Michael Singer - From Taking to Giving - Learning to Serve Life

GFF G Masters one of the most important decisions you'll make in your life it's not about who you marry it's not about your career it's about how you're going to live your life marriage career all that stuff they are subsets of how you've decided to live your life there are two totally different Ways to live life and no one will tell you that one is I'm not okay inside I have lackings I have needs I have fears I anxieties I have psychological issues jealousy insecurity self-consciousness embarrassment need for acceptance psychological issues and they make me

not okay in here so I'm going to live my life by trying to make things outside be the way that I need them to be so that I can feel better Inside that's how everyone lives their life and it's just a question of what did they decide and how good are they doing at it that's all it boils down to but that's how you're living your life that's how people live their lives I'm not okay in here in case you're arguing with me how do you know you're not okay in here because you need things

to be a certain way to even be partially okay forget okay and if they change you get all uptight don't you all right in other Words I'm not okay in here so I'm trying to make it be okay maybe once I get married it'll be okay maybe once I have kids it'll be okay maybe once I get divorce it'll be okay maybe once I get a job that pays me enough money so I can get what I want I'll be okay in other words I'm not okay that's how you have to look at that if

there are things that you need in order to be okay then you're not okay simple enough so one way to live your life is to start There it's starting point I'm in here you know you're in here I forgot are you in there hi anybody not in there raise your hand okay I didn't think so you're in there and it's not okay in there it's difficult it's a struggle a lot of stuff going on in there so I'm going to make that better by getting things outside the way I think I need them so that

I can be better inside or be okay inside that is one way to live your life that's the purpose of your life there's another Way to live your life completely different that is to be okay inside and I mean completely okay inside like the highest you've ever been all the time you know like in the moment of embrace at the moment of intimacy or the moment of winning the lottery or the moment of holding your first child that kind of peak masel called them Peak experiences right but they're not Peak experiences they're your state of

being I'm telling you that exists you are Totally okay all right so now what now you express that beauty that love that joy that inspiration that enthusiasm that you feel welling up inside of you you express it when you're interacting with life so it's not that you don't interact with life but you don't interact with life for the purpose of being okay because you're already okay you interact with life for the purpose of expressing your okayness For the purpose of sharing the beauty that's flowing inside of you those are totally different ways of life one

you're a taker I'm sorry if you are not okay and you are going out to life for any reason I don't care how you do it I don't care if you use guns or roses it doesn't matter you are going out there taking from the events that are unfolding in front of you to try to be okay because you're not okay inside That's what relationships are I told you my favorite line in a relationship is when somebody finally walks up to the other person and says you know this just isn't working for me anymore maybe

you've heard that line maybe you've used it okay this just isn't working for me anymore do you understand how rich that is so what are you telling the other person the only reason I'm in this relationship is because I'm not okay and I thought You would make me be okay you blew it this is not making me be okay it's just it did for a while and for a while you did a good job but it's not working for me anymore and because it's not working for me why would I be in this relationship there's

only one reason I'm in the relationship to begin with I'm not okay and that's supposed to make me be okay it's not working but it's a Telltale is it if you're living the other way you're Not a taker you're a giver you're whole and complete within yourself there's a fulgence of joy and beauty and love flowing inside of you unconditionally and you need to express it you need to write music you need to share it with somebody or somebody's you know the world I don't care but the point is you're living inside out instead of

outside in you have it inside and you are expressing it and giving it so the First Choice you have to make in Your life like I said is not your career or your relationships it is which way do you want to live because in both cases you have work to do listen to me don't sit there and say but I don't feel that now well you don't have what you need to be okay now either right so both cases you got some work to do don't you in one case you first you have to decide

what it is that you want in order to be okay don't you what college you want to go to what do you Want to me who do you want to marry when do you want to get married do you want have children how many boy first girl first how far apart where do you want to live you want to live in a city want live in a country want to live in the woods a lot of decisions aren't they they're tough aren't they that's because you're living the first way if you're living the first way

you've admitted you're not okay and You think that what's going to make you okay is the things outside of you so now the first thing you have to do is to decide what will make me okay what clothes do I buy or wear at a particular time how do I act what do I I mean my God there's so many decisions it's ridiculous all right if I'm around a group of people do I participate and give my opinion or is that scary and so I just listen and act interested because then it's more acceptable I

every single Second you make decisions don't you how is it going to be that makes you more okay than you are now scary I don't even like to look at especially your young ones and think you're going to live your life like that right it's not going to go away your parents are doing it your grandparents are doing it do you understand that all right it stays your whole life if you choose to live that way so first you have to decide what is it which is tough What is it that will make me okay

