hey we're going to have a heart-to- heart today all right this is a secret tool that we've used for decades every couple of years we go through these exact questions to have a reality check with ourselves and today we're going to do it together save them in the notes of your phone or write them down somewhere here are alu's 15 questions that reveal your true self welcome to alux the place where future billionaires come to get inspired number one do you feel like you belong where you are right now what place is drawing you in
so this question reveals how in tune your reality is with your aspirations some places feel like home and some places feel like you're swimming against the current and you can't wait to get away but if you haven't flourished if you feel sick if you feel deep down that something's not right it's the soil alexir it's the environment that you're in that's not conducive to growth it's easier to be healthy to thrive to be happy in some environments than in others you'll change over time that's why it's important to ask this question regularly and at some
point you'll realize you've outgrown your current environment or you found a better fit in some cases there's a certain place that's been calling you for years now you can feel it calling in your soul and probably your Tik Tok algorithm too as long as there's a gap between where you are and where you wish you would be that feeling of anxiety and unsettlement will never go away either make Heaven of what you already have or go find it somewhere else number two if you could go to school over again without the pressure where would you
study and what would you study take a moment to really think about this if it wasn't for parents or a society if you didn't take into account the job market or the pressure to be at the top of your class what would real education look like for you where would you learn would it be on an American campus or maybe somewhere in Europe this question is meant to reveal your deep interests and your passion for Mastery because this time you would have chosen a field where you would dedicate yourself fully the people around you would
fuel you because they would be your people it would mean a life of curiosity instead of a life of achievement the purest form of education is a journey into who we really are and that's probably where your greatest contribution could have been now the beauty of these first two questions is that if you take them seriously and change locations you might alter the future of your children and mitigate the distress you're feeling while also getting closer to your true self number three what would you really like to do for a living so that work wouldn't
feel like work we don't like like it when people phrase it as what would you do if Money Was No Object because money is the reward for hard work for impact for solving problems we don't have a problem with the money part because the best possible outcome of that equation is you getting paid a ridiculous amount of money for something you would be willing to do for free you want to be in the yellow quadrant of this satisfaction to money graph you want to know that you've had an impact that you've touched the souls of
people and that their lives are better because you were in them while never having to worry about money ever again whatever you do just stay away from the bottom left Zone because that is where your soul goes to die when you're in that yellow zone work no longer feels like a chore like something you do in order to afford what's left when work is over instead it feels more like you're dancing with Destiny number four what car do I think I am and what car do other people think I am now we know this is
a pretty odd question but listen closely because it'll make sense in a second in the business world we call it a personal brand you have a personal brand with everyone around you with your friends your parents your neighbors everyone has their own perception of who you are so back to cars you might think of yourself as a Ferrari but other people well they might see you as a Volvo through your actions you made people see you as a Volvo they'll treat you like a Volvo and you'll get pissed at why they're not treating you like
the Ferrari you think you are this is more of an identity question than anything else because until you get the internal perception to match the external perception life is going to feel like you're going uphill people are not going to treat you right opportunities will elude you and you'll constantly feel like your reality isn't matching up to your potential but lucky for you there's a specific framework you can use to make this change called circles to triangles now we learned this one from Claudia mous a highlevel personal branding expert that you have access to in
the alux app normally you'd be paying thousands of dollars to sit in a personal branding seminar with an expert like Claudia but if you go to alux.com slapp right now and you get yourself a subscription you've got access to the same coaching and Frameworks that she teaches people plus a bunch of other experts just like her for the price of a decent meal even better if you download the app and then scan the QR code on screen right now you'll get 25% off the yearly plan scan that QR code and get people to see the
version of you that you want them to see number five where would you like to retire and what would retirement look like for you now this question helps you to figure out location plus daily activity so since your life is made up of the little things things the biggest impact will come from the environment what you see when you look out the window the walk to your grocery store basically how much well-being is within a 40 m radius and how you spend your hours in a day most people think retirement is something for old age
because that's the only example they've ever seen but most people are wrong okay we have a different definition of retirement that might shift perspectives for you retirement is actually when you stop trading today for an imaginary tomorrow when we posed the question most of you thought of a beach somewhere or a house in the countryside but what would it take for you to stop sacrificing the present for a future point in time the mistake most people make is thinking in absolutes I will work now I will not work then but by the time then comes
