Hey friends, I had a friend in school time, who used to like a girl. Many people knew this except that girl, and my friend didn't have that much courage, that he can tell her that he likes him. He had fear of rejection.
Time passed but he didn't told that girl. After school time, they met randomly on Instagram. They became friend and staretd talking.
She came to know tat he used to like her. The interesting part is that, when she came to know, that he used to like him, she also accepted that she also liked that boy. But he never understood those signalss that she likes him.
But it was too late. That girl was in a serious relationship, whereas that boy was in other city. After listening this, I think that if he would have come to know somehow, that the girl also liked him, their life could be different.
Both could be in a relationship and happy in their life. It happens with may people, it's not about boy or girl. If you come to know, who like you and who doesn't, who is just showing off, this thing would help you to make better relationship, in getting better business partner and better friends.
So, learning that who likes you and who doesn't, is very important to move ahead in life, to live happily and make good relationship. So, today from various books, 'What everybody is saying' by Joe Navarro, and from 'how to make anyone like you', I'm going to tell you nine such signs, Umm, Bro, eleven signs not nine signs, If you learn that who likes you. On the other hand, if you learn about this science, you can make othe rpeople like you.
It's like double edged sword. You can use it to know, who likes you, and if you want someone to like you, then all this things can help you. Don't miss any of these points.
Without any delay, let's start with point no. 1. You must have seen non science things in movies, which doesn't exist in reality.
But sometimes movies tell some things right. One of them is that, when the hero goes to a girl he likes, he is confident with his friends, but when he goes in front of that girl, he gets nervous. His feet start shaking.
Words doesn't come out of his mouth. His whole body language changes. His voice tone changes.
And you can watch in this clip. According to a research published in Adaptive Human Behaviour and Psysiology, the feeling of anxiety and attraction is strongly linked. And this is the reason, when we meet the person we like, we become nervous.
We starts blushing. We get nervous. Shyness, nervousness all these are common signs, which shows thats he/se likes you.
According to scince, it happens because, when emotional trigger ges active suddenly, adrenaline hormone in our body starts releasing. It starts flowing blood by tricking our nervous system. Due to which we starts blushing.
Abd we don't have control over it. The first sign you should notice, if you are meeting someone and that person starts blushing, or starts getting nervous, either he likes you or have respect for you. Next point is about conversation.
If a person likes you, he will try to do longer conversations. On the other hand, those who don't like you, they will try to end conversation as soon as possible. That's the sign.
The question is, how you can have long conversations with that person, because it is also a major problem is mostly people, they want to talk but don't know how to talk longer. Let me tell you a simple trick about which you musthave heared. It's about open ended and close ended questions.
If you asl close ended questions from anyone, for example, Ankita, do you like watching movies? It's a close ended question. She can reply that yes, she likes.
That's it. But insted of this, when you ask, which movies do you like to watch and why? As soon as you ask open eded questions, that person will have to give long answer.
You can also ask, why do you like watching thriller movies? why do you like Hritik Roshan too much? When you use, 'Who, When, What, Where, How or Why, you can amke any question open ended question.
With the help of which you can do long conversation. You should do it. Note this similar pattern, when someone ask open ended questions from you, it can be a sign, that he wants to talk to you, and likes you.
I'm not telling you in air, it has been published in Non Verbal Behaviour journal, same thing has been told in same research. When a person want to talk to you for longer, wants to know your viewpoints and opinions, and is always curious abput you, it shows that he/she likes you. Next point is 'The sign of body languages'.
The author of the book 'What everybody is saying, Joe Navarro who was an ex-FBI agent, he has caught many criminals jusy by judging their body languages. For example, while solving a criminal case, author went near to victim's house, near which a neighnour used to live and he was interrogated, when he started interrogating that person, the exact schedule of the victim, what he used to do everyday, where he used to go and where not, when he staretd asking all these questions, he noticed the nervousness and low confidence in his body language. He noticed many such hints, due to which he started doubting that he also can be a criminal.
And guess what, when he was interrogated more, it was found that the neighbour was criminal. In 2008, according to the study of MIT, it was found that the result of a sales pitch or business meeting or negotiations, you can judge it very early with 87% of accuracy, just by noticing their body language. It's a powerful skill that you should learn.
If you start noticing people's body language, you can know, who likes you and who doesn't. Who's telling truth and who's lieing. It can help you to get good clients and do good sales in business.
In short, there is one more sign of body language, do notice that when a girl is talking with a boy, if she plays with her hairs while talking, it indicates that she likes you. On the other hand, there is boy who is roaming, and when he sees a girl, he starts making his hairs, or correct his dressing, this sudden change in body language, show that he likes that girl. I'll tell you more signs of body language, which shows that he/she likes you.
Next one is 'Shoe Play'. Suppose a boy and girl are sitting on the table, and is that girl starts playing with her shoes, you can watch on screen, like this, it can be a sign that she likes yoo. On the other hand, if boys are doing this, and are playing with their shoes, which is called shoe play, it indicates that person likes you.
Next sign is 'Direction of the Foot'. You can note that if a person who is talking to you, but his body posture, his feets, are in opposite direction, it shows that he is not comfortable in talking with you. He wants to take exit.
On the other hand, if a person is talking to you by standing in front, his feets are in front of you, instead of here and there, it can be a sign that he likes you. On the other hand, you should notice that, which is called base level body language. Mostly people have similar base level body language.
For example, most people talk while standing straight, they have a base level body langauge which doesn't change for anyone, it only get changes for specific people, here you can judge that, he/she likes you or not! This sign of direction of feet, it is common, normal people also do it, only on the basis of it, don't think that he/she likes you. Or else 99% people will be right.
