A Hospital Visit Proved My Kids Aren’t Mine, So I Took Away the One Thing My Wife Cares About Most

hey hey hey time for the out of this world story from ourspace Imagine one of those ancestry DNA tests except instead of uncovering a long lost cousin you discover your kids share more in common with the mailman then your genetics today on our space op didn't sign up for the find out your family tree has a missing Branch package a hospital visit proved my kids aren't mine I took away the one thing my wife cares about the most it's weird how the tiniest things can expose secrets that have been kept in the dark for so

long I keep wondering what my life would be like now if I hadn't discovered my wife's Secret by complete coincidence i' probably be happier not knowing my wife 36 female and I 36 male I've been together for almost a decade and we've always had a genuinely solid marriage we've always been great Partners both at being parents and at running our small business together she was the one who ran in the front end of our business she was friendly enough with everyone in the neighborhood so customers loved her the business even had her name in the

title I worked more behind the scenes handling planning and providing the bulk of the finances and decision-making we had defined roles when it came to Parenting too she was firm on her boys two male five male when needed and I usually got to be the fun parent the one who could rough house with them but we always presented a unified front and never undermined the others when it came down to it the older one is already playing soccer and he's pretty dang good at it I'm super proud of the little guy and I always try

to encourage his talent I had a horrible father so I always do my best to be a good dad to my kids giving him room to develop his passion was just one of the ways I have tried to break the cycle you know our lives were more or less perfect we didn't have everything we needed but I honestly couldn't complain and then everything fell apart because of a blood donation how silly is that like I said I'm the meticulous type I handle the details for our business I also take care of all the papers and

documents for the family so I'm well aware of the kids blood types I didn't know mine though because I'd never had a reason to find out I've never had any surgeries done and I've never needed blood one day my wife and I decided to participate in a community blood drive as the face of our business she thought it would generate some Goodwill if we were seen out donating blood I agreed with her so we both went down to make our donation we were asked if we wanted to donor cards my wife declined however I thought

it would be handy for me to have a donor card on me especially since I was unaware of my blood type the start of the weirdness was when the donor card came in a few weeks later right there on the donor card my blood type was listed as o this couldn't be right my blood type is different from my son's my first son has type A blood but the second has Type B I already knew my wife's blood type her blood type is AB just like my son's so that checked out right but a corner

of my mind was telling me I was wrong I tried to think back to high school biology if a child gets a gene from each parent then a parent with O blood couldn't possibly have a child with AB blood for a while disbelief sank in I'm not the smartest guy when it comes to science so it was possible that I had things mixed up I checked online to clear things up type AB blood meant my son and wife had both the A and B antigens in their blood type O blood means I have neither each

parent passes on a single set to their kid so my son should have gotten either A or B from his mom and nothing from me and yet here he was with a full set according to our blood types the younger might be mine but my older son definitely wasn't you won't imagine how many sources I checked to make sure I wasn't mistaken but everything still came to the same conclusion my heart sank here was this wonderful little kid I've been raising for the past 5 years nurturing his hopes and dreams and it turns out I'm

not his father this had to be my mistake maybe I was misremembering his mother's blood type maybe there'd be a mistake with mine or with my son's I refused to accept it and I remember dreaming up a hundred different reasons why this couldn't be real when the denial wore off I started trying to come up with my next steps if one of the blood types was really wrong then the best way to confirm the whole situation would be a paternity test that would prove the truth beyond the shadow of a doubt and I could decide

what needed to be done from there at that point I was really hoping that the paternity test would to prove that there was just a mistake somewhere regarding the blood types maybe I wasn't ow sure I could just do another blood test but a paternity test would probably address my fear the real issue was figuring out how to get him to take a paternity test without his mom finding out I didn't need her consent to have the test done but it would be tough getting him to a hospital without her finding out and I didn't

want her to find out at this point because I was accusing her of something extremely serious I had to be completely sure before I confronted her we had been married for way too long for me to accuse her of not only cheating but trying to pass someone else's child as mine fortunately there was a simpler solution I didn't know that there were home paternity tests that were cheaper than a lab test they were supposedly 100% accurate too all I needed to do was swab my and my son's cheeks and mail the samples into a lab

