what if I told you you could be this guy every woman wants without having to amass riches necessarily for yourself now the most common narrative is that women are attracted to men who have money you hear that all over the place just for a second let's assume that it's true right what then happens to all the men who are not rich and never will be will they ever find a partner we all know a good number of them still do so the question is what do these not so rich guys know that others don't here
are some interesting stats for you now as of 2021 there are approximately 56.1 million millionaires globally and the men account for about 70 to 80% of millionaires right guess what the majority of millionaires are actually aged between the ages of 50 and 70 years old the highest concentration of millionaires is actually found in North America followed by Europe and Asia now this simply means of the global adult population of approximately 5.3 billion a very very minute number of people and specifically even men are rich that kind of Rich it's not a math class but I
had to put this out there so you know that there are more people in the world who are not rich as opposed to those who are and of course you probably already knew that now putting the rich conversation aside why are women chasing this kind of guy and not others the guy who has nothing plus how can you become that guy I got you today welcome back Jessica OS here this is my channel so what type of guy has become top on a woman's Chase list you ready the unavailable [Music] guy why is this happening
what's the psychology behind it and how can being less available sometimes work to a man's Advantage how can you become more unavailable to increase your desirability stick around I'll unravel the answers to these questions now first let's define what I mean by unavailable this can mean someone who's emotionally unavailable already in a relationship or just seems Out Of Reach for various reasons now why would anybody be attracted to someone who isn't fully accessible now I'll give you a couple of psychological reasons if you'll permit now the first thing you want to consider or I want
to talk about is something called the scarcity principle now this principle actually suggests that people tend to Value what is less available when something is scarce it appears more valuable to people in the context of relationships however an unavailable person seems more desirable because they're not easily attainable right there's the challenge in the excitement that comes with scarcity or unavailability right so human beings often seek excitement and challenge pursuing someone who's unavailable can feel like an adventurous Quest providing that sense of thrill and accomplishment the uncertainty and unpredictability associated with unavailable people can make interactions
more stimulating delving deeper when it comes to validation and self-esteem right the attraction to unavailable individuals can be rooted in some of these things the desire of validation being chosen by someone who's hard to get can give a huge ego boost it's a way to affirm one's worth and attractiveness the harder the conquest the higher the perceived value of the reward which in this case is the unavailable person's attention or a fiction get that straight there's another aspect of just fantasy and idealization right let me explain so now when someone is unavailable it's easier to
project f FES and just idealize them right um without full access people fill in the gaps pretty much in their imagination often creating this idealized version of the person right it can be powerful intoxicating I mean whatever your version of this person is is what you just hold on to right there is that whole avoidance of commitment as well for some being attracted to unavailable people is a subconscious way to avoid commitment I mean if someone's already in a relationship or emotionally distant there's a built-in excuse for why a deeper connection cannot be formed right
so this can be appealing to women who for instance fear vulnerability or are not ready for a serious relationship and I'm sure that by now it's slowly becoming apparent to you why being less available can be a man's superpower let's think through this together okay when you're unavailable there's increased perceived value just like the SC it principle that I talked about earlier being less available will increase that perceived value when you're not always accessible it signals that your time and attention are valuable making you appear more desirable and intriguing right making all the times that
you meet a more meaningful maintaining mystery is another thing right being less available helps in maintaining that air of mystery Enigma around you right mystery is a powerful attracted because it pequs curiosity it keeps women engaged when everything about you isn't laid out on the table from the get-go it leaves room for imagination and keeps that interest alive and strong we talk about confidence and Independence when you're unavailable it often correlates with confidence Independence if you're not constantly seeking someone's attention it shows that you're self-sufficient and confident in your own life and the way things
go this Independence can be very attractive as it demonstrates that you're not relying on other people for sustenance or happiness right when it comes to setting boundaries being less available also sets those healthy boundaries right it shows that you have a life outside the relationship and that you value your own space and time now this can encourage mutual respect and a more balanced um relationship Dynamic okay being unavailable helps you avoid neediness women don't like needy guys right but by being less available you avoid coming across as a needy or desperate guy and this will
help maintain your self-respect making her see you as a high value man so being unavailable in a relationship doesn't necessarily mean neglecting or ignoring her I mean instead it's about maintaining a sense of Independence cultivating that self-respect ensuring that there's a balance Dynamic happening in your relationship now let me share more practical steps on how you can Master being unavailable in a healthy an attractive way because at the end of the day that's what I'm trying to do I'm not trying to turn you into this so to speak the first thing you want to do
is to cultivate your own interests and hobbies guys having your own interest and hobbies not only makes you more interesting but also signals that you have a fulfilling life outside the relationship so you want to dedicate specific times during the week for instance to pursue those Hobbies pursue those interests that you're passionate about I don't know what it might be sports music art I mean any other activity just make sure that it's something that brings you Joy also don't be afraid to try new things you know take up that hobby or learning a new skill
it will be exciting it can add to your personal development second thing you want to do is to set boundaries I mean these healthy boundaries will ensure that you and her respect each other's personal space and time if you've planned time for yourself stick to it it shows that you value your own commitments as much as you do hers the third thing is you want to focus on your goals and Ambitions now a man with goals and Ambitions is attractive because it demonstrates Drive purpose right so make sure you allocate time to work towards your
personal and professional goals this means taking time away from your partner to focus on work study personal projects keep your partner informed about your Ambitions and progress this helps her to understand and appreciate the commitment to your goals and it paints a very good picture in her eyes the fourth thing you want to do is to maintain a social life the too many of you that just give up everything when you're in love having a robust social life indicates that you're a well-rounded guy and not solely dependent on her for companionship and fulfillment you want
to regularly make plans to hang out with friends and family this keeps your Social Circle active and prevents you from being overly reliant on her always available right a healthy relationship actually thrives on that Mutual Independence that you both gift yourselves fifth thing practice self-care in personal development and this has crept up in some of the stuff I've already talked about why does it matter taking care of yourself physically mentally emotionally makes you a better person and a more attractive individual right so you want to do the usual you know incorporate exercise eat healthy um
I mean physical well-being boost your confidence in your energy invest in personal development through those workshops courses books you know um self-study this not only improves your skills but also keeps you intellectually stimulated SI thing you want to do my guy be selectively available I'll I'll break that down so being selectively available means being present and being attentive during important moments while maintaining your Independence during less critical times so you want to focus on making the time you spend with your a partner high quality be fully present put that phone aside engage in the interactions
while it's important to stay in touch avoid overcommunication as well right you want to give her some time and space to miss you seven build anticipation and excitement so anticipation will keep the relationship EXC exciting and prevent it from becoming stale or monotonous occasionally you want to surprise her with spontaneous plans thoughtful gestures right don't reveal every detail of your day-to-day life leave some space to be discovered and discussed later okay things like that can help let me wrap up this video so in conclusion I mean let's get this straight I'm not I'm by no
means Inca through this video that the only reason women are chasing men is because they're unavailable there are in fact a plethora of reasons why women do this but unavailability increases your likability right listen while being unavailable um can sometimes be like a strategic Advantage it's important to strike that balance okay authenticity respect and clear communication should always be at the core of your relationship strategy remember the goal is not to play games but to understand uh uh how to encourage certain behaviors in women that you like and build those meaningful connections that will benefit
both of you at the end of the day are there other qualities and traits that women find attractive that make women Chase Men by all means but this is how you can become unavailable and win Hearts my name is Jessica if you like the submission please smash that like button don't forget to subscribe and turn on all notifications so you get notified every single time I post I'll catch you in the next video cheers
