I am young right? We can start like this I am young. Caio, right here, is young.
There are many people who are young There are other people who are not young They're older or they're younger, they're not like young. . .
they're children All those people, the young, the not so young The younger than the youngest All of them, live on the planet Earth Caio: Not all of them There are people in Space Jout Jout: They don't live in Space, they're hanging out in Space It's like saying 'I live in Brazil' and they I take vacations in Portugal And then you say "you don't live in Brazil, you're in Portugal" Caio: Julia, there's a. . .
there's a. . .
hehehe There's a program of astronauts that go to Mars and it's possible they never return to Earth So. . .
If this, if this, if this. . .
If their starship goes away These people don't belong to Earth anymore Jout Jout: Alright! So, there are young people, and adults Most of them live on Earth, There are some that live on Mars. But these people that live on planet Earth They live, on the planet Earth.
What does that mean? That most of them live in a society. And what does it mean, to live in society?
Expectations. So, long story short: If you are a person, that lives on planet Earth, In society, Consequently you're buried under expectations Lots of expectations, all the time Regarding everything Having a boyfriend, Geting into college, Geting a job, Making good money, You have to help other people, Be interesting and smart, Pretty I have to make a video about being pretty is not a thing You need to have sex appeal, get laid Be kind Keeping up with TV shows but don't do it all day long 'cause you're not a. .
. not an idle person Exercise, take good care of your health Eat healthy food but if everyone is having a burguer you have to eat it too so you don't get to be the boring person who only eats healthy food if you're having a meal and there's salad and you don't take the salad, you're also wrong. .
. see? you need to eat healthy things too and.
. . (Caio): Julia, I think you made your point ok.
. . (laughing) You need to adopt a dog or a cat So basically there's a lot of expectations for a human being living on this planet I'm not saying that they are bad or good or, whatever, we're not here to judge if the expectations are correct or wrong, what we are saying here is: they exist.
We live buried in expectations. Fine then, I have my point. Now, let me tell you a story: I have a friend, and this friend who I really like, said to me one day: "Júlia, do you know how I am?
Anxious. I'm very anxious. " Then me, who sometimes is not very tactful.
Sometimes I am not tactful. Sometimes I am tactful. But sometimes I'm not tactful.
And that is fine! Because take a look ate the expectations, "we always have to be tactful", sometimes i am not tactful, It's fine. Aeroplane.
But then me, not very tactful, what did I do? Instead of saying "why are you anxious, sweetie? " I said: OF COURSE you are anxious.
There is no way you are not anxious, because we are in planet Earth. Expectations, that creates what? Anxiety.
Everyone is anxious as fuck. It would be weird if you weren't anxious, you see? Because everyone is anxious.
You can't live on this planet wihout beeing anxious. Because there is so much charging all the time. There are expectations from so many peolpe to beat You have expectations from your family, expectations from your friends, expectations from the teachers Expectations from your classmates, your own expectations.
. . self-expectations: the WORST type of expectation.
Not the worst. Because it's not necessarily bad, it's olny *sigh* it hurts. So sometimes it is hard, and what does it create?
Anxiety. I think it makes sense that you are anxious, because There is no way you are not anxious. I would be susprised if you came up to me like: "Júlia do you know how I am?
Not anxious. I'm relaxed. " It is way harder to find someone who is relaxed than it is to find someone who is anxious because everyone is anxious.
Because there is no way to not be anxious about something. And this anxiety sometimes builds up and becomes an anxiety crises and soon the person will be with. .
. with. .
. Panic Syndrome! And it keeps on becoming more seriois.
But like, anxiety itself. . .
Everyone is anxious. Take care of this if you are anxious on like, a heavy level, let's talk to a psychologist, that kind of thing, right? It's the same thing as if a woman comes up to me and say: "Júlia, I'm unsatisfied with my body.
" OF COURSE you are unsatisfied with your body. The whole life you've received inducements from all the places for you to be unsatisfied with your body. Look at those music videos from Britney, from Christina Aguilera, from.
. . who else made music videos?
From J Lo, J Lo's tummy was the tummy I wanted to have when I was a teen. And I won't have J Lo's tummy because I am not J Lo. We lived a life - and that is changing now, finally - but our adolescence, our childhood, everything, didn't have any other reference except J Lo's tummy.
So, if you are a woman on your twentys and you are unsatisfied with your body, you are doing exactaly what is expected from you, that is what we were raised for, we were raised since we were children for not being satisfied with our body. Now if you come to me and say: look at this body that is mine and that I was born with and that's what I have and that is not under the beauty standards people created. .
. Look how awesome it is! Then you are telling me some news, then I will clap.
But if you are unsatisfied with your body, or if you are anxious, you are following the script really well! But, if you want to be one of a kind, like, daring, then we'll have to learn how to deal with expectations a little bit, and decrease this anxiety and being chill about the world's requirements. And also start learning to accept this lil body that is really good, huh!
How do you call this? uh. .
. uh. .
. How do you call this? Some time ago, the only reference we had was J Lo's tummy, but now.
. . On the billboards, on televison and on magazines, we are seeing a little bit more representativity.
We didn't achieve the ideal, but, we have fat people on magazine covers, we have black people on magazine covers, we have trans people on magazine covers. When all the girls from my generation watch a music video at MTV and only see one type of woman succeding, they want to be that woman. When you se another type of woman that is like you, which is like a black, fat woman, you say "I'm a black, fat woman and there's a black, fat woman right there KILLING IT" and you say "YES".
You don't say like: "Oh, what do I do to be like that? " Got it?
