is getting married a solution for it should it be quit at once or gradually there are people who say this is something natural it's a human need how would you respond to those people almost everyone knows the troubles and harms of these but those who are addicted they think they will not experience these troubles so let me tell you this for sure if you don't quit this addiction from the friends I know who got married this is certain 100% you will have those troubles I used to be someone addicted to PM even someone who couldn't
get rid of this situation then one day I realized how nonsense my situation was and first I completely got rid of this addiction of course when I was removing it from my life I did a lot of research and with those research results I got so far I have helped many people quit this addiction and I still continue to help them quit so how did masturbation get to the addiction level for you I'd say because of time abundance I mean in the past I really had a lot of free time and nothing to do so
I could easily fall into this sin well I can already say the main reason why many friends start this addiction and then can't quit is free time of course this is not the only reason reasons change from person to person the second major reason that pushed me into this addiction was the environment or rather the lack of it for this case the best example would be the rat Park experiment I guess for those who don't let me briefly explain first they take a mouse put it in a cage with one type of addictive water and
one type of normal water as a result of this observation they see that the mouse is addicted to that addictive water then this time they take it and put it in a cage with different mice where it can spend time and has colorful balls this time they see that the mouse is not addicted I mean actually humans are also like this now if a person doesn't have a Social Circle where they can have fun have a good time together and talk about their problems they turn inward and by their creation humans would like to be
happy if a person cannot get that happiness from their Social Circle they turn Inward and their feelings and desires lead them to do it you know for example now people who don't like their appearance surroundings or the environment they live in are generally in a state of inner depression so they look at other people and think how great lives they have how beautiful how handsome the guy is and so on such people are constantly depressed inside and as I just said humans are always looking for happiness so for a moment to get out of that
depression the point they resort to happens to be again this addiction there are people who say this is something natural it's a human need how would you respond to those people well one of the sentences I hear the most is this this is my need now what we call a need means something that we can't live without like what for example it's like eating drinking water breathing Etc so if we think about it in this context is there a person who has died because they did not experience porn and masturbation is there such an example
porn is not a need but a desire now after saying this a question I often get is this I have a desire inside and a suitable organ for this don't these make it a need and I tell them as I mean think about it like this for any reason let's say a friend started using drugs if you ask him at first is using drugs a need for you he would say no I take it for pleasure after that if he increases its dosage and becomes addicted does it then become a need for him so this
is actually something like that a part of your brain can get disrupted by drugs and you have a mouth to take drugs but these don't make drugs a need just like that having a desire inside and having an organ for it does not make it a need either if you ask what about afterm marriage is sexuality a need then I can say yes in a way it's a need then but right now what is the issue we are talking about pornography and masturbation these are not a need so to those who say these are a
need I want to ask this is pornography and masturbation really sex so do you categorize them as sexuality I mean here let's say this pornography and masturbation are desired and sexuality is a need only after marriage so how does this situation reach the level of addiction in a person now let's mention something that will explain both this topic and many others here our brothers studying medicine should know this better there are certain neurotransmitters secreted in the human brain like what for example serotonin dopamine Etc here I will talk about dopamine the happiness hormone what is
this dopamine dopamine is our neurotransmitter for being happy and feeling pleasure so in the human brain there is a mechanism that we call the reward system humans thanks to this part enjoy the things they do in daily life this dopamine while drinking water eating studying you know when walking and so on it's constantly released now here people may have this question in their minds if in everything I do a certain amount of dopamine is released then why do I feel unhappy sometimes okay let me explain it like this right across where dopamine is released there
are some recipients receptors the released dopamine comes and attaches there so the pleasure we get from an activity it's not related to the released dopamine but to The receptors that perceive it that is from here we get this the more receptors a person has the more pleasure they get from the activities they do I mean let's think about it this way let's say the weather outside is very nice your inside what would you do you would open the windows and all then fine air comes in but imagine that suddenly a dust storm breaks out what
would you do the first thing you close would be the windows now the brain works in the same way since pornography and masturbation release a very high amount of dopamine to keep its balance the brain is for to shut down many of its receptors and this ends many of the pleasures you would get from daily life let's say in one of my hands I have the best kind of dessert and in my other hand I have healthy meal which one would you choose now here because it's more delicious people would say desert so just like
that when asked to choose either spending time with family or with pornography or masturbation spending time with family releases 100 units of dopamine while pornography and masturbation release a high amount of dopamine like 500 units so instead of spending time with family laughing and having fun with friends outside unfortunately people can end up isolating themselves and turning to pornography and masturbation the ending of many friendships the decrease in communication with your surroundings not wanting to spend time with family the root cause to all of these is actually this PM two options are presented to you
