15 Experiences That Will Change Your Life & Make You Mentally Stronger

hey there aluer now there are experiences in your life that will pass you by unnoticed at the time but they go on to Define you one day you'll look back and wonder how you ended up here and you'll think back to these moments sometimes they're small and out of your control and sometimes they're big and were created by you and you know before we dive in here all the way we wanted to let you know that today's daily session on the alock app unpacks one of the main points we're talking about in this video we're

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final decision there's no cost to you upfront and you get to enjoy seven days of value on us before you decide okay so with that said as you hear about these 15 experiences we want you to note them down look out for them so when you experience them you'll know just how profound they can be and you can use their power and lessons all throughout the rest of your life so here are 15 experiences that will change your life and make you mentally stronger [Music] so starting off at number one doing a long intense physical

challenge every year thousands of Ordinary People pack up their backpacks and haul them across thousands of miles to hike some of the most challenging routes on Earth they sleep in tents with coyotes howling at night sidewalk down icy mountains and drag themselves through lands so hot and flat it can feel like each step is One Step Closer to the Sun and many of them do it alone the Pacific Crest Trail appalachin Trail Camino Francis West Coast Trail there are so many of them throughout the world some of them take months months of spending most of

your days walking with blistered feet and muscles screaming in pain and why why would people do this to themselves well it's a profound experience it's scary exhausting and all you have to think about is surviving putting one foot in front of the other and in doing so you realize what you're actually capable of you learn how strong your mind is because while every part of your body will scream in pain and send constant signals to your brain to tell you to stop and your brain will do everything to get you to stop you know you

can't the you inside you wakes up and it overrides every lazy Instinct in you to keep on pushing and that experience changes you nothing will ever be this challenging again number two holding on to a good friend through a hard time look okay friendships don't come with those inherent obligations and loyalty that comes with family it makes the choice to support a friend both more difficult and a lot more impactful we've got a genetic link to our family that makes it easier for us to ignore a lot of their flaws and troubles we're basically predisposed

to showing them support and loyalty but we don't necessarily have that same thing with friends the choice to support your friend or for them to support you through a tough time is one that you have to make every day you don't have to be there for them and they don't have to be there for you but you learn to manage your own feelings while supporting them and this strengthens your ability to cope with stress and adversity it deepens your empathy and understanding to human emotions you support each other even when you don't have to and

that memory of that strength and sincerity will follow you through the rest of your life always reminding you that when someone chooses to support you is especially when they don't have to you'll feel like you are capable of anything number three taking an uncalculated risk here at alux we often talk about the importance of taking a risk if you want progress there will be times when you need to take a leap but many of these risks are calculated right you look at the length and height of the jump you mobilize resources to help give you

a push and you plan a safety net that will catch you but what if you just did it with no analysis no plans no safety net it sounds pretty crazy right you're increasing your chances of failure by tenfold but you know what nothing pushes you out of your comfort zone and forces you to step into the unknown faster suddenly all of those tools and skills you didn't even know you had will rise to the surface your lazy brain that's been sleeping or coasting will jump up and throw everything you have in to save you and

that's when you'll know just how much you're cap cap able of it's not something you do very often or something you do lightly but you might face that decision one day and just as you start to head into analysis mode stop yourself and make the decision right then and there and let's see how far you go number four backpacking to a country where nobody speaks your language backpacking traveling and holidaying are three very different experiences you'll get the foods and some of the cultural experiences with traveling and holidaying but it's backpacking that will throw hardships

and challenges your way and that's what you want it's backpacking that will have you crying from exhaustion after 30 hours of traveling hot no air conditioning delayed trains and flights getting to a destination in the middle of the night with your phone dead trying to find out where you're staying and speaking to a sea of confused faces because nobody speaks your language what do you do then well you'll figure it out somehow you do it and again you just learn how much you're capable of it's the challenges that shape you not the vacation or holiday

