How To Balance The Masculine & Feminine Energy In Business & In Life - Ryan Morseby-White

I believe men especially men should cry bleed and sweat over discovering and when a man's doing that he shows a higher level of Integrity if I mean welcome the man who went from working on trucks with his dad at the age of seven to now a six-figure coach who has coached over a thousand people now my friend Mr Ryan orsby what let's have a look at the masculine energy what's your relationship with leading committing or Deciding your dad's been pretty successful in his own right build a big business early to retire most people go on

retire at 70. do you think he is successful no there's that big deep void that's untapped if you want to go back to your 18 year old self and give him 30 seconds of advice [Music] alrighty guys welcome back to another episode of The Dream Out Loud podcast And today's guest is a speaker and a coach who has created his dream life living on purpose at the age of 26. coming for a background in carpentry being depressed and lost to now a man with a successful coaching business helping both men and women realize their true

potential and live their best lives he focus on helping those who are lacking energy purpose and direction to reignite their life and the relationships through the embodiment of The masculine and feminine energy so please help me welcome the man who went from working on trucks with his dad at the age of seven to now a six-figure coach living here in Bali who has coached over a thousand people now my friend and Mr Ryan Mosby white yeah man thanks for having me I'm so pumped to get into this it's been a long time coming it has

been a long time coming obviously I've known you for a very long time and um we talked about this a while Ago because you've watching your journey lately uh how long have we known each other actually let's start there uh over three years now I think yeah three years yeah three years yeah let's go say five I don't know what happened in the last two but oh wow right um longer story short we met at a personal development event um we started doing some business together and from the person I've seen you from then to

now is just amazing but What's most exciting is what you've done last sort of few months really like six months so you've really sort of stepped into this Arena it's like crashing it and you asked me a little while ago you're like hey we should do a podcast together and I said to you I was like yeah well when you get your business to 20K a month and then you know you've done the things that I but here's the thing I love most about you you do the thing That like you asked for advice for

us tips you get it and then you do it and you get the result so here we are says congratulations on the 20K month yeah thanks brother so in order okay in order for everyone here obviously I know a lot about you for an order for everyone here to really understand who you are what it is you do and and how you help you with now give us a little bit of an insight into where it started and what do we need to know About you and where you came from for it all to make

sense yeah for sure so uh man where it really started was in school I failed my whole way through school uh I dropped out super early I dropped out two years early from high school and I went and pursued a carpentry uh apprenticeship I was told all the way through school that I would never be good you know in you know using my brain basically so they were like you know just go work with your hands you Know you can relate with that same story for me yeah and that's exactly what I did so you

know I always wanted to create some sort of success or like you know an incredible life for myself by Design the only way I knew how to do that was working physically hard because that's what I watched my father do and from the age of seven I worked with him school holidays I didn't have school holidays I worked with him I I was in his truck you know working on trucks Doing hydraulic hoses and you know when I when I got my license I got the opportunity or the chance I was out of school and

I started my carpentry apprenticeship and from there I went all in um as I have with you know my journey right now went all in on learning developing as much as I can and I got really good at at being a carpenter and by the age of 21 I was managing multi-million dollar job sites big Architectural builds I was hardly even on the tools anymore uh then I I left that company and when I worked myself my own business and uh I started doing really well um I was 21 years old 21 yes 21 years

old my highest week at 21 years old was fifteen thousand dollars so for most people looking on that would think you've hit it like you've the most successful person coming out of school so what happened what what did you feel Successful then no not at all and even though I was making all this money I was doing well and people externally were like bro you're like you're absolutely crushing it like you should be so happy um but the truth was like I was deeply unfulfilled I was borderline depressed and all that money I was getting

I was spending because I needed that Vice I needed that fulfillment and that's something to give me give me that uh that life And this is basically like the start of the Journey of this work that I do especially with men um you know me building the successful carpentry business in the building industry was from uh me trying to seek approval from my father from the the from my dad so um me I was doing this not from a place of like my heart I was doing it from a place of survival and seeking love

and approval and validation from my dad so I Wasn't doing it for me and when I got there I was deeply unfulfilled and then through that um you know I became depressed and it became an absolute downward spiral from there on and basically you know I ended relationships I was just burning through relationships I started um you know I and here's the thing most people turn to like drugs alcohol partying um as a way to escape I used beating myself in the gym as my Escape I use punishing myself in the gym and like working

as hard as I possibly could seven days a week on the tools and in the gym as a way to prove to myself or feel some sort of like worthiness and uh that led me down quite a dark path of depression and I remember um one week I took a whole week off from from my work my business and everything and I just needed this space and I went down to the Gold Coast and I got a like A penthouse apartment for like three days by myself just like living it up just like spending all

my money I was just like I just I became just like Reckless basically and uh I remember one night um I was standing on the balcony I wasn't even drunk like I was this was conscious like I was standing on the balcony and I was looking down and I was like it would be so easy for me to just End this suffering right now and today why didn't you I knew that there was more and I knew that I was put here on this Earth for more and that there was a deeper purpose and and

that was a decision I made in that moment and multiple different decisions after that moment to really turn my life around yeah do you think everybody has a purpose I believe so yes I believe everyone has a hierarchy of values that they should live to and I believe that's where people's purpose is what happens to someone when they're not living on purpose when someone's not living on purpose and this is just speaking from my experience is they start trying to succeed not for them but for other people and trying to seek love and approval and

