing about something in order to feel better about myself or better about whatever happened thank you guys for tuning in be sure to like this video subscribe check out
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