boy has the interest in manifesting just skyrocketed there's a lot of you that are confusing wishing for something with manifesting okay they're the opposite ends of the spectrum when you hope for things when you wish for things you are handing the power to somebody else or to outside forces you are literally giving away your power because hoping and wishing just inherently assumes that somebody else is somehow going to come in and solve the problem we all know that that's not happening the thing that's super important for you to get as a major takeaway from this
video is hey i'm mel robbins and i wanted to make this video because boy has the interest in manifesting just skyrocketed do you know that there has been a 700 increase in google searches for manifestation and manifesting techniques just this year alone so if you're brand new to manifesting you are in the right place because i'm going to unpack the basics for you i'm going to help you understand this and more importantly i'm going to empower you to put this to use in your life to help you get what you want and if you've been
trying to manifest for a while now and it's not working this is also an exceptionally awesome video for you to watch because it is probably going to reveal some of the mistakes you've been making and so let's just jump into it so here's what we're going to cover in this video first of all i'm going to give you a definition for manifesting that's going to clear a lot of stuff up next i'm going to talk about what it is for real based on science and what it can help you do and what it isn't how
manifesting is very different than dreaming hoping wishing and wanting okay then what we're going to do is we're going to talk about why this is a skill that you need i'm going to tell you a story about how some of the top performing athletes in the world at the highest level olympic levels are using the science of manifestation to get what they want when it comes to performing at their top level i'm also going to tell you a deeply personal story about how my husband and i used manifesting over 20 years ago to help us
get this incredible dream house this farmhouse that we always always wanted outside of boston massachusetts and by the time that we are done with this you're going to feel so excited so empowered because you're going to know what manifesting is you're going to understand why you need it and you are also going to be equipped to get started using it all right so let's start with the definition of manifesting what the heck is manifesting mel robbins well let me tell you what manifesting isn't okay manifesting is not thinking thoughts and then hoping that they come
true thoughts become things only when your thoughts inspire you to take the actions to get those things that's where manifesting comes in manifesting is preparing your mind body and spirit to help you take the actions to get those things that's right i'm going to say that again manifesting is like training for getting what you want manifesting is socializing your mind preparing your mind rehearsing your mind to help you take the steps before you take the steps so that you can get what you want when you use manifesting properly what you do is you remove the
obstacles of self-doubt of resistance of being cautious of focusing on tiny minutia of feeling blank and overwhelmed you remove all that crap and you retrain your mind and you retrain your nervous system and you retrain your spirit to help you get the things that you want in life and when you manifest properly what it does is it inspires you to take the actions that lead you to what you want now that sounds like a lot of like okay mel what does that actually mean what it means is this manifesting is going to help you see
feel and act your way toward the things that you want that's what it does it's so freaking cool now let me tell you the difference between manifesting according to science and wishing wanting hoping dreaming let's focus on sort of wishing there's a lot of you that are confusing wishing for something with manifesting okay they're the opposite ends of the spectrum and so before i kind of explain the two let me just give you an example so that we can use the example to compare and to contrast okay one big goal and dream that a lot
of people have is financial freedom the ability to take your kids to disney world the ability to buy what you want the ability to put enough money away so that you don't have to worry about money the ability to buy the things that you need to go on the trips that you want financial freedom is something that you deserve in your life it's something that you can do the work to achieve in your life and so let's talk about the goal of financial freedom and the difference between wishing for financial freedom and hoping and dreaming
about it versus manifesting and doing the work to go get it if you can hear my cat outside you know that he sounds like he's dying what he's actually doing is he's really pissed off because we have come into this little room and shut the door and so he's walking around going where are you where is everybody let's take a listen for a minute so did you notice that wishing he would leave didn't work what you're gonna always get when you watch mel robbins videos is you're going to get the real deal okay but literally
the real deal because this is real life and these are tools for real people to make real changes and so you might as well see what's going on so the cat is now sleeping on my lap and he's very happy we were talking about financial freedom which is a goal that so many people have right and what's the difference between you wanting and wishing for financial freedom and you manifesting it and using manifestation and the science of it to help you get it the big difference between wishing for something and using manifesting to help you
do the work to go get it is that when you wish that you were financially free have you ever noticed that the second that you wish for something like you know i wish i would win the lottery you're also present at the same time to the fact that you're lacking money right now like wishing that you would win the lottery it doesn't bring up all of this sort of like empowering feelings what what it does is it reminds you that you're so broke that you need to win the lottery and that's very different than manifesting
manifesting is declaring what you want i am committed to creating financial freedom in my life and then once you declare what you want manifesting is about the actions and empowering yourself to go get it and there's a really big difference between focusing on you know and wishing for something which only reminds you that you're lacking it you know oh i i wish i would meet somebody that just makes you feel more alone i wish i could get in shape that just makes you feel more out of shape i wish i could win the lottery that
just makes you feel poorer i wish i didn't have to work for this jerk that just makes you feel more stuck do you feel how wishing for something amplifies what you don't like versus i'm going to manifest and work for more money in my life i am committed to being in a loving relationship and i'm going to manifest and make it happen i deserve to have a career that i love and i'm going to use manifesting to help me get it i want to be in incredible shape i want to do a handstand in yoga
