for manifesting to work properly you always want to frame it in the positive frame it around the thing that you want so in that case of anxiety don't talk about not feeling anxious frame what you want i can't wait to have a calm [Music] quiet confident state of mind that feels different doesn't it you will believe that at some point it will happen and you will believe that you can make it happen and that belief is why you feel inspired and encouraged to take action i need you to understand something for manifesting to work properly
hey i'm mel robbins and i'm about to explain to you the seven most common mistakes that people make when they first start manifesting or hell they make these mistakes when they've been manifesting for years and these seven mistakes explain why the manifesting is not working so you're going to save yourself a lot of heartache and a lot of time by knowing these mistakes and avoiding them like the plague before i tell you the seven mistakes let me just remind you of what manifesting is if you're brand new to manifesting and you have not seen the
video that i did that is basically what the hell is manifesting it's explaining it for beginners you might want to check that out it's also on our youtube channel here but so my definition of manifesting is based on research and science manifesting is preparing your mind body and spirit to help you get what you want basically what you're doing is you are using manifesting to remove the obstacles that stand in the way of you doing the work to get what you want manifesting done right removes self-doubt it removes fear it removes the excuses and the
stories that would normally stop you because when you do manifesting properly you literally make your mind body and spirit believe that it's a foregone conclusion and that makes you motivated inspired to take the actions that will get you what you want so now that you are grounded in the real definition of manifesting let's flag the seven major mistakes that people make so you can avoid them mistake number one when it comes to manifesting is you're not doing it daily the lack of consistency is what's killing your ability to use manifesting to achieve your goals and
dreams so what do i mean by that well manifesting is a skill i want you to think of manifesting as a muscle it's a muscle that you build through consistency and you know if you think about it as a skill or a muscle or a new habit uh obviously you gotta incorporate it into your day-to-day life it's just like anything else a one-off change does not make a lasting change if you wanted to get healthier eating one salad is not going to make you healthier exercising once not going to make you healthier manifesting once not
going to actually help you get what you want you must incorporate manifesting into your day-to-day life the more consistently you do it the more manifesting becomes a habit it becomes a way of thinking it becomes a way of acting and it becomes a skill that you can rely on to help you get absolutely anything now what's the easiest way to manifest consistently and make it part of your day-to-day life i'm glad you asked the best way to do it is make it part of your morning routine every single morning right after i get up make
my bed throw on my exercise clothes set an intention high five the mirror i do something really interesting i call it dreaming in the morning i write down five things that i want and the reason why i write down five things that i want is because it is a way to train my mind to focus on the things that i desire and dream about to aim my mind at the things that i want in my life then what i do is i use manifesting properly to see myself taking the actions to get one of the
things to feel myself taking the actions to get one of those things and notice i'm closing my eyes and that's because manifesting is a habit in my life i close my eyes to really feel myself taking the actions and when you manifest over and over and over again your mind in visualizing and feeling yourself taking those actions begins to believe that it's happening and that will make you confident optimistic it'll inspire you to take action it will remove obstacles it'll make it easier for you to do the work now that's how you do it that's
how i've made it part of my day-to-day life i write down five things i then manifest on at least one of those things and then here's the most important part i then take an action that's inspired by the manifesting now to help you incorporate this into your day-to-day life i got something to give you and don't worry you don't need to buy anything i have written and created the high five journal it goes with my best selling book the high five habit it's not only gorgeous and you're gonna love it but the prompts in the
journal it's a daily journaling practice that you use write down five things that you want big or small today or in your lifetime now describe the small action you can take to inch yourself forward now close your eyes visualize taking these small actions feel deeply what it feels like to do these things as you move closer to what you desire this is training your mind body and spirit to help you take these actions this is a journal based on research and science that helps you make manifesting a skill that you practice every day you want
to get consistent start using the high five journal now you can grab a copy of one of these things if you want it but i still got you covered because i know there are parts of the world where you can't buy this yet i also know that you might not have the money to be able to buy it that's cool if you go to highfivejournal.com you can download free templates don't even need to buy the journal if you want one get one but you can utilize the free templates at hi5journal.com you can read about the
