My Son Was Rebelling Cuz He Knew His Mom Was Cheating, So I Got Revenge On His Behalf (Full Story)

hey hey hey time for the out of this world story from ourspace college sweethearts turn sour today on our space looks like The Jig Is up turns out the only thing worse than dad's Secrets was Mom's open Affair and the son knew it all along my son was rebelling because he knew his mom was cheating I made sure she and her partner unknowingly exposed themselves here's a bit of background on me 37 male and my wife 37 female for the sake of this let's call her charity we met in college when I was a freshman

I was still trying to figure out what I wanted to do with my life meanwhile she had it all together she was super focused and driven and already had a clear plan for life she wanted to be an academic which to the me from back then honestly was pretty impressive the girls I had dated before then all they wanted was just to have a good time nothing serious but charity she was different from day one she was all about the future thinking ahead and making things happen that's what really drew me to her I wasn't

used to someone who had their life so figured out so early and I realized I needed that kind of good influence around myself if I wanted to be serious with life she had the confidence like she could handle anything that came her way she didn't just go with the flow she made things happen it wasn't long before I realized I was really into her not just because she was an ambitious but because she made me want to step up and be better too so yeah our dating phase it was quick and full of that kind

of youthful passion I wish I still had now if I'm being honest things got intense real fast everyone around us already knew we had the potential to get married if neither of us messed things up my friends used to tease me about that and I just had to Hope back then that I wouldn't be the reason things got messed up now that I'm a parent I was what I would call a rascal so I didn't have the most faith in myself about a year into the relationship Cherry found out she was pregnant definitely not part

of the plan we weren't ready for it at all charity didn't want to keep the baby she felt like it had totally mess up her career plans and I get it she had Big Dreams but I'm not the type to push for a termination and neither were our families she respected her parents so much and I think they swayed her decision more than I could have so we ended up keeping the baby and that's how our first son came into the picture going through all this took a drain on me I had to put a

lot of my own stuff on hold to make sure charity could finish her degree I didn't want her to look back and resent the kid because she had to give up on her goals I passed on a lot time some great opportunities and even a solid job offer out of state but I believed in her in Us in what we were building so it felt worth it plus I had been on the side of not terminating so I knew I'd have to make some sacrifices we didn't get married right away though our son was born

first shity was into the whole idea of a white wedding dress she had a flat stomach to to go with that white dress so we waited but yeah we eventually got hitched sometime after the baby we were young and dumb I more than her anyway back then and like a young couple we made a lot of mistakes charity had a bit of resentment towards the baby for in her mind forcing her into marriage sooner than she planned I mean I get it everyone would get it she had her life all mapped out and suddenly here

was a baby and a husband in the mix but honestly we learned quick things with the baby got easier over time and we adjusted charity finished her degree got her Masters and eventually became an assistant lecturer I was so proud of her man I used to brag about her to my friends all the time she was the best no doubt later in the marriage we ended up having two more kids and for a while I thought we were Rock Solid she worked hard increased our earning potential by quite a lot and built a pretty decent

life for ourselves we weren't rolling in cash but we were comfortable shity kind of became the blackbone of the house she ran things like a boss handled the kids and took care of the household all I really had to focus on was providing and making sure I took care of my husband's duties and honestly I didn't mind at all I got laid back though I let her handle most of the decisions at the time it felt right but looking back I wonder if letting go of that much responsibility especially with the day-to-day stuff is part

of what led to everything that happened later the thing is that I actually believed that what we called the relationship was fine like nothing nothing stood out to me as off or weird we were just a middle-aged couple who'd been married for over a decade obviously I wasn't fireworks anymore but it was more like we were old best friends no crazy passion just steady you know calm and cool I'm not the best at expressing myself but that's kind of how I felt the crazy thing is it was my son's behavior and me trying to figure

out what was wrong with him that opened my eyes to what was really going on he started acting strange and I know teenagers are usually acting strange but this was different it wasn't just normal teenage mood swings he was straight up disrespectful to his mom which was totally out of character yes he and his mom do have a lot of friction which I have tried to fix but I really never got anywhere if we get to the bottom of it I think she still H her some resentment but she loves him too I wasn't let

out of it he avoided me too like not outright rude but he wouldn't talk to me at all and with his younger siblings he went into full bully mode it was like he was constantly angry at everything and I had no idea why we tried everything to discipline him grounding taking away privileges but nothing seemed to work I even considered the belt like how I was raised but decided that would make things worse he was just angry I mean the kid had everything he needed we weren't strict or overbearing so this Behavior totally threw us

off it got so bad that my wife even started suggesting therapy that's when I realized I needed to step in and do something more drastic to figure out what was going on on with him I talked to a few friends about it and after hearing what they had to say I decided to take a day off of work to really sit down and talk with my son I even called at school to tell him he was sick just so we could have the day to ourselves later that day I went to his room to talk

you know how it is with teenagers but after a lot of back and forth my son just blurted out something I never saw coming he said his mom was cheating on me I swear at first I laughed at off I had known her longer than he had been alive and I really felt like he hated her for some reason and that was his nuclear option to ruin her life she was always either working or handling stuff at home when would she even have time to cheat between her work picking up the kids and running errands

