[Full Story] My Sister-in-Law is Planning a Wedding at My House And I'm Not Invited, But

my sister-in-law is planning a wedding at my house and I'm not invited but on her wedding day the princess is surprised to find I've changed the lock and there will be no wedding I'm 34 years old and have been following this sub for a long time lately there's something in my life that I needed an opinion on I've read many posts about sisters-in-law to see if anyone else has gone through my situation and how they've handled it well I guess my situation is unique and I need some advice about it it's about my sister-in-law which

is why I can't discuss the with my husband you know family complexities so here's the thing my sister-in-law 27 years old is planning a wedding for the spring she wants to hold it at my house yes that's right not to brag but I have a four-bedroom house with a pool and a big Garden she is engaged to an Irish guy so her family and relatives would need a place to stay when they come for the wedding we have a pretty spacious living room and a big yard outside she plans an outdoor wedding in the garden

followed by dinner in the living room that's how she wants it to be now the obvious question is do I agree with this well I don't know that's why I'm here looking for advice let me give you some context I've been married to my husband for 8 years we met in college and dated for four or five years before getting married he doesn't come from a wealthy family but he is a hard-working and self-made man my father-in-law worked as a day laborer and my mother-in-law did occasional jobs my husband has a younger sister who has

been living with my in-laws keep in mind she is 27 years old and still doesn't work not only do they provide her with food and shelter but they also cater to her extravagant demands and when I say extravagant I mean beyond their means unlike my husband who completed his Master's Degree my sister-in-law dropped out of college her parents didn't even insist that she finished College because she didn't need to be told anything she is inspired by this new age influencer who says that a degree doesn't make you rich or successful I find it strange because

I was raised completely differently although my parents are quite wealthy they never gave us privileges yes we went to a private school call it a luxury or whatever you want but beyond that my parents didn't do anything for my career when my brother and I were in high school dad told us to earn a scholarship or take out a student loan he wasn't going to pay for our College we used to hate it and thought our dad was stingy we studied hard and got scholarships now that I'm older I realized the wisdom of their upbringing

it made us self sufficient especially after seeing my sister-in-law I'm convinced of the importance of the role of parents in a person's life when I got my first job right after college I went crazy partying and vacationing but Dad sat me down and showed me some good properties I was happy that he was finally letting go of some money from his sticky hands but that wasn't the case he wanted me to buy the house myself he paid the down payment he explained the importance of having my own house and the sooner the better he advised

me to rent out half of of it to help with the mortgage I own this house today which I'm glad about considering the housing prices now I think if I hadn't bought it I wouldn't have been able to get such a spacious property at this price if I have to talk about my relationship with my in-laws it's been more or less acceptable we don't see each other that often they live on the other side of town and I lead a very busy life I still have a decent bond with my mother-in-law we talk once a

week but I just can't connect with my sister-in-law I can't we're Polar Opposites she doesn't like me because during our initial interactions I tried to convince her to finish her education and get a job she thinks I'm jealous of her because her parents take care of her while mine abandoned me to live on my own the worst part is that my in-laws say they're going through financial difficulties but keep feeding their 27-year-old daughter my husband and I offered to help her get an office job but neither She nor my in-laws showed any interest she's a

slacker no doubt about it but my in-laws should have pushed her to work though they're happy to provide for her there a couple of reasons why my sister-in-law wants to get married at my house one of course is the space she could have the wedding lunch and dinner all in one place and even her guests could stay without needing to book a hotel another reason is that she can't afford to rent a venue and if it's not my house she'd have to settle for a courthouse wedding she doesn't make money and my in-laws don't have

a fortune to spend on her wedding my husband doesn't want to give an opinion on the matter because it's my house and he wants me to make the decision regardless of what he thinks that's my man and that's why I love him so much so my problem boils down to this do you think I should allow her to use my house as the venue for her wedding update one The Day After Tomorrow is the wedding and today I found out I'm not invited the funny part is that the wedding is at my house let me

start from where I left off last time yes I agreed to let her use my house for the wedding I was definitely worried about it but eventually I agreed now I regret my decision I'm furious so please excuse me if I'm just venting my sister-in-law is nothing but a woman who uses men for money in exchange for you know what she isn't even that pretty and don't get me started on her lack of intelligence but you know once the lights go out most men don't care about all that she might be good at what she

