3 Highly Confident High Status Body Language Cues | Shayan Wahedi

body language have you noticed how distinctively confident people carry themselves the buttery smooth movements the enticing broad gestures and the overall aura of power and confidence that they exude wouldn't it be lovely if someone told you exactly what it was they did with their bodies that make them that way so you can take your first step towards becoming an enigmatic confident competent and charismatic figure yourself this is the first episode of that mini series and in this video i will discuss three high confident high status body language gestures and explain step by step how you

can adopt those yourself i thought about making one long video but making shorter multiple videos will be more digestible and will give you time to start using these gestures before being swamped with a ton of them and losing sight of each gesture i do want to make a note regarding confidence before we move to the first gesture learning these behaviors will make you feel and appear more confident but this isn't the deepest form of confidence true genuine confidence is built by yourself through doing and achieving the hard things that require effort discipline and dedication being

able to deliver to yourself being able to trust yourself building that solid relation with your inner self but that is a video for another time which i'll definitely make on this channel so be sure you are ready to drink that knowledge up like an ice cold smoothie on a blazing hot summer day once that video is out first of all what is the arms of kimbo no it's not the call of duty kind of arms akimbo i'm talking about this kind of a kimbo we see tommy shell be using this a lot also many other

high status individuals the arms are kimbo is a dominance and territorial display which you see animals do as well here are two walls see how the tail of the right one is lowered whilst the other one has the tail all the way up he stands tall with this feet planted wide and firmly on the ground same thing here you see the dominant till sign whilst the others have it lowered and in between their legs here is my favorite one i've seen so far with lions here you see a lion who is about to try to

mate with one of the lionesses this one is the alpha by the way alpha's in the animal kingdom and in the realm of humans high status individuals they don't expand unnecessary energy hence why they either move less or very deliberate you will notice they have smooth and deliberate movements compare that to those who have less emotional mastery and who fidget a lot but i'll cover that more in depth in the body language video of unconfident body language if you want to see that consider subscribing the alpha lion observes what's going on waits for it and

is ready to explode with power here you see his territorial display expanding himself as much as possible to show how large he is just like those animals we as human beings have multiple of these territorial displays one of which you guessed it is the arms of kimbo using the arms of kimbo makes you appear larger and is a high dominance high status queue in general high status individuals take up more space than those of lower status hence why we see high status individuals use this gesture a lot like here and here also people in positions

of authority like police and military personnel use it often so how do you do it three steps the first one place your hands on your hips second step flare out your elbows this gives you that spacious look and lastly point your thumbs backward this is an extremely dominant cue and is often also used to signal that there is an issue or something to be discussed like here they [ __ ] did but i can tell it's more than that and here i thought all this business was done with it's almost sorted out dean i'm just

here to let you know that bert's a crook what did you say harvey and here and finally we will rip this city of his kind and finally we will rip this city of his kind if you want to make the maximum power pose plant your feet firmly and wide apart another great scene is when the former m is getting fired but in a subtle way listen to this you're firing me no mom i'm here to oversee the transition period leading to your voluntary retirement in two months time then see the arms of kimbo that follows

a couple of seconds later i'm not an idiot malory i know i can't do this job forever but i'll be damned if i'm going to leave the department in worse shape than i found it it is a dominant extremely dominant cue for those who are new to this channel there is one thing i want to get across to you and i've spoken about this in my laws of power videos repeatedly listen you don't want to appear powerful at all times you want to be powerful at all times so know when it is wise to use

this and the other high status high confidence poses and when it's better not to in the last james bond movie of daniel craig we can observe it as well oh bombed my god i haven't seen you in in in how is your retirement shut up q i know he's staying with you mi6 has discovered what they're up against nanobots programmed with dna to target specific individuals heracles was it was designed to be the most efficient weapon in our arsenal we see the highest status individual in the room use this gesture garrett mallory also known as

m however the arms of kimbo or arms on hips is also a universal gesture used to communicate that a person is ready for assertive action arrest me i just want the eggs but i'm fertile and i am ripe for the picking it can also be used to show that the individual is ready and alert samantha wheeler who is a primary red personality type in the tv show suits uses the arms of kimbo as a default in the short scene i'll show in a second she does this without a need for confrontation if you perform a

gesture or do a task over and over again repeatedly over a prolonged period of time it becomes an automatic unconscious behavior a habit i'll make this clear through a study that is done on rats in an upcoming video i love this particular scene here also know the verbal dominance and how she frames harvey as being a kid look at you sweating it out in the law library like a first year i didn't know you could read and now he deals with it superbly i didn't know you could read i'm just looking at the pictures females

you can still do this when holding a bag did you know look at this that gavin andrews was gonna ask me to launder money for him i don't believe it you knew it the whole time no i didn't but i knew he was gonna ask you to do something then you and i are going to go a cautionary note guys this arms of kimbo has an underlying subtle message it carries across it says i'm ready in case of aggressive action i'm not afraid of confrontation excuse me joy told me about the stunt you pull so

again be wary where you use it let's move to the next high confident gesture constitution mr wick has breached no legality then you know that i have the right to demand nothing you demand nothing of me mr d'antonio this kingdom is mine and mine alone [Music] the drape is where someone connects a body part let's say the legs or arms on or around an object by doing this you show ownership you connect yourself to an object or even a person which i'll cover in another video and by making this connection the object will become an

