I think heartbreak is designed to teach you lessons I think everything bad that happens to you as a man is designed to teach you lessons I think that's why God gives them to you you're never going to be a good man unless you've suffered good men have been through a lot of bad things and you have to realize why she left or why your heart is broken so that you can change certain things and grow I think that the worst men on Earth are the ones who haven't had enough pain you're supposed to suffer as
a man you're born to suffer the whole reason God put men on this planet is to suffer and the best men are the ones who suffered the most I wouldn't be top G if I didn't suffer more than anyone else you're a better man than everyone else if your life was a mess and it was a hardship because you're not what happens to you you are how you react to it and the best men on Earth are men who have had their parents die their best friends betray them their girl betray them thrown in jail
their money stolen stabbed robbed did every time something happened to them they sat there and they looked in the mirror and said what can I learn from this how can I stop this happening those are the best men those are the men men respect those are the men women want want why do women love scars look they tried to kill him and they can't that's why I want him the best men suffered you find a man who's never been through suffering and nobody gives a [ __ ] about him men don't like him and women
don't like him it's men are not men are no good without it if you're an intelligent person you crash your car you sit and say how did this happen was I driving too fast no whose fault was it well an amateur will say it's their fault they came speeding out at me but professional will say no they came speeding out me why couldn't I avoid them why couldn't I move why didn't I see see it why am I on this road in the first place like a professional analyzes everything from a position of what they
could do about it having control over all things and it's the same with heartbreak if you ask an amateur why is heart's broken well she left me because of blah blah and he'll just blame her like a dumbass she's arrogant she doesn't listen to me she her friends convinced her to cheat she wants this that instead of saying I don't have what it takes to keep her I don't have what it takes to talk in a way that makes her not want to listen to her friends I'm not important so if you self-analyze everything then
everything happens for the same reason whether no matter what bad thing happens to you including heartbreak it all happens for the same reason for you to analyze and get feedback if you were more important and more successful she was less likely to leave you that's that's the truth the thing about life is you become a better person via feedback you don't ever become a better person via anything else especially not practice people say practice makes perfect that's the biggest mistake because it's not true because I often get asked Andrew how do you speak the way
you speak and I say well feed back and they say what well you've practiced right well everyone practices how to talk there's people who have been alive 30 years longer than me who've been practicing to speak longer than I have don't speak the way I speak for example it's just an example you have to feedback you have to watch yourself talk you have to see where you've made mistakes you have to see where you say um uh like you have to remove it consciously you need feedback to improve so if a woman left you that's
feedback learn the lessons and make sure it doesn't happen again or sit and blame her and pretend it's it's nothing to do with you and then wait for it to happen to you again cuz it will that's how life works like feedback I got from jail or my father dying or heartbreak or being stabbed or whatever it is all of these things happen for you to learn from them and everybody in life has these events and everybody in life has these traumas they can learn from but most people are too stupid or too arrogant or
too cowardly to sit down blame themselves look in the mirror analyze the entire situation as if it was their fault and see what they can do to prevent it from happening again if I get wet in the rain I blame myself why didn't I bring an umbrella why was why was I outside why was the car not nearer why didn't I check the weather it's all me whereas the average person goes why are you atet I it rained and it's not their fault cuz the sky rains not my fault I can't stop the sky raining
whereas I believe I could I believe I could have stopped myself getting wet even if I can't stop the rain it's a mentality heartbreak teaches you the power of understanding that in life things will always get better if you try to make them better there were girls who I dated when you were still a baby so let's say I was 20 years old and she was 19 years old I was 20 years old and we broke up for whatever reasons this girl this particular girl got some job when she had to move to London and
I was upset about it if the Heartbreak had never happened well I'd be that guy I'd be with her now I wouldn't have done all the great things that I've done heartbreak sucks and you do have to deal with it and again no when to walk away without begging or humiliating yourself especially in this day and age of dmss and messages being recorded and stuff and each heartbreak like with every bad event that happens in life sets an important marker that you eventually look back on on a longer timeline and you see the growth and
the self-improvement and maybe the hypothetical scenarios that would have happened had you stayed with that person or had you not been betrayed by that person and yeah it serves as very important markers on a timeline but it's own only once you progress a couple years past that timeline that you could see the knowledge in it unless you do it the wrong way and let it spiral you into a down the toilet of self-destruction in which case and you're like well that's when my life went completely wrong so no that's when you chose to give up
they're two very different things but heartbreak is fantastic I wish someone got I wish my heart could still be broken that would be nice well men live for women this is the point men live for women in every single way if women didn't exist on this planet everything about my life would be different I'd have fast cars cuz I like driving but a lot of the things that men do a lot of the things we say the way you dress lots of it is about trying to attract women trying to impress women and trying to
