my wife had been cheating on me since we got married and still threatened me to accept the betrayal but what she didn't expect is that I would get revenge I thought my marriage was solid as 1 but 1 discovery recent turned my world upside down for years my wife used his annual trips with the best friend as a root for something much darker what I found on her phone it was just the tip of the iceberg determined to discover the whole truth I delved deep into this betrayal revealing secrets and devastating lies prepare for a journey of revelations shocking and devastating betrayals that promises to be unforgettable my wife Brenda thirty-one years old and Robert thirty-three we've been together for eleven years and married for eight we have 1 4 year old twin couple 1 boy and 1 girl our relationship last 3 years has been spectacular we passed at least one night a week together on a date our life in bed is regular we discuss everything we have long, intimate and financial conversations we are full steam ahead both with rising careers it wasn't always this good but it was never bad either we grew up together we had a lot of the typical couple issues in the beginning and during our early 20s but every challenge seemed just get closer at the end and that's it which makes the that I discovered two days ago even more devastating my wife is me cheating every month of june my wife and her best friend Scarlet take a girls trip it's a tradition they've maintained since they were it's nothing too crazy they usually choose a nearby tourist town and spend the weekend shopping relaxing by the pool or doing spa treatments nothing too exaggerated she already has this year's trip booked and it will be in just a few weeks another day I was looking at our bank app and he asked for a mandatory verification of information for privacy reasons I clicked on the button and he entered a two-step authorization click ok and he said he had to send me a code by text message but my wife's phone is linked to the account ly I got up and went to look for her phone normally i would ask but she was napping and I didn't want to wake her up I picked up the phone I requested the code to unlock since obviously he wouldn't recognize my face i know the pin is the same one she uses for everything once unlocked she had snapchat open and there was a message from her best friend in the chat that said you really are going to do this 1 sense of dread took hold of me I really had no reason to feel like this but something in the question seemed very wrong I thought a lot about how my wife I would answer and type back because I wouldn't Scarlet replied I'm just saying 2 guys at once it's quite intense my heart plummeted I couldn't believe what I was reading knowing I couldn't keep the farce I stopped responding and started looking at the snaps there were two guys that I vaguely recognized as being from my wife's past unfortunately it's Snapchat so when I clicked on them there was nothing there I went deeper into her phone nothing in text messages or emails I looked in a folder with a strange name and there was the train here were the messages i was looking for she was talking to her high school ex-boyfriend Donald making plans for the next girls' trip no concrete evidence no erotic messages or photos but definitelying definitely making plans to meet at the hotel and definitely planning that he brought his college roommate who was also my wife's second boyfriend called John I couldn't believe she would do this EU too was asking me how long has this been happening there weren't many messages but you could see that this would not be the first time Donald would join her on the girls' trip I knew that as Scarlet you would notice that I sent that last reply I had to confront my wife when she woke up when she finally woke up some scrutineers forty-five minutes later she took the phone immediately she didn't even notice that I was sitting on the chair in the corner of our 4th after looking at your snaps and sending some from Back to Scarlet she finally put the pieces together and realized that I had messed with her phone she looked at me and finally noticed my presence your first words said in 1 Tom very angry were you messed with my phone before I could say a word she started talking about invasion of privacy I was immediately pregnant how dare she blame me for anything I told her I knew she was cheating on me that she was talking to Donald John and that her and Scarlet's journey was just a cloud at the beginning she tried to deny it all tried to manipulate me said I was reading too much in the messages that she was just reuniting with old friends and knew that I would react yes so didn't tell me they were going to have lunch together but everything was 1 lie I was so angry that every situation turned into screams and screams I said I wanted a divorce and she said seriously you will throw away more than ten years because of some insignificant messages Insinuated that I was the one who was throwing it all away made me see the darkest of the reds and I said the who knew that would affect more than anything else I'm not the one throwing it all away your stupid cow I knew it would drive her crazy she hates that word she even gets angry when TV characters say to her I've never seen so angry but it worked she freaked out and yelled at me saying she does it for us I was by this statement but she wasn't done I am paraphrasing from memory but basically she started saying furiously everything because you think our relationship improves every year i deserve this it's