what's going on everyone welcome or welcome back to the Improvement for imbeciles podcast I'm your podcast host Natalie etched and in today's podcast we are going to be talking about 13 psychological tricks to make people respect you and if you happen to be new here we do things a little bit different here on my channel this is where I share ways in which I am getting my together so that you can get your together meaning these are all things I'm realizing as I'm making this video or not exactly as I'm making this video but as
of recently I've really been focusing on my own self-respect and wanting to gain other people's respect for a lot of my life I've thought you know respect has to be earned I'm going to tell you guys right now that is all backwards that is all brainwashing I used to go out of my way to do all of these things for people who I wanted to respect me because I didn't respect myself I'm going to clarify something really really fast so yes you do have to give respect in order to get respect but going out of
your way to make some respect you is a waste of your time recognize when someone is disrespecting you and place them accordingly just realize that I try to avoid being redundant in this video obviously give people basic respect use your manners say please and thank you those are obvious ways to make people respect you on a basic level however don't go out of your way to make someone who's disrespecting you respect you remove your energy and focus to people who actually do give you respect okay back to the video gain gaining other people's respect has
everything to do with the level of self-respect you have inside and how you react to other people who happen to disrespect you even if they're not consciously disrespecting you you still need to choose to act in a certain way so that you can prove to yourself and others that you are not to be played with and if you're coming back to my channel I know the type of person you are I know you're not the type of person to misuse your respect or misuse power you are the type of person to sit back and just
let people do whatever to you and I'm going to tell you right now bestie after this video you are going to find a new level of respect for yourself and you are going to start standing up for what you believe in because I'm tired of it okay I see how people have been treating you I see how you've been going out of your way breaking your back so that people acknowledge the type of person you are and your big huge heart and I know you just want to give give give but bestie let me tell
you not everyone is to be given to so before we get into all of those psychological tricks I wanted to discuss what respect is because a lot of people get it confused respect is a feeling or a deep admiration for someone's capabilities respect also has an aspect of it that is a regard for someone's feelings okay to have people regard your feelings you must first have to regard your own feelings respect is less about who you are and more about how you make people feel it has nothing to do with how old you are it
has nothing to do with how you look in society it has nothing to do with with where you come from or where you're going respect is purely based on how you reflect back other people themselves if other people can see themselves in you they will naturally have a greater respect for you this is why people who go out of their way to demand respect often lose respect from people think about that one overly bearing boss telling you like I need your respect like do you side eye them and go um like you're not being respectful
to me why would I be respectful to you that is what I mean it is a lot less about who you actually are and more about your demeanor and how you choose to respect yourself which brings me into the first psychological trick when you walk into the room let people know who you are if you do not introduce yourself the second that you step into a room you're not someone that's worth knowing sit on that like truly sit on that I understand that you might be a shy person you might be more of an introvert
but just by not introd ucing yourself you are just going to stand there and not be heard and not be someone that is acknowledged obviously read the room but often times if you introduce yourself to people and take the time to let people know who you are you are more rememberable to them and you are also more respectable to them because it shows I'm not someone who will just sit back and let myself not be known which brings me into number two try to remember people's names and this is something that I am learning a
lot more more as I go out and I go to these various events I'm going to and introduce myself to people to network what helps me remember people's names is also getting their social media handle we live in a world where it's very easy to not remember people's names we all have our own agenda for the day right we all have things that we're doing for ourselves but simply remembering someone's name especially if they's someone that's important helps you because if you meet them again and you remember their name and they don't happen to remember
your name they will remember your name the second time a trick that helps me remember people's names is when they introduce themselves to me I say their name I say nice to meet you blank their name you know what I mean like I say their name as they're introducing them to me and then throughout the interaction I'll use their name when you use someone's name you are acknowledging them directly which means that they are more likely to remember you number three this one's very obvious fix your posture if you walk into the room with your
shoulders back and you're standing straight you're walking with confidence you have a purpose people are more likely to see you and acknowledge you rather than when your posture is down and you're looking to the ground it just looks a lot better and it also makes you feel a lot better like before you walk into any room even if you have a lot of nerves walk into the room like you are meant to be in that room even say to yourself if you're that nervous say I am meant to be in this room number four always
stay busy don't be too easily available when you say yes to everything your time becomes less Val valuable because people are seeing you all the time and often times we do this because we fear that we're going to be forgotten about if we leave but in reality it's the opposite when people don't see us especially people who were hoping to see us at an event when they see that we haven't showed up they'll ask you know like what are they doing and the next time you're there they will make use of your time just never