Validation from other people because they're not getting it within themselves you know they're not truly listening to their hearts desire and gift of you know what they're supposed to be doing and they're doing things that they think they should be doing you know living other people's values not their not their own in their own true path and uh that's exactly what happened to me like I got there I started making money I started doing really well and I Just experienced this deep level of unfulfillment and it led to that moment looking over the balcony here

hmm um so you're working with your dad from a young age and obviously I know quite a bit about your story and everything but what what kind of you know your dad's been pretty successful in his own right build it build a big business he's quite young to retire he's sort of recently retired um so a lot of people sort of look at That and be like boys hit so the Pinnacle you know he's like he's in his 50s right right which is early to retire most people go I'm gonna retire at 70. right and

they only do it because they can't keep work anymore um so in order to do that it would be quite um you know in society's eyes successful do you think he is successful do I think he's successful No and I say this from an absolute place of love and a place of Um passion for this work that I now do I have seen what happens when you're living in a place of survival and trying to create success from a place of fear and survival and it can get people a very long way can get people

very far and make a lot of money a lot of success a lot of status But in the end it's it's there's that big deep void that's untapped and uh and you know as humans I believe we all need a sense of meaning and purpose to really um to really live by uh so because it brings me to what I want to ask because like I said the majority of the population would look at him right I'm only using him as an example because I've know you've learned so much from Him so he's 50s just

sold out of a company that you work his ass off he works so hard for his whole life and he made a lot of money and then was like well what's next so how that's just one example how is society setting people up for ultimate failure in life in your eyes I believe that society setting people up for failure because they're teaching them to live from their head and teaching them to live from a place of What you should do and trying to paint everyone with the same brush instead of allowing people to actually tap

into their hearts true desire of what they actually want to be [ __ ] doing here on this Earth as soon as I did that I awakened like this this great potential Within Myself right you know when it comes to um when it comes to us living in our highest values right you know a kid can be in a classroom and this is this was Me right in a classroom and trying to read a book of algebra and maths and I just really struggled I couldn't retain the information or even sit down and read the

book so you know I'd bounce around or I'd seek validation or a Love by acting up and that led me to I got actually got expelled from one of the queensland's most queensland's um most prestigious private school which school is that um oh right yeah and uh that let you know from that approval Seeking and um but if you ask me anything about Motocross if you ask me anything about my favorite sport or Hobbies I could tell you everything and anything and I'll just be so focused on that one thing because that's what I'm passionate

about right so I believe when people truly tap into that burning desire of what they're here to do and you know what they're most passionate about their highest values that they awaken this Greater potential that's within them and that allows them to really activate this genius within yeah what's the exact same thing happened to me like I only went to grade 12 because I was a bit of a realist I was like okay what are my options today I stay in school and every single weekend I go to a party with all my best friends

there's girls at every single party we wag nearly every single subject we hang out we play footy every day Or I leave here and I got a job you [ __ ] that I'm gonna stay in school in fact it was so good my one of my best friends he repeated year 12 to stay an extra year with us he was a year older than us we get to year 12. he got the Year 12. we're in grade 11. he goes guys this is so good I'm gonna repeat and he had to negotiate with the

principals and like he had to like fully put up an argument as to why you to repeat and they let him so he could redo the whole year with us Like I should have done that but the only reason I went to that far was because it was so fun but I was the same I left there thinking that I was stupid because they they they like here's the test of life and and they measure you based off your ability to remember things based off not based off what you're actually skilled at and what you're

actually good at and you know one of my things that I've learned how to do now is be a speaker and a trainer and Teach um but they told me back then I would never be good at speaking and reading and writing yeah um I'm not very good at reading and writing but I can speak underwater yeah and it just like reinforces that that belief and that you start to develop growing up you know I'm you know I'm I'm not good enough yeah you know I'm yeah so talk to us about um I want to

talk about masculine and feminine energy how does society what What what's going on in society right now that is setting men up for failure in terms of masculinity in terms of unhealthy masculine or being more feminine how society setting making it hard I guess how Society making it harder for the Next Generation yeah I think it starts in the system basically when you know especially schooling and the shame that men have around being in their true masculine energy I believe Society has been set up to be the masculine to be perceived as dangerous as uncontrolled