and oh I forgot about saying that there were things that could happen to make you worse maybe you notice that right so what is it that will make me okay what is it that will make me worse so now I've decided that pretty much okay now what it's not going to just happen so it's hard enough to decide what I want and what I don't want now what do I do now you got a job that was a job just made deciding now you're going to make It happen which one do you think is going

to happen by yourself that that's what you do you just sit down inside oh I want this I want chocolate and I want that and then it'll happen it's not going to happen just because you decided that's what you wanted to happen is it and it's not going to not happen just because you decided that's what you don't want to happen we clear so now you got work to do so I said what work I don't I don't know how to say it nicely You need to go out and manipulate everybody and everything to get

it the way you want you need to control the world anybody have control issues does anybody not have control issues right of course you have control issues that's such a silly thing to talk about oh i' I've psychoanalyzed you you have control issues I'm not okay we started off that way I've decided how everybody else needs to be for me to be okay including the weather better not rain tomorrow it Better not rain tomorrow I I got these plans and it can't rain tomorrow anybody ever done that okay so you've decided how everything needs to

be every person even the weather everything and now you know it's not going to happen by itself and so now you need to go out there and try to make it happen that's where your control issues come from that is the definition of a control issue you're not okay you decided how it needs to be for you to be okay and how it better not be For you to be worse and now I need to control the environment around me all of it in order to be the way I need in order for me to

be okay that's a control issue isn't there how often do you not feel that you ever be driving down the road and a car in front of you is going slower than you want well no you can't pass you got cars on both sides now what drive yourself crazy have a discussion with the driver in front of you I keep tell them my might they don't hear you Why are you doing that you're doing it to yourself right but the net result is is you will find if you study it just watch it that's what

study means if you witness it and watch it you have serious control issues everything has to be exactly the way you want and if it's not all kinds of commotion goes on inside and if anything even looks like it might be the way you don't want how you feeling scared anxious so that is how you're going to live if you choose that First way to live there's nothing we can do about it you you're not going to get it the way you want it why would it be the way you want let's be honest and

I know you want it to be the way you want I know you need it to be the way you want but let's discuss as intelligent human beings why would the moment in front of you be the way you want are you the creator of the universe did you create the moment in front of you did you make the atoms be The way they are I always tell you 13.8 billion years that's how long it's taken to create the moment in front of you isn't it from The Big Bang all the way through all the

forces of nature and everything came together and they created the things the way they are why is the grass green you don't want to know it take me forever to explain it to you has a lot to do with things that happened before doesn't it like everything the way the molecules came Together after the big bang and all that kind of stuff and the way light behaves and how everything oh my God I'm tired already right and that goes for why the sky is blue and that's goes why her sweater is red and every single

thing has a reason doesn't it nothing doesn't have a reason somebody says something to you why did you say that you don't want to hear the answer it has a lot to do with Mommy and Daddy and first sister and divorce of the parent right go ask Psychology I tell you the formative years have a lot to do with why that person said what they said right now right or wrong and it has a lot to do with what happened but they ate for dinner last night they had a little indigestion and they didn't sleep

well and so now right if you really wanted to know why somebody said what they said you'd have to go all the way back and study the whole thing with genetics everything therefore when you look into The moment and you come into the moment you're coming into I'm telling you I've looked very carefully there is no way it's going to be the way you want well how's it going to be the way it is doesn't mean you can't change it doesn't mean the next moment might not be a little different I'm just saying the moment

that's in front of you is going to be in accordance to the forces that made it be the way it is the moment in front of you is going to be the way The forces that happen before it C caused it to be how many of those forces were you in control of at any moment in your life like any one of you right now how many forces will you in control of who showed up tonight or what they're wearing or what they're thinking or who didn't show up tonight none none things are the way

they are because of all the things that ever happened before and has nothing to do with you and so the probability that things are going to be The way you want is pretty much zero and maybe you've noticed that right they are not it's not that you did something wrong it's not that God doesn't like you it's not anything like that it's it's physics it's it's science it's it's just things have reasons for being the way they are it's not true that it rained on your birthday because God doesn't like you if you want to

find out I rained on your birthday one has nothing to do with your birthday I guarantee you I've Studied meteorology there was nothing in it about your birthday books didn't say anything about it it rained because of the highs and lows and El Nino and right or wrong then why are you doing that why are you saying what did I do wrong it has nothing to do with you okay when you meet somebody let's say you meet somebody it's love at first sight did you make them did you have all the formative years and everything

did you make the Event take place you bumped into them a publs and fell in love I don't know dropped the groceries and picked them up together I don't know how it happens but happens doesn't it right you didn't do any of it if you just dare to look you will realize the moments are unfolding in front of you and you are noticing them you are not in charge of them I know you want to be because of what I said because you're not okay and you're deciding how it needs to be so you Really