and they'd send me the results the only catch was that the results from a home praternity test couldn't be used in court but that didn't matter to me right now I wasn't thinking about divorce just finding out the truth hopefully this was all just some dumb mixup and I'd be able to forget this ever happened I picked up the test from the local pharmacy on my way home from work one day I was browsing the shelves looking for the paternity tests when I was hit with the realization that I would need two if the truly

oldest wasn't mine then the chances are the youngest wouldn't be either I got both tests and snuck them home in my laptop bag when I got home that day everything was business as usual my wife had brought the kids home from school she kissed me on the cheek as she came in and I had a hard time bringing myself to return it on one hand I felt guilty like I was betraying her trust among the other I felt betrayed myself there was a real possibility that my kids weren't mine and that the life I'd spent

years building was all a lie I tried to keep things natural and kiss my wife on the forehead before we returned to the kitchen to finish dinner we talked casually while I thought about the paternity test in my back as soon as I could slip away I went upstairs and hid them under the bathroom sink later that evening at dinner I still couldn't shake the feeling that my happy family was hanging on by a thread my wife was her usual self smiling and laughing with me and the boys trying to get the younger one to

eat his vegetables this was probably the first time in my life that I prayed desperately to be wrong about something because I had no idea what I would do if I wasn't would I have to leave these children's lives the paternity test stayed under the sink until the weekend when my wife went out to run some errands I stayed home with the kids we were playing together when she left and as soon as I heard her drive off I ran upstairs to get the test test I didn't want the kids to tell their mom about

the tests when she got home so I made part of a game I told them we were doing a science experiment they were both curious but they were eager to play along I swabbed both of their cheeks pretending to be a scientist and packaged the samples I got them to help swab me too just to keep the game going once the samples were mailed all there was left to do was wait it took a little over a week for me to hear back but eventually the results were emailed to me my hands were shaking when

I opened the first one not mine the second one was the same I've been trying to prepare myself for the news ever since I'd done the test but it still couldn't dull the pain I don't know exactly how to describe what I felt at that time it was something like a profound sense of loss like I would never have my old life back I hope none of you guys will ever have to experience the kind of pain I felt after reading those results it's been a few days now and I still don't feel all right

I haven't confronted my wife yet but she knows something is wrong I barely eat I can't bring myself to talk her to her like normal and even playing with the kids feels off to me I mean there's some other man's children I don't even know who it could possibly be was it the same man these children were born 3 years apart she must have been having a full-blown Affair or serial of cheating all the questions don't help with the pain I just need some help figuring out where to go from here eventually I'll have to

face the reality of my situation but for now I can't even comprehend where to start from you go out to donate a little blood and end up finding out you've been donating your DNA to raise someone else's kids honestly the universe has a sick sense of humor it's completely understandable that you're feeling lost right now op you've built a life around your family business and being the best dad you can be only to have this bomb dropped on you out of nowhere update one wow I didn't expect the outpour of support I received from this

Community First I want to thank everybody who was concerned about my mental health I don't think I was in danger of harming myself or others but I was starting to slip into a dark place I've started therapy and it's helping me break out of the harmful thought patterns that were starting to form second thanks to everyone who gave me advice on how to approach this you were right that I couldn't sit around resenting her forever so I confronted her I told her we both needed a talk and I sat her down at the dinner table

then I slid my phone across the table to her with the results of the paternity test open what is this she chuckled nervously I was trying to be the bigger man here but she was trying my patience already I ignored her laugh it's the results of a paternity test I know the boys aren't mine she slid the phone back across the table to me laughing that paternity tests can be wrong boths positives happen I hadn't doubted the results for a second along with the blood type differences it was beyond doubt that they weren't my kids

but her reaction eliminated any last chances of doubt I might have had the woman I knew wouldn't laugh off accusations of this severity if I was really the father of these kids she would have torn me a new one and had me sleeping on the couch for a week but no she was laughing about it I sighed and passed the phone back there are two tests in there one false positive is unlikely two false positives is almost impossible then I told her about how I became suspicious in the first place telling her how it was

