so you're in your 20s and you're alone now what being in your 20s is like stepping into a world that feels both wide open and kind of Uncertain it's a time when you're figuring out who you are like slowly piecing together a puzzle with no picture on the box some days you'll feel totally free and excited like there are endless possibilities other days though you might feel a little lost wondering if everyone else somehow has it all figured out while you're still working it out the friendships you had growing up start to shift and sometimes
that feels lonely people are all moving in different directions and while it's natural it can be hard to handle but in these moments you learn what truly matters to you and little by little you find people who understand where you're coming from your 20s are full of discoveries like what makes you happy what feels right and what kind of life you want to actually build it's okay if things feel messy if you're not quite sure where you're headed being in your 20s isn't about having all of the answers it's about learning growing and figuring out
in a way that makes sense to you being in your 20s is hard especially when you feel alone I don't really have that many friends I have one best friend who lives 7 hours away from me and that's probably the most important friendship that I will ever have in my whole life I feel like I really fantasized about college the most when thinking about my 20s and I had such high expectations and I thought I was going to form this amazing friend group and have all of these amazing friends that I would be surrounded by
24/7 like I saw in the movies when I was little and then I got to college and I met like two people my whole first year and I only hung out with one of them I feel like when you're a kid you have all of these expectations and fantasies about what it's going to be like when you grow up what it's going to be like when you're finally in college or in your 20s and then you get there and it's not exactly what you think it's going to be like at least for me I didn't
really form any connection with many people simply because it's hard to make connections especially when you're shy and you're the quiet one and and you have all these insecurities that people don't really like you or that people don't really want to be your friends or be around you I feel like I got to college and it felt like I was just on the outside looking in and I was comparing myself to all of these other people around me and all of the other girls in my dorm room who would hang out with each other or
who would go out on the weekends and I would feel like there was something wrong with me and I couldn't understand why it seemed so easy for everyone else and why it was so hard for me for the first time I was in a place without any familiar faces and I was overcome with this overwhelming sense of loneliness all of the sudden I was surrounded by people who didn't know me who didn't grow up with me and who didn't understand me and I couldn't figure out a way to make people understand who I am because
it's hard for me to share myself with people who I don't really know this video isn't really about how to make friends cuz at that point in my life I don't really know the answer to that but I kind of hope this is more of just a gentle reminder to you that you don't have to have things all figured out and your life does not have to look like what you see on Tik Tok life is so beautiful and although it's fun to do things with other people and it's fun to have friends to go
explore with to party with to just hang out with it's not necessary you can live a beautiful life by just experiencing the simple things every day by yourself I feel like so many of us feel that sense of loss when we're growing up and a lot of us feel lonely especially within our 20s and your 20s can be a lonely time people move out people get new jobs people go to big cities it's normal to feel alone you're changing and you're growing and you're evolving and sometimes you need periods of loneliness to really appreciate the
times when you're not alone if you feel such a strong sense of loneliness and you feel so alone in this feeling I just want to let you know that you're not alone because I and so many other people also feel that way being lonely is so normal and comparing yourself to what you see online or comparing yourself to people that you wants new will only do more harm than good and going into a period of self-loathing and feeling a sense of jealousy is normal and that's fine but don't let that jealousy consume you use it
as a motivating factor to strive for a life that you really want and that you really desire don't feel like you're running out of time if you feel like you haven't form that solid friend group yet or you haven't made those deep connections yet Anything could happen at any time and just because it hasn't happened yet doesn't mean it's not going to happen [Music] okay to feel like life is messy right now because honestly that's just part of figuring out what works for you there's no rush no checklist to complete you're allowed to say things
at your own pace to not have all the answers and to even feel a little lost along the way this is all a part of growing into who we are even if it doesn't feel easy the loneliness you might feel doesn't make you any less lovable or any less capable of finding connection it's all just a part of this journey that we're on on [Music]
