like sort of derangement Point number one is if what everybody's actually looking for is a long-term committed relationship but there's this sort of invisible change in the sexual mores where people just feel like well I'm I'm just going to try the merchandise before I buy and so it's like you end up in yeah I'll have sex with you to see like is there anything here but and then point number two of just complete total derangement is you can be on the apps all the time endless Choice constantly being like well I had fun with them
but was it the ultimate fun I have more fun and so now in a world where women are hypergamous they're dating over and up and they can see the level of success via Instagram whatever across a wide swap of humanity have you heard what I talk about when I say what hypergamy actually means for women tell me I I would I know that the traditional sense hypergamy is just you know women want someone older richer all these things I say actually none of that matters women actually their definition of hypergamy is the man that is
she can't manipulate that's the only man she'll find high pergamus a 19-year-old who's dating a CEO who's 40 years old far more successful than her taller than her U more in more grades more qualifications everything is above her you would say that she's hypergamous I can guarantee you if she can manipulate every money every piece get rent from him get a car she will still throw him in the dust and find somebody that she actually respects that's not hypergamy in a woman's eyes hypergamy in in a woman's eyes is we can't fool you simple she
would rather be with a man that is less successful less intell she not that she'd rather be but she'd be more submissive to a man who's less successful less intelligent might even be a bit shorter but he doesn't fall for nonsense he knows when she he's she's trying to manipulate him she can't trick him she can't manipulate him so I believe hypergamy is defined purely by the art of manipulation not actually by the arbitrary things of course we want someone richer and taller but the B line of that it only matters if you're more intelligent
than us and we don't Define intelligence by financial success we Define intelligence by can I manipulate you yes or no if the answer is no you are not an idiot you are not going to pay my rent while your own daughter's rent you don't even consider or you are not going to buy me a car because I slept with you a couple of times you're not stupid but if we find that oh my God I can tell him that I need his card and he gives it to me straight away or I can tell him
that you know I lost my job so I need rent he gives it to me straight away without me even knowing him that well just because immediately she loses respect and therefore the hypergamy disappears so I think you're on to a really important addition to hypergamy but I can hear the men in the comments screaming right now like I can't be manipulated so yeah but I still can't get a date uh I think the key to add to that is that uh it has to be someone that the woman would want to manipulate and so
if she's not drawn to you attracted to you finds nothing interesting about you it doesn't matter that if she tried to manipulate you tell her to off you're not interested whatever um there there is a dynamic there so first there has to be mutual desire and then there has to be a very mature uh thing in it it's funny so I don't think men look for Mutual desire anymore I think men with high self-esteem do I think men with super high self-esteem I think the Baseline is men with super high self-esteem reciprocity is more important
than Beauty as long as she she wants him as much as he wants her and this is like she they're men with high self-esteem only know what women look like who like them so they know women to want to take their clothes off they want they know women that are calling their phone 24/7 they know women who are initiating sex that's what men with high self-esteem that's the type of women they're around men with low self-esteem which is getting more and more don't care if she wants him just as long as he gets to touch
her so that's where you'll find these men that go to escorts you'll find these men that go to webcams these men that go you know travel you um passport boys they don't care if she wants him or not just does she let me have sex with her they're not looking for Mutual desire as much particularly as they get older you think they're not looking for Mutual desire or they have given up on finding I don't think they know what it even looks like because are you a successful man who has achieved endless Heights in his
career are you somebody who's absolutely made it in profession life person life just doesn't seem to match are you somebody who goes through in highs in business but intense lows in your personal relationships you might be somebody who has been blocking out relationships or entering relationships where you don't feel appreciated or it's lacking the sexual or emotional intimacy that you require if this sounds like you then I have a program specifically catered to your needs I've been helping high-end clients for a really long time and I'm able to identify the exact problems the exact causes
and the Exact Solutions so if this sounds like you then please feel free to register below your detail I don't think they know what it even looks like because they so replaced Mutual Desire with attraction from their perspective I had a video that was got a lot of hate where I said that um the use of prostitutes is um legal rape and I believe that men who look for Mutual desire they realize that consent is not simply somebody saying yes it's somebody who wants you as much as you want them that's what true consent looks