or sipping P coladas Under the Umbrella none of that really benefits you the hard stuff will make you better number five a validation of your instincts so throughout your life you'll have these feelings about a situation or a person that will be kind of difficult to place or understand things won't seem right and you won't be sure why you'll probably push these feelings away and talk yourself out of having them and one day you'll find out you were right all along that person or that situation wasn't good there wasn't really anything that could have shown

you the truth nothing you could have seen or heard that gave a valid explanation for something feeling off but it did feel off and the moment your instincts are validated you change you start to trust yourself more you stand your ground and you feel stronger you can make decisions that you don't need to explain to everyone else number six forgiving someone you probably shouldn't the idea that you have to forgive someone is a myth you don't owe it to anybody especially not someone who hurts you deeply forgiveness doesn't lead to peace or relief for everyone

sometimes it can feel like a betrayal of your feelings and experiences and you know you can move on on without forgiving the person but if you do forgive them it does change you and it does make you mentally stronger because that forgiveness isn't really for them anyway it's for you but we can't sugarcoat it all right the work of forgiving someone who's hurt you is long and hard it's not actually the forgiving part that strengthens you it's more like the process you undergo to reach that point it's an overriding of your better judgment and survival

instincts it's taking back some of that power from a mind that thinks ruminating and dwelling is what's going to save you when it only drags you down further you still don't ever have to speak to that person again you don't have to tell them that you've forgiven them but you'll know when you reach that point and you can think about them without feeling any kind of anger resentment or frustration it's mere indifference and that is a great feeling number seven walking away from something good in the hopes of something better walking away from anything is

pretty scary because you're entering into the unknown right whether it's a job a partner or your apartment leaving what you know can turn your sense of normaly on its head sometimes things are really bad and you're basically forced to leave but there are also times when it's good really good on paper it's everything you could want and yet for some reason you're not happy for some reason where you are now isn't clicking and doesn't feel right so you have to walk away despite everyone telling you that you've got a good thing going on here it

takes Monumental strength to walk away from something good purely because you've got this feeling that it's just not right for you but when you do it and when that moment and experience comes along that proves you right you'll be a changed person you'll know and understand that you know what's best for you your self-doubt will simmer down and you'll start to feel a sense of relief and peace number eight reading a book that changes your life look here at halux you know how much we love reading in books and how much we think they are

revolutionary to your life because there's a book out there that will absolutely change your life it will change the way you think behave and live if you haven't read one yet keep reading and searching because one will come to you it could be fiction or non-fiction a book that lives on the New York Times bestseller list or one that will never see more than a few hundred sales when you pick up the book you'll have no idea what you're in for but you'll turn to that last page a different person it'll strengthen your ability to

think critically and creatively you'll develop your empathy and emotional intelligence it'll help you to understand your life better and inspire you to take action but most of all it'll be like a comfort and solace in the most difficult times letting you know that although you might be alone you are never on your your own number nine paying heed to the wise kind words of a passing stranger now this doesn't happen often but it does happen more often than you think you need to be looking out for it though because sometimes a complete stranger will be

the wisest person you ever meet they'll leave you with a few words and if you don't grab on to them treasure them and analyze them you could lose the impact they'll have on you it's the words of a precocious child who blurts out something that Rings far too true a genuine compliment from a kind cashier the comforting words of Airline staff or words of wisdom from people playing chess in the park it can pass by so quickly but there's a moment just after they say it where you feel a little better a little lighter maybe

you laugh or something clicks within you and you see a different perspective or you feel beautiful pay attention to those words and hold on to them you may never see that person again but you'll always remember them number 10 the moment you make a childhood dream come true when you were a child did you ever look up into the sky and see the flashing lights of a plane and think wow one day I'd like to be up there looking down on the world or maybe you moved around a lot and all you dreamed about was

having your own home no matter how small you just wanted it to be yours whether you dreamed of summiting Everest or flying a plane or buying your own home there's a moment when you achieve something and you flash back to the memory of that child making that wish that's the moment when you understand what it means to be proud you can go back and tell your childhood self Hey kid we made it we really made it you've done one of the things you really wanted to do and you did it all on your own it