I'm going to tell more such signs, you have to check them too. Because author tells that, you have to check all the signs together, and then you have to judge, he/she likes you. If you check just one sign, its accuracy can be wrong.
So, take care of it. Next point is about Torso. If you suddenly go to talk to a person, and when you go near them, she goes backward, and maintain the distance, it shows that either she is afraid of you, or she's not interested in you.
Every person has proximity level, they don't let anyone enter that level. So, you can check this sign also. If you are entering the proximity circle of a person, and they are not having any problems, and also showing more positive body langauges, it indicates that he/she likes you.
Next point is about having a closed body language. You have come into proximity, and the person in front has closed his hands like this, he is covering his chest, if we see the reason at subsconcious level, we human being, feel very vulnerable about front body language. all our important body langauges, heart, lungs, brain, all these are important for us.
If we feel threatened or negative, we close it. We close our hands, put pillow under hands whenever we feel nervous. We do it subsconciously.
If you are going near somebody, and if he is closing his hands, or showing closed body language, it shows that either he is not interested in you or he is nervous. Every person has personal space circle, an imaginery circle, he feels comfortable till it is empty. But whenever someone enters this space, he starts feeling uncomfortable.
It's called their proximity circle. Next point is Leaning. Our front body side is sensitive.
If you shift your torso at that place, when you feel uncomfortable or threatened, And it's not just about dangerous situations, Author says when you don't like someone, and are not interested in the topic about which that person is talking, you automatically sift your torso. Contrary to it, when you are interested in the people, you shift your body towards them, infact you lean towards them. if you are interested in them, or in his talking.
You can watch this example in the class. When students like the teacher, they listen them and lean towards them, by putting their body forward. Whereas when they are not interested, they sit backward.
They try to put themselves away from that situation. Next one is quite interesting, Mirroring. You might not realize this thing, we mirror many people since childhood.
We mimic other people. When a child is born, he starts seeing other people, and try to behave like other. He tries to mimic their actions.
We do this thing unconciously after growing. Not only body language, if you like someone, if he closes his hands, you also do it, while talking. It's called mirroring.
It makes that person feel that you like them. And also build a connection between you. It's not about just body language, author says when two person have similar interest to share, for example, they like same cricket team, they like same football player, or they like same books, whenever they talk about it, their conversations is very passionate, which helps them in building connections.
You notice, when people like you, they unconciously mimic you, they mimic your opinions and feelings too. They repeast the same words as you say. They copy your gestures.
Your liking becomes their liking. All these things are a great sign, if someone is mimicing you in all ways, it indicates that he likes you. On the other hand, if you want someone to like you, you can do it, that is mirroring concept.
Next one is about 'Duchenne Smile'. If you are given just 90 seconds to impress a person, how will you impress that person? The thing is that your first impressioon is established before you speak.
Author says, when you meet sonmeone, your body, your eeys, your facial expressions, tell much more about you. All the signs that I've told you, happens many times. If a person likes someone, he'll sim towards him, lean towards him and much more things.
Alongwith those, it's also a sign, they try to make eye contact with you. You must have notices that when a boy likes a girl, he will try to make eye contact. Many times they feel shy and break eye contact.
But after that, he will try to make eye contact again. This is also a cute and lovely sign that he/she likes you and make eye contact. When people meet, they do this thing.
To be honest, it is a universal sign. You don't have to make eye contact like creep people, that scares people. But if you start making eye contact in starting 90 seconds, it can be inmportant, and the other important thing is smile.
Smile is of many types. Sometimes, you just smile by seeing a stranger. But giving a smile to a stranger and the people you like, has a great difference.
When we meet people and smile for just for formality, it is called non dution category. In this smile, there is just lips moment. But when we like someone really, we smile whole heeartedly.
It is called dution smile. In this, not just our lips moves, our eyes get smaller and do a little moment. Our cheeks muscles get stretched.
Our eyes have a unique shine, which you can watch in these photos. This is dution smile. Non dution smile.
This one is dution smile and this one is non dution smile. Next sign is remembering small details. When I was in school, I used to like a girl.
I didn't know that girl also likes me. But one thing is that, she used to remember whatever I used to say. She used to remember every small things.
You did this on that daya. . .
you did this and that. One thing which was quite visible was that she used to remember my birthday. I didn't remember her birthday.
But she always used to wish me on my birthday. My birtday is on 1st May. And my school was off on 1st May.
But she used to make sure that after holiday, whenever my school was open, she used to meet and and wish me birtday. It's a big example but if there is a person, who remembers your small details, and don't avoid small details, it indicates thathe/she likes you. Your small gestures, actions.
Why? Because our brain remembers those things, which we really cares about, and are important for us. It might not be important for you, but the person who likes you, and remembers your smallest details, that means you are important for her, that's why he/she is doing this.
This thing shows one more thing, if someone remembers smallest details, it shows that the person was really interested in you, he wasn't just listening you, he was also remembering that things, was understanding you, was connecting with you. Example, wat you like in eating, what clothes you wear, what things you like and what not, which types of movies you like and which not, which types of songs you like and which not, all these examples shows that if someone remembers all these things, your favorite colour and all these things, then it's a sign. Couples ask questions each other, tell me about my favourite color, what do I like and waht not?
Because they want to check that the person likes you or not. It becomes like a test. It's not necessary that a person like everything, but it happens mostly.
If someone remembers your things, it's a great sign. I want you to tell the next sign that you have noticed or read in book, comment down that sign which shows that the person is interested in you. The sign which if you do, that person will take interest in you.
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