offers which is why she was able to hit the nail on the head that's what she calls her fiance the nail not only is she superficial but she's also a liar I found out that her Irish fiance is quite well off he works as a banker and even his family is wealthy so to impress them she lied saying my house was theirs I knew about this lie for a while but I didn't care because at the end of the day it didn't affect me when her fiance proposed she came to me and almost begged me

to let her use my house for the wedding as if that wasn't enough my in-laws also came begging they said that if I didn't agree they might have to take out a loan to finance the wedding I told them why can't she and her fiance Finance it my in-law said that traditionally the bride's parents pay for the wedding and the Irish follow this tradition more strictly than we do I don't know how true this is so please don't judge me for it those aren't my words plus my sister-in-law had already bragged to her fiance and

his family about the big house that could host a wedding her stupidity made me laugh I said what if I don't allow the wedding in my house I mean I can do that right don't you think she should have asked me first before committing to this with her fiance my in-laws nodded and asked me to safeguard their reputation I told them I would but they should have done a better job raising their daughter you see I don't sugarcoat my words and maybe that's why they think I'm arrogant they don't understand that I say this for

their own good you know what happened next they came to my house until I agreed to this at one point I thought it's just a matter of 2 days let's get this over with and yes some people asked in the last post if she offered to pay rent no all of this happened 3 months ago when I made the original post fast forward to 2 days ago my sister in-law arrived with my in-laws and two other men I was at work I saw this on the camera installed inside they have a motion sensor I called

her and asked what was going on she said those guys were wedding planners they were here for a site visit to plan the wedding accordingly I asked her to be careful with my things she assured me she would after paying off my mortgage last year I got rid of the tenants who occupied my two upstairs rooms I took leave from work to prepare two rooms for them I hired a cleaner for the task it's a huge house to clean all by myself today my sister-in-law showed up at 6:00 in the morning while we were still

sleeping she was leaving for her bachelorette party in the next town she was here to see if everything was properly prepared she was happy to see that I had prepared two rooms for them and rented a larger dining table for tonight's dinner then she walked around the house saying okay those two rooms are ready for my in-laws mom and dad will take your room and I'll take the room with the walk-in closet wow I'm so excited to show them my big house with all these fancy things I can't wait to see their amazed Expressions when

I gave her the house I was confused I mean where do we fit in the rest of the conversation went like this sorry I'm confused if your parents take our room where do we go she answered well I don't know you can go to your parents house or maybe check into a hotel for 2 days you both earn well I'm sure you can afford it to which I responded but why do we have to move out of our own house and with a mocking tone she said because to them it's my parents house remember and

you can't live here it would be very weird for a married brother and his wife to live with my parents I felt dizzy after that conversation how what the hell so you're going to make it look like this is your parents house and you live here like a princess I was already pretty angry I put on a serious face and asked so according to your fairy tale where do we live in case your in-laws ask us oh they won't I mean how would they you won't be here right and what about our stuff our pictures

Who would know they are your things I'll tell them everything is mine the only problem is the photos in your hallway we'll have to take them down before they arrive I sighed and asked so even if we vacate the house to uphold your facade we'd still see them at your wedding right what if they ask us then I asked this sarcastically but her responses left me stunned no no no no there's a misunderstanding you're not attending the wedding or the family dinner at all I was like what the hell she continued I'm not sure how

this happened but I never invited you to the wedding did my parents send you an invitation I felt very stupid for talking to her I screamed my husband's name who was sleeping peacefully I screamed so loud he ran out I shouted did you know we weren't invited to the wedding it seems his body was awake but his mind was still asleep who wedding oh yes her wedding we're not invited I mean why I said your sister said she didn't send us an invitation so how could we assume we were invited let me understand the situation