and because it releases more dopamine you choose pornography and masturbation I can say the reason it gets to the addiction level is this what are the harms of pornography recently I read a medical journal and according to to the research explained there pornography causes the brains of addicted people to shrink by addicted people I mean those who watch it constantly so just think about it you are watching pornography and your brain keeps shrinking of course we don't have to consider this shrinking in terms of only its volume there is also a decrease in its function
this is what many professors have said there was also another thing the structure called the left paman which is responsible for responding to sexual stimuli it was said that its function also decreases so this left putan is responsible for responding to sexual stimuli and if it gets damaged and if there is a decrease in its function you almost don't get aroused so at that point in terms of sexuality there is not much left in you you don't get aroused and I can clearly say that's one of its aspects regarding marriage after creating masturbation do its
negative effects disappear yes after a certain period of time recoveries begin in the body first the sperm transformation system recovers regulating this can take time depending on the addiction but on average it recovers within 70 days of course of course this is not the only thing that is fixed I mean you know we listed its harms like forgetfulness memory weakness and lack of attention and it makes people obsessive Etc also over time because you keep constantly improving yourself and now the body doesn't need to spend energy in one place all the time these harmful effects
recover at some point and people restore their old feelings of course the sooner this happens the better so no one should think I'll continue now and quit later definitely don't get into such a mindset because the harm you do to your body affects your personal velopment a lot many things you can do right now might fall behind so I recommend quitting right now what do you think about people who say I do it once a week or once a month how harmful can it be there are dozens of substances that leave the body along with
sperm which are really important for the body so even if you do it only once you would still be doing that harm to your body let's say you bought a new iPhone what is its purpose of production communicating surfing on the net and things like that right but if you take it and once in a while use it to hammer na into the wall how logical would that be so now why would a person perform an act against their nature and creation I mean even if it would be once in a while it still wouldn't
make sense and they know it has harmful effects so why would they do it actually it's kind of similar to this cigarette addiction you know at first one two cigarettes then a pack of cigarettes and actually there are many of those telling me these things like they say it happens now and then no problem after that they say brother I can't get rid of this I receive such messages a lot so they should just never do it we already said the sperm transformation system after a while recovers itself and then regular nocturnal emissions would start
to happen after this start they won't feel the urge to do it anymore so they shouldn't do it is getting married a solution for it no it's not why if it is at the addiction level unfortunately marriage might not be a solution now this has many scientific and psychological reasons but I want to tell you something recently a very close friend of mine experienced it my friend is someone who was trying to get rid of this addiction actually he struggled with this issue a lot he went to doctors used various medications spoke with psychologists but
he couldn't get rid of it one day he called me and said the solution to this is marriage I will get married then he got married and after he got married we didn't talk for a long time later when we talked and shared our troubles he explained what happened he said for the first 2 3 months we were very good we had a normal marriage we were going well then my wife started to seem like a normal person to me and actually because I couldn't enjoy my sexual relation relationships after every sexual encounter I continue
to do masturbation because of this honestly I am not happy with my marriage I want to divorce now I know his wife too she is also one of my close friends when I called her she also complained a lot she said he started to see me just as a friend a buddy he doesn't want to take me to bed anymore I feel like he hates me I love my husband very much but I can't take this anymore I will get divorced and after that they got divorced if a person is addicted and thinks marriage is
a solution they are wrong definitely first they should quit the addiction only after that they should consider marriage what we call sex is not something done just with the body the soul and feelings are also included there now since masturbation is only a physical pleasure and does not involve emotions after a while if people are addicted they will again start seeking it so they will start looking for that physical pleasure and it will drag their marriage into trouble actually many people are already experiencing this today if you check forum sites many people talk about it
and if you ask what if people are married and addicted what can they do getting closer to their spouses emotionally might be a solution for this problem what was the biggest reason that made you quit the biggest reason that made me quit was learning about the troubles I would face after getting married I mean at that time I was a student and only students know the stress of being a student back then there was exam stress University stress after that one day I stopped and thought I said why am I going through all this stress
so that I can have a better life after getting married well it's not just students today there are millions of brothers sisters working outside so some of them are working to get married and others are working to continue their marriages more easily and to live a more comfortable life think about it you spend your 20 25 years in school and the rest in working for what after getting married to live a comfortable life but even after getting married they cannot be happy why because you did not give up a small pleasure at the moment honestly
this seemed very silly to me and at that moment I decided to remove it from my life now now since I am very sensitive about marriage this worked for me but because characters and Natures are different people may have different reasons for themselves for example this is very interesting I have a friend who loved football a lot I mean he loved it too much to play on artificial turf pitches and all one day I told him if you quit this addiction you will be more active on the field you have tryouts ahead to get selected