as wild and manipulative abusive and you know you look at like the media all you see on media on like from what I've seen on the news and whatnot it's like you know men are doing this men are doing that you know um you know domestic violence all these things it always seems to be the man right so especially people that are like Programmed to you know when they're watching the news and TV and stuff they all they are brainwashed with is how bad and toxic the masculine is and this along with a whole other

plethora of things is making men feel shame about being in their masculine energy and how do they do that how do they yeah how how are men feeling shameful have been in the next time they feel that if I am in my masculine energy And this is an unconscious belief that they hold that if I am in my masculine energy that means that you know I am uh I'm abusive I'm controlling I am aggressive so they will do anything to prevent themselves actually being in that masculine energy because they see it as a bad thing

so their perception of masculine energy is skewed it's a skewed belief of what it actually is based off the role models that most people see Around what masculine is like you know growing up I thought to be more masculine it's like go in the gym get big muscles get tattoos like you know be in the pub with the boys like um that's what I thought masculine was I thought masculine was controlling dominant like aggressive and uh why would anyone ever want to be in that energy if they see what it does to women or other

people especially when it comes to the masculine and majority uh of the Masculine is perceived as um you know like they're they're very what would you say they want their own space they want to be left alone they just want to do their own thing and like be closed off right like why would you ever want to and push people away that's why I'm getting up the masculine I have witnessed growing up has pushed people away and I have said to myself I will never do that so What I I became a super nice guy

and this is what's happening to society men are becoming the nice guy they're surrendering right and not owning that true warrior or King energy that they have within themselves and then this is making women feel unsafe and then women are holding the masculine shield in society now so women are feeling unsafe because men are being more feminine yes more surrendered is that you're saying one of the reasons yes one Of the reasons yeah um because women highest values of safety right so what's your opinion on Andrew Tate I've never actually asked you this [Laughter] I

am I look I haven't consumed much of his his content I've gone too far down the rabbit hole but from what I've seen and here's the thing like I don't like to listen to people's opinions because at First I was like all these people like saying all these negative things about him I'm like hey I'm gonna actually consume some long-form media so I can actually see what this guy's about and his actual what's actually behind this because there's always stuff but you know you see you um Instagram videos and there's so much more depth to

it than the freaking Instagram reel and from what I saw like he he has a great I like what he's about when it comes to Men being men and men being in their power men stepping into their true authentic Warrior and King energy and then women being able to be women being in the feminine right and I in in an overview that's what I see that he's all for he is four men being men right and he can see what's happening within society and and the way that things are going and how they're trying to

push uh and how it is being pushed that you know men should Um be a certain way and this is making them become emasculated and becoming the nice guy or even worse the Wounded Warrior which is like the uncontrollable like physically abusive um man or not even a man a boy yeah yeah I like who you said there because it's first thing so when when when take Hamilton scene actually came um Simone on my girlfriend she brought in this video she's like look at this guy's a [ __ ] [ __ ] I looked at

a short Form video and I'm like and this was probably um you know I don't know well over a year ago when he sort of really first come on the scene and I saw it I was like yeah and like and then I saw more and more I was like wow this guy is so good and I start to actually get fascinated I was like this guy's so good at getting hated and still going and I saw more and more and more and then and then Same as you everyone's like he's nice oh who's this

he's and they got canceled and everything and then I was like well if the majority is saying this I'm gonna look deeper because it's probably not true because I looked at it objectively because if just my rule of thumb I could they could be right but I've never actually seen the entire crowd go one way and they'd be right about something yeah most people like 95 of people are completely [ __ ] lost and they're They're sheep and they have no idea and they joining the crowd because it's more important to fit in than is

to actually stand out yeah and then I start watching long-form content and I would really say about 90 of the stuff he says I'd be like I actually agree uh do I agree on his delivery of it you know he could definitely make it better yeah but he's a fantastic marketer yeah like I did the math his his online university thing he's Bringing over 100 million us a year right he's not he's an incredible marketer his interview just then with Tucker Tucker Carlson was the number one viewed interview in the world ever ever it's taken

the record so he's fantastic getting eyeballs which that's something to look at um but there is lots of things that he does talk about where it's it it does actually have a point where it's like um You know be someone with a strong mindset be someone who's a provider get up and work on your body work on your mind if you're if you're fat and lazy and watch porn all day long [ __ ] stop it because here's the reality if that's what your life's about you will you won't have a girlfriend yeah so yeah

if that's all your life's about like cut that [ __ ] and here's that that tough love sort of attitude but when you take a little snippet And you put it out of course it can look really bad but um you know I've always never I've always stayed very objectively with everything yeah I was just about to say that like the 90 of the population are very subjective on most things right and that's how they create that big divide and it's yeah you'll look at these things objectively and like what is what is like objectively