i want to heal my trauma and i'm going to use manifesting to help me achieve those things that's a big difference wishing and hoping makes you present to what you don't have manifesting makes you present and feeling empowered about what you want and your ability to go get it and that highlights the second big difference when you hope for things when you wish for things you are handing the power to somebody else or to outside forces you are literally giving away your power because hoping and wishing just inherently assumes that somebody else is somehow going
to come in and solve the problem we all know that that's not happening manifesting on the other hand locates and amplifies the power inside of you to do the work to get those things to do the work to change your life and it's important that you locate the power inside of you because you're the one that's responsible for your dreams and you're also the person that's in the best position to make those dreams a reality because you have the ability to change the way that you think you have the ability to change the actions that
you take every single day and when you change the actions that you take and you change the way that you think you change your entire life and manifesting is a tool that will help you train your brain and train your nervous system and train your mind body and spirit to help you achieve the things that you want the the thing that's super important for you to get as a major takeaway from this video is the thoughts alone won't achieve the things that you desire but if you manifest properly it will inspire you to take action
and action is what will create the results that you deserve and that you want your life that's as simply as i can put it i want to explain a little bit about the science i promised you that i was going to quickly tell you a little bit about how some of the world's most successful athletes are using the science of manifestation in order to win at the olympics in order to come back after an injury you know the u.s olympic team there's a big article in the new york times about this they hire sports psychologists
precisely for mental training and what these sports psychologists are doing there are five of them alone that work with the us snowboarding and ski team and what they do is they are doing the mental training with athletes before the olympics to help them prepare to show up at the olympics and absolutely crush it and you're going to do the same thing you are going to use manifestation to mentally prepare before and while you're doing the work to achieve your goals and dreams because when you mentally prepare you remove all of the obstacles like self-doubt and
nerves and anxiety and impostor system syndrome and fear that are currently stopping you from taking action and so how do you mentally prepare well let me talk to you about the ski team because they do this super cool process that is basically what you do when you manifest the sports psychologist would sit down with one of the gold medal winning skiers and snowboarders particularly after injury because if you think about it somebody that's been injured during competition even after they've had surgery and they've recovered they're going to be nervous about competing again and you may
feel the same way about going for what you want you may have faced a bunch of setbacks you may have faced a bunch of disappointments you may have faced a bunch of rejection and so you're nervous about putting yourself out there that's okay feeling nervous is normal but you're not going to let it stop you we're going to use manifestation to train your mind body and spirit to be able to do the work we're going to rehearse what you need to do in your mind and your body and your spirit so that when it comes
time to do it you feel like you've actually already done it which removes your nerves it's so cool so back to the us ski and snowboarding team the sports psychologists would sit with the athletes and you know let's just say you know the crazy snowboarding thing where they go off a jump and they do 50 million like hoops and loops and tricks and whatever that's like a 10 second jump in the air and so what the sports psychologist does is they have the snowboarder or the skier describe in detail not the jump but point a
point b point c point d point e point f all the way to z okay i'm getting off the chair lift and i've got my uh snowboard tucked under my right arm and i'm walking up to uh the place where everybody's getting ready i hear the crunch crunch crunch of the snow and i i feel the breeze do you notice i've got my eyes closed i've got my eyes closed because i have made manifesting a habit i do it every single morning and when i start to manifest i do something that i used to do
as a trial lawyer and that is put someone at the scene really good trial lawyers are able to put a jury right at a scene right where it happened with such detail that you can smell the cup of coffee on the counter you can hear the cars passing outside you can see the bright orange sweater that somebody's wearing right in your mind you have the ability with your imagination to put yourself right at the scene and that's exactly what these sports psychologists are coaching olympic athletes to do as you're standing there and the wind is
blowing and your hat is on and they they're calling your name now you're clipping in now you're feeling the excitement in your stomach now you're feeling yourself push off and you feel the momentum kick in and the gravity pull down and the speed increasing and you feel the liftoff and you literally mentally rehearse visually and in your body feeling it and what you're doing is you are preparing your body to be able to do it here's a cool fact about your brain your brain can't distinguish between real experiences that you've lived and the detailed experiences
that you have imagined and felt through manifesting so we are using your vision we are using your ability to picture yourself there and feel yourself there as a way to prepare yourself to be there and as you're seeing yourself doing all the work i want you to feel this sense of pride and excitement in order to really imprint the step-by-step by step-by-step training in your mind body and spirit all right well look i'm no olympic athlete but i am a gold medalist when it comes to the science of manifestation i used manifesting as a way
to help me keep doing the work to find my dream house uh outside of boston this is the story of how i use manifesting to do the work to find a needle in a haystack which was an antique farmhouse outside of boston so god uh 1997 [Music] my husband chris and i are newlyweds we moved from new york city to the boston area and we have moved from new york to the boston area because we know that we want to start a family we know we don't want to be in new york city we know