want to be in charge of the moments you're not I again I know you guys are so smart but you got to get over this you got to get over this thing that because I decided I want it to be a certain way it's supposed to be no it's not maybe you shouldn't be deciding how you want it to be maybe that's the problem maybe the problem is not that things are not the way you want because they're not supposed to be the way you want do you know that there's three People sitting right there

not any of you want the same thing when she wants it to rain you want it to be dry whatever it is it's like everything's totally different every person has totally different idea of how it should be you answer me there's one world out there it's made out of atoms how can it be the way all of you want it to be when all of you want it to be different make sense some people say spirituality has nothing to do with Logic that's not true logic says the moments unfolding in front of you have nothing

to do with you they have to do with the forces that cause them to be the way they are what scientist is going to argue with that all right it's called cause and effect I'm going to repeat that what is going on outside of you has nothing to do with you the moment that is unfolding in front of you has nothing to do with you it has to do with the forces that caused it to be the way it Is every single time and you don't have much to do with those forces do you right

who's driving on the road and how fast they're driving and whether you can pass at this time none of it none of it whether it's a train that gets in your way whether it's raining when it's thing whether a person's nice when they come up to you whether they're not nice when they come up to you whether they like you or not has nothing to do with you how in the world can you take it Personal if you understand the complexity of the human psyche if somebody likes you or they don't like you it has

to do with them doesn't have to do with you it has to do with Mommy and Daddy and first girlfriend and first boyfriend and right or wrong you're such a small factor in that like what's really happening is you're standing in front of this person all right and you're you there you are you have a certain blouse on certain pants on Certain hair do whatever the heck it is your face looks certain way your nose certain size your ears have loes or they don't it's just you there you are there just your flavor your standing

there if you could see what is happening is this form of you is coming in through that other person's senses it's coming inside of them that's where they see you inside comes through your eyes all that kind of stuff and before it gets to their Consciousness you know you in there high It hits the psyche it hits all of their past experiences get stimulated by what's coming in so you're wearing a jacket that reminds me of my brother's but he died and whatever it is all right all this stuff comes in and it hits you

doesn't it and your whole psyche starts doing all kinds of stuff and it makes you either like or not like but you're not liking or not liking the person you're liking or not liking what got stimulated inside of you by the Person's presence watch it you'll see it stand in front of a painting all kinds of stuff's going to start happening inside of you based on past experience you had with that artist or whether you know the artist or not your mind will start talking I don't even know the person it can't be very important

Ren War it must be nice but it was it waso during his blue period And I didn't like his blue period all this stuff is just going to start coming up inside of you And it's either going to make you feel good or make you feel bad what is the stuff that came up inside of you not the painting therefore it's not true that you like a person or don't like a person or like a painting or don't like a painting a more accurate thing to say is I really like the way I feel when

I'm in your presence when you just get to the point where you realize you're just interacting with you in the first this first way of living so This control issue we understand that we understand that the world unfolding in front of you really has nothing to do with you it's just doing its thing and you're reacting to it so it doesn't make for a very nice life and that's why we have these discussions out here why if you're going to be here on a planet spin in the middle of nowhere for a few years why

not have fun you have a choice and enjoy it or don't enjoy it and I'm telling you if you live the first way You will not enjoy it there's no question about it if you are not okay inside and you decide how it all needs to be for you to be okay and how it better not be or you'll be worse and then you go into the moment that's unfolding in front of you and you think it's supposed to be that way you are going to suffer those are Buddhist teachings do you know that where

the noble truths all of life is Suffering well we kind of get that one down don't we rich people suffer poor people suffer healthy people suffer sick people suffer married people suffer divorced people suffer single people suffer young people suffer old people suffer so he said all of life is suffering and then really this is the Buddha you have to be respect he said he found the cause of suffering Buddha said I went out I studied it I meditated I starved myself Oh my God I did everything I could possibly do and he came back

and said I have found the cause of suffering what suffering all suffering whoa that's a pretty far thing to say isn't it and guess what he didn't say old age sickness poverty he didn't say that he said one simple thing the cause of suffering is preference the cause of suffering is deciding how you want it to be does Desire you know what a desire is deciding how you want things to be I I take issue with the word desire because in our culture what desire means it's lust greed of course that makes you suffer it's

bad you're not lusting greed and that kind of stuff no desire means having a way you want it to be doesn't it so the desire is I'm in here and I have a way I want it to be you know the Buddhist said you're going to suffer wow that's what we just talked About isn't it if you're not okay in there and you decide how you want it to be you're going to be worse that's all if you're lonely and you decide I want that person to like me you're going to suffer not a healthy

