all right I'm coach Cory Wayne this is my video coaching newsletter and the topic of this newsletter is going to be when you stop caring results will come got an email here from a viewer he says hey coach I'd like to ask how to behave when you give up on a girl that you liked for example say that you like to grow and she's taken a long time to respond to your text she goes hot and cold and leave you waiting to the point you give up and then she contacts you but you feel like
what's the point what is the best way to respond to tell her thank you for getting in touch but I'm going to have to decline and explain the reasons why or just not respond at all or ever well part of your problem is you're obviously too focused on when somebody gets back to you and that is a that is an indication of neediness on your part and so when you act that way and when you think that way and you behave that way whether you realize it or not you're actually communicating weakness to women on
the other side and so they start to get the impression from you like that needy stalkerish kind of behavior and it causing the back up of pause and all the sudden several days go by they don't hear back from you and then they start to think oh it was just the feelings go away and then they start to wonder I why doesn't he call I haven't heard from and then that's when they reach reach back out to you but like I said if a girl is hot for you and then all of a sudden she
goes cold one of two things is going on either a there's another dude in the picture that she already knew or maybe it's an ex-boyfriend that she's trying to get back together with or be the other option is that you simply did something to screw it up because if you were doing everything right with a girl she'd be calling you more in texting him or pursuing you more in wanting to be with you more as opposed to less so there's obviously something that you're doing and saying when you're interacting with these women there that are
turning them off and just the fact that you're so focused on when she gets back to you got to stop giving a [ __ ] that can't matter because there are women out there I've met a lot of over years I've had amazing conversations when it gives you some really insight and how they think and because there's so many guys out through the dudes they act like a stalker it's like the guy leave a message it's a seven o'clock at night and then he doesn't hear back and then at nine o'clock at night he's calling
her and then he calls her the next day and maybe the girl was out maybe she's on a date with another dude maybe she's out with her girlfriends and so she get looks at her phone she sees all these messages he just thinks this is [ __ ] weird and so she can tell from the tone of the dudes voice that he's getting impatient he's upset and it's not he's not calling because he wants to see her he's calling because he doubts that he's got a shot with her in other words the only reason why
he's calling is because he's trying to get some level of comfort within himself so he feels better so he feels like he's got a chance because what's really going on is deep down he believes that he doesn't deserve to have what he really wants and so he just assumes he has a belief system that tells them it's just a matter of time before the girl gets rid of you and so in essence he's trying to prevent that from happening by trying to forcibly interject himself into her life and when he does that he acts like
a stalker and of course that's going to cause a woman to back off more and want to have nothing to do with you so like I said that's that's where you're going you're doing something or you're saying something when you're when you're out on dates with these women and plus you're you care about you care too much about when she gets back to you and you got to stop giving his [ __ ] sometimes it might be three or four days what if she went out of town on a business trip now I had that
I wrote about this in my book I had a squirrel I [ __ ] wanted to date her for years that she always had a boyfriend and I ran into her I hadn't seen her for a while and she's single and we made a date we had a fantastic [ __ ] time on this date and I was like going on cloud nine and then a couple days later I sent her I think an email or I call them I can't remember what it was this place was like 15 years ago and a couple days
I'm buying in here I didn't hear back from her it was like a day or two went by and so I sent his nasty emails like why you know what's the deal and basically she like a week and a half went by then I get a C email from her she's like hey I told you I was going in New Orleans I just didn't know for how long I just soon was for like the weekend or something she was like two weeks and so I said this nasty email and she sends me a nasty email
back just saying hey I basically have a nice life and I felt like a complete jackass because it was my impatience and my neediness that totally [ __ ] it up because I just assumed that it was just a matter of time before she blew me off because that's what it always happened in the past when I got around women this way and I was a vet man just like I said from listening to what's going on with what women are doing and how they're reacting to you it's either these particular girls either have another
guy in the picture that they're trying to get back together with or you're doing and saying something and like I said just from what you've written here is communicates neediness to me and so if you're communicating that and an email you're obviously communicating that when you're talking to women leaving messages or whatever happens to be in the words that you choose and in the tone of your voice as well and so that's why you're you're running and the problems that you're running into so you know you got to let go it's like you leave a
message for a girl you got to wait for her to get back to you she doesn't get back to you guess what it means she doesn't want to talk to you she doesn't want to see you and just because a girl gives you her number doesn't mean that she wants to have your child because a lot of women will just give out their numbers figuring hey I'll just get rid of the guy later and I'll just ignore his phone calls and then he'll get the hint and he'll go away as opposed to me rejecting him
in person and take the chance on him being with those guys it won't take no for an answer and won't leave me alone and create an awkward situation when I'm just trying to hang out and have fun with my girlfriends what she's thinking and so I said it's just you gotta you gotta stop giving a [ __ ] leave a message wait for the girl to get back to you because if you're impatient you're going to [ __ ] it up just like it happened to me one time and I learned a very valuable lesson
for and this particular girl was like it was love at first sight for me when I met her it's just that she had a boyfriend I think was like a year a year or so later I ran into her because we used to frequent a place where she worked and so I used to see her all the time and then I hadn't seen her for several months run into her turns out she has a boyfriend anymore it was like boom it was perfect opportunity and I just totally [ __ ] up because I acted like
a needy insecure our jackass just in essence like what you're acting here so it's it's not going to help your case if you keep acting this way like said when you stop caring the results will come leave messages and the girls that like you they'll get back to you when they can and you got to be patient otherwise you'll be blowing really great opportunities unnecessarily so if you have a question you want to ask me go to my website click the contact me tab which will be the left hand side of your screen it just
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