my free weekend it allows me to deal with all the shit out of the year it restarts me if you can't understand this is your problem so what if I'm pushing some boundaries you are not happy we have 1 great life and all it costs EU to have 1 weekend a year free at this point she only warned 1 little but 1 Tom firm I understand your pride is hurt but it has nothing to do with you this is for me you can have a great life i only need this once a year and you need to make amends with it we have 1 good thing happening don't screw it up because you're mad now I couldn't believe what I heard I felt truly dizzy at that moment my chest squeezed this woman was out of SI I did not say 1 word I left the room I got in my car and went to my brother's house when I arrived I just sent a message to my wife I'm at's house please don't text me I need I've only been around for two days under the guise of hidden marital problems she sent me messages every morning asking me to come home and talk I answered both sometimes not yet i don't know what to do never I was so hurt or treated with such in I love her but this is too much I plan to go home tomorrow and try to sort this out. I don't see how we can overcome this 1st update well it's been a week so I thought it was time for an update not a good and i'm completely lost on what to do I really feel like she has me on her hands so the day after my last post I went home to talk to her she started giving what looked like 1 was not by what she's been doing but because I should never have discovered especially not the way I discovered she kept talking about how she LOVES me and I didn't want YOU to hurt me there was no remorse for the betrayal and there was some attempt to blame me saying I shouldn't have messed with her phone first she told me she wants to continue with our marriage I started talking and she cut me off saying to just listen to what she had to say it started with 1 prepared list of reasons why we shouldn't get divorced I don't remember everything but basically there were 3 reasons with all these subes that supported them the twins we don't want them to grow into 1 broken home they are so young and this is what they know none of us want to see them only half the time this was the only reason that I consider remotely valid our relationship is really great we complement each other we had a lot of fun together we rarely discuss and when we discuss it's more of a conversation we indulge in each other's tastes 1 we make love often and so on until a few weeks ago I would have completely agreed to it all. I tried to point that infidelity kind of overrides it all that's when I realized she didn't feel remorse and who really believed in his own that said she said that the trip of girls is what makes all this possible I was she kept saying that her annual trip allows her to get rid of everything is the reason why she can be all these things great all year round who whenever he feels a little resentment about something or if I irritate her or if she doesn't feel like making love or getting involved in one of my hobbies she can always put that aside because there's this trip me too couldn't believe this woman'sty financial stability there wasn't much we could do just pointing out how difficult it would be for both of them alone since we live so comfortably we can do so many things because we both earn well who cares when I could finally speak said how hurt he was betrayed and insulted she really got excited and apologized for disappointing me but at no time did you apologize for the betrayal itself I got the idea that I should never have figured it out I asked how long ago and she said ten years this is pretty much our entire relationship Help ask for more information but she cut me again and said that talking about the past would only disappoint more she wanted to talk about the future and what I needed to solve it I said if she wanted to bother obviously this journey needed to end she interrupted me and said no I won't stop yet I will this year I was furious and screamed so we're done I'm leaving and I'm going to divorce you that's when things got worse she sighed and said no you will not I didn't want to do this but you lose if you leave let's divide custody let's share our money but we will also share our debts and i have more than you half will become your the house is in my name and in my family's name and it is a pre maritão good in addition you don't have any proof that I did anything have you seen some vague messages that are now gone I bet you didn't send them to YOURSELF OR took pictures no this is 1 blameless state no infidelity clauses you are screwed I'll be really devastated without you I don't want you to think I don't love you but I'm going to move on here in this house with more free time you are moving into your mother's OR brother's house and will be miserable trying to shoot alone I felt so defeated at that moment and she noticed I felt Ali wishing she could disappear she seeing my breakdown approached to comfort me and I just let it happen without answering she started talking again saying let's go back to how things were you can keep your life I hate seeing you like this and I will do anything to make you happy you can tell yourself what you want during the two days of the year I'm out i understand you need time so take but don't throw it all away out of pride this has been the most productive week I don't want all this pain I want the life I had I think it's on the table but you can't just paint it thoughts are brutal and the realization that she