you realize you traded all the good years away and you still have to work so why not begin retirement now or at least add more retirement to your present the more you think about it the more you realize that retirement is not the end of purpose but the refinement of it you should start refining your purpose now so that one day you'll wake up and realize you've been retired for a while now number six who would you like to be friends with or to put it more creatively what podcasts do you listen to Because those
are the friends that you seek we're surrounded by people left and right we've got a window into the private lives of other people through social media so take some time to make a list of people that you would want to hang out with and try to figure out why what makes them cool to you what makes them interesting because in this process you'll identify the traits you yourself hold in high regard these are foundational values you want to be friends with them because well they provide something that's missing within be it someone you could hang
out with share an adventure with or someone to have a deep conversation about life with if the friends you seek help you identify what's missing within yourself well this next one will help you find what's missing outside of you number seven who do you envy the most just take a moment to think about the people you envy Envy like real Envy is an indicator that someone's got something that you not only want but you believe you need if you had it your pain your suffering it would all go away Envy reveals hidden aspirations that you
have it'll uncover deep-seated insecurities and unmet needs and the crazy thing is that it's less about what others have and more about what you feel you lack Envy shows you the life you secretly wish to live it bundles together all of the unfulfilled potential and pain of watching others achieve what we believe we deserve erve the great aha moment that comes is when you understand you don't envy the person in their entirety for example you might envy Warren Buffett's money but you would not trade your life to be a wealthy 93-year-old you might envy the
fame of an A-list celebrity but not their addictions or lack of privacy the goal is to find the specific thing you Envy in other people and get yourself the version of that which works for you so who do you envy the most and why number eight what would you miss the most if you lost it what would devastate you if it went away for some people it's their car for others it's their morning coffee and for the rest it's their mom their dad their spouse or their child you never really took the time to organize
the big and important things in your life based on a hierarchy of importance when you ask this question deeply you'll reveal the greatest treasures you have in your life the shocking thing is just how big the Gap is between it and the next thing this is your wakeup call to prioritize it knowing what your biggest treasure in life is allows you to not treat everything else with the same kind of importance or urgency number nine how am I lying to myself you know we tell lies because well we don't like what the truth will do
to us lying to oneself is not merely a distortion of facts it's a deliberate weaving of intricate Tales designed to create a cocoon of comfort and temporary Solace from a reality that we just don't want to acknowledge in this regard the irony of lying to oneself is that it's both a betrayal and an act of self-preservation at the same time our ego is fragile so we make up our own truths to protect it but every lie we tell incurs a debt to the real truth a debt that at one point we're going to have to
pay back even if the LIE is to ourselves it's not long until we realize the lies we've been telling ourselves have obstructed reality and have kept us from making the small changes that wouldn't require these lies in the first place take this moment to think about the stories you tell other people about yourself about the fantasy that you've created in your mind that has yet to materialize you talk about what you'll do and others are impressed by it you feel that praise without putting in any of the effort then years go by and you realize
you've ridden the high of what you said you were going to do without ever doing it people start to see you for what you are someone who just talks and you start feeling like a fraud because of it so confront yourself headon look at yourself in the mirror and have whatever conversation you're avoiding you're overweight you're lazy you said you would do it and you haven't this question allows you to see the lwh hanging fruit that would have an immediate impact on your life if nobody else is going to do it it is your responsibility
to call yourself out on your own number 10 what does enough mean to me now the goal is to live a life that satisfies you right and satisfaction resides at the equilibrium between ambition and contentment the pursuit of more when your needs have already been met is actually in the detriment of your health and everything else that's actually important to you the more you go the more you harm yourself very much like a child who just can't stop eating chocolate after chocolate after chocolate until they collapse there is a sweet spot alux or a gold
elock zone of achievement where your life is optimally lived if you're one of our subscribers you know our quote that says at some point more money becomes too too expensive for some people enough is a number for others it's a point in time or a feeling you know what enough means for you and if you don't take the rest of your day to figure it out because it's probably the most valuable piece of information you need to find it's an anchor in the future and it'll keep you from getting swept up in the current number
11 who do I secretly crave the approval of we all want to to self-actualize and we all have people that we wished looked at us with importance Pride or even Envy craving the approval of someone means that you place them as an authority or some kind of standard against which you measure yourself the approval you seek tells you what kind of identity you're trying to cultivate for yourself or it could be an indicator of where the power lies in your relationships the first one is beneficial the second one means your worth and sense of self