be the person that's just like laying around doing nothing even if you are laying around doing nothing make it up like say that you're doing something also when you're too easily available it also shows that you're like desperate and that's not the idea you want to give if you want people to respect you you cannot be desperate number five if someone disrespects your time this is so important okay if you feel like your time is being disrespected don't be so willing to reschedule or just be easily available after that and what I mean is let's
say someone cancels on you very very last minute check for a couple of things number one are they apologetic of the fact that they had to cancel did they provide you a reason because if they provided you a reason that shows that most likely they are being genuine you know give people the benefit of the doubt however remind them of these things did you have to text them first to remind them of certain plans is this a pattern do they always flake on you are they a business connection or are they a friend Connection because
it's different if someone who's actually beneficial to you maybe keep it in mind for next time but have them be the one that reaches out to reschedule or make other plans with you be like we'll see you know we'll see if I have time this month I'm really booked and busy this month but you know I might be able to make time for you don't make things a big deal but also recognize what place this person is in your life and don't be afraid to kind of distance yourself if someone has constantly proven to you
that they will always flake on you accept people how they are place them where they belong number six replace sorry with thank you especially if it's something that is a small mistake of yours I think a lot of us misuse the term sorry and I used to be one of these people I would always be like oh my God I'm so sorry for things that I didn't even know I was supposed to do maybe it was just a mistake right think of the term sorry for actually taking accountability for something like you did something wrong
don't always say it for the most minor inconveniences like if you drop something don't be like oh my God sorry or if someone says hey you should do this instead of this thank you I'll keep that in mind for next time it's a lot more classy than saying I'm sorry for things that were just genuine mistakes if you say sorry all the time too it devalues when you actually mean I'm sorry and this is something I really really had to learn because I would always be the type of person saying oh my God I'm so
sorry I'm so sorry I'm so sorry and I realized like I wasn't actually sorry it was like a trained response from other people in my life who trained me to always take accountability for even something that I didn't do I I highly suggest that you do some Shadow work behind that too because a lot of the times I recognize the reason I would always say sorry is because I literally felt guilty for just like taking up space number seven take accountability for when you actually do something wrong this will show character okay when you know
you are in the wrong and you say sorry number one people will know that you have the ability to self-reflect and the ability to know that you are not perfect right like we are all human we are not perfect however we have to acknowledge that fact and be able to own up to all of our tacky nobody likes having people in their life that have no self-awareness of when they messed up when you are arrogant and you deflect all the time and you never ever take accountability for your tacky people will notice that and in
fact people will distance themselves from you when you can acknowledge how your actions impacted people and really truly take accountability for that and feel remorse for what you did even if people are angry at you they'll respect the fact that you owned up to what you did they'll respect the fact that you had the courage to be like yeah that was shitty and I'm sorry number eight stand in your authenticity authenticity is one of the purest energies that you can work around like if you know you're being authentic to yourself and what you believe in
everything falls into place everything aligns with you authenticity also means acknowledging the parts of you that aren't really that healed yet yet acknowledging the parts of you that you don't really like looking at arrogance is loud confidence is quiet when you know yourself when you know you have things to work on when you can see yourself for everything you are the mistakes the good qualities the bad qualities everything when you can see yourself for the whole of who you are and stand in it that energy is the most powerful thing ever and that in of
itself will make people respect you more number nine avoid emotional reactions and I I know this one's going to be hard for some of you to hear but your emotions don't always play a part in what you should do and how you should act in a situation and this is coming from someone who used to let her emotions control her you know I'd feel like I miss my ex for one day and then I text my ex I'd feel abandoned by my friends and then I text them this long paragraph like that's how I used
to act however once I grew up and I acknowledge like where these emotions were coming from and how they were actually working to my detriment I realized that something needed to change and that change started Within Myself there is a time and place for feelings okay I'm not saying ignore your feelings I'm not saying suppress them I'm saying avoid the emotional reactions and handle your emotions in private so you can react in the best way possible if you are feeling a very very strong emotion do not act on that emotion nobody is perfect with this
but if you can find an outlet for yourself whether that is journaling whether that is going to the gym whether that is painting painting whether that is doing something creative do something to distract yourself from the emotion temporarily until you can find a resolution that makes sense instead of dwelling on the problem start thinking how can I solve this problem how can this situation work to my benefit it's so often that we encounter a situation in our lives and the first thing we want to do like we we react on our impulses and we make
the situation worse for ourselves and this is where I'm going to start talking about starting to regard yourself as a person that needs to be respected think of a person that you respect in life whether that is think about like Albert Einstein or something like someone who's really really respected in society whoever that is for you just think of someone that you highly highly respect and think of them in the situation that you are in how would this person react to this situation smart people utilize negative situations to their benefit they see a negative situation