I really don't get what's happening here it took him a few minutes and a few repeti itions to understand what had just happened he was horrified that we weren't invited to the wedding she'd have at our house my sister-in-law said well if that bothers you so much you can attend and probably say your wife is sick and has to skip it I asked what was her original reason to justify our absence the woman had the audacity to laugh in my face and said oh you won't believe it I told them my parents have estranged you

because you're too toxic I was like wow what else can I expect from you I angrily walked into my room without saying anything it was useless to waste time talking to her my husband followed me and assured me it was still my decision if I wanted my consent at this moment I was too angry to think clearly I need to calm down to make a rational decision that's why I sat down to update here thinking it might help and it did I feel much lighter but that doesn't mean I'm going to give in to the

princess's demands I don't know what to do now but I'm definitely not going to leave my house to participate in her Web of Lies no matter what happens I'll update this thread You Can Count On Me update two hi guys thanks for engaging with my posts yes everyone was right in saying that the spoiled princess lives in a world of Illusions first of all let me answer some common questions from the comments how can my sister-in-law access my house in my absence after I agreed to let her use it for the wedding I gave her

the spare key the front porch living room garden and pool area are all covered with cameras so I felt okay sharing the spare key second how is it possible that my sister-in-law's fiance believed her lies that the house was hers didn't he visit her there at some point I'm not sure she's been dating him for less than a year two weeks before the wedding she brought him to my house to give him a tour while I was at work after writing that update that day I discussed my thoughts with my husband although he was on

my side saying it was my decision he was worried that if I backed out his sister's wedding would be cancelled and his parents reputation would be ruined I said let's talk to your parents then we went to their house we told them about my sister-in-laws plan to exclude us from the wedding apparently they already knew and seemed to be okay with it my husband lost his temper and said did you know she was excluding us from her wedding and you agreed my mother-in-law replied weakly we thought you both were okay with it neither of you

asked us why you hadn't received an invitation at this point I questioned if we were wrong to assume we were invited to the wedding because it was my house my husband and I looked at each other in shock my husband yelled do you realize there will be no wedding if she retracts her decision what if we tell the truth to her- in-laws my mother-in-law panicked and asked us not to do such a thing my father-in-law intervened and kindly asked if it would be okay to attend the wedding if my sister-in-law sent us the invitation now

I remained silent and did not respond because I was Furious my father-in-law asked my mother-in-law to call my sister-in-law and asked her to send the invitation immediately and apologize to her us my mother-in-law hesitated to call but my father-in-law gave her a stern look my mother-in-law called nervously my father-in-law told her to put the phone on speaker my sister-in-law answered the call and scolded my mother-in-law for bothering her during her Spa session my mother-in-law said it was urgent and that my father-in-law wanted her to invite my husband and me to the wedding she got angry

and said there's no way I'm inviting that witch she thinks she's too smart my mother-in-law tried to stop her midcon conversation and whispered they are here with us but the princess was too busy complaining she said if she meets my in-laws she'll outshine me I want to look the prettiest on my wedding day besides you know how she always talks about different things jobs careers Investments and all that blah blah to grab everyone's attention I don't want that at my wedding everyone's focus should be on me if she's around she'll make me look like a

fool so no she's not allowed at my wedding and then she hung up I screamed back I make you sound stupid because you are a fool and I stormed out of the house when my husband got up to leave my in-laws asked him to calm me down and said they would talk to my sister-in-law to make her apologize apologize my ass Meanwhile my sister-in-law texted me saying I should remove our portraits from the hallway and move out of the house after supervising the preparations tomorrow she said my fiance will arrive at the venue with his

family at 10:00 in the morning so get out before that but make sure to leave my parents there before the wedding planners are left alone I will stay at my friend house after the bachelorette party I will head straight to the salon from here and arrive at the venue as a bride sure your highness I'm going to plan a perfect wedding for you when we got home it was already late in the afternoon I called the locksmith and changed the locks of the house later that night my husband called my father-in-law and told him that

we would not allow the wedding at our house so they better find another venue he tried calling my sister-in-law but she was busy getting drunk at her bachelorette party my father-in-law called back in a panic asking what he should do my husband suggested that if he wanted to save his reputation he should call his guests and cancel the invitation giving any suitable reason because there was no way the wedding was going to happen on the scheduled date and venue the night was exciting just imagining the Expressions on my sister-in-law's face when the truth came out

around 6:00 in the morning on the day the wedding preparation started the doorbell rang it was The Wedding Planner he was here to start the wedding preparations I told him this was my house and there would be no wedding here he was confused and said that my sister-in-law and her fiance had made the booking for that day I told him to call them because my house was no longer available an hour later my sister-in-law's fiance came knocking on my door I answered and he asked if my sister-in-law was home because she wasn't answering her phone