like in their eyes whereas who use prostitutes consent simply means yes regardless of whether that's manipulated consent or whether that's you know groomed or whatever it is as long as she said yes so even if you had to get that yes through an envelope on the table they'll take that yes they just want permission but men with high self-esteem they don't want permission they want desire desire is their true form of consent when a woman desires them so I think yes I do believe women are delusional with what they want but there's nothing more delusional
than that man that as he gets older and older and older still wants that 1920 year-old but wants her to actually want him she doesn't she's not going to want you is Trump raping Melania uh consentual rape and there is a thing it's where the consent is bought on and as a result it becomes consensual rape so you don't think it's possible yeah that she thinks oo like he's so powerful and so good at what he does powerful and status all of these things only matter when the underlying attraction is there let's say yeah that
my wife is in a car accident M and she gets burned is she raping me if I sleep with her uh no because the underlying attraction is there even though physically that's going to be tough physically now it's going to be tough but your premise for being together was is not destroyed because it wasn't that wasn't the premise of you guys being together that wasn't the contract but if the premise of Melania and Trump is that this guy smart he's uh an amazing politician businessman whatever do you think she would be with him if he
was broke tomorrow like lost everything of course not right so then the premise is the cons the contract says you have to maintain the conditions of which when we first met yeah whereas when it's love and connection and commitment we understand the conditions can change but we're committed to you for them they're committed to what their side of the deal with let me um change my answer slightly in that would would she stay with him if he lost everything and was trying to rebuild um I don't know I literally when I'm surprised I remember her
name so that is like how not attached to that world I am but I remember Lisa being very impressed when Melania was asked a question about you know why are you with Trump he's just with you for your beauty and you're just with him for his money or just somebody said you're just with him for his money and she's like hold on but he's just with me for my beauty like why is there such a double standard yeah now my thing is I really do think that there's probably more credit to give to cuz what
I always tell people is don't worry about getting the money become the kind of person that can earn that money so it's like most NBA players will never earn a championship ring but they should still be just beyond proud of themselves for being so good at something that they were able to make into the NBA so they're still the 1% athlete was exactly become capable of a championship performance even if you never win a championship so it is possible that somebody is just so good at a thing that somebody finds intoxicating that they're able to
get past that so I agree with my wife there are things that I'm into with her where the looks Canon will fade and I'm still going to be way into her but I think that there are far more Dimensions upon which people can be connected where I wouldn't call it consensual rape not that I'm ruling out the con the only reason I would say that is you have to think that is if the condition in which you chose to marry this person if that was to change would you still be connected to the person or
you connected to the condition I think it's all all conditions all the way down so if I stopped um if I stopped having a growth mindset and being persistent and taking care of myself and finding my path to confidence I I I agree um and same with my partner I would say the conditions are you have to be kind to me you have to be Lyal to me you have to be loving to me those conditions have to be met but my underlying and your underlying conditions are not transaction or they're more mut they create
Mutual connection whereas for some people they are they don't those conditions don't create connection they are just conditions so it is just Rich you stay beautiful you stay rich and once either of us breaks the contract we go because there's no actual Connection in that creates longevity which I look here's a thing I have no problem with transactional relationships I actually think in this rece response Mutual desire they realize that consent is not simply somebody saying yes it's somebody who wants you as much as you want them that's what true consent looks like in their
eyes whereas men who use prostitutes consent simply means yes regardless of whether that's manipulated consent or whether that's you know groomed or whatever it is as long as she said yes so even if you had to get that yes through an envelope on the table they'll take that yes they just want permission but men with high self-esteem they don't want permission they want desire desire is their true form of consent when a woman desires them so I think yes I do believe women are delusional with what they want but there's nothing more delusional than that
man that as he gets older and older and older still wants that 1920 yearold but wants her to actually want him she doesn't she's not going to want you is Trump raping Melania uh consensual rape and there is a thing it's where the consent is bought on and as a result it becomes consentual rap so you don't think it's possible yeah that she thinks oo like he's so powerful and so good at what he does powerful and Status all of these things only matter when the underlying attraction is there let's say yeah that my wife