I didn't think so so it just didn't add up but my son wasn't joking he looked dead serious and that's when I knew I had to really listen as much as he could be disrespectful and rude I didn't consider him a liar in fact he tended to tell the truth a bit too much so I was suddenly worried he told me that his mother had been seeing being one of his teachers at school my boy had skipped out on school with his friends and saw them together and not just in a casual way according to

him their whole vibe was off like it wasn't just a teacher parent thing I was completely stunned I kept asking if he was sure if he maybe he was mistaken but by this point my boy was in tears which was a lot more vulnerable than I had seen him in ages he was adamant he'd seen them together more than once both in her car and outside of school that's when it clicked all his weird beh Behavior the anger the way he'd been acting out they were all because of this he even told me he thought

his mom never wanted him in the first place that she treated him differently from his siblings and he'd been holding all that resentment he said adding to what he's been seeing he hated her more and was mad at me for being stupid and clueless for not seeing what was happening right under my nose even though I was shaken I wasn't ready to jump to any wild conclusions my child just made a huge accusation that might affect our family Dynamic and potentially destroy it Beyond repair but I wasn't about to just dismiss it either so yeah

I'll admit I kind of played into his anger I asked him if he could get more info like maybe there was a way to dig a Little Deeper it wasn't my proudest moment but I needed to know the truth maybe I was too much of a coward to do it myself also I had hoped by having him do the investigation he would be able to prove himself wrong if possible and maybe let go of this anger and see that she truly loved him I hoped to use that to heal up any wounds he had the

plan that he had was pretty simple check her text conversations and call records she wasn't extremely text savvy so I personally doubted that she'd delete any evidence the thing is it would have been super suspicious if I went snooping around her phone myself so I had my son doing it for me he was already acting mad at me and rude to her so he figured she wouldn't suspect anything all he had to do was take screenshots and send them my way but then my boy came up with a different idea he suggested using some kind

of spyware to track her phone I'll be honest I didn't know a thing about this stuff so I just left it to him he did all the digging and well he sent me proof well he was working on all that I started paying more attention to charity funny enough she wasn't coming home late or acting shady in any obvious way no weird excuses no sudden work trips nothing like that she just had more meetings at work even on weekends and she'd go to her office almost every day to prep for lectures she didn't act distant

or defensive as you hear about in all those cheating stories that we read in here in fact every time I asked her about her schedule she had a totally reasonable explanation at that point before Jason got everything set up with the spyware and sent me the evidence I was this close to getting him to stop the investigation but thank God I didn't I have seen the messages I read through them and it's all there how they met or developed feelings for each other is something I will never know what I could see is how they

talked about sneaking around meeting up during work hours and even their feelings for each other I couldn't bring myself to confront her I just sat with it for what pushed me to write this is the part when she started talking about leaving me but here's the kicker he wasn't into that idea he didn't want her to leave me he liked the way things were sneaking around keeping it casual he wasn't interested in marrying her or building a life with her he was just in it for the fun and where they are right now is her

persuading him and now my son has gone even further he's brought me pictures and videos of them meeting up I guess he saw them when he was playing hookie yet again apparently they have a casual Rendevous point it's undeniable at this point but even with that I haven't confronted her yet I'm so pissed off I want concrete proof like catching them in the ACT myself or something I don't know what to do next I have to think about the kids and knowing that her son has seen the kind of SLE bag that she is should

be enough punishment people always talk about how divorced Partners shouldn't turn their kids against the other parent but the good thing is I don't need to worry about that and now I actually feel worse about giving my son so much crap about his attitudes edit I've been told about a thousand times already that I'm an a-hole for leaving the Dirty Work to my son I agree I know I messed up about that part but I think I was so blindsided by the accusation that I wanted it to be wrong I didn't want to do the

digging myself and find the answer I was afraid to find so I did the Cowardly thing and left it to him if I had another chance of it all I wouldn't have done things that way even though it's not her name I have to say it with a name like that you'd think she'd be giving not giving it away to her kid's teacher during office hours I know I know anyway your son's Behavior was a red flag that something deeper was going on and while using him to gather evidence might not have been the best

approach it's clear you were trying to get to the bottom of things without making any rash decisions sure maybe not the best parenting moment but hey desperate times call for desperate measures update thanks to all your comments and advice I decided not to confront her and I made the choice to go straight to a lawyer I collected everything messages time stamps screenshots and sent it all to the lawyer turns out her work commitments were really meetups with the teacher the worst part she involved our kids in her lies she would tell my boy and the

