[Music] if you watch this channel then by now you should be familiar with the concept of hypergamy that female in state to find the highest value mate that she can this is why I'm always saying that women want to date are they're looking for a man that they can admire and look up to but if it's true that women want the best possible man why is it that some women want to date lowlife jerk guys while they pass up demonstrable better men you've got guys who are kind respectful financially well-off and yet there are still
women who'd rather date like a low-life drug dealer I want you to watch this clip it's very interesting it's a woman describing hypergamy and how that operates inside herself check it out our women driven by hypergamy the instinct to find the highest value mate that they can I think it would depend from person to person I guess it depends on their personal preferences hi I'd like to say I don't think she was great to talk to really friendly and I really liked how unashamedly she was able to talk about her own hypergamy for whatever reason
there's a large number of women who when I've interviewed them about hypergamy they've just flat-out denied that they have any such instinct those conversations are really really bizarre it's like asking a bunch of men hey do you like pretty young women and all of them like doing no no not me I don't like that it's just weird so regardless of how most women respond to this question I absolutely loved her response she said that she wants the best for herself which she should and so it's quite natural for her to want a man who also
wants the best for himself but this is the important part can you see how her saying that she wants a top-quality man she wants the best for herself that isn't an expression of inferiority in some way what that is is an expression of high self esteem it's really her declaring what she's worthy of and and claiming what she's entitled to because of her high self esteem nobody has expressed this idea better than iron Rand she was way ahead of her time and she's been a massive influence on me I'm going to read to you this
amazing quote from iron Rand for a woman choir woman the essence of femininity is hero worship the desire to look up to man to look up does not mean dependence obedience or anything implying inferiority it means an intense kind of admiration and admiration is an emotion that can be experienced only by a person of strong character and independent value judgments a clinging vine type of woman is not an admirer but an exploiter of men hero worship is a demanding virtue a woman has to be worthy of it and of the hero that she worships intellectually
and morally ie as a human being she has to be his equal then the object of her worship is specifically his masculinity not any and virtue she might lack whenever I mentioned iron Rand there's always gonna be a couple of people in the comment section who have a go at me but that's not necessarily a problem we don't have to agree on everything I like that I have a diverse audience and that we don't always see eye to eye and we can still expose ourselves to different ideas that's good but really I mean that quote
she just nails it so perfectly and really if you haven't read iron rants books yet I recommend you get onto that so for iron Rand the ideal man was a hero and the ideal woman was a hero worshiper but this is the important part because in order for a woman to be able to recognize a hero a high quality man she has to be a high quality woman herself you know that expression game recognizes game well this is the same principle self-esteem recognizes self-esteem so how does this relate to women choosing the lowlife jerk instead
of the reliable nice guy is this proof in some way that hypergamy isn't real that this instinct is just an illusion definitely not you see hypergamy is still guiding her behavior it's not that hypergamy inside her isn't operating its that is not operating well if she's a low quality woman she's so messed up and out of touch with what's natural to her that she can't actually recognize what a high quality man is she sees the confidence and the screw-you attitude of the lowlife jerk guy and she mistakenly thinks that that means that he's high quality
then she sees the calm rational reliable qualities of the nice guy and she mistakenly thinks that that's weakness were she and more high quality woman and possessing more wisdom then she'd be able to look deeper at the lowlife jerk guy she'd see that his confidence is all a false privado it's actually an expression of insecurity and weakness he'd also be able to see that the kindness of the nice guy is indicative of high quality because it shows that he's at peace inside himself so all of this is just another reason why I stress in my
videos over and over again that you need to be able to spot red flags so that you can avoid local women a low quality woman is actually incapable of appreciating your high quality characteristics I really mean that she is unable to see them it's like she's blind to them when it comes time to finding a partner it is absolutely necessary that you only date high quality women if the woman that you're dating lacks character virtue intelligence wisdom then how she going to be able to recognize your good character your virtue your intelligence and wisdom so
in summary as a man it's your job to be the hero and you want to date a hero worshiper because she's the only person capable of appreciating how awesome you are [Music] [Music] you