like what is he actually standing for and I I do like how he does Stand for the the masculine and feminine in embodiment in men and women and and uh and you know majority of men are lost yeah so you started talking before about the different uh like archetypes it sound like so what are the what are the archetypes of can we talk about masculine and feminine what are the different archetypes of age yeah so we've got the um first of all I'll start with uh with The masculine we've got the king the king is

very centered the king is very uh structured assertive um he's he creates plans and executes he's very decisive he's committed he's very loyal right then we've got the warrior right so if you looked at it as as like a chart right so like at the top uh right hand corner right of like a a little archetype chart the right hand corner is the king and then the bottom right the masculine is the warrior the Warrior is the exactly that it's it's controlled aggression so that's the thing most people think uh anger is about emotion anger

is very powerful emotion if it's controlled and directed in the right way so the worry is very protective it's the the worry is the energy that you use to like get [ __ ] done it's the hustle it's the it's the grind it's like it's the making [ __ ] happen it's the protecting it's the legit Warrior energy right and then we Go to the feminine the top left we got the um the the light feminine the light feminine is very nurturing loving very heart-centered very very kind very um open very receptive right and then

we've got the dark feminine the dark feminine is more the sensuality the very in touch with the body very creative very intuitive really entouched in touch with their sensuality and when it comes to masculine and feminine it doesn't mean male or female It means it's it's not gender bias we all have masculine or feminine energies and and Hindu mythology the way they talk about it is we are a hundred percent man and 100 woman as well but uh you know everyone makes you happy um isn't there more there uh and like I might be wrong

the other day we're talking about isn't there like well you made me do that test yeah something Different is there like different things because I want to talk about this so people can actually how can we give someone some how can we give these guys something where they can be like oh identify with that and that's something I get to work on right now so what are these different areas yeah so we've got the the archetypes of the psyche right this is what Sigmund Freud talks about this is the work of his work right so

we have the king warrior magician the lover Right so the king is very much what I just explained before he's very um you know all those traits for American and feminine uh yes they have more quality so um the king is obviously here's the thing if you can male or female embody healthy King energy uh traits that means that you are healthily in your masculine and feminine light dark right because uh a man or a woman a woman who struggles to be in their King Energy right those those uh traits and archetypes that I explained

through the light masculine the king energy um see the thing is we we must be able to switch between one or the other at any second right so you'll be able to feel into your body you can be receptive you can be loving nurturing assertive dominant like um controlled aggression like all these things in the minute what's up dream Nation have you ever wondered how far Ahead your life would have already been if you hadn't got access to this type of content at a younger age look this is why I need your help I'm trying

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into this episode I assessed a lot right because like you've done my Advanced leadership program you've done every single [ __ ] program I have actually um but Advanced leadership when I designed that program I design it around These because I was like how can I design a program that allows people to not just learn things not just understand them but actually embody um you know what it means to actually act out the the actions and behavior of a light or dark masculine light or dark feminine and I use as an example because I love

what you said it's like you've got to be able to have the balance because it's all about range which you know you know all About range right and how helpful to discover range but and I use as the example I'm like like I would like to think that's one area I've really worked on quite a bit in the last quite a while in my life is like discovering range and what I like to say it's like you've got to be comfortable meditating with a monk and then drinking with a bikie on the same day they're

actually different energies and different attitudes and and the and When people can start to judge um communities or groups or activities or behaviors or whatever it's like well that's not me it's like well that's why you should do that because there's resistance there and there's something that's where you're not comfortable leaning into it and everything is a game of energy so it's either if if it's like let's say that's why I love dance so much and I was talking to Nikki your family the other day I was like I was Like actually like men and

women should dance more especially women because to be a great dancer as a like a Latin dance as a woman you gotta fully surrender yeah you have to fully surrender and fully trust that the man is going to lead you and when you start doing more advanced moves like dips and all this sort of [ __ ] like there's a lot of trust that's going to come to that and there's a lot of women that have been guarded and and and don't Feel safe with the man and like that's a great space to start to

learn um but one example I give it's like I'm like what I've become very good at now is I know that I could dress up as like a drag queen and be so good I've seen it I could dress I was a drag queen and be so comfortable is that yeah and in the next moment knock you the [ __ ] out if I need to but not out of I don't like you out of if I was Threatened I would knock you the [ __ ] out and protect everybody in here yeah and then

quickly go back to being this no yeah you know and that the comfortability of that right yeah and that that's the thing like that's the work of oh there's deep work with with the masculine especially is like what is your relationship like with that controlled anger right can you protect yourself and when a man feels like he's got himself he has this whole different Energy he carries around he and and not only that but his woman feels it his woman feels like man this man's got me if [ __ ] hits he's a fan I