science that will help you get started with making manifesting consistent which will help build manifesting as a muscle and a skill that you rely on every single day of your life to help you get what you want cool right good now let's move on to mistake number two now mistake number two is a major mistake that people make and that is that you frame manifesting based on what you don't want now this is subtle but it's really important that you avoid this mistake so this is the kind of mistake that you make when you're really
frustrated and you start to go i just don't want to be alone anymore i just don't want to date losers anymore i just don't want to be struggling anymore i just don't want life to be so hard anymore i just don't want to be single anymore i just don't want to be poor anymore i just don't want to have anxiety and feel so bad anymore do you see how framing all your dreams and goals around what you don't want might be a problem i mean when i say i don't want to feel anxious anymore how
the hell am i going to visualize not being anxious that's why this is a major mistake you want to always frame what you want and what you're going to use manifesting to help you take the actions to go get it you always want to frame it in the positive frame it around the thing that you want so in that case of anxiety don't talk about not feeling anxious frame what you want i can't wait to have a calm quiet confident state of mind that feels different doesn't it i can't wait to be in a loving
supportive caring mutual positive relationship with a adult somebody that acts like an adult and treats me the way i deserve to be treated feels very different than i just don't want to date losers anymore you want to always frame the things that you're trying to manifest and the actions that you need to take as leading you towards something rather than away from something that way we stop thinking and aligning energy around the negative crap that's not working and we align your mind body and spirit around what it feels like to have the positive things that
you want that's going to make it easier for you to take the actions that will make them happen now mistake number three super easy to make you get really impatient you start off strong right this is true with all changes you start off strong you manifest every morning for three or four days and then boom you don't do it for five or six weeks you start throwing your hands that's it it's never going to happen so you're not only not consistent but you start to get impatient and because you're impatient you're not consistent i need
you to understand something for manifesting to work properly based on research there is no timeline involved did you hear me for manifesting to work properly based on the research there is no timeline involved you must give up the when and you must focus on seeing and feeling yourself taking the steps that make the thing that you want happen because manifesting is not magically making something appear manifesting is preparing your mind body and spirit to do the work to make something happen it's aligning your thoughts your actions and how you feel in your body with the
thing that you want and the reason why manifesting is important is because when you prepare yourself to do the work and to start to see and feel it you will believe that it's a foregone conclusion you will believe that at some point it will happen and you will believe that you can make it happen and that belief is why you feel inspired and encouraged to take action you see when you suspend the timeline and you get rid of deadlines there is no room for being impatient because you in your heart and your soul and in
your mind know that at some point if you just keep on manifesting and you keep on seeing yourself and feeling yourself doing the steps that you need in order to make this a reality eventually it'll happen so if you feel impatient you're doing it wrong because you're not supposed to attach a timeline to it you're supposed to wake up every morning and write down five things that you want and let yourself see and feel yourself doing the work and that will inspire you to take the actions that lead you there and if you do that
every day trust me you won't even be thinking about the timeline because you know in your heart and soul eventually this is going to turn out now mistake number four and this is probably the biggest mistake that everybody makes and if you've been manifesting for a long time and nothing's turning out this is probably the mistake that you're making if you're brand new to manifesting this is the mistake everybody that's new makes unless somebody tells them not to do this the biggest mistake with manifesting is that you're only looking at the end goal that's the
biggest mistake everybody makes uh you know we've all been sold this bill of goods not only that if you think good things somehow it's going to happen that's only true that you can think good things and have good things happen if you do the work to make those good things happen the thinking's just the first part you've got to actually take the actions that are inspired by the thinking and the second thing that people do in terms of being sold a bill of goods is that you kind of have been led to believe that if
you create a vision board and you plaster up on the vision board images of beach houses and lamborghinis and nfts and millions of dollars in the bank and the world's skinniest body and all the things that you would love to have magically appear in your life that simply creating the vision is enough the reason why that's a mistake is because research shows that simply envisioning the end goal without actually imagining all the steps that lead you there and without training your body to feel what it's going to feel like to do the hard work simply