thing and so Buddhist said all of life is suffering the cause of suffering is desire or Preference they often Define it as preference it's a better word because the desire is preference and to end suffering stop It stop it literally now we're going to talk about that this other way of life what if you walked into life no you can't do it right now we'll talk about that but if you walked into life and you were excited to do so what do you mean you are excited that a moment is going to unfold in front

of you you feel honored that it took 13.8 billion years of everything unfolding the way it did for this moment to unfold in front of you you've dropped down onto A planet you used to live on Mars and there was nothing going on in Mars all right but it was was more exciting than where you were before you were just in empty space kind of just drifting through empty space for who knows how long there was nothing going on nothing not even a roach so you landed out at Mars at least there was sand and

now somehow you woke up on the planet Earth wow you won the lottery there's stuff going on in front of you all the time Isn't there every single moment there's colors and shapes and words and people and it's exciting right what if you live like that what if that's where you got your head that it's an honor to experience the experience I'm experiencing I don't care which one it is I'm just glad there's one there how would your life be wow you wake up in the morning I told you how a spiritual High being wakes

up in the morning they gigle I'm Back I wonder what will happen today you're going to find out that this state is everything Buddha taught everything Christ taught taught everything Muhammad taught everything the gala teaches everything every single tradition taught right it is the truth which is what if you let go of yourself what do you mean myself what you want and what you don't want all this junk you made up in your head you did just make it up didn't you all right what you want and what you Don't want you just made up

a whole world in there if you let that go life is unbelievable it's so exciting it's so so stimulating it's so challenging and and and it's unbelievable there is always something going on in front of you when was last time you said Thank you would you rather have nothing going on in front of you did you make what's going on in front of you happen did you create the People and the places and the things and the atoms and all the different things no well why would you not say thank you if they're giving you

this stuff I've gotten much further with it I'm not a physicist but I read enough you know to at least get a Surface understanding that what they have found when they look down there and what's in front of you is this Quantum field of energy remember I I said it was all energy there's Quantum field of energy And I try to understand it but it's very complicated somehow these waves become particles and etc etc and these subatomic particles pop out of this ocean of energy quarks leptons bosons you've heard about them they pop out it's

it's phenomenally complicated when you get down to you know quantum mechanics and stuff but you don't have to understand that they just do it okay and that's what you're looking at they are creating the moment in front of You if they are the cause of all atoms to be if that's where the atoms are coming from from the subatomic particles that are popping out and being put together by the fundamental forces then being put together as molecules and being put together then that's what this is so literally what's in front of you is a gift

of the quantum field I dare you to think about that because it's going to blow your mind all right don't go to school and have them teach you This and then go home and complain about how hard it is go to school and realize somebody has just given you the greatest gift that could ever exist they've told you or all right ask next time you go to your scientists you know when you're studying physics ask any of them excuse me Professor am I the one who's making the quarks and leptons and bosons pop out of

the quantum field because I thought I was and he's going to say no we have no idea why They're popping out the way they do you know is this uncertainty principles there's no way to figure out how they're going to pop out they just pop out and if you look at them they change so we can't even look at them all right it's very very interesting stuff this Quantum stuff all right but the point is no you're not you don't get to make the quarks and leptons and bons pop out but if every single thing

in front of you every single moment is that is the Manifestation of those popping out and coming together and manifesting up are you hearing me because that's what they're teaching you isn't it is everything in front of you made of atoms it's made of atoms there's not a single thing that's out there is not made of atoms the whole universe it's all made of atoms and the atoms are made of the subatomic forces you know electron Neutron protons and they're made of quarks leptons and bosons therefore What's in front of you is the gift that

the quantum field is is emanating right now period that's why he has a beer that's why your nose is the way it is every single thing is just popping out of that field creating what's in front of you every single moment what does that tell you you have a choice drive yourself Crazy by deciding I'm just going to make up how I want it to be I have no control over it in any way shape or form it's GNA be what it is because It's popping out of the quantum field right it I always say

to you you know the Christians say this is the day the Lord hath made the scientists say this is what has popped out of the quantum field what's the difference the only thing that matters is you didn't do it either case did you you didn't do it now you're not you know now I got your head where I want it it's kind of fun to think about isn't it right I forced you to look at it now you didn't do it and What you're doing about it is coming in and making up how you want

it to be just I don't want that to happen I want this to happen I don't want to rain I want this no it's the quantum field manifesting every single thing and you're sitting there making up how you want it to be you hear me and you're going to suffer you're going to suffer because it is not going to be the way you want who has noticed that it's not going to be The way they want see you're really smart people you caught on but you didn't know what to do about it because no one

will talk to you straight do you understand that it's like you're in here life is out here you did not make it it is a gift if you want to see it as a gift of 13.8 billion years of since the great bang putting itself together and creating all this neat stuff for you it used to be just thick thick hydrogen gases after the big Bang they got put together to make this or look at it as the quantum field manifesting what's in front I love that one because there's no argument about it all right