feel protected and when she feels that she can surrender to this man's power uh she can surrender into her feminine if she doesn't feel that then she has to have a masculine guard up to keep herself safe um it's true that right because like I used to fight a lot um which I've shed his times in a story And um this first time I've shared this story actually publicly so you guys can hear it but I told you about the other day the other day we're here in uluwatu in Bali and I was with Simona

and we're driving down the hill and there's guys walking across the road and I started giving him a beep beep beep and as I'm getting closer and close to him I'm like this guy's not [ __ ] moving and I hold the horn down like and we come right to the Screeching hole in front of him and he comes right to the Scoot and phone kicks the scooter like like wanted to fight like I want to kill me and it was interesting because I I've actually shied away from um what do you call it fights

what are you calling this uh altercations or anything like that in the last little probably three four years of my life I'm like anything sort Of like that I'm like ah I'm at it like I don't like it yeah I don't like it because I used to fight so much it brought nothing great I don't like it and so this was the first time any sort of aggression like a fight nearly happened in a long time for me and um it was funny because I was like oh well I just kindly kicked my scooter thing

down it's like sit here baby just hold on I'm Gonna Knock this guy out that was my first I'm gonna [ __ ] this guy up and um And then and that was what was going through my head and then I was just just like watching I was like oh I'm not coming from this as a yeah I'm like I'm gonna calmly um diffuse this situation with any way I need to if I need to and then he started pushing me going by the throat and all this stuff and I'm pushing him back and I'm

just watched I'm guided I'm waiting I'm like if you if you so much take a proper swing yeah you got your I'm gonna Put you out and put you to sleep and uh and it just kept happening kept going me and then I noticed that he was being like super weak right and I'm not saying it's like an ego thing I'm saying like he wasn't a confident uh embodied man bringing aggression out of me he was he was being this little yeah he's being a little boy yeah and and once I saw that and I

was like I started to laugh yeah I said man get the [ __ ] off the road man you want to fight me you want to fight me I said man if I want to fight you you'd be out already I'm like get off the road we had a bit of a laugh well I had a bit of a laugh yeah picked up my license plates kicked it off and just jumped back on the scooter and started riding yeah and then usually after like a fight it's like for the next day the adrenaline's up I'm

like oh yo I shouldn't [ __ ] do that and yeah and this time within five Minutes let's turn to Simone I said the [ __ ] was that yeah and then we started having a laugh and we had a lunch and everything and I was like that's that to me is is you know really being comfortable in the the work and being okay with that because I I think and I said to someone I say you okay she's like no I'm fine like I've yeah like I've she's like I kind of wish she knocked

him out and she's not like that at all she's like they have that which She felt actually like safe in that knowing that I'd make the right decision at the right time if it needed to happen I think it's super important yeah this is this is um as you say and then someone is laughing because this is what I call the grounded Warrior right and you've seen what happened you know I I snapped my finger and I've gone through this whole process you can see on my social media if you want to know the story

Um and that was the result of the ungrounded Warrior and it's like and if this is the prime example of the integration of the healthy masculine energy right previously so the ungrounded Warrior is the the that aggression that would have previously in the past would have been out of control and you probably would have seriously hurt someone yeah and ungrounded masculine energy is the most dangerous and most unsafe thing that Um a man can have and any masculine energy that's ungrounded is flighty it's like it's not grounded it can move around and it's very um

there's no calculation or anything it's kind of like ungrounded Warrior energy is very much like a Navy SEAL going into battle like kicking doors down and just shooting everyone and everything with no [ __ ] plan because he just wants to like Kill [ __ ] do you think do you well do you think that is The energy they're in or do you think they would learn more of well like is is that because nothing's good or bad do you think that's it's a useful energy then if you're saying that's the energy that they would

have at times it would be useful for that or are you saying not so much not so much because eventually someone's gonna get hurt prime example my hand right so it's about I call the grounded Warrior it's grounding down that masculine energy it's taking time To sharpen your ax putting a plan together being methodical about it and [ __ ] executing it's having that grounded energy that like you can hold yourself like you you won't let that energy just Outburst like you would just like for example you if you if your energy was ungrounded in

that situation um straight away yeah you would have hit straight away and Simona would have felt extremely unsafe and uh not only just in Your actions as well but like energetically women feel that whether or not there is a situation or not they can feel that ungrounded masculine yeah so how how can let's let's what so so that's an ungrounded Mass student what about ungrounded feminine what does that look like uh there's two ways it can go it can be very sexually manipulative very very seeking approval uh through sex using their body um or they

become extremely victim right This is and we're looking masculine feminine is not male is not um you know it's it's not gender bias Right male or female feel this if you're a man that's more in your feminine right you can easily become more of a victim or you can um you know become manipulative right um sexually and um and very very clever right very what I call the unintegrated magician so uh basically to break this down and to Answer your question from before about like what people can do if they're listening to this is first