other two that she had important work stuff to attend when really she was sneaking off to see Chris even when the kids needed to spend time with her my lawyer was great he immediately started working on the divorce papers and he said all the evidence I had gathered was enough so between the last time I wrote and now I had my son install the app he was using to attract her messages in my phone and I got him to delete it from his phone thank God for that because they graduated to sending themselves nudes and

thirst traps how convenient for me the worst part is that some of the days where they'd send all those things to each other she'd come back and be unable to keep her hands off me I knew it wasn't me she wanted so I always came up with some excuse my lawyer also said in cases like mine if I could prove she was not only cheating but also neglecting the kids in the process especially if that neglect came as a result of her keeping her Affair alive it would give me a stronger case for custody La

lawyer also mentioned that involving the kids in her lives could make a much better case for me as for the money since we both earn about the same it would likely mean no need for alimony my lawyer advised me to keep track of anything spending related to the affair that could be proved through her text messages as that could affect the division of assets any financial support Chris received from her could be used in my my favor there were quite a few gifts from her to him the lawyer had already prepared all the papers for

the divorce and I was planning to pick them up later that week but I learned that she planned to meet Chris for lunch for reference she said she had to meet with some Master's students to help them out with their research a few days earlier was our youngest child's birthday so my wife's sister and Mom were around to celebrate I was so pissed that she didn't even hesitate to make plans with Chris despite her own family being around so I asked that she join us for lunch hoping she'd scrap her plans but she refused even

when the kids begged that was when I knew I was going to go scorched Earth on her I think that made me so angry that I couldn't wait until the papers better I told my kids and relatives that we should go have lunch either way without her the thing is that I was going to take them to where she was going to it was way out of the way in a city like an hour out from our town which was why she liked to go there to meet with Chris she must have thought there was

no way in hell that I would ever catch her there I wanted her to feel the kind of humiliation she'd been putting me through and I wasn't doing it alone I know a lot of you will disapprove but I wanted my children to see who their mother was they were all old enough for it I wanted them to understand that it wasn't my fault when the divorce inevitably happened that afternoon we got to the restaurant and sat at a table where we could see the entrance a few minutes later we had already started eating and

she walked in arm in-arm with Chris they were all over each other my blood was boiling but I kept it together I wanted her to walk straight into the mess my daughter the youngest saw her first and instinctively called out and said Mom's here before she seemed to realize that the setup wasn't right charity looked up saw us all and froze I gave her a little smile and let the silence do the work she came up to us and tried to stumble through some excuse but it was pathetic the damage was done our kids were

there her sister was there her mother was there I didn't need to say a single word at the restaurant I just shook my head to her and walked out with the kids two of whom were extremely confused leaving her to deal with the humiliation and Fallout the look on her face was priceless but it didn't undo the damage her mother and sister stayed back for a bit to talk to her I don't know what was said but they eventually came and joined us in the car with nothing to say her sister was fuming when we

got home charity tried to apologize but it was way too late for that everybody was giving her hell the next day I gave her the divorce papers she was stunned I think she almost lost her mind because maybe she only just realized ized at that point how heavily she had messed up and what had been at stake my lawyer made sure the terms were airtight she didn't get a dime and I pushed for full custody of the kids I didn't win in that regard because the belief was that her cheating didn't necessarily discredit her entirely

as a parent but it was still in my favor with 730 custody the beautiful thing is that she really didn't put up much of a fight her sister in particular put a lot of pressure on her because of what she had done her sister had struggled with partners and to her we had something good seeing her sister mess up a good thing probably reminded her of all the bad Partners she had had she is miserable at least that is what she recently told her friends and that is what they told me apparently it was an

attempt to see if I'd forgive her and make me feel pity but I'm way too far from pity the school district didn't want to deal with a bad publicity from a teacher sleeping with the married parent of one of the students so they let Chris go in an instant that felt good to me the kids are still processing everything they haven't said much and I can't blame them I hate that it had come to the this but I think that a divorce is always better than children living with two unhappy parents it'll always reflect on

them in one way or another now that things are over I just hope that we'll all be able to move on from it and I really hope my children won't be worse off I want to know that I didn't make a mistake what's done is done though and I'm ready to move to the next stages of my life that moment at the restaurant must have been intense seeing her walk in with Chris and watching the realization hit her oh to be a fly on that wall it's understandable that you wanted the kids to see the

truth even though it's tough for them it's good to hear that your lawyer has been so thorough and that you've come out of this with 7030 custody and no Financial losses you did what you had to do and it's clear you're focused on what's best for your kids while the situation with the kids is still delicate you're absolutely right sometimes divorce is better than having them grow up in a home full of tension and unhappiness it's going to take time for everyone to process but it sounds like you're prepared for the next phase of your

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