sometimes you just get tired i think i just want to do nothing and just read i literally want to do nothing hello my loves welcome back to lavendaire let's talk about what to do when you feel like doing nothing when everything feels exhausting and you have no energy or motivation to do anything i know some of you want to hear tips on how to be productive when you're feeling unmotivated but the truth is when you're in this low state the best thing you can do is the opposite of being productive you have to slow down
be gentle on yourself and allow yourself to heal don't even try to get your life together just allow yourself to be if you're feeling this way it's likely you have high expectations for yourself and you're frustrated because you haven't been able to show up the way you wanted or maybe others have high expectations on you whether it's your parents or the people around you or maybe you've been pushing yourself too hard taking too much on your plate and just burning yourself out other times we might feel this way because we had expectations for what the
world should be or what our life should look like and when that all fell short we lost our sense of control and didn't know how to handle it honestly even the pandemic and seeing the ugly parts of society can be really disheartening and cause many of us to feel hungover unmotivated and exhausted in terms of energy we've been operating too much in our masculine focusing on productivity achievement external success and control and now our body and energy are telling us we need to surrender to our feminine to go inward slow down heal and love ourselves
surrender is a key word here we have to release our feeling of control release our expectations on ourselves and accept ourselves as we are right now it's both hard and easy at the same time it can be so hard to surrender but on the other hand it's so easy because all you have to do is let go there's no action needed just in action so what should you do when you feel like doing nothing first of all let yourself rest remove any and all pressure to be or do anything just exist stop putting any expectations
on yourself and understand that you probably feel burnt out or depleted so just let your body and mind rest and recuperate i think it's so ironic and magical that when you're unwell all you have to do is do nothing aka rest because your body is fighting hard for you your immune system is doing the hard work and your body literally already knows what to do you don't have to do anything just sit back and allow your body to balance and heal itself secondly give yourself love be kind and gentle with yourself no matter what practice
unconditional love meaning give yourself love regardless of anything love is accepting so accept yourself exactly as you are right now don't force anything and practice self-forgiveness if you've been hard on yourself wherever you are right now is okay also try shifting your focus don't underestimate the power of changing your perspective we often feel low because we've been focusing on the wrong or difficult things i learned this while doing the liberation korea challenge when you focus on what is hard for example the shoulder pain and shaking arms in that challenge you feel like giving up because
it's such a struggle but when you focus on what is easy like breathing it makes it easier to get through the tough time so instead of focusing on what is hard try focusing on what is easy instead of focusing on what's going wrong in your life focus on what is still going right do this as a journaling exercise actively choose where you turn your attention to because it matters and it makes a huge difference in how we feel if you feel like you need more help talk to someone in your life that you trust we
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the next piece of advice i have for you when you're feeling low is stop consuming content that makes you feel worse this includes any content that makes you feel bad about yourself content that makes you compare yourself to others and even positive or inspirational content because sometimes it reminds you of what you're unable to do right now sometimes it can be hard to have a positive mindset about something and that's okay allow yourself to feel whatever it is you're feeling right now accept yourself as you are if you want an instant refresh you can also
go into nature being in nature heals you on a spiritual level you're reminded of the stillness and ease in nature and that you're just a small part of this bigger world when you're out in nature you feel small here you can revive your sense of peace it doesn't even have to be a major trip just take a walk outside go to a nearby park maybe go to the beach or the mountains or even your local nursery i mean even going to your local home improvement store where they have that outdoor nursery can make you feel
a little better because i feel like the energy of the plants and flowers can be so healing next understand that life happens in cycles just like the cycle of the day our moon or our four seasons life also happens in cycles change is the only constant this means that life never stays the same and is always going through cycles or seasons have you ever heard of the saying this too shall pass whatever you're going through know that it will pass you might be going through a tough time right now but it won't stay like this
forever your situation and your feelings will change just stay patient and persevere through this season learn to embrace the cycles and seasons of your life both the highs and the lows because without the lows there wouldn't be highs and vice versa it's the depth and the variety that allow you to feel the difference if you only knew day but never knew night you would take the sun for granted you wouldn't appreciate it as much it's because you know night that you can appreciate the day and vice versa same with our emotions it's because you've experienced
the lows that you can deeply appreciate the highs once you've given yourself rest and you're ready to take some action start with baby steps again release any expectations or pressure you might have for yourself break down your tasks into the smallest easiest chunks you can if you want to start exercising to nurture your health and boost your mood instead of setting a goal like i want to work out for an hour every day set tiny goals like put on my workout clothes today put on my shoes open a workout app or step outside to walk
for five minutes do as much as you feel you can and congratulate yourself for those small actions we tend to want to be ambitious and set these big goals for ourselves but when we don't meet them we feel like we've failed and then we feel even worse about ourselves the better approach is to start small and give yourself grace a small effort is still an effort by doing this you take the pressure off and you're building your stamina to be able to do more lastly and importantly find gratitude in every little thing get specific about
all the small things in life you're grateful for open up your journal or a word doc and start writing a list of sentences that begin with i'm grateful or i'm blessed i actually did this exercise last night and ended up writing over 900 words in a list that went on and on it's funny how once you start focusing on gratitude more and more things pop up i wrote things like i'm blessed to have experienced music festivals and concerts pre-pandemic i'm blessed to have a big family with a lot of cousins i'm blessed to have a
great relationship with my brother i'm blessed to have healed from emotional baggage in my past i'm blessed to be alive and healthy during a pandemic i hope these ideas were helpful to you it's a gentle reminder that if you feel like doing nothing it's okay to do nothing it's okay to be gentle with yourself it's okay to give yourself space to breathe and to heal we all need it from time to time it's part of our cycle like i said there's both masculine and feminine energies our world operates mostly on the masculine and we're expected
to do and achieve and add value to the world but we can't ignore the feminine energy that wants us to go inward to allow to be i'm learning more and more the beauty of simply existing of least effort not trying to achieve or do more but to do less and allow life to flow more naturally i think people worry that if you don't do anything your life won't move forward but that's not true just as your body knows how to heal itself when you do nothing your life will be guided forward and change will happen
because change is always happening even if you're not trying to all you have to do is follow your intuition and if you don't know what it's telling you get quiet maybe it's telling you you need a break before i tell you what to do next thank you so much for watching please subscribe and leave a comment below with your thoughts are you able to surrender and flow with ease can you release those expectations you have on yourself sending you so much love for your journey see you next time bye [Music] you
