Hi this is Dion from Eflowtion Support Services here with an EFT Tapping that's been a request from a subscriber on Healing the Mother Wound now EFT Tapping is great for reducing stress around some of the emotional neglect that we may have felt around this but always please uh follow up with a qualified psychologist or professional that can help you explore even more but let's reduce the stress around this so taking full responsibility for your own well being and repeating after me let's go with that flow and let's begin to tap Even though I'm healing a mother wound or I might be healing a wound from a parent be it a mother or a father or a caregiver where I did not receive the nurturing the love and the growth that I deserved and I deeply completely love, honor and accept myself. Even though I had a lot to live up to and there are a lot of expectations upon me and I might have fallen short to expectations that shouldn't have been upon me and healing that I now have to do and I deeply and completely love, honor and accept myself. Even though I may have lost my childhood being a parent for a parent who did not receive the love that they had and instead gave me something else something that I now have to heal from and I deeply completely love, honour and acccept myself.
I'm healing this mother wound I'm healing this father wound and I'm healing this caregiver wound for no matter who it was when I was younger I was very vulnerable and I was dependent upon my environment and sometimes my environment put a lof of dependency upon me especially growing up about how was to behave how was to look how was to act and what I was to be through my parents eyes and maybe they could live through me through the experiences that they never had and I was to be that person to always be the person to never get it wrong to always be perfect and when I was not perfect either my mother or my father or my caregivers really instilled some beliefs into me that I was worthless that I just can't get things right that I'm a screw up and I just can't be what I should be for them and when I think about that statement 'what I couldn't be for them' I have to ask myself why couldn't they be that for themselves? and it's kind of like the chicken and the egg story which came first? the chicken or the egg?
and it's kind of like that with trauma was it their trauma? or their parents trauma? or their parents before that trauma?
that was passed down throughout these generations and is now this wound that I have to heal but it wasn't mine to bear but it is mine to heal all this emotional neglect all these times when I was crying out for attention to attend to my needs this vulnerable child wanting to mirror some actions of what love is what happiness is what security is to feel safe and sound and not constantly on guard for when the environment changes and I have to care to that environment I have to let go of my own needs as a child to attend those of my parents or of my caregiver and did they give care? or did they take it from me? and leave me with some wounds that I now have to attend to all these times that I looked for love and I got uncertainly instead is it safe now?
will I be safe now? is this person safe now? and that puts me on guard in life and it keeps me hypervigilant when I get into situations perhaps relationships where I model my partner upon the environment that I knew and this environment might have been hostile it might have been very turbulent but sadly it was very familiar this family environment of which I had to attend to and not attend to myself all these wounds all this sense of self of who am I?
cause my identity was caught up in serving others attending to their emotional needs while mine got neglected and I am deserving of love and I am deserving of care and though I might be told many mean things about my appearance about my bodily image about how I identify with myself this doesn't help me grow and it makes me feel worthless and it's not very nurturing perhaps I wanna be nurtured but my environment as much as I want it to give me the love and attention that I deserve is caught up in their own trauma in their own stuff that they might be too scared to look at that they might not be even aware of but certainly perpetuate onto to create these wounds and as much as I want and as much as I deserve it may never change cause a chicken and an egg story it's kind of like a pattern pattern of behavior that keeps perpetuating upon the next generation upon myself but if I have awareness either in mind or in my body state that this doesn't feel right it doesn't feel right within me it doesn't feel right within my thoughts and it cuts against myself to hear these degrading words and to never measure up to someone who always cutting me down I might want it to start to bring awareness to that I can change and that I do want the betterment of myself and that its okay to have it's okay to have more it's okay to be more it's okay to receive love it's okay to be sometimes scared that I am deserving of this love cause so many times in my life this caring this loving was just a manipulative tactic in order to serve someone else's needs should I have been that person that was brought into this world so that the person could feel love or feel loved by that is not my duty to fulfill as I heal I learn to love myself and if my parents or my caregivers put down these hurtful words and start to address their own they too may love themselves rather than bringing something into the world to feel loved by because at some stage I'll fall short and I shouldn't be punished for that I am deserving of love I am deserving of attention I am not deserving of neglect who I am as a person is of value to myself and probably of value to other people as I heal these wounds and start to become complete and start to identify belief systems that were instilled to make me disbelieve within myself and I might feel a lot of anger but I've received a lot of anger and this anger might motivate me to change but I don't want it to motivate me to become that which hurt me I'm allowed to feel this anger I might have not been allowed to feel this anger in the past cause it was an inconvenience or a boundary defence for those that wanted to take from me I'm allowed my boundaries I'm allowed my own body space and I allow my own physical space to become who I am and what I wanna become and those I want around me they at least care for me without their own intentions and I'm intending some love towards myself I'm gonna feel many different emotions as I heal and I've felt many emotions in my past some of these have intensified reduced and then gone away and come back with less intensity and so too shall be my healing I might feel a lot of anger I shall allow to healthly pass where I don't get hurt and other people don't get hurt i'm allowed to notice this shame that was put upon me these guilt trips that I no longer venture on but I shall not identify with them though a part of my growing experience and I am outgrowing them and some thoughts might wanna cling too and some people's perceptions of me might cling as well and I have no power over that but I can empower myself and change my own perception of myself that I am beautiful that I am worthy of love that I have confidence and I am a person of worth and I truly deserve and I deserve of those things that I was denied in my emotional growth and as I learn to accept these things I may learn to accept myself and get a better sense of myself from that which happened to me and what I choose to be in my life In mind, body and spirit and taking a full breath in and out. . So yes um it's one step upon uh the journey EFT tapping is very good at reducing stress it's known as a stress reduction tool and a lot of these emotions will carry a lot of uh intensity a lot of stress around that and dialling down the volume on some of these will actually help other thoughts arise and also clear out some of the stuff that has been told to us but is not us as we heal these wounds and give ourselves the attention from the emotional neglect that has unfortunately being a part of our growing experience but we can grow stronger we can grow more confident and we can also grow who we choose to be rather than what we were told to be so I'm Dion from Eflowtion Support Services I offer EFT tapping one on one online so check out Eflowtion Support services.
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