we want to buy a house and have a yard and so we rent an apartment in cambridge which is you know right next door to boston and for almost a year we start looking for a house now we were a really young newlywed couple we did not have a lot of savings and boston it's a really expensive real estate market and so we looked at houses every single weekend for an entire year and we either would go to these open houses and we just hated the neighborhood or we couldn't afford the house and we were
just feeling so discouraged and it was about this time that i discovered the science of manifesting and i luckily didn't just learn thoughts become things i learned these see it feel it and you'll believe it form of manifesting that you're learning right now and here's what i would do i would every single day i knew what i wanted more than anything i wanted to find an antique farmhouse with a big front porch i wanted it to be in our budget i wanted to have some land i wanted to get a fixer-upper i just had this
like this old house kind of vision in my mind right and i would sit there and i would think about chris and i going to open houses and i would think about chris and i seeing house after house and i would think about chris getting really discouraged and i would feel the pressure of going to all these open houses and us not finding anything and i could feel chris getting discouraged i could feel myself starting to get discouraged and then i would feel and see myself turning to chris and saying chris you watch we are
really good people and we have the kind of luck that something magical is going to happen we are going to find that needle in the haystack i just know it if we just keep going to open houses if we just keep putting it out there that we're looking for an old farmhouse a fixer-upper with a big porch on a nice piece of property we will find it what this kind of manifesting does where you see yourself pushing through the resignation you feel yourself believing you feel yourself doing the work to find that needle in the
haystack to beat the odds to have something magical happens is that you start to believe that it's going to happen through manifesting i literally convinced myself that we would in fact find a needle in a haystack that i didn't even need to worry about all the houses that we couldn't afford that we were seeing i didn't even need to worry about the number of places that we would look at that were out of our range i didn't even have to worry about how long it was going to take because i knew because i was aligning
myself with what i wanted through proper manifestation that it would happen i wasn't worried about the timeline i just assumed that if we kept at it and we kept holding on for that needle in the haystack amazing old farmhouse that one day somehow magically the stars would align we would be in the right place and we would be rewarded because we had done the work and we had held out hope and we had kept on going and why do we do those things because i had been training myself preparing myself to do all those things
and i'll tell you what happened about a year into looking in one of the nicest towns outside of boston massachusetts we got word that there was a ransack old farmhouse that may be coming on the market so we drove out that weekend and we pulled up in front of the house and i got to tell you the grass at this house on the front yard was like waist high nobody had mowed this lawn and i don't know how many years it looked like a field for crying out loud instead of a front lawn the paint
was all chipped the house was this like ugly blue color most of the windows were broken the only living beings inside the house were the family of raccoons who had taken up residence inside the chimney the kitchen was so hideous there was astro turf indoor outdoor grass as the flooring in this house now if i hadn't been manifesting if i hadn't been training my mind body and spirit to see feel and believe that my husband and i would find this needle in a haystack i would have turned to chris the second we pulled up in
front of this thing and said are you kidding me this dump first of all we won't be able to afford it secondly this dump what have we lost it's not even on the market some developer is going to swoop in here in this neighborhood and pay three times but we can there is no way we are going to get this that's what would have happened if i hadn't been manifesting because the biggest obstacle to what you want is always your own self-doubt your own excuses your own fears and your own stories because i had been
manifesting what it's looked like and felt like to align my body and spirit with getting what i want i stayed open that this could be that needle in the haystack we got out of the car we met with the owner it turns out the house wasn't on the market yet the family was figuring out what to do because the man who had owned it had just died incapacitated in a nursing home none of the adult kids wanted the house and what did they want for the house more than anything this dilapidated old farmhouse that they
had all grown up in they wanted a young couple who was starting a family to raise their family in it well the long and the short of it is that ugly old farmhouse with the broken windows and the raccoons inside and the indoor outdoor grass turf for carpeting in the kitchen was that needle in the haystack chris and i bought it from the family before it ever came on the market and we spent the first two years honest to god indoor camping inside of it we didn't have a kitchen we had a coleman two burner
camping stove we did most of the renovations ourselves which meant bringing the knob into it tube wiring up to code slapping on a paint a coat and bringing everything up to a point where it would be safe and we have lived in this farmhouse and raised our family in it for the past 24 years there is no way that i would have even gotten out of the car without having been manifesting for eight months prior to finding that farmhouse with the big wrap porch on a great piece of property right outside of boston it was
seeing it feeling it in my mind body and spirit that made my mind believe that it was possible and when you believe that something is possible you will do the work and you will stay open to all of the amazing possibilities that come into your life to make it happen and here we are almost 25 years later sitting here filming in that very house so there you have it i promised you that this would be a video that would be perfect if you're brand new to manifesting or if you've been manifesting for a while but
it hasn't been working i hope that now that you know the real definition and the real purpose of manifesting when you manifest using science and you manifest as a way to train and prepare your mind body and spirit to do the work to help you get what you want i hope you now feel empowered and inspired to stop wishing and hoping for the things that you want in life and that you use manifesting to prepare yourself and inspire yourself to go take the action to make them a reality all right now that you know the
basics you gotta watch this video about the seven major mistakes that everybody makes despite the fact that they know the definition despite the fact that they know the benefit these are the seven mistakes that you don't want to make check it out [Music] you