for the Youth team if you quit you will be more energetic and play better I told him these he said okay I will try then he tried when he really saw the difference on the field then he completely removed it from his life now he is already being trained in the youth Squad of a good team knowing that it's harmful why does a person still repeat the same mistake over and over again because we are humans and we can make mistakes this is in our nature and it can repeat because of this one should not
fall into despair so somehow this effort must continue now there is also this when feelings come forward the Mind Falls behind really because there are intense feelings at that moment the Mind remains in the background we mention its troubles like the difficulties after marriage different kinds of problems and so on WE counted many things right but because the mind falls behind people cannot think of these facts at that moment what should be done to keep the mind in the foreground we need to keep our spirituality firm a bit someone sent me a message recently and
I asked the same question to him you know you will regret it why do you still keep doing it then he said brother I know many of its troubles but when feelings become intense at that moment I don't want to think about those troubles so feelings come forward and the mind falls behind and because of this it's easy to fall into that mistake again should it be quit at once or gradually it's a really good question now from the people I dealt with I have understood this if a person truly wants to quit they can
quit at once many people write to me because of this conscience feels guilty there's a certain guilt in their conscience then and they write to relieve it I tell them some things at that moment they say okay thanks but they can fall into it again so what is important here is is whether they really wanted to quit or not those really wanted to quit quit at once I have witnessed it too now to those who want to completely remove this addiction from their lives I give a tactic through that tactic the mind can actually come
forward it's like this I ask them to take a paper and pen and write these four questions then I want them to think about those and find Solutions why am I addicted what are the reasons pushing me into this addiction why do I need to quit this addiction and finally how can I get rid of this addiction if if they write these questions analyze themselves and solve the issues it becomes easier to quit at once why because this time they are not getting tactics from outside he himself comes up with something and so it works
and thanks to this when crisis come these Tactics come to his mind at that moment this time instead of an external tactic he starts to get to know himself and then to look for solutions by himself and in this way it becomes easier for him to get rid of it with this tactic there are dozens of friends who quit it actually one of them is my best friend also almost most everyone today knows the troubles and harms of these things but addicts usually think they won't experience these troubles if a person can establish the thought
if I don't quit this addiction I will definitely experience these troubles in himself it will be easier for him to get rid of the addiction so let me say this for sure if you don't quit this addiction the friends I've dealt with so far stand as a proof by the way after marriage 100% you will experience troubles on this topic I received a message recently brother I have been married for 5 months can I now stop having sexual intercourse here it comes from this addiction again so convince yourself that you will experience these troubles which
you will if you don't quit after establishing these then you can start taking steps to remove it from your life and once you realize it's harm you automatically take action actually there are many things that I want to add but there is a painful issue which hurts me a lot on this topic I believe that it all ends with the family the parents today when children cry many parents give a smartphone to the child immediately my relatives do it too they make them to watch TV show them cartoons and do many other similar things on
this matter I ask parents please don't do such things because cartoons are not really innocent or the child grows a bit then the parents send them out to the streets with the impression do whatever you want one of the first places the child goes is the internet cafe so a father should really not allow his child to spend hours in an internet cafe I mean just let your child grow up with you laugh with you have fun with you let them know that they can be happy spending time with family too so the basic point
is if parents can keep their child away from social media some things will get better so let's suppose a child wants to watch cartoons and cries a lot for it he says give me the phone and all now when that child grows up when some desires increase even slightly if they are alone what they watch won't be cartoons anymore I mean many people think like this the age of watching pornography is 156 it has increased a bit no right now the age to start watching pornography is nine so think about the rest yourself and to
those who ask what can we do about education and awareness I recently saw a nice post on your page it was something like teach your children the Quran the Quran will already teach your children what they need to learn I really like that message so if a child can succeed in adopting the morals of the Quran if they can be successful about growing up with the fear of God I honestly don't think they will have these issues on this matter also actually I want to confess this after this addiction left my life there was a
void and what we generally recommend is to add something to your life instead of that addiction at that point whatever I added to my life felt like it wasn't the right thing thanks to your channel I got to know copit so far I can say that copit has provided the greatest benefit for me with its staff's here education their attention and services and all in a very short time it has strengthened my faith a lot and finally I want to say this what is human when you look at it the Rising Sun this world these
countless blessings fruits various flavors what are they for they are for humans right I mean I hope this phrasing is okay a human who is so valuable in the sight of God I think they are not that helpless to be defeated by a feeling that's what I know and this is what I say [Music]