of all like let's let's have a look at the masculine energy what's your relationship with leading committing or deciding if you're a man or you're you're a woman like take some time like maybe pause this take take some time to really write down what is your relationship like with um leading leading yourself leading Other people are you over controlling when you lead do you struggle to lead right what's your ability uh to commit to wholeheartedly commit can you commit based off your highest and deepest self or are you scared to commit because of your current

circumstances or what's your relationship like with making decisions you struggle making decisions um do you really uh do you make too many decisions where you just like over controlling it like you need to be in Control what's your relationship like with these right and that will help you determine what your energy is like if it's unintegrated masculine or integrated for example the healthy King and Warrior um can make can can lead can lead himself right in every way physically mentally emotionally he has the capacity to hold other people then he can wholeheartedly commit based off

his higher self right you know people that Invest in themselves at your events like they can make decisions based off who they actually want to be not off their current circumstances right that's a that's a form and that's an expression of healthy masculine then their ability to be able to decide actually make a decision this is what I'm going to [ __ ] do and I'm going to stop at nothing but make this happen killing off all any other option apart from actually making this work and finding a way to Make it work um these

are the three questions I like to help people discover what their relationship is like with the healthy um light and dark masculine Energies yeah so what are the three questions again read them out uh what's your relationship like with leading committing and deciding oh those three those three perfect yeah Okay so we've got the king the warrior what were the more feminine ones the Lover uh the magician and the lover magician lover yeah can you explain that yeah so these are two different archetypes by the way so we've got light dark masculine and feminine right

yeah and then we've got the archetypes that Sigmund Freud has created the archetypes of the psyche that we all have within ourselves which is the king warrior magician and lover right this freaking archetype for everything I know there is I like I really like it though yeah um Yeah it's quite it's quite incredible um to keep it more like tangible for a podcast yeah I think the light dark masculine feminine is going to be the best example so what I just explained there the lead commit to side is is more okay what's your relationship like

with light dark masculine now let's look at what's your relationship like with light dark uh feminine right so what's your how uh what's your relationship like with surrendering into your body right What's your relationship like uh with actually being able to receive what's your relationship like with your own emotions these three questions I ask people um and you know when it comes to surrendering into your body like can you tap into your heart at any second can you can you listen to this more than your head can you be led from this place instead of

the ego mind um Do you really struggle to tap into your emotional body do you struggle expressing your emotions do you express them too much like what's your relationship like with it right and then uh your ability to receive receive money receive compliments receive uh when people just want to help you like what's your relationship like this this is the feminine the light and dark so how can people really work on embodying a healthy level of masculine and feminine What are some quick things well practicing um first of all it's it's healing the mother and

the father wound so uh all the work that I do through the masculine and feminine everything that I've learned all the study I've done it seems to always come back to the relationship with uh the feminine role model you had growing up or the masculine role model you had growing up and the love you did or didn't receive from those energies And their representation how they showed up for you right so for example um the masculine the role model in my life growing up my my dad had extremely high expectations of me had very very

high standards right and was very emotionally unavailable because he was just working and this is another thing with uh with the last 50 years with actually since uh World War II it's been the industrial area men go to work and then because they work so much They're actually so emotionally unavailable they can't show up for their family and so I had a dad that was had extremely high standards of me and then he was emotionally unavailable so I would and Men little boys have a burning desire for that rite of passage that tick of approval

that you're a man you have what it takes you're wild right you can lead you can make decisions like you've got What it takes like and and when a man doesn't get that he'll continuously seek approval from his father from the masculine or when he doesn't get it from his dad he seeks it through status through money through chasing women um or just destroying himself in the gym or um you know alcohol but anyway dad had extremely high standards myself and I could never meet them and when I did meet them he had raised the

bar even More and every time he raised that bar I made it mean he never said this to me that's the thing I made it mean that I wasn't good enough and that feeling of not being good enough destroys your self-worth as a man and a man who lacks self-worth uh very much struggles to be in that healthy integrated masculine energy and therefore um you know that seeking for approval that's seeking for validation that bro You're you've got what it takes or you're wild you're a man uh that's how I broke my hand because I'm

like seeking love from people um for them to be like dude you're wild holy whoa because I hadn't healed that worrying with my Dad yet I haven't healed that wound Within Myself yet so I had this belief and I had this ungrounded masculine energy right so that's the masculine wound um there's so many you know there's more Depth to it but in a nutshell that's what I've noticed and then with my um the my feminine role model growing up it was very um it was very much more uh victim right very much more surrendered uh

like struggled with uh expressing healthy needs and having healthy boundaries right this is all the healthy traits of the feminine and that was my role model of that growing up right and because Dad was away more of the time And I spent more time with mum I was had a mum that was trying to teach me how to be a man but she's a female right so I became very surrendered in my um feminine had this untapped potential I wasn't speaking my truth and you probably even remember when we first met each other bro my

my voice was a lot lighter like I have a before and after photo of my face like two years ago I look like a little boy right and healing these these these masculine and feminine Wounds has really allowed me to tap into my true and Highest Potential and that's why I'm so passionate about this work is like um is like people can really truly step into their potential through working through these these wounds because we need healthy integrated masculine and feminine to be able to do all or create whatever it is that we actually want

to create in this life that's what I want to talk about so How has this so for everyone listening to this right like everyone listening to this is early stage entrepreneurs and one Insider business they run a business they're thinking about it they want to create some sort of success let's bring this and speak in the context of business and success and money now yeah because this year when did you start your coaching business I started in November well yeah November uh 2022. cool yes like seven months Eight months ago or something yeah and because