sets you up for success for the other things on your list number 11 achieving a hard goal in a short time now we often talk about setting smart goals two of these letters are for achievable and time bound if you want to reach your goals you have to make them realistic and you have to give yourself a reasonable time frame right pretty basic stuff but sometimes you can throw that handbook out the window as you start working on your goal maybe you realize you might be able to do it faster and better than you planned

so you push a little bit more and then a little bit more and you do it you set a hard goal and you nailed it in record time and this just goes once again to show you exactly what you're capable of number 12 hearing a profound story you will never forget now it could be a story from a grandparent who passed away a long time ago something you read in a forum you've never been able to find again or even folklore tales that someone told you in a bar but it will leave a lasting impression

maybe it made you realize the reality of how the world Works maybe it made you see your full potential or maybe it made you laugh or cry or most importantly think stories have always been a part of what makes us human and what connects us across cultures and generations look out for these stories look out for the people who love telling them and listen carefully number 13 jumping over your Baseline level of spontaneous action now some people are naturally more spontaneous right taking a detour to the beach on the way home from work is totally

normal for others it's a big change that takes some courage so whatever level you're at the moment you leap over it and just go for it that's the moment you boost your confidence in your abilities it's the moment you learn to think and react quickly and improve your ability to adapt to new situations or unexpected challenges it's a time for you to learn about risk reward and seizing the moment all of these things are modules in a course on mental resilience within the alux app number 14 discovering that you hate to something everybody else loves

now this can kind of feel like you're living in some kind of alternate world when everyone you know seems to love a certain experience and yet you hated it it could have been a restaurant a trip an activity like paragliding or a life path like starting your own business or even a cultural belief that everyone follows but doesn't make sense to you learning that you are so different to even the people closest to you can shatter your world a little bit but it also helps you grow you get to know yourself better because now you

understand your preferences values and limits this self-awareness gives you a stronger sense of individuality it also makes you reflect on the reasons for your different response so you can sharpen your critical thinking skills you're forced to be very honest with yourself and you gain confidence when you talk about the way you feel and defend it to others who feel differently this is just a really good exercise in individuality and number 15 the first time you buy something of exceptional quality now if you grew up in a household that struggled with finances well you maybe have

never had the opportunity to own something of exceptional quality you might even think it's a waste of money a totally unnecessary purchase until the first time you buy something that is great quality if it's clothes you immediately feel different when you wear them it's more comfortable it fits better and that gives you more confidence you develop an appreciation for craftsmanship durability and the benefits of investing in good products you even change your spending habits and lean towards saving up and investing in better quality things your thinking shifts from short-term benefits to long-term goals and this

mindset carries on to other areas of your life it improves your discipline your financial literacy and it helps you plan and strategize all right so those are 15 experiences that will change your life and make you mentally stronger but you know what you stuck with us this long you're getting a bonus and today's bonus experience is actually a bad failed relationship and this one is a tough one and it's an experience that nobody should have to go through but you probably will at some point it forces you to look at the things about yourself that

drove you to that person and kept you there it starts the work you have to do on yourself to unpack the things that motivate your choices and as you do this work you learn a lot more about yourself what you want from life and how you can use your past to fuel you instead of hold you back you learn to spot and avoid the red flags you learn that you can survive even in those toughest heartbreaks you get to the point where you think what can't I do you got through this so truly you can

go through anything and best of all you realize who the good people are in your life and you make an effort to spend more time with them your life gets more full more exciting and less stressful it's not a fun experience to go through a major heartbreak like most of the other things that we spoke about here today but boy oh boy does it ever make you stronger and that's a wrap for us today alexir we're sure you've got your own life-changing experiences that have made you mentally stronger and we want to know what those

experiences are so please share them with the community in the comments below and let's all learn from each other's experiences we'll see you back here next time my friend until then take care