n ways that women manipulate men and why you don't always want that for your life or for yourself these manipulations are often misunderstood and often don't work and I don't want you to make these mistakes baby that's why I'm talking to you about this today they are distributed a lot on social media people talk about them a lot manipulate this manipulate that I got into the papers because I titled a video on Tik Tok about how to manipulate men in reality that's just a title but I would never tell you how to manipulate someone I
would just tell you how to uh uh change yourself and you know make a better version of yourself so that you attract the right person but without further Ado let's get into it number one is the help me I am helpless syndrome this often gets mistaken because what I will often say or maybe other content creators will say is that or other health coaches or you know lifestyle coaches will say is that men want to feel and I think we spoke about this on the last video and podcast is that men want to feel like
they are making a change in your life they want to see themselves as the hero in your life they want to see themselves as somebody who moves the needle that you don't need to be this powerful you know woman to attract a man you just don't have to be every man likes a different type of woman but I will say this that asking a man for his help or for his advice is a useful way to start a conversation or start a relationship with a man because they like to feel useful to you whilst remaining
free and I've said this a lot however this I'm a helpless girl and I don't know what I'm doing help me constantly constantly constantly can backfire why because you want a man who is in his true masculine and is adequate and wants an adequate Woman by his side if you are constantly in this kind of like childish state you will attract a man who has a low ego he he is not fully developed he's childish himself and he needs you to somehow prompt his masculinity with being so so helpless that it makes him feel like
somebody compared to you now that's not what we want when I recommend ask him for his advice or ask him for help what I'm actually recommending is when you want to talk to a man or when you want to start a conversation or when you want to get on his good side as opposed to initiating everything and driving the whole conversation and driving all the dates you should ask oh what's the best Indian restaurant that you know what's the best Japanese restaurant that you know that is not helplessness that is asking him for his advice
let's say he's a restaurant and he really loves you know eating out that is asking him for his advice telling him asking him for help for something you genuinely need help with like I will be damned if I'm going around hanging some kind of heavy mirror on my wall that is not pretending to be helpless I genuinely don't want to do that and I'm a massive advocate of if you can make him do it make him do it because we have enough on our plate ladies but don't act helpless oh I don't know how I
don't know how because what you're going to infringe on is his freedom and you're going to attract and that is one of the most important things for men but secondly you're going to attract a man who needs to look better compared to you number two the bimbo technique I'm stupid I don't understand oh what did he say or what was that I want to implore that I understand where this technique comes from of like don't talk over him be a bit stupid like be a bit vacuous be all of this in order to attract him
because again he's going to feel so good compared to you but the reality is if you're looking for a man who's going to be your husband or somebody who's going to be with you he's going to want to be looking for an Amal Clooney he's going to want to be looking for for somebody who is his counterpart he's going to want to be looking for somebody who he can take out into to social settings and be proud of you however I will say a note about this bimbo technique I've got my pen out and I'm
talking to you with my pen out like a teacher for some reason but it's helping me deliver the point that you need to use in life in general whether you're a man or a woman discernment of whether whether you should argue with a person about point or not sometimes being the dumb Fox is the best thing to do because once you disagree with a person and once you put them on the back foot of a disagreement they will not see you as favorably as they once saw you so if somebody says I really like the
color blue and you're like well it's not a good color because red is better straight away they're in the position of opposing you it is often very good to play stupid or not no for example if I don't want to do something and I'm I'm talking to a man well a man who has of sexual interest to me and say my husband for me it might be a boyfriend for you you don't always need to become an opposition for him you don't always need to get get into a fight with him sometimes it's better to
go oh I just didn't notice that oh I just didn't know because it's better to diffuse the situation than it is to always go into conflict we