extension of you i own this same way a sword is an extension of a swordsman or samurai what if i drop it the steel must be part of your arm can you drop part of your arm no individuals who feel confident or even superior subconsciously take this position they drape their legs over an object like a chair or a desk for example as a way of establishing a territorial claim we see high status mills and females do this a lot look at this if their arms weren't spread they effectively would have taken only this much

space but by extending it just like the wolf extending its stills and the lion enlarging its body there is much more physical space taken it is a high status move you can start using right now i would advise you to think very carefully before you use that tone with me ever again [Music] i encourage you to focus mastering one of these before trying all of them you will feel uncomfortable at first guys and since this is something that isn't habitual to you yet key word in that sentence yet i'll get back later to how you

can deal and train against this initial discomfort by sitting like this you're exposing your vulnerable body parts unlike people who feel insecure shy anxious or threatened would then contract themselves and appear smaller just like animals i showed earlier high status and confident people in contrast expand and enlarge themselves they claim space they feel comfortable doing it here is another fun scene that came to mind i was wrong when i said you weren't ready harvey no you weren't but you are now good night closer good night jessica take your feet off my desk not a chance

this drape is sometimes also done on other people but as i said i'll cover that in another video lastly you can use this in combination with the first one we covered like here answer the question miss paulson he the world's only pashmina you're not getting this case and the cautionary note beware when you use the leg tray because it can come over as plain disrespect alice hey get your damn feet off the table man show some respect seriously before we move to the last one and one of my favorite gestures friends i got an exciting

announcement which you will absolutely love but first i want to thank every single one of you beautiful souls for liking and commenting on the video it helps a lot with the growth of this channel the announcement is one that you guys have been waiting on for a long time my body language course is making great progress and trust me there is no course like this made in the world it is a very interactive course teaching you the ins and outs of body language i take a lot of pride in producing that course and i am

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the entire story i make videos about mindset personal development and power if that is something that resonates with you consider subscribing and for those who want to see more raw content of me you can follow my second channel where i upload more frequently and without much if any editing thank you for all your videos could you please explain how i can master body language and guys this is not the only question that comes in like this they come in multiple various shapes and forms like especially from females what are some female high confidence body poses

by the way the tommy shelby body language video is being made and also one with michael gray oracle [Music] as for the season 6 episode 1 breakdowns they will come i promise you that however they will come only after they are released for the majority of people on netflix in this way the series won't get spoiled for them let's continue with the video this is one of my favorite ones and my go-to gesture when sitting on a table the steeple is a universal display of confidence we see a lot of presidents and people who hold

a high status position use this the steeple is the ultimate power pose for your hands how do you do the steeple step 1 spread your fingertips of both hands step 2 connect your fingertips as step 3 arch it a little now it looks like a church steeple we've covered this gesture in the body language breakdown of luca changretta versus tommy shelby i'll link that video right there the steeple is a powerful gesture for a variety of reasons first when people who are nervous try to fake these gestures their hands will tremble because of the nervous

energy so it is very difficult to fake this one second this is another way of expansive behavior that portrays confidence it shows that the person who is using it is confident in what they say however this doesn't mean it is accurate someone can be confident but still be wrong and earlier i mentioned that this is the ultimate power pose for your hands but why is this it's because the steeple is the most expensive mode for your hands third it shows that you're relaxed fourth it makes you look calm cool and collected a fifth it can

show the other person you are listening to them and encourage them to talk particularly when you do this with the head tilt but then suggest you will cover another time also in their research linda talley and samuel temple asked participants to rate photos of leaders using positive hand gestures like a steeple compared to leaders using no hand gestures they found that participants perceive the leader with no hand gestures to be distant and the leader with positive hand gestures to be more immediate and attractive in the definite book of body language allen and barbara peace write

we found that the steeple was frequently used in superior subordinate interaction and that it indicates a confident or self-assured attitude superiors often use this gesture position when they give instructions or advice to subordinates and that is particularly common among accountants lawyers and managers they also write later on as a general rule the steeple should be avoided when you want to be persuasive or win the other person's confidence as it can sometimes be read as smugness or arrogance so friends in order to avoid this you should not use the steeple whilst tilting your head backwards see

what me doing this evokes in you another word of warning is don't do this when steepling as this changes it all to an evil gesture friends that was the steeple the universal display of confidence and which is often used by those in leadership positions alright guys those were the three high confidence gestures you can start adopting right off the get-go to recap first one arms a kimbo second arm or legs rape and third steepling if you want me to continue these kind of videos and bring the next three confident gestures let me know in the

comments below and i'll start working on them also i see people who use confidence body language for a brief moment and then break it going into low confidence poses so it is critical for you to know what low confidence and even nervous body language looks like so you can avoid those or use them strategically as a power play exactly like thomas shelby did in this video or watch this video which is from my second channel where i create unedited or bare minimum edited videos and answer your questions this is a video i uploaded as a

response on xiaom how can i master my body language starting right now and how to deal with being called on using new gestures so check that out with pleasure short side note guys don't worry it's no spawn should do anything at the beginning of the video i told you guys that confidence comes from being able to deliver to yourself i had set the challenge for myself for this video to finish the editing in three days i'm dead on even though i got a cold after so many years and i got every single excuse in the

world not to deliver it because who in l knew about this challenge nobody with me but that's what character is guys being able to deliver to yourself and the confidence that comes forth from that no body language trick no certain cue that you can take or the verbal dominance that you have can produce that this is something that's deep something that's visceral something that's real and when you're able to reach that