feels no guilt that she really sees her betrayal as a good thing makes me question everything I feel like I can't even trust myself OR at my judgment because I'm an idiot who fell in love with this Person i'm still here at the house she's bombarding me with love like never before trying to start making suggestions for me buying things praising me is insane i don't know what to do is it really possible to leave this behind simply deal with it I don't even know no matter what happens I lose she wins second update well she left this morning for her girls trip I spent the morning taking care of the genies we made dough for a few hours it's amazing how their little brains that are usually easily distracted get so focused when you take new ones dough tubes and some great toy sets anyway it was a welcome of the turmoil of recent weeks that has only gotten worse in the last few days I still can't believe she was it's amazing how her ability to compartmentalizing things is insane I mean every day she is simply the best mother she too has been trying so hard to make me happy even when I'm an idiot with her she just says I know it is anger speaking is valid but I will not accept I'll give you time to calm down like what the fuck is this she has dressed me every day since d and i'm mad at myself because if twice every time it happened I felt really sick enquanto isso she acts like she's the best thing ever I am ashamed to report that I've been doing the dance of my choice trying to convince her not to go made no difference she was still for hanibal from everywhere for 1 craft fair and to have relationships with her 2 ex-boyfriends surpreendentemente I felt quite numb today as if finally ready to accept that this is who she's i should have accepted this last week when I finally managed to pull away beautiful details about years of travel of the previous girls that was unable to do by itself no because I had to get the information out of her no she seemed excited to share her adventures but because she was so determined to don't give me the opportunity to have concrete evidence this woman made me leave my phone in the car then had this conversation in the studio like who thinks about it she started by asking if I remembered when she and Scarlet went to Santa Claus I said yes we were dating only 2 months ago she said right nothing happened that time OR 5 years ago when I was 6 months pregnant with the genies but every other time I've been with at least one other guy at least I asked she said yes at least in the early years I didn't have a plan other than to get a guy and take you back to the hotel if he was a failure I would get another one the next day if he was good I stayed with him the weekend for some reason this was even worse than being an ongoing case the idea that she was catching guys random gave me the creeps when I asked if she used protection she said sometimes although he was angry continued I asked why she started cheating in the first place she said do you remember we were having some serious problems right after our first year together I had trip coming and I was venting to Scarlet about it.
she was having some issues with san your then boyfriend now husband and said we should betray you at first I was horrified but then she told me how her mother has always betrayed her father he simply accepts close your eyes she used to get really mad at her mother but one day something happened when she was sixteen Scarlet got sick at school and was sent home she drove home and quietly walked in just to catch the mother in the act upset and crying she asked her mother why her mother said because it makes her better have this about her father allows her to deal with all the things you don't like in your life makes her a better mother wife and makes her feel alive at the beginning Brenda was skeptical about all of this and told Scarlet he didn't promise he would do that Brenda admitted however that the idea excited it wasn't until the first night that she noticed that Scarlet had invited a colleague to find she would join him in his room that point Brenda said she was seriously afraid of losing something and while they were at a local college bar she took a guy apparently she chose well and the captain under contract for the rest of the weekend that's when Brenda did a monologue remembering what she looks like all year round but especially after returning from the girls' journey it's not a lie she was always super attentive and 1 beast in bed for weeks after it starts as soon as she comes back every year it's crazy to think how long I used to wait for your going knowing that she always came back with your charged battery now knowing how she carries makes me absolutely disgusted I asked then how did we get to the point where you have 1 case with your high school boyfriend she said not 1 case we took 1 weekend per year and we exchanged some messages before that doesn't make it 1 case but to answer your question after the first few years with random guys worked the next two years did not work so I decided to do what Scarlett does and invite someone the first time was a customer it all worked out the following year Police just received an intern hot at work and he alwaysed so I invited him the weekend was amazing but when we got back he got clingy I ended up having to threaten him and I learned that coworkers not good choices I ended up reconnecting with Donald at our alumni high school reunion four years ago he is also married so I knew it was safer than single guys he also had something to lose John and John