impossible for us to have a type AB child she was quiet throughout and even after I finished speaking she was still there in silence it took her a full 5 minutes before she talked and when she spoke her voice was almost inaudible I'm sorry it was a mistake and I've regretted it every day the admission hurt like hell I'd been holding out hope for one final wild explanation but here it was I just hate that I had to be proven right at a moment where I could have wanted anything but that just a few words

and I'd gone from a father of two children to a childless man it took everything in me to keep tears from falling right then she had no problem crying though her voice broke as she explained that it was back when I had been working long nights her excuse was that I was always stressed and tired when I got home and that she became lonely then she started calling a guy from work when I wasn't around and eventually they started seeing each other I asked how many times they'd slept together she put her head in her

hands and told me that it had been going on for about 3 years and stopped after she'd gotten pregnant the second time who is he it doesn't matter who he is you're their real father that's why I never told you because you've been their real father their whole lives looking back the line is very amusing but not in a comedic way I let her know that it wasn't her right to decide that that was an impossible painful decision that I had come to terms with on my own I emphasized that it was her fault that

I was in the position then I told her that I only wanted to know who their biological father was in case it came up during the divorce she paused like I'd slapped her she simply repeated divorce with tears in her eyes that annoyed me I asked if she really thought I wanted to be with a woman who knowingly passed another man's children off on to me a woman who had an affair for 3 years with a guy from work she just gawked stupidly at me and said but you love them I took a deep breath

and told her that what she did wasn't excused by the fact that I loved them she'd stolen the chance to build a family of my own for me and I could never forgive her for that the tears kept coming but I was numb to them I hadn't H her I'd even tried to make things easy for her I confront her until I had all the facts I hadn't accused her blindly and I tried to confront her civil if anyone should be in tears here it was me as she cried she kept talking about the kids

she repeated that I was the boy's real father and that I couldn't leave them I so and told her that I needed time to think about how I was going to handle this over the next few days I researched the divorce process and got in contact with a lawyer I knew that this divorce was going to be messy especially with the kids being involved but I couldn't back out of it I was determined to do what was best for my peace of mind while also doing right by the boys even if they weren't biologically mine

they didn't deserve to suffer for their mother's betrayal I eventually decided that I wanted to remain part of the boys lives it wasn't an easy decision to come to I agonized over it during many sleepless nights despite everything I had been their father in every way that mattered for years they looked up to me come to me for love and support and trusted me fully they had no idea about the dilemma I was facing or how their mother had selfishly put all of us into this miserable situation I couldn't turn back on on them because

of their mother's faults and I know that a lot of you won't agree with that decision but honestly I thought about it and it's entirely and I simply can't leave those children I had been committed to keeping the divorce amicable I wanted to remain in my children's life and maintain a decent relationship with her mother however my stance on that changed after how she acted when she was served with the divorce papers she came up to me and told me that I was tearing our family apart she looked at me with a Stern expression like

I was the one being stupid here I couldn't believe what I was hearing I had every right to walk away from her and the children completely I'd been attempting to maintain some normaly stay in the house so we could break the news to the kids gently I did my best to love the boys like I always had so they wouldn't think anything was wrong but somehow I was the one tearing the family apart I couldn't stand that at that moment I realized I had gone too easy on her I had wanted to make this easy

for her and the kids she took that as a sign of weakness even when she had confirmed her cheating I tried not to hate her it was difficult because I'd been betrayed and lied to but I still tried she didn't deserve that kindness anymore I told her that we weren't one family anymore we were two families that were raising the same children I let her know that I was going to make the divorce a living hell for her I was going to fight her for custody I was going to fight against alimony then I told

her I was going to take the business from her it was the one thing she loved more than anything else it was her dream to pass it down to the kids one day and I decided I would Rob her of that dream the same way she had robbed me her tears did not affect me I tried to do this the easy way and she'd attempt to guilt me now I was going to fight for my rights and I'd flatten her in the process if she wanted to play the victim then I'd give her something to