I know you had a big Libra so you're doing about 3K a month and then obviously you're in my Elite Mastermind you come to Ali Mastermind boot camp and I know what did you do the 30 days after that event yeah so um well to get give it some context as well um after I left carpentry I became a PT for five years so I coached business Owners and athletes in the gym for over five years and I was grinding as a PT and I just yet again I wasn't operating my highest values or my

purpose so it was a [ __ ] grind every single day and through the work that we've done in the last you know three four years like I have truly uh realized the importance of aligning my life with my highest values and and that's what I've started to do and then I really made the decision to go all in Um on November um yeah last year 2020 uh two and with that decision aligning my life my highest values and and with my purpose really awakened this next level of me my true potential and then through

that um energetically I was operating my potential but then I had the road map I had the tools I had the resources through the work that we've done right and through that decision going all in 30 days after we did Um the elite Mastermind boot camp I just integrated all of the things that you told me to do as as that's what you should probably do you're right if someone tells you to do something it's and they're living the life that you want to live you should probably try to do those things and that's exactly

what I did and yeah 30 days after I hit my first 20K month and then I hit you up and I was like yo remember that podcast you said I bet what's cool though so you did 20K in a month but that was about two months ago right so then and then you just said last month would you say you did again last month uh 16 17K 16 17 right which is great because it's sustainable because if you had to go back to like three this month I would have been like what the [ __

] happened yeah but you've built some sustainability in it which is cool so apart from obviously you know like leveling up you've always invested In mentorship like you've done every single thing we've done um how how does the feminine masculine sort of thing what did you what did you do like how did you use that to create more successful because it's not just skill set like honestly like like what I really provide people with me mentorship is the 20 of some skill set yeah um but a lot of mindset a lot of psychology then you're

really sort of Talking like energetics really as well so what what did you sort of specifically do that you've that you could sort of put your finger on say that thing there really helped me either feel good about making more money or made it easy to make more money in terms of the masculine feminine yeah um a way I like to explain it to my clients the people I work with is like uh when you're not aligned in life when you're on a line with your highest Values and your purpose and what you're actually supposed

to be doing it's like you want to have a constant strong flow of water through a hose but you have a million holes in it like a sprinkler and water is just spraying everywhere your energy is just being leaked everywhere trying new things you know wasting your time energy here and there like and there's nothing really actually coming from it right and when you truly align your life with your highest values and Your purpose everything just clicks into place in this flow and it's just like this hose that there's One Direction and One outlet and

there's so much more energy you have for that outlet that you that that you're supposed to be doing and so that's why I shared that that um quick story about you know going from PT to um you know building this this business I have now is I wasn't listening to my true hearts calling or desire what I was Truly here to do right and I look every single weekend I'm at personal development events right I'm at every single one of the things that you do I'm reading books every single day and it's like if that's

what I'm most passionate about I should probably build a business around that and once I truly stepped into that it's like one of the other healthy traits of the king energy is purpose I believe men especially men should cry bleed and sweat over Discovering their purpose when they have an outlet to truly Express their highest gifts to the world it's like that um that one outlet and there's so much more energy that can go towards it and when a man's doing that he's actually shows a higher level of Integrity right and it's a healthy masculine

and when he's expressing that higher level of Integrity people feel it they trust him more and in business people trust you with the product that you have as well So there's a lot of depth to that and then with the healthy feminines being out able to actually receive money as well um so yeah through this work of the masculine and feminine that I've embodiment that I've been going so deep in on in the last three four years myself really aligning each of the healthy energies you know being clear on my purpose having Direction you know

being in that in that that grounded masculine Warrior being able to receive being loving nurturing leaning from my heart being creative intuitive all of these things integration of all the healthy traits right has really allowed me to step into my true potential and and that's where everything really clicked into place and and has allowed me to um it's kind of like uh once I did that everything just got a lot easier like Business wasn't a grind anymore yeah yeah yeah and it's it's crazy like I've been grinding for so many years because I've been so