have women hold you in a high regard cuz if women in general hold you in a high regard then you as a high value man have your pick of the best women on the planet and there isn't a single R red blooded male out there in the world who doesn't like the idea of lot of different women being attracted to him even if he's got his wife and he's in love and it's the first girl he's ever been with and he's I don't know a Mormon or a Muslim or a Christian who's super involved if
you were to ask him would you like to be unattractive to women or attractive to women just in general he'd say attractive it because it raises the impression people have of of his wife for example so there's not a single man in the world who doesn't live for women in one way or another women teach you a lot about how to get women which is actually quite interesting like they do women teach you a lot about how to get women themselves if you want to piss a woman off ignore her don't insult her just don't
reply and you should know that because when did a woman annoy you most she ignored you that's that's right so like you can learn so much from them but women are the prize effectively sexual access or access to sexuality has always been a prize for men that effectively had to be earned you had to go to war and get a come back with a Valor star or you had to be a king or something to get access to sexuality so women were the prize up to a certain point and then if you're a high value
enough man you can say you become the prize blah blah but effectively women are a fantastic mirror and how women treat you tell you a lot about yourself because women are ruthless and if you're not a if you if they don't see value in you or if they don't see value they can extract from you you're invisible to them you know you can go to a nice restaurant with a girl and you can say how many men are in here and she'll say um three or four and she'll ignore every wayer if they can't get
something from you you're invisible so how women treat you in general is a good Mark for how much value you openly exude if they can if they can instantly see value on you they'll talk to you and treat you a certain way people think that beautiful women are really [ __ ] and rude no they're not they're actually very nice and soft and sweet they're actually quite shy and insecure if you're that guy but if you're not that guy they're like get the [ __ ] away from me cuz they don't even want to bother
having a conversation on any level because you don't exude enough value so women are a mirror they'll tell you everything you need to know about yourself and you should pay attention to it and you should change it no one is ever going to give a [ __ ] about you even 1% as much as you have to give the [ __ ] about yourself no one cares no one cares about you if you're a man ever everything is conditional you don't get loved unconditionally and that's a beautiful thing because that makes you strive to create
your own value as a man and the problem that men have is we all go from a time when everyone cares about us to a time no one does women don't lose it until they're maybe 45 and childless and they'll be like oh what the [ __ ] going on now she understands what it's like to become a 15 16 17 year old man cuz we've gone through the stage I remember my aunts and uncles hey little Tristan I remember you know they all cared about me back then then you get the 16 1718 you're
out in the cold world and you're like no one gives a [ __ ] do they I can't pay my bills I have no food nobody cares yeah your mother and your father will care a little bit but you have to care about them so I'd say the juk your protection is the other way around once you become an adult and you have to care about yourself so the best advice I can give to anyone especially the young men who are 13 14 15 who you know are sitting in their room playing video games and
their mother still bringing them sandwiches you know if she continues to care about you that much and you lean on it you're going to be a nobody and if she says okay you're 18 now get the [ __ ] out my house you're going to be a Nobody Until you make something of yourself so the best advice every young man needs to hear here is nobody nobody gives a [ __ ] about you at all until you make them give a [ __ ] people give a [ __ ] about me and Andrew now why
would you have given a [ __ ] about me if if I just [ __ ] stayed in my room played video games from age 18 till now no you would know who the [ __ ] I was as a man if you truly care about the world you need to improve yourself first because as a man if you're not capable your love means nothing anyway right you can say I'm a man and I love my dog but if you can't feed that dog and you can't home that dog and you can't afford to take
that dog to the vets and you can't protect that dog then your love means nothing your love as a man is directly correlated to your competence and your capabilities so when a man who is capable loves you it means something a man who's incapable loves you it means nothing at all so if you're uh incapable not necessarily important not necessarily financially successful person it doesn't matter what you feel about anything because you could be replaced and nobody gives a [ __ ] so if you truly care about that I guess the lesson is if you
truly care about an issue as a man the first thing you should do is you should improve yourself if you have a woman who you truly love instead of buying her flowers every day you should improve yourself if you have a town that you truly love instead of I don't know what you would do instead of telling everyone how great it is you should improve yourself and you should start a business in that town so that there's more jobs in that town it doesn't matter what it is self-improvement is the answer to showing your love
for anything as a man so when I see people say oh yeah I really love my girlfriend or whatever and then I look at the guy I say no you don't cuz if you did you wouldn't be sleeping so long you wouldn't be so insignificant you'd be trying harder in some way you'd be doing something you're not doing anything if you're not doing anything you don't love anybody I would say to all the young men out there who see me as a source of inspiration motivation knowledge I'd again say something similar that that I said
to my brother I'd say if I exist or not if I speak or not if I do podcasts if you hear my voice it doesn't matter you can do all of this without me as a source of motivation everything I've tried to say to you and everything I've tried to tell you you I've meant it because I care about not you personally but the way that men are perceived in this world and the way men carry themselves in this world and if you are a true fan of mine don't get angry don't go nuts don't
burn anything down don't let this become a moment in your life that spal spirals you down that toilet of self-destruction you don't need me and you can do this anyway and best of luck