imagining the end goal isn't motivating at all it's pretty inspiring for about a day but then what happens is that you start to stare at the beach house and the million dollars in the bank and you will feel discouraged because you'll realize holy cow from where i sit there's an impossible gap between my studio apartment or living in my parents basement and the beach house that i want there's an impossible gap between the fact that my divorce basically left me bankrupt and now i'm staring at a vision board with a million dollars in the bank
holy cow i've got 150 pounds to lose and i'm gonna stare at my photo from when i was my you know best weight when i was a high school division one athlete no staring at the end goal is not only a mistake it's profoundly discouraging it's the reason why so many people fail to reach their goals because they only set their goals and they never do the part that's the most important and that's where manifesting comes in manifesting helps you do the work manifesting done properly is preparing you to do all the things between where
you are and where you want to get to so i'll give you an example let's say that up on your vision board okay up on your vision board is the fact that you want to launch your own business right now you work for somebody else you can't stand what you do you have panic attacks when you wake up because you know that you're headed in the wrong direction you've always dreamt of opening a bakery and so you slap up a vision board and you've got this big visual up on your wall that you stare at
every morning of this beautiful bakery that you've always dreamt of higher of starting here's the problem you have no money you have no savings you've never started a business before how the hell are you going to get this done staring at the vision board gives you panic attacks here's how manifesting is going to help manifesting is where instead of staring at the photos of the bakery you see feel and eventually start to believe that you can do the work to make it a reality and so what you're gonna manifest is you're gonna manifest all the
steps from point a which is starting at zero all the way to point z which is opening the doors you're gonna see yourself and notice i'm closing my eyes this is because manifesting is a habit manifesting happens here in your mind and in your heart and your body i want you to see yourself instead of going out tonight with your friends see yourself staying in and watching videos videos on youtube of other people that have opened bakeries see yourself going to the library and getting a book that tells the story of somebody who did it
see yourself taking webinars and tutorials about how to raise the money to do something like this see yourself studying kickstarter campaigns of other people who have launched a bakery and raised money through kickstarter campaigns see yourself talking to people who have done this see yourself talking to friends and family see yourself taking a class in it see yourself staying in next weekend and working on this see yourself getting a part-time job in a bakery and learning behind the scenes because you've always dreamt of doing this but you've never worked in one and one vision at
a time as you feel yourself being tired as you feel the late nights as you feel yourself doing the work with no timeline you'll start to believe that you're going to do it and that will keep you inspired to take those little actions to do it and that way when you come in after a long day and you've spent the day watching a webinar or watching a youtube video or you had a conversation with somebody that gave you some advice when you walk into your room and you see that beautiful vision board you know what's
going to happen your mind and your body and spirit will literally start to buzz because what you've been rehearsing in your mind body and spirit through visualization aligns with it that's how you do it simply envisioning the end game that's a one-way ticket to being discouraged unmotivated and stuck you start to use manifesting properly you start to visualize every single step of the way and you will be training for it and doing the work to make it happen and that is motivating mistake number five is thinking you have to have all the answers and that'll
get you really stuck that what you really want to manifest into your life is an incredible relationship right but you don't even know where to begin because your dating history looks like a train wreck here's the simple solution just become a student become a student of whatever it is that you want what does a student do a student learns a student studies a student researches researching studying and learning about what you want is a simple way to find all of the things that you can start manifesting seriously anything that a student would be doing taking
a class researching talking about a subject interviewing people about a subject watching videos about a subject all of those things that a student does are things that i want you to visualize see yourself and feel yourself doing that's a simple hack to figuring out the path between where you are and where you want to go another thing that a student does is a student studies people who have already done it and then you reverse engineer the path and you see yourself doing the things that somebody else did to get what you want now here's what's
super cool remember manifesting based on science means training your mind body and spirit to do the work that gets you what you want your path will not be the same as somebody else's that's okay you can still see yourself walking down somebody else's path you can still feel what it feels like to do that hard work because manifesting works because it's going to remove the obstacles that you create your excuses your self-doubt all of the stories you tell yourself your fear your imposter syndrome you're rehearsing the steps in your mind because remember your brain doesn't