unaligned and as soon as I just clicked it all into place it's like same it just floats I I don't I don't think I work hard anymore I work extremely I'm extremely productive um and I work a lot because I love it um but compared to what I used to do it's mental nothing yeah yeah so dude would You um give me a Shameless plug here about the elite Mastermind obviously uh you know you've been in now for like six months link you've done every single thing we've done what what would your advice be to

any sort of other coach early stage entrepreneur someone who's really has this ambition to create an extraordinary life do you think it's a what's been in your experience with it Do you think that should come in yeah for sure so I've done lots of different programs um obviously all of your stuff and then working with so many other coaches around business embodiment mindset like uh I've done endless courses read so many freaking books and it's like what I found with the elite Mastermind is like it's a it's a freaking One-Stop shop like you plug in

you can literally create that life that you desire by Conscious design whatever that looks like whether it's like you want to build a successful business or you just want to have a deep meaning fulfilling life I've found it's like this freaking One-Stop shop when it's like here is the clear outline of like the Practical steps to build a successful business and here is the mindset and everything else that you need in order for you to actually go and do that and through that I've really Um like I said I've I've done lots of different things

and it's like it's I've wasted so much money on so many different things right when it's like like just invest into one uh and so I'm really loving masterminds right now it's because it's like there's so much and it's like uh it's not just a six or eight week program it's a it's an integration for a year to completely change your life and step into that embodiment now yeah I love it as well Because um like if I will say so myself because like as what it's turned into now it's the power of the people

because it's like there's people in there like there's some people in there that are so much better at [ __ ] than me at certain things and to have access those so for example like people jump in and like I know [ __ ] all about masculine feminine you're in the elite Mastermind and they're like Ryan tell me about this [ __ ] and it's that collaborative effect that is what a real Mastermind is about I was talking to my friend the other day he's like everyone's got masterminds I'm like I agree like everyone [

__ ] does but they're not masterminds Mastermind is really a thing where it's like community that culture of people just like you where you're getting mentorship and guidance and coaching along the way but it's not hand-helding it's literally like the community where you have to put On your own boots and go this is what I need help with who can get me access to the person that can get me that information and then you've got access to all these people that open up even more doors yeah and it's it's super freaking powerful I've I've always

made sure I've invested in masterminds and mentorships and things like this yeah because it's just catapulted so and it always seems to be the people in The Mastermind that ask the best questions You they tend to you know in the next six months have a complete different life and yeah we're you know now we're both here in Bali doing a podcast yeah I love it and um so anyone here that wants to actually it's the first time I've ever actually even plugged this publicly because the only way you can really sort of join this is

come to any of our programs but we've just opened up a way that you guys can actually join us in the elite Mastermind from anywhere in The world so we've got one that you can actually join here in Australia if you're here in Australia you can come to all our events and there's another one that you can actually come and get access to all the online stuff and come meet us in person here in Bali for our Global Mastermind of the year uh in person advance so if you want to get access to that we're

opening up applications for it right now and they're gonna be cut off very shortly Okay so send me a DM on Instagram at Morgan T Nelson mention this podcast okay mention this podcast because I don't actually plug this in any other episode mention this podcast since be like and just message me the word elite okay the message Elite to Morgan T Nelson on Instagram and I'll send you an application to join The Mastermind and if you're a fit we'll jump on a call personally me and you um to talk about The rest of the details

okay so if you guys want to join your lead Mastermind send me a word elite on Instagram apart from that Ryan has been sick where can everybody find you on social media and check out everything you're doing yeah so basically on every platform um Instagram Facebook and other my main sources of uh social media but uh Ryan Mosby white uh just search my full name it's a big word yes hard to spell we're gonna put in the link below the hyphen In there yeah yeah I know yep yeah so yeah you can find me anywhere

there Instagram's main spot yeah add heaps of value always running free online events and uh so much yeah free value for people to um to consume so yeah just jump in there and yeah and ladies you can check out his partner she's like amazing as well she's actually been on here Nikki Castle she's gone here she has very similar stuff to you just all the feminine stuff yeah we do lots of Relationship stuff as well together and we um we actually have our own business venture together around relationships which is epic love it all right

man I've got one final question but you know what it's going to be because you listen to this [ __ ] if you don't go back to your 18 year old self and give him 30 seconds of advice what would it be I would I would tell him to trust trust himself Listen to himself and uh yeah really trust what what my heart actually wants not what uh you know people what not what I think people want me to do right and trusting the process because I've I've worried a lot along the journey and it's

cost me a lot energetically and um you know through the fear and not taking action sometimes because of the worry but yeah trusting myself knowing that it's going to work out perfectly uh Since you know I am positioning myself in the best possible place for Success it will work out so yeah trust thank you so much for listening and if you got value from this episode it goes such a long way if you can just take 20 seconds of your time leave me a five star rating and written review then screenshot this episode and share

it to your story and make sure you tag me for that shout out and until next time guys Go out there and Dream Out Loud you know [Music]