is outside of your control so dig deep to separate between the two and rid yourself of the latter approval from others is a very poor substitute for self-acceptance seek your own validation and you will never need it from anybody else number 12 what do I preach but don't do the reason why you do it is because it creates a sense of identity that you strive for it's easier to give the advice to someone else instead of looking inward so we'll do that here today pretend you're walking into a room and there's the person you are
sitting in a chair knowing everything you know about them what advice would you give them what advice do you wish they actually followed through on it's a lot easier to do this when you simulate it this way and it gets easier to implement it once you do you have to treat yourself as you would treat someone else that you are responsible for screw everybody else okay you're the most important person in the Mosaic that is your life if you're not well if you're not at your Peak you can't take care of anybody else so start
doing one thing that you've been preaching it'll take you less than 5 minutes to get started and it'll snowball into a superior life than the one you're currently living number 13 what am I proud of what am I secretly ashamed of we encourage you to have this conversation privately because what you answer to any of these questions on this list is meant exclusively for you to do with it as you see fit nobody's entitled to the depths of your soul so be honest with yourself when you think of your recent life what do you genuinely
take pride in when's a moment when you stood by your principles even when the world wanted you to Cave the moment when you did what you said you would do and you got it done the right way even now thinking about it it brings a smile to your face you know what you felt that hit of dopamine from an emotional feeling that's your North Star act in accordance with that and you'll be fine my friend then there are moments when you're alone moments when nobody's watching and the mind wanders to something from your past something
you didn't want anyone else to know something you wished you would have forgotten completely about but you can't because it lives rentree in your mind poking its head out more often than you want it to well that's your moment of shame that you can't let go of and as with that moment of Pride you know exactly what you're going to feel when that memory comes up one is an emotional High and the other is an emotional low and you live life in between pride and shame are tools for self-reflection and it serves you well to
know how far your spectrum stretches number 14 what makes happy how can I do more of that now this is probably the most actionable item on our list so here's what you do you make a list of the little things that make you happy for us it's reading a book watching a movie reconnecting with old friends or taking our dog out on an adventure to our favorite coffee shop or bookstore so here's how you use this every time youve got some downtime you don't open up Tik Tok or Instagram or Netflix no what we do
is we put the phone away and we pick up one of the hundreds of books we bought but haven't read yet it gives us this sense of accomplishment and makes us happy instead of just filling our time with nonsense scrolling we text our friends and jump on a call for 10 to 15 minutes and then we find ourselves smiling for the rest of the day because of how great it was to reconnect with them we started being really deliberate with this since the beginning of the year and it's been incredible everyone wants to be happy
but very few people make a list of what makes them happy and even fewer make it a priority to pursue them when the time allows for it somehow they program the algorithms to make us miserable and addicted in order for them to make billions of dollars so make your list and the next time you need entertainment pick something from the list instead of defaulting to what the algorithm says you should be doing and number 15 do I actually give it my all or do I just tell people I do okay let's be fully honest with
this one you know this is a safe space you know that you could be making a lot more progress if you went at 100% of your ability but for some reason you're not between what you're doing now and what 100% is there's a lot of room for growth this is where the magic in your life happens this is where dreams come true your current Pace puts that growth years ahead of you because you're not moving fast enough you're not working hard enough you're not learning fast enough everything you want is on the other side of
an increased speed of action why do you wait a week to do something that takes a day why can't you make three years worth of progress in the next 6 months you're smart enough to know that your decisions in the present compound in the future so the sooner you make them the sooner you publish the sooner you hire the more return you get on your decision 20% more effort on a monthly basis compounded means 9x the yearly outcome of what you would have got if you only did what you're currently doing so find your extra
20% in a month and watch Life unfold so find your extra 20% in a month and watch your life unfold you'll find all of these questions in the description of the video alexir so you can easily save them and get to work on them somewhere else but we're curious to know in the meantime which of these questions rattled your cage the most let us know in the comments and since you already watched this long video up until this point you've earned yourself a secret bonus and that bonus today is what would you think about yourself
if you just met you would you do business with someone like you would you date someone like you would you trust your future to Someone Like You other people ask themselves this and and maybe it's time you ask yourself too chances are you wouldn't like you if you met you it's your challenge to find out why that is and fix it not because you'd be doing it for somebody else no but because if there's something obvious enough for you to notice it it's definitely holding you back you owe it to yourself to your future self
and to your kids if you have them to be better than you were when you started watching this if tomorrow will look better than yesterday for you write the word tools in the comments let's see how many of you take these questions seriously and we'll use the answers to them as the tools to craft the new version of you
