Hello, welcome to another episode. On today's video I want to talk about the power of selfishness. For you to reach a level of understanding about this matter until you get to a point, on which you live your life as if it were yours.
And that sentence made no sense for you, because most people live their lives as if life weren't 100% theirs. I said that thousands of times. .
. there's this thing pulsing inside of you. And that thing is life itself, life itself.
And this life must be flowing inside you. Just like all energy, just like flowing water on a river. And this flowing live, it's you living your own life.
But not just seizing the moment, it's not all about that. It's like you living according to your own pace, not according to other people's pace. It's about you living according to what you believe, not to what others have made you believe.
It's about you doing what you decided to do. Within personal improvement there are many people speaking of things like the power of action, the power of decision, living your own purpose, those things that are over spoken already. They don't know that it only makes sense when you understand the power of selfishness.
It is only possible to have a purpose when you are selfish, it is only possible to have power of decision when you are selfish, it is only possible to have power of action, which is the most important, the creative potential, when you are selfish. Actually, everyone's got that potential, but we don't use it, we don't know how to use it, 'cause we are stuck. But before speaking of 'unstucking', I want to tell you that selfishness isn't wrong.
Don't percieve selfishness like if it was wrongful. . .
something harmful, consumptive. We have this idea that we have to live for others, that we must do things for others, that we must be altruistic, that we must always care about the others, to live on other's pace, to please the others. It is nice sometimes to please the others, to care about the others, it is necessary that we do so too.
It's not right to care about others exclusively. It is always primordial to care firstly about yourself. To be able to make that decision, so you can be the only one responsible for your own life, be the only one responsible for the decisions you make, having this power of decision, taking these decisions taking actions over the decisions you made, and there goes on.
That only works when you turn the power of selfishness on. And the power of selfishness does not mean to care less about other people, or never doing anything for others. I think we can only do something for others when we have conditions.
When we are strong, when we already built something we wanted for our lives. For the contrary we are just one more victim of the system. To be able to help others, to care about others, doing something for the others, to add up for other's lives, firstly I have to care a lot about myself.
I have to grow in order to obtain the power, the capacity, the acknowledgement and mainly, in order to add up some value, I must acquire value in myself. I must become a valuable person. All I said here so far, we can only achieve that by having the core in ourselves, by making everything that matters the most for you.
. . to be yourself.
Your own progress, your own potential, everything that is linked to your identity. This have to be much valuable in your life. Over time we end up learning, mistakenly, that our self identity has no value, especially when people start to talk too much about their ego.
. . and I am one of those people.
However, the person who's on the other side ends up misunderstanding and begin to think that he has to put his own self aside, that he has to forget his own self, and starts minding only the other one. This ego death thing is very delicate, it must be understood. Ego is a thing but it is not you.
Many people understand that killing the ego is killing yourself, but that is not it. Killing the ego is trully living, it is borning again, having a new life, a life on which every energy and every thought, everything you do is self-oriented. Not in a narcisist point of view.
Because you're gonna be. . .
the more selfish, the more value you add on yourself, the more altruistic you're gonna be. It comes to a point when you become a person with so much value, so much value, that this value exhales to the world. Then people will see you, and you're gonna see yourself and you're gonna feel yourself just as an altruist.
All around you is value, you create value. It's that half-full half-empty glass thing. If you are an empty glass person, you have nothing to give to others.
It's obvious you're a mere egoist. An ego based life person, individualist, narcisist, synonyms, those are just words. You got the message.
But when you have the glass totally full, then you are someone, who, the more you aggregate for yourself, the more you aggregate to the world. Then more the people will be transformed when they are close to you. And more they will desire your company, because you aggregate value to their lives.
But for that you must be selfish. . .
in the good way. Unblocking yourself of other's opinions. Of all standards that were predefined by other people, whether those people are your masters, your teachers, or even your parents.
Unblocking yourself from what people expect you to be, this is the most important: The unblocking from what they expect you to be. From the image on which they projected you in the world, that is the first thing that must be broken. Then people want to live based on that image, that projection from their parents, or from their masters, from their girlfriend, or friends.
. . and they start building theirselves on that.
But this is wrong. It's consumptive. Because you're not being yourself, you're not moving.
Life is not flowing on the direction it should flow. In short, be selfish. .
. in the good way. See you in the next video.