every single s of the world would say yes that's where it's coming from what's coming from this your wife your husband your children the car Empire State Building every single thing it's not that at one point it came out of the quantum field it is coming out of the Quantum field right now every single atom is being created every moment over again as it pops out and you stop there and realize if that's true what am I doing what's wrong with me why am I making up how I want it's not going to be the

way I want all it's going to do is get me uptight I'm going to suffer I'm going to have tension and anxiety I'll be OCD and and bipolar and all this will happen to me of course it will It's Perfectly Normal go over there and Decide you want to move Mount Everest when you're pinky go on see how you feel later you know some serious psychological problems I'm a failure what's wrong with me well just decide how you want the moment in front of you to be it's exactly the same probably easier to move Mount

Everest right how can the moment in front of you be under your control it's all the forces that ever were coming together to make it be what It is so a wise person lives the second life they sit there and say the truth of the matter is I'm not in control of this universe doesn't mean I'm not going to interact with it we'll discuss that in a minute but I'm not in control of it the moment unfolding in front of me has history behind it me I just made up what I want I'm going to

stop doing that what's the punchline I'm going to stop doing that stop doing what making up stupid stuff in my head and then Expecting it to be and what am I going to do instead I'm going to wake up in the morning and say I'm back I wonder what will happen that's not scary I wonder what will happen because I don't have a preconceived notion of what has to happen for me to be okay I just think it's exciting that something's going to happen there going to be colors and shapes and people and they're going

to talk to me oh my God all kinds of stuff's going to go on and that exciting Yes it's very exciting then you get up all excited like Christmas morning every single morning is Christmas morning to a spiritual person all you're going to do is get gifts all day all kinds of things or it's not just Christmas morning it's the morning of the Super Bowl and you're on one of the teams whoa here it is something's going to unfold in front of you it's going to challenge you right it's going to be a Big interaction

constantly it's a sport it's a beautiful thing what life it's beautiful if you let it be it's ugly if you decide how it's supposed to be it's that simple and I told you why because it's not going to be the way you want so if you decide that it can what a normal human being says I can be okay if it's the way I want as long as things I don't want to happen don't happen long as what I want to happen happens I'll be okay well then you won't be okay so you come To

the point of realizing I need to stop this that's the work so one way in the first way I talked about you need to work to try to manipulate and control everything around you to be the way you want and make sure it's not the way you want well you'll never succeed so be having fun all right the other way the work you have to do is to stop making up an alternate reality inside your mind and then expecting it to be that way two different works if you work at the first One you'll work

forever because there's always different moments in front of you nothing stays there's no super glue it just keeps changing even if you get something close to the way you want it keeps changing doesn't it or at least you're afraid it will right the more you need something the more insecure you are about it the other way if you do the work and you learn to stop being silly and making up all this stuff that things have to be a certain way for you to be Okay and you just start saying I am okay because I

get to be alive I'm okay because I get to interact with life I'm okay because I get to see the moment that's happening next in front of me it took 13.8 billion years to get here and I get to see it it is what the quantum field is emanating and I get to see it wow am I special you know how special you are what you are looking at right now no one else has ever seen and no one ever Will wow why is that not special and you understand you're seeing something different than she

is because you're sitting at a different angle right and then you'll walk out of here and you'll see I'm very different than she is so the sequence of events that you're seeing are completely unique to you aren't they and they will never happen again no one will ever see them no one ever has seen them and you're telling me you want to feel special you are special Really special the whole universe is putting on a show just for you why are you not saying thank you why are you not appreciating and embracing it participating in

it and just saying wow I am so grateful to be seeing and experiencing the moment that's happening to me instead of saying I will only be grateful if it happens the way I want well then you're you're not going to have a nice life the truth of the matter what you should be being taught is your Starting position is I am not in control of the universe I'm not the creator of the universe I'm the experiencer of the part of the universe that's in front of me aren't I how's that for a truth I am

not the Creator I am the experiencer of the part of the universe that's in front of me there's a whole lot of universe that's not in front of me so I better be appreciated the part that is in front of me and I'm telling you if you get your head there life is simple not only is Life simple but you're going to start to be okay you're going to realize this is a tough one for people you are okay your natural state is Way Beyond okay you're the most beautiful thing that ever walked to the

face of the Earth you're filled with love filled with joy filled with shuti filled with Chi filled with spirit filled with energy you're just a beautiful being well why don't I feel that all the time because you told yourself that you only get to feel it if That person likes you and behaves this way and either does open the door for you or doesn't open the door for you I'm a liberated woman whatever you decided is the way it needs to be and then when it's that way you get all excited don't you in other