cry about she wasn't going to walk out of this unscathed at that point I had been the good guy long enough and it hadn't paid off we'd built the business together but there was always an unspoken understanding that it was hers but legally my name was on a lot of the documents just like hers I'd put most of the funding into it as well my lawyer said it would be difficult for me to claim the business entire but I had a very good claim for at least 50% of it 50% was good enough though I

wanted to take the business away from her or destroy it completely either way I didn't want her to have it by the time we were done the divorce proceedings were brutal she and her lawyer went with the strategy of turning me into a villain fortunately for me it seems she didn't have enough to get a good lawyer because the guy she hired was a real his first brilliant idea was to play up the idea that I was abandoning my kids that fell apart because I was actively fighting for custody even though they weren't biologically mine

my lawyer was vicious though I told him that I wanted to tear her apart during the divorce and this guy was a shark I couldn't follow all the legali but the results spoke for themselves I ended up with 55% of the business a controlling share a controlling share on the business was a good start but it didn't make me happy it didn't really change much since I had always been in charge of the business anyway I could fire her if I wanted and keep the business running but she'd still make income off my hard work

I had to get rid of it entirely taking the business away from her was satisfying but I had to face the fact that I was dismantling my kids's future it was hard but I decided I would go through with selling the business I would use the money to build another business for them I can't grant their mother the satisfaction of achieving her dream after what she did to me first of all props to you for getting into therapy and not letting the situation push you entirely into a dark spiral that's a major win in itself

op that I'm sorry it was a mistake line and then the 3 years it's definitely not a mistake getting control of the business and then deciding to sell it is perfect well done you did something she valued something she planed to pass on and you're using it to start fresh not just for you but for the kids I respect the hell out of you op for not turning your back on the kids you might not be their biod dad but you've been the real father through and through and they're lucky to have you in their

Corner update to it's been almost a year since the divorce was finalized and things have been getting better for me therapy has been help helping me come to terms with my new life I'm thankful to still have my children in my life as for the business that's gone I liquidated at the first chance I got she and I each got a decent sum of money for it I immediately invested my share into starting a new business which is well on its way to being successful I plan on leaving the business to my boys when the

time comes it gives me peace to know that I'll be the one providing a secure future for them and not her I've taken up a no contact policy with my ex-wife we only communicate when it has something to do with the kids that hasn't stopped her from trying to convince me to take her back though but throughing the loss of her business and the new Financial strain from the divorce she hasn't been doing too well sometimes she calls me out of the blue pretending she called about the kids then she'll ask personal questions like whether

I've started dating again I always tell her just enough to give her the impression that I'm doing great eventually she switched tactics from dropping hints to outright begging us to get back together the last time she had invited herself in when dropping the kids off she taken my hand and tried to lure me into the bedroom so we could speak in private I made my disgust visible and told her quietly that she was embarrassing herself I tried to gently nudge her out the door but she refused to move and begged for another chance she said

that we worked great together both as parents and as a business team then she offered to give me biological children of my own I was stunned was offering me more kids kids that would actually be mine since she was a cheating before supposed to fix everything they're not a bargaining chip she could dangle to make up for her mistakes I told her that and let her know just how disgusted I was with her at the moment moment I told her I wanted to raise that boys that I had come to love not replace them her

actions had already stolen the chance for me to build a family in an honest loving way and there was nothing she could ever do to fix that and if one day I decided to have biological children in future it would not be with her I looked over to make sure the kids weren't in earshot and I told her never to set foot in the house again unless I invited her in and again she started with the tears funny how the tears come when they don't get their way huh I think she she got the message

though because she hasn't tried another stunt like that whenever she comes around she looks at the floor and can't meet my eyes and she rarely says more than she needs to I'm sure she'll try again someday but she'll just be wasting her breath I've moved on from her completely and my life is already so much better for it the only reason she's trying to get back in is because she realized that she messed up her safety net you're out here thriving building a new business and living her best life while she's stuck trying to piece

things together what part of weird isn't sinking in you handle it all with class and Clarity op which is more than she deserves honestly and you're 100% right kids aren't bargaining chips what do you make of this and thank you for joining us today on ourspace be sure to like And subscribe and hit that notification Bell so you don't miss out on our next video see you soon