are still best friends John is also married be with two at the same time it's been a fantasy for a long time so I thought why not and I just called him I should have stopped there but I didn't stop I did this dance of my choice for another week but now she's out for the weekend but I'm leaving too I will not live like this she thinks she has me but what she didn't predict was that I got numb maybe i don't have a plan now but i have time and I'll make sure she sees the consequences of that third update it's been a long time since I last posted but with so many people offering support and advice I felt I owed you all this one year update I know everyone wanted that I just got divorced and moved on and I would like that too but I also needed her to have consequences it took me months researching and planning but when you were ready I was going to make her pay for her in I knew I couldn't make a scorched earth between the laws of my state to custody the fact that both terms are good jobs burning garbage would be the best I could do but knows about one thing burning garbage was good enough I'll never forget the expression on her face when Brenda came back from her girls' trip she tried to be habitual and loving tried to start relationships tried to tell me about your adventure I behaved like a broken man while rejecting her gradually I was relaxing this madness making it look more and more that I was returning to normal and gradually allowed more of her affections my goal was just that she had a sense of security I still remembered the threats that she did right after the day of and I will never forget she telling me i would be the loser in all this no matter what well i wouldn't lose she would his biggest defect was complacency she hoped that everything would continue normally and she it was in a fog too big to even think that I would forget what I did my 1st plan was to manage it financially there wasn't much I could do here but I emptied our joint account I used that money to pay my debts notably the car that was in my name I also hired a lawyer to write the papers I used a good part to pay the deposit and the first month of a house I found who time everything right to ruin the trip of the girls of the following year would be ideal not last year summer slowly collecting any evidence of infidelity I could on Scarlet Witch with the cat out of the bag my wife I was much more relaxed with her phone before she was a little guarded with him not suspiciously because I always respected her privacy for the most part but generally it was extra saved in the months before june now how did she think i was so defeated I think she just left the phone around when showering or sleeping this allowed me to take screenshots pictures and send them to myself discovered that Scarlet wasn't just passing the girls' trip as an excuse she was having a full case for years the two guys I got enough to suspicion in a spouse concerned especially if there were other warning signs in the relationship so finally we arrived the week before this year's girls trip she was going out on friday but unfortunately for her on wednesday the mortgage fore notice arrived from the house she came screaming with me asking why I stopped paying the mortgage and how it would destroy our credit I took the moment to remember la that it wasn't my house my name wasn't on it she should remember that she was the one who pointed this out last year needless to say, she was extremely angry. she was furious she got even more angry when went to check the savings and found that it was empty for a few moments I really thought she was going to hit me I probably would have if I wasn't filming all this confusion while it was happening the best part was that she had who call the parents to cover the cost of stopping the execution I found it hilarious she put her father in the viva voz who started playing with me saying his name was still on her and finally screamed why the hell would you do that I simply replied because your daughter likes to cheat on me with other guys she screamed at me you are 1 big idiot at this point she turned around and left the room to deny her father the I just said which couldn't have been more convenient I enjoyed the chaos as my sign to send evidence of infidelity that I had collected for the other spouses feeling satisfied with my efforts so far I went to get the twins and went to my mother's house we had a good time Brenda was texting me about the house it was unfortunate that she found out that i also stopped paying her car would probably be taken over by the bank any day the craziest part was that she just couldn't understand why would i do that kept asking me I'm not good enough how could i do that because I was being so cruel when you finally respond it was because i realized how far she had gone she literally believed her own lie I told her you cheated on me every year you were going to do it again because I would stay with you because I would help or support you you lost your mind she replied in capital letters I do it for us I finally got my Clara admission of cheating I turned off the phone for the rest of the night I came home after work the next day she confronted me right outside apparently i ruined scarlet's marriage Samuel left her and said he wanted a divorce I think she's especially screwed because they had a prenuptial agreement I don't really know the details about it Brenda also received 1 angry and menacing call from gift's wife so I guess everyone got my emails well I'm not completely sure any word from John yet.