words you have closed yourself down with your mind behind your mind is Spirit behind your mind is power is beauty is love but the mind will not let you experience it because your mind has conditions your mind says I'll be Happy if this happens I'll be happy if that I'll be very unhappy if that happens well what happens when they happen it's self- predicting prophecy right if what you say if you decided you like him and then he starts treating you nicely you get all excited if you decide you don't like him starts treating you

nicely you call the police you're doing this you're doing this by making this model of how things need to be for you to be okay you are guaranteeing that you Won't be okay and it's actually having the opposite effect of what you think so the opposite is to sit there and say I am not in charge of the Universe I am honored that is unfolding in front of me and if there's something inside of me that can't handle reality then there's something wrong with me not there's something wrong with reality wow it's like the whole

thing's turned around reality has the right to be it doesn't mean it's right from a Moral point of view but it is the result of all the forces that ever were causing it to be the way it is isn't it even terrible things that happen people analyze them and explain why they happen right go study Hitler they're not going to sit we don't know why he did what he did all right they're going to sit there and explain to you the forces that existed that caused even the most terrible things in the whole world to

take place things are the way they are Because of everything that happened before them you need to respect that you honor doesn't mean you have to leave it that way now let's come down to how do you live this life cuz it sounds like a lot of fun right no tension no anxiety no problems no problems can you live a life of no problems I'm telling you live a life of no problems why who decides what's a problem you do that pillow over there it's got a couple wrinkles in it is that Okay with you

it's it's a it's okay with her because she never saw the pillow before right it was her pillow and it didn't used to be wrinkled but somebody took it and sat on it now it's wrinkled so it's not okay it's a problem to her it's you couldn't care care less and you you like it remind you of your mother's pillow things are not problems things are things you make them be problems because you decide you don't like the way they Are how about if I Define for you the only problem I don't even know you

I know exactly every problem you ever had the problem was it wasn't what I wanted the problem was it was what I didn't want know other the problems you don't have problems when things are the way you want do you you don't have problems when things aren't the way you don't want do you okay you have problems because things aren't the way I want and you have problems because things are the Way I don't want you need to contemplate this those are the only problems you will ever have and so once you catch on to

this you say what am I doing I'm closing myself and then saying I want to be open and putting conditions on it I love the light coming into a room I I just love when light comes in a room so what I did is I closed the blinds and I put a secret code on them and unless I know the code they can't open but I know There's light out there and that's very encouraging what are you doing someday I'll get them open I got them open a little bit right wow look there's somebody and

they close back down because I didn't do the code right what are you doing don't put up the blinds who said you have to have blinds who said your mind has to be closed and then it'll open because you get what it wants a wise person looks at that mind and says wow goodbye h I don't need you you Need your intellectual mind 2 plus two you know quantum physics go have fun with your intellectual mind but not the personal mind what's the personal mind the mind that says I figured out how everything needs to

be for me to be okay that mind is ruining your life you are better off not having that one and so you start to work with yourself and we can talk about that at the end a little bit about what can I do to lighten the load of this crazy mind that's judging Everything and deciding what it wants and what it doesn't want instead of enjoying and appreciating the experience that are unfolding in front of me all right as you open because you're not buying into what your mind is saying like let's say you have

to give a lecture and your mind say oh you're going to fail you know you're going to bearish yourself I don't want to do anybody mind do that and so you look at that and you realize what am I doing I'm In here I'm going to give a lecture right and it's going to be over and it's like one event in the universe how many other things are going on in the universe the same time giv your lecture what am I doing what am I doing I'm going to enjoy the experience of the moment I'm

having I'm going to go up there and I'm going to do my best of course I'll do my best why not you're doing a sport how fun is a sport if you don't do your best that's Ridiculous isn't it right you want to do your best so you do your best okay and then you have fun you have fun up there and you have fun talking and if you make a mistake you laugh it's fun it doesn't matter what matters is that you're enjoying the experience of your life and I'm telling you if you're enjoying

the experience of your life you will do much better the person who goes up there is excited to give this talk right and just is studyed they're ready and they did Their best they can't wait to have this expression to put that out there are you going to do better than the person who bought into this Neurosis of oh my God what if I make a mistake and I'll feel so stupid right or wrong that's true of every single Le thing in your life so what it's about is rising Above This lower part of you

that has decided that it knows how things need to be for you to be okay and you sit there and say things don't need to be any particular Way for me to be okay however they are I'm fine I'm going have fun with it that's how you start to live this other kind of Life a wise person sits there and says I've only had so many experiences in my life really not many at the same moment that I'm having this EXP experience there are 800 billion zillion experiences I'm not having all over everywhere so right

