My stepdaughter wants her real dad to give her away? Fine, let your real dad pay for it.

my stepdaughter wants her real dad to give her away fine let your real dad pay for it my stepdaughter will be getting married on August 3rd the wedding planning has consumed most of her and her mother's life for the past 6 months her mother and I have been together for over 10 years but we not officially married my step-daughter graduated last December from University I paid for her to go to college though it was a state school it still cost $40,000 she does not have a job and has been living with us for the duration

of her college career and since her graduation I also bought her a car to get back and forth from school when she finished high school from time to time her deadbeat father would pop into her life and she would Fawn all over him although he has not contributed Ascent to her education or paid any child support though that is my girlfriend's fault as child support was not part of the settlement she still loves him and wants him in her life he stays long enough to break her heart by skipping town and breaking some promise that

he made to her the wedding venue holds a maximum of 250 people I provided them with a list of 20 people that I wanted invited you know since I was paying for everything they assured me that it was no problem and that they'd take care of it so I informed these people that they'd be receiving an invite and should save the date on Saturday I saw one of my friends on this list at the golf course and asked if he was coming he told me that he wasn't invited according to him he received an announcement

but not an invitation he had it in his backseat and showed it to me sure enough it was just an announcement and my name was nowhere on it it only had her dad's name and her mom's name not mine this led to a pretty big fight with my girlfriend as I found out that none of the people on my list of 20 made the cut for the final guest list because apparently 250 people is very tight and they didn't have space for anyone else I was upset but there wasn't much I could do since the

important people in my life had already been Ed my girlfriend said if some people didn't RSVP I might be able to get a couple of people in but that is the ultimate slap in the face in my opinion so I was boiling on Saturday yesterday we had a Sunday dinner with the future in-law's family us and a surprise guest the real dad during this little dinner my stepdaughter announced that her real dad was going to be able to make it to her wedding and that now he'd be able to give her away this was greeted

with a lot of Applause from everyone I don't think I ever felt so angry and disrespected I was shaking I took a few seconds to gather my composure because I honestly wasn't sure if I would cry or start throwing punches or both once I was sure I'd be able to speak I got up from my chair and said I'd like to make a toast I can't remember exactly what I said but the gist of it was this I'd like to make a toast the sound of spoons against glasses rings in my ears it has been

my great pleasure to be a part of this family for the past 10 years a how sweet at this point in my life I feel I owe a debt of gratitude to the bride and groom because they have opened my eyes to something very important confident Smiles are exchanged they have shown me that my position in this family is not what I once thought it was now a glimmer of of confusion and shock begins to spread on the faces in the room though I once thought of myself as the patriarch or Godfather of the family

commanding great respect and sought out for help in times of need it seems instead that I hold the position of an ATM good for a stream of money but not much else as I have been replaced as host both on the invitations and in the ceremony I am resigning my financial duties as host to my successor the real dad so cheers to the happy couple in the path they have chosen I finished my drink you all can let yourselves out is this selfish am I supposed to Shell out 40 to 50 grand for a wedding

that I can't invite anyone to that I am not a part of I'm so done with this crap I'm done with my stepdaughter I'm done with my girlfriend I transferred the money out of our joint account last night she has not had a job since she moved in with me this morning I called all the vendors I had written checks to for deposits to refund my money at present it looks like I'll lose around $1,500 for the venue but the other vendors have been great about refunding update one the immediate aftermath was a tantrum with

people sitting there mumbling not actually saying anything to me but to each other after much yelling with a girlfriend about me being selfish I spent the night in my home office and no one knocked on my door not once today's aftermath is kind of depressing for me the girlfriend brought me the bride's wedding planner to show me how much work I was ruining I thumbed through it and found a page in the music section for father and daughter Dances all of the songs were catered to the real dad's taste so I thought they were just

being disrespectful but now I'm feeling like they never really gave a crap at all especially since the menu included two ingredients I'm allergic to that actually made me laugh either way I'm glad to be done I returned the planner and asked her when she and the bride could move out also I never promised to pay for the wedding I offered them the use of my home when they were sure it was going to be small but other than that all I've heard is how it's the bride's family that should pay so let it be the

bride's family then aka not me update two girlfriend and bride have now moved out they are moving in with the groom it was very hard not to be Petty with some of the belongings they took with them but it's done and I switched out the locks now it's time for a brew I can't believe how popular this story got but I feel good to be given support by so many if I find out what happens with the wedding I will let you know but I can't guarantee that I will put in the to find out

from what I've heard they are trying to scale things back and get his parents to help out girlfriend burned Bridges when I found out she tried to write herself a check on our joint account the day after the unpleasantness by then I had already moved money so I guess I'm a bigger ass than her but I could feel it coming that's all thanks