I said no she isn't here because this isn't her house he said maybe there was some confusion here I'm her fiance and we have a wedding at this house today I guess you're her sister-in-law I saw your photos in the hallway the other day I smiled and said you're right I'm her sister-in-law but there's more truth I'm going to tell you let's start with the basics this is my house and I live here my sister-in-law and my in-laws live across town in an apartment by the way congratulations on your wedding but it's no longer happening

here because I changed my mind I don't know what happened after that around 900 in the morning this princess came banging on my door I didn't answer she called my husband asking what was going on saying that I had thrown out the wedding planner he said that our house was not available and that she should find another place for the wedding she screamed and pounded on my door asking us to open it I opened the window and yelled if you keep pounding on my door you could end up in jail on your wedding day if

it even happens she insulted us and called us names for ruining her life she left after the neighbors threatened to call the police I blocked her number but she bombarded my husband's phone with obscene voicemails calling him names for not defending his sister I asked if he was upset and he said he was upset but she had brought it on herself she can't assume everything will be handed to her on a silver platter she was ungrateful and took us for granted she told her fiance that this was her house and planned the wedding here without

even asking me for permission on top of that she excluded us from the wedding and called me a witch what does she expect in return my in-laws didn't take it well they blame me for tarnishing their reputation this makes me question their value system because they were clearly okay with their daughter excluding us even though the wedding was to be held at my property as for her wedding it was canceled that day my sister-in-law and my in-laws went to see the fiance's family to ask them to wait a week so they could arrange another venue

I heard that her fiance called them Liars in front of everyone and said he was canceling the wedding and would have to reconsider the relationship God knows what will happen now I'm glad to be out of this drama I have a life to live and a career to excel in may God bless her and her lies update date three well it's been a couple of days since the date that would have been my sister-in-law's wedding at my house and as you know it didn't happen here though it didn't happen anywhere else either because by the

end of the day the groom decided to cancel everything after seeing the lies of his ex- fiance I don't blame him we're talking about someone who can go this far with lies so we could expect more lies in the future if not now anyway the important thing is the reaction of everyone after all the plans went down the drain starting with my sister-in-law who has been crying since all this happened obviously blaming me for everything which is ridiculous because I wasn't the one who lied to half the world her ex came by the house the

other day and told me this while also apologizing for everything though I told him he had nothing to worry about because he had nothing to do with it I even apologized to him since I should have told him about this earlier though to be honest it's not like we had a relationship or had much contact before I didn't even have his phone number or knew his name to look him up on social media but I felt bad for him and apologize as for my in-laws they keep calling my husband to badmouth me though also to

badmouth him telling him he should have done something and not just let himself be dominated by me he's thinking of blocking them if this continues and he doesn't answer their calls anymore because he's tired of them but that's something between him and his parents so I'm not getting involved update four a week has passed since my last update and I hope the previous one would be the last because I have no more time to waste on her nonsense I had already done too much for her but she had to show up at the house and

cause a scene it was Saturday morning and I was home having breakfast when she banged on the door I could tell it was her because the banging was accompanied by hysterical screams she sounded possessed with the way she was shrieking like in those horror movies she wanted to hit me according to what she said because I had ruined her wedding and her relationship by being a selfish witch my husband wasn't home because he went to play tennis with his friend she was screaming at the top of her lungs and banging on the door while I

sipped my coffee a neighbor heard everything and called the police he also came to my door to make sure I was okay and told my sister-in-law that the police were on their way she finally left but the funny part is that she ran away like a thief or something because she doesn't have a car and had come here by Uber so she didn't have time to order another one before the police arrived then I opened the door and talked to my neighbor when I finished with him the police arrived and I explained what had happened

since she threatened to hit me and my my neighbor is a witness plus the cameras the police went to my in-laws house to look for her now it's late and my in-laws called my husband to tell them what I did and Shout a bit more but my husband hung up and blocked them I know many will be disappointed because we don't know what happened to my sister-in-law since my in-laws were the only ones who could tell us but we both feel we've had enough of everyone if she ends up in jail or not we don't

know but at least we're done with that family