I've only experienced the parts in front of me not very much in front of me is there There's stuff going on everywhere's else so I'm really not very experienced I'm picking up very very little data well at least don't miss the part you're experiencing by wishing you're experiencing something else by not liking it and you get to the point where you realize I've discussed with you before and it's true that every single experience is worth having no experience to better than others every single experience worth having Every experience you have makes you a greater person

let's say you're driving down the road and somebody cut you off that's never happened before you're 16 year old you just started to drive somebody cut you off and now you ran on your brakes you skit around but you handled it you are a better driver now than you were 5 minutes ago because you've experienced what it's like to be in that situation every single experience makes you a greater person You got into a relationship your first relationship your 12-year-old kid got into a relationship and it didn't work out you are a better person because

you went through that experience especially since your heart hurt your heart never hurt like that before now you've learned what it feels like to have a hurt heart go through it it changes you go through it and you see it you experience it you're a greater person aren't you because you had the experience every Single experience that you have makes you a greater person because you're experienced in that area when you're more experienced in that area you're better at it I I I told you I challenge you guys you you're going to have your roof

repaired you get three bids one is from the professional roofing company the other is from a handyman who do stuff and the other person has never ever done it before they've never been up in roof before they don't know Anything about the shingles they laying over but they were really cheap who you taken there's not one of you that would take that person he has no experience experience is Rich experience makes you a greater being doesn't it there's no experience that makes you worse except the one you refuse to have if it happened to you

and you said no I don't want to have that experience I don't want to get divorced I don't Want to have gotten divorced I never ever I didn't even want to get married because I was afraid of getting divorced my parents got divorced I swear I would never get divorced I can't believe I got divorced this is not okay you just screwed up your whole life what did the divorce no you because you refused to have the experience that what happening to you otherwise you're a greater being because you had the experience period every sin

doesn't mean You have to get divorced if you're married because you want to be a greater being right you're also a greater being because you didn't get divorce it doesn't matter every single experience you have makes you a greater being so if every experience I have makes me a greater being I don't know how to choose don't worry it'll be chosen for you you do not have to choose the experiences you're having they're the on you're having and so they come in and they I See I see the world like a river that comes in

and pours into the ocean of my being when the water pours into the ocean it makes the ocean greater it keeps it full it's a good thing the world comes in and feeds you if you resist it with your mind you suffer you cause big trouble cuz now the fact that you got divorced you'll never get married again you meet somebody again you'll be damaged goods there is no reason for that a why wise person allows The world to come in and feed them and they're at peace with it it's a state of equinity it's

a state of absolute peace the world comes in and it leaves you inside richer because it came in if you resist it with your mind it becomes a psychological problem now you're sensitive about it and so on so you catch on that the way to go to the second life which is that you're always having exciting I might say a good time you know if someone you love die it's Very difficult the heart hurts you feel lost what's wrong with that that's the difference it's not that you don't feel that what's wrong with feeling that

it's just another experience to have it will come and it will go and you will be a greater person a greater person Because You Loved a greater person because you went through a death like that a greater person because you went through this heartache and the emptiness that takes place it's natural you're greater for That if you're willing to let the experience come in and feed you then you're a greater person on the other side of it everything any experience people say it all the time I thought it was the worst thing that ever happened

to me so and so died and or I had a near death experience or you know different things happen right and oh my God I I feel so much more alive than before every experience can be beautiful if you let it be so a wise person living The second way of life gets up in the morning excited to see what's going to happen but they don't just pass passively see what happens they participate in the moment that's unfolding in front of them every moment that unfolds in front of you is there for a reason you're

there you're the only one that's can ever interact with that moment it's so special it's ridiculous it's literally custom picked for you you ended up there it ended up There and what you do is you do your best to raise it that's what I've gotten with this people always say what should I do with my life live it to the highest level you're capable of don't worry about the marriage and the the career and this and that just say that every moment that's my career that every moment that un folds in front of me I'm

going to let it touch me to the deepest part of my being so that I learn everything I can from it and if there's Anything it needs from me if there's anything it's asking I'm going to raise it to the best of my ability period And I told you the highest measure of your life is that every moment that passed in front of you is better off because it did that's a high being that's the highest service of life and so you get to the point where you say life is unfolding in front of me

here it is what are you going to do with it because what a normal person does with it is it comes In and hits their stuff doesn't it it hits their stuff and it makes them think of something and not like something and then they're interacting with it that way to try what can I do to make myself feel better not what can I do to serve the moment what can I do to make the moment serve me I'm serious that's what we're doing every moment we get in how do I need it to be

