alone ladies and genitals welcome to my second Channel today I'm going to talk about how to detach from people how to not get attached and how to overcome your emotions I get a lot of questions from my followers saying to me Simone how do you talk to so many guys and not get attached I actually don't talk to that many guys because I'm very quick to cut people off watch my previous video Red Flag I'm out of there most people have red flags so really there's not a lot left but yes I don't really get
attached and I'll tell you why because of the fact I'm a psychology student and for my last a very painful breakup I now know that majority of the time what we're feeling especially in terms of addiction or loss it's just the chemical reaction in your brain and it's not real so if you watch my manipulation video all of those tactics work okay they even work on me and you know why it's because you can't help this chemical reaction in your brain for example when someone's doing that hot and cold on you it works it works
every time it works on me but the difference is because I know that it's just chemical reaction in my brain I don't let it affect me for example this guy was doing hot and cold on me and and when he started doing that even though it low-key made me obsessed with him I never replied to him again I'm still thinking about him right now because of this because of the reaction in my brain I'm still thinking about him but I didn't act on it because I know that it's not real additionally how to not get
attached I talked about this in my I think it's my dating video on my main Channel but I remember I'm really really really against talking stages I think they're juvenile they should have been left in high school and early University what happens in a talking stage you get attached so easily because you're talking to them every day you're calling them you're always checking your phone you're waiting for that dopamine here's that message that they're sending to you by the time you meet up two things can happen one it goes really really well two you meet
them they're nothing like what they are online now you've wasted all this time now at this point you're likely already attached to them which means you're even more likely to ignore the red flags ignore the fact that you don't like them that much in real life and then give them a chance and that's dangerous being there done that never made that mistake ever again if I'm interested in someone romantically you plan a date we can very briefly talk before meeting but if you want to message me every day I'm not doing it I've had guys
do this recently and I will literally say to them why are you messaging me every day and then they're usually like oh I just want to talk and get to know you I'm like get to know me in real life because I find you know chemical thing in your brain the moment I start talking to them too much you're done you're attached already luckily for me this attachment breaks in like a couple of days and because I know it's not real I get over it faster I just don't think it's a good idea and people
are very very different online to what they are in real life some people you may not even like them in real life some people you may not like them over text and then you meet them in real life and they're surprisingly completely nothing like their dating profile also if you're dating you don't want to waste time right you don't want to get into like five talking stages do you know how much energy that takes I can confidently say I've never been in a talking stage and I did not plan on it it's really important that
you guys are able to distinguish between what's real and what's not for example like I told you that guy was doing hot and cold on me made me obsessed because reaction in my brain but because I know what I know I didn't react on it and I knew what he was doing therefore I never replied to him again versus if you don't know this stuff you'll probably just think oh my God I like this guy so much now why do I like this guy so much I'm in love with him there must be something about
him that's great if I like him no no it's just the dopamine and the oxytocin I promise you additionally when dating don't put all your eggs in one basket men hate when I say this every video when I'm like women even guys you need to date multiple people because think about it this way you only date one person your best all your time into one person you don't even know there's better people out there who are suited for you additionally now you have all this time to obsess over one person and also you're single and
not in a relationship until they ask you also detached energy is a lot more attractive energy is everything when someone is obsessed with me and they're so needy I get really freaked out don't you have a life I don't want to get into a relationship with someone's entire life is me that's terrifying and unhealthy maybe if you're into toxic relationships you'll love that but that isn't a really big red flag in my opinion also if you're someone that finds themselves getting attached to people really easily you need to introspect on why that is uh you're
probably missing something in your life which is why you're seeking it in another person and I think once you're able to identify this and work on it your obsession and attachment with other people will very quickly diminish to prevent attachment very fast avoid revealing personal information too early on like someone has to work to know the personal stuff about you you can't just like freely give it out same with them so if the guy or the girl is telling you very personal things about themselves or SOB stories you're also more likely to get attached to
them but also more attached to a hookup if you know more information about them and you cuddle them afterwards if you're someone that's into hooking up don't do that you'll get attached and obviously just like texting online if you're spending a lot of time with them you're going to get attached how can you not get attached even if you don't like that person you're probably going to get attached to them it's entirely possible to not like someone and then get attached because I told you half of it is this thing going on in your brain
but once you know and you can identify what's real and what's not and you know these manipulation tactics even though you know some people they don't do these manipulation tactics it's just who they are you will be able to save yourself from attachment I always say this as well whatever you're feeling right now it's going to pass and I know myself well enough that if I get the false sense of attachment I'll be over in a week true max two mats this feeling is not going to last forever it doesn't mean I'm in love with
them it doesn't mean I want to be with them doesn't even mean I want to talk to them again the brain is a funny and miraculous thing anyways guys I hope you enjoyed this video love you guys