is in a car accident and she gets burned is she raping me if I sleep with her uh no because the underlying attraction is there even though physically that's going to be tough physically now it's going to be tough but your premise for being together was is not destroyed because it wasn't that wasn't the premise of you guys being together that wasn't the contract but if premise of Melania and Trump is that this guy's smart he's uh an amazing politician businessman whatever you think she would be with him if he was broke tomorrow like lost
everything of course not right so then the premise is the cons the contract says you have to maintain the conditions of which when we first met yeah whereas when it's love and connection and commitment we understand the conditions can change but we're committed to you for them they're committed to what their side of the deal was let me uh change my answer slightly that would she stay with him if he lost everything and was trying to rebuild um I don't know I literally when I'm surprised I remember her name so that is like how not
attached to that world I am but I remember Lisa being very impressed when Melania was asked a question about you know why are you with Trump he's just with you for your beauty and you're just with him for his money or just somebody said you're just with him for his money and she's like hold on but he's just with me for my beauty like why is there such a double standard yeah now my thing is I really do think that there's probably more credit to give to because what I always tell people is don't worry
about getting the money become the kind of person that can earn that money so it's like most NBA players will never earn a championship ring but they should still be just beyond proud of themselves for being so good at something that they were able to make it into the NBA so they still the 1% athlete wise exactly become capable of a championship performance even if you never win a championship so so it is possible that somebody is just so good at a thing that somebody finds intoxicating that they're able to get past that so I
agree with my wife there are things that I'm into with her where the looks can and will fade and I'm still going to be way into her but I think that there are far more Dimensions upon which people can be connected where I wouldn't call it consensual not that I'm ruling out the the only reason I would say that is you have to think that is if the condition in which you chose to marry this person if that was to change would you still be connected to the person or are you connected to the condition
I think it's all all conditions all the way down so if I stopped um if I stopped having a growth mindset and being persistent and taking care of myself and finding my path to confidence I I I agree and same with my partner would say the conditions are you have to be kind to me you have to be loyal to me you have to be loving to me those conditions have to be met but my underlying and your underlying conditions are not transactional they're more mut they create Mutual connection whereas for some people they are
they don't those conditions don't create connection they are just conditions so it is just Rich you stay beautiful you stay rich and once either of us breaks the contract we go because there's no actual Connection in that creates longevity which I look I here's a thing I have no problem with transactional relationships I actually think in this day and age I can actually understand why a woman would say you know what you can't trust men anymore they all cheat they all do all this nonsense I rather be with a rich guy have all my kids
with a rich guy and then if we gets divorced we get divorced I completely understand that guy and similarly I totally understand the man that says you know what women they're all the same headache they all want the same thing why I why would I be with one that doesn't give me any sex when I could be with a young girl that's constantly got energy and she gives me sex I totally understand the transaction but what I don't understand is the delusion behind it if you know that's what you're going for don't expect intimacy from
that connection so I I'll meet people in those relationships where the man genuinely believes there's an intimate long-lasting monogamous connection but it's not possible if you're just I agree with doing absolutely anything you want just don't be delusional about it if you're dating a woman half your age that doesn't speak the same language totally fine you're using her for her beauty but expect her to be using you for your looks men are genuinely belied I know she loves me she loves me because of the term hypergamy because I'm more powerful and more successful women only
care about those those things more once they're fundamentally attracted to you they have to be attracted to you first then we give a if you're intelligent and powerful and successful but if that underlying attraction is not there then we're just using you and the underlying attraction can't be there when there's a significant age Gap some people will say no no no it can 90% of the time when couples like that happen she always leaves with a younger man she will leave with the broke personal trainer she'll leave with somebody that's around us because here's the