you come to this other side and you literally get clear enough inside to where the moments Unfolding in front of you you're conscious you're clear you're present with that moment and you're seeing whether it's asking anything of you and if it is asking anything could be just a tiny thing could just be a smile or it could be something is it asking anything of you if it is you give yourself to it completely without Reserve you put your whole heart your whole soul your whole being how can you not it took 13.8 billion years to

get there guys right Now can you not give your whole being to it and enjoy it's specific just for you it's like an art like an artist gives himself to their art this is your painting and so you give yourself to it then what happens the next moment see there is no goal it's not goal orientation the next moment's there you put your whole being into that then then the next moment's there if you will live life like that it will be the highest life not only will you be the highest Because you're not busy

with like and dislike you're serving you're living a life of selfless service but it's truly selfless because you don't need anything you're giving yourself to it but you're going to see that life knows what it's doing now that may be very challenging to you but I want to ask you this 13.8 billion years ago there was this big bang and what came out of the big bang with this thick thick thick thick hydrogen clouds Einstein wasn't around Okay Albert schwizer wasn't around nobody was around all of this CL clouds were there nobody was around and

I'm telling you they made this they made your body they made the DNA that knows how to make a body doesn't it the DNA inside every one of your cells knows how to make a body every single that strands of DNA you know all the chromosomes and all the genes and they know you a little cell a fertilized cell you put it inside of a Womb it grows into a baby it's happening by itself it knows how to do it where did that cell come from where did the DNA come from I don't care who

discovered it that didn't interest me I want to know where who made it where did it come from because it came from those gases those gases put themselves together over time to form that DNA didn't they it's like now I want to as's life no what it's doing every single thing you see got Made that way where the trees come from where the grass come from where the Earth come from where did everything come from right wow life knows what it's doing it didn't stop knowing what it's doing because you showed up it made you

if you will serve life if you put your being into the moment that's unfolding in front of you you're a student you study why because that's what I'm doing it's in front of me you do it you go to class you study you Participate you just do your best you just do your best what if my best is not good enough there's no such thing there's no such thing as your best not being good enough if you do your best then the results of your best is what will come back to you you can't ask

for more than that it's the best I could do you do that and there's no goal orientation there's no sense of of failure or success there's a sense of service if you're an artist and you love Painting there's no success or failure it's the joy of doing it the joy of Life Is Life is interacting with life every every single thing you're doing is the joy of playing an instrument The Joy of Painting by yourself all right you just because you put your being into it it's joyful and it's beautiful and then the next moment

happen the next moment I'm telling you life knows what it's doing and you're going to see you'll look back and you'll feel you didn't do anything You just serve the moment where do you see where those moments end up great things happen to beings who live like that it's a beautiful beautiful life it is exactly any of you ever study the Eastern teachings of The Da Lau we just describe what he meant by the da one who's living in the way what way the way right in between neither like or dislike neither good nor bad

just serving the moment that's unfolding in front of you now why can't you live That life because I got a monkey mind that keeps deciding what it wants so when it doesn't want it gives me a real hard time about it well that's why you meditate well that's why you do practice I es there are practices you can do to quiet down the mind there are practices you can do to free yourself from that constant bother some mind that's saying I can't be okay until such and such happens and instead you start realizing I just

won't pay attention the highest Way to transcend the mind it's not listen to it it's not to shut it up it's not to fight with it he just don't listen to it it doesn't know what it's talking about but over time you will find that you're capable of devoting yourself you in there to what's unfolding in front of you instead of devoting yourself to the mind that's making up how it wants things to be that shift is what Christ meant when he said you must die to be reborn when you're Done with these teachings you're

going to see they're Christ teachings too they're the cabala they're Christ teaching there's Buddhist way they're all the same it's all the same those who got Beyond themselves what does that mean you must die to be reborn all right it means that personal self that you think you are who made up all this junk of what you want and don't want has to fall away so that you can be who you are you in there all right and the Biggest clue I'll ever give you is when your mind's giving you trouble I'm going to stop

you got to find your own way right when your mind's giving you trouble let's say your heart hurts or your mind's bothering you I want you to pay attention to who you are that notices if you come to me say my mind's driving me crazy so my girlfriend left me my heart hurts and I'm going to ask you how do you know you can get real mad at me but going to say how do you know How do I know what how do you know your heart hurts how do you know your mind's driving you

crazy and finally you're going to say cuz I'm in here and I see it you who's in there that sees it are not it you're the one who sees it you're the Consciousness the awareness of being the soul the essence the self the Atman call it whatever you want that's who you are you're a very high being but you're watching something that's not so high you're watching something that's got Some serious problems aren't you well learn how to not pay so much attention to it learn how to relax just relax and you're going to find

yourself in a very high place then from that place serve the moments that are unfolding in front of you so that's that becomes your work and that's your spiritual work if you do that everything will happen gig