and they go okay what is the best possible outcome for this and how would I have to react in order to get that best possible outcome before you do something impulsive ask yourself what your grandma would think if you did that like number 10 start regarding yourself as a highly respectable person this is similar to the last one but it more so goes into the affirmations of it all start affirming to yourself I am respectable I am someone that people look up to I am someone that deserves respect like genuinely feel like you deserve respect
and don't deny yourself that respect from yourself learn how to respect yourself like you expect other people to respect you for example if you were in a relationship with yourself like you were a completely different person and you were giving this person respect like how would you act to yourself would you talk to yourself the way you've been talking to yourself would you tell yourself bad advice to go follow it would you treat your body how you've been treating it as soon as I started thinking about how I would treat myself if I was a
like completely different person like seeing like the child version of myself would I treat myself like how my inner monologue treats me most of you the answer is absolutely not replace negative thought patterns with yourself with positive thought patterns as soon as you recognize that you are going into a negative thought pattern choose to flip it around and I know it's difficult to choose to flip it around but you need to become consciously aware of where your mental state is that is the only way you reframe your mind into regarding yourself as a person that
should be respected is you identify when you are not respecting yourself through your mental state and you choose to act differently if I respected myself how would I react would I react emotionally would I throw this friendship out of the window or would I just accept this person for how they are and place them where they belong number 11 is to look at people's actions rather than the role they play in your life everyone knows actions speak louder than words if someone is disrespecting you you need to to react in a way that would give
yourself power back for example reacting emotionally and demanding respect often turns off people from wanting to give you respect regardless instead withdraw your energy think of yourself as an eagle right you are flying through these trees and all of a sudden you reach these two trees that are super super close together do you just run straight through those trees and damage your wings or do you rise above certain obstacles do you choose to rise above certain circumstances that don't benefit you I know it's easier said than done and I think there's a lot of nuance
there if someone is super close to you and they are disrespecting your boundaries I think it's important to have a conversation with that person but if it becomes a pattern you need to start distancing yourself from this person when we see people disrespect us and hurt us it's so normal to want them to feel exactly how we're feeling however you need to realize at some point that it is a waste of your energy some people are not worth your energy and you must rise above the people who are just not worth it anymore and just
don't burn Bridges just learn how to distance yourself from them instead of going over that bridge every day choose to go a different way on your commute to work choose a different bridge to cross look at how people treat you and your reactions to how people treat you and it'll reveal a lot about how you feel about yourself use Nuance okay number 12 is to stop taking disrespect so personally especially if it's someone in your life who is trying to go out of their way to disrespect you often times it's projection often times they are
trying to make you feel less than them because they don't feel like more it is their only way in their brain to make you seem less than them a lot of disrespect from people is usually just projection yeah there's that 5% where it's like actually someone trying to hurt you and everything but even then often times it's just people projecting their own hurt onto other people hurt people hurt people and as soon as you realize this when other people are disrespecting you let's say they say a joke that wasn't really that nice first of all
recognize that those people most likely aren't your friends recognize that some jokes people say are not just jokes and number two recognize that some people love to make fun of other people to make themselves feel better know how to defend yourself and call out people's shitty behavior however also know when to laugh it off and be unbothered by the situ situation and number 13 is to surround yourself with people that you respect a lot of you guys stay around people who you don't respect because it gives you a false sense of superiority it's like well
I don't really like myself but at least I'm not like this person that's my friend misery loves company if you are a miserable person you will surround yourself with miserable people who you don't even respect and let me just tell you honey it shows you don't like yourself which means other people around you don't like themselves and it's a constant power struggle because you are constantly feeling threatened by other people who start to be a little bit more successful than you you will project on a people who are doing things with themselves and judge other
people because you are not where you want to be that is a loser's mindset you need to start surrounding yourself with people who intimidate you honestly surround yourself with people who when you meet them you feel like you need to get your together instead of getting jealous get inspired because when you surround yourself with people that you genuinely respect you start taking on their attitude towards life you stop seeing Life as a competition and you start seeing life as something where you can learn from everyone everyone has their own journey and there's so many people
in the world that want to help you get to where you want to be when you're surrounded by a lot of unhappy people you will often adopt this unhappy depressed mindset because you fear actually getting to the point and actually taking personal responsibility for your life you'll hate people who are doing better than you because it's easier than acknowledging why you are not doing better for yourself and that's a hard pill to swallow but it's a necessary pill to swallow get yourself out of nasty environments with negative people if you want to be respected by
other people you need to step into rooms where you respect others and you go out of your way to become a person worth respecting with that being said you guys thank you guys so much for tuning in to the Improvement for imbeciles podcast be sure to check out all of my social medias Instagram @ myif as Tik Tok and Snapchat at Natalie eted I'm also posting a lot more on Snapchat because I'm showing you guys my process of getting ready for a pageant I'm in this is my first ever pageant and I'm really really excited
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