thing with women we fall in love with connection and we have have the most connection with people who are similar to us and when we got huge age grab he might be gorgeous but we are not connected to somebody that is from a completely different generation or anything they're just not connected so this is something that men forget so what is it then that causes um a woman to really fall for somebody like what should guys be um aiming at and she has to be naturally attracted to you first and foremost she can't fall in
love without some element of her natur what what like if guys are going to go collect skills or attributes what are the skills attributes that women find enticing um well outside of her naturally being I always choose women who are attracted to you I always say to men you will never ever get the same level of respect and love from a woman who's not attracted to you choose a woman who's attracted to you when you try and bypass that because you want a woman above out of your league and you just want that she can
be out of your league as long as she's still attracted to you some women are just attracted to you regardless so she has to be attracted and how you measure how attracted she is to you is how much a physical affection she initiates doesn't have to be women won't always initiate sex but when we're attracted to a man we constantly initiate physical contact so how much she has to be attracted to you once she's attracted to you she has to trust your judgment how does she trust your judgment you have intense amount of self-control with
at all areas of your life you're you're controlled with your money you're controlled with your food you're in control with with you know what your intellig everything you you have self-control if you are impulsive and you are chaotic some women will find that attractive but they are usually also very impulsive and chaotic women most women want a man that they know is naturally somewhat responsible it might sound boring in the short term but in the long run there is nothing more unattractive than an old teenager what is an old teenager a grown man who's still
impulsive so don't be that guy it's just not attractive to a woman learn to control your impulses whether that means your aggression whether that means your anger whether that means your sex whether it means your food you learn the art of self-control because only through self-control then you can achieve you can achieve whatever you want but without self-control it's like you have to stop and stop everything you start in life you have to stop and startop whether you make money or whether you have start a great relationship if you don't practice self-control you won't have
self-respect and therefore you won't you won't actually achieve your long-term Vision so really practice a lot of self-control I would say that is really important for women and you know the usual obviously charm and skills and all those things but you live a life that you're proud of one problem with men that you know not men but it can be for a lot of people is what's really unattractive is when a man lives a double life there are so many men that in public they might be very admirable might be very successful whatever it is
but their private life is one that is sholic or one that they're embarrassed of or they're asham ashamed of they might be doing things privately that they're not proud of you need to become a man that if there was a camera following you in private you would have no you would actually be proud of the things that you do in private whereas when you live a double life the problem is you'll have to use your false self to attract a woman and then she'll discover the real you and she'll leave and you almost you know
are always tiptoeing around women because you know that if she knew the real you she wouldn't be attracted so the key is to become a person who whose private self is congruent with their public self and as a result you'll be more attractive I know that's a very vague answer but essentially we're attracted to a man that is able to look after us and that requires responsibility yeah I won't say that it's a vague answer but I think it would be useful to understand um one why aren't men doing this now because this is just
all from my generation just common sense yeah so why aren't men doing it now and then how does this manifest like uh go start a business go sadly the reason why they're not doing it now is impulsivity is still rewarded by women because before they would have to earn sex and they'd have to earn access to women now on a drunken night out they can get her drunk you can get drunk and you can get her so impulsivity in this Society is really rewarded even when it comes toar making money if you impulsively invest in
a particular cryptocurrency you can become a millionaire overnight so the the culture we live in has rewarded impulsivity when really we know that it's not actually good for you in terms of your mental health as a man that's really interesting so no restrictions on sex means that men don't have to grow up they well they don't have to delay gratification they don't have to they don't have to do that they can literally live like a child forever I live in Dubai and you'll be so surprised that you'll see like men in their 50s still hitting
the club every weekend you forget your age and a place like Dubai because of you men that are in their 40s and 50s and they still hit the club every night and they still feel like they're young now they're like and they'll say but my body's young I look young there's no problem but you're not young I'm not saying you're old but you're not you should be responsible at this age and stage and they almost see it as like a badge of honor that they're 45 and they're still getting girls and they're still sleep getting
you know going to the club and that's something to be embarrassed about because you your self-control should have inhibited that desire