know the difference between you actually taking the steps or you just visualizing yourself taking the steps when you visualize yourself taking the steps you are training your mind body and spirit to not resist taking those actions that's why this is going to work for you even though you know let's say you love the rocks career you're not going to have the same career as the rock but you can certainly visualize all the things that he did in order to train yourself to do the work that will get you what you want now mistake number six
is going to be obvious based on mistake number four number five you're not taking any actions look uh you can't just feel it in your body you can't just see it in your mind the whole reason why you're rehearsing this and training your body to do the steps is so you freaking take the steps okay at some point you gotta leave your brain and your body and you got to take action in the world you gotta let the manifesting the training and preparing that you're doing by seeing it and feeling it and teaching you to
believe that it's possible you got to let that inspire you to take action now i want to give you a tool remember in the beginning i showed you the high five daily journal i also told you you can get free templates at hi5journal.com now this thing's gorgeous i love it the templates i don't think are colors so that's one thing but they are free but if you pick up a copy of this or you use the templates this journal is prompting you every day to take action this journal is going to prompt you to write
down five things that you want this is going to get you to start giving yourself permission to have what you want in your life then this journal is going to prompt you to think like a student what are some steps that you can take in order to move toward what you want it's going to get you thinking about things to do so that you are taking action then it's going to prompt you to properly manifest doing those things and then it's going to tell you to do it and so if you really want to kick
in the pants or if you want to have your hand held or you want a tool because you are committed to making manifesting a skill that is part of your day-to-day life this journal the high five journal is the only journal based in science that will train you and your mind body and spirit to make manifesting part of your morning routine and a skill that you master and put to use in your life every single day and again you can get those templates at hi5journal.com and you can get a copy of this anywhere online just
google it the final mistake is also a really big one and that mistake is you're not celebrating the small wins so as you make manifesting a skill as you get consistent about it as you start to be a student as you take inspired action as you realize that you do feel like this is gonna happen you don't even have a timeline on it because you know it's gonna happen you're not as you're doing these things recognizing all the small wins that you have every day when you manifest and then you take the action that the
manifesting has inspired that's a win when you see doors opening up because you've been moving toward what you want that's a win when you randomly meet somebody that introduces you to somebody that helps you get one step closer that's a win and you need to celebrate that stuff these are signs these are not coincidences these are signs that you're on the right path a lot of people believe in angel signs you know like seeing the number 11 or 22 or the number nine or for me the number five angel signs are cool because for me
angel signs are a mile marker that give you a clue that you're moving in the right direction your job is to declare what you want your job is to use manifesting to train your mind body and spirit and remove the obstacles that you would normally put in place your job is to take the actions that are inspired by manifesting and start moving toward what you want you also though need to call out those mile markers when you see it holy i just got introduced to somebody in the movie business and it's my dream and i'm
manifesting that i have my script turned into a movie this is a sign that i'm on the right path and what you want to do is call those things out not because the universe or magic or this is somehow just randomly happening this is you being rewarded for manifesting properly for believing in yourself and for taking the inspired action that is going to make your dreams a reality and these little moments these signs these small wins that are happening every day as you make manifesting a consistent skill that you practice in the morning that you
put to use so that you are aligned with what you want so that your mind body and spirit is working with you instead of against you when you start to also call out the small wins there i am manifesting there this thing happened this is happening too there are my angel numbers holy cow this just happened you're now building momentum you're now energetically rewarding your body for aligning with what you want and it just makes all of this that much stronger it makes your belief stronger it makes your courage bigger it makes your confidence stronger
that's how all of this builds one on the other and if you're not willing to call out the small wins you're missing a huge amount of mojo and rocket fuel and magic that you can add into the mix because all of these small wins are literally reasons for you to be more confident reasons for you to keep going reasons for you to really know in your mind body and spirit that yeah this is going to happen because you're making it happen now that you know the seven mistakes to avoid you want to definitely check out
and dig into the science of manifesting the right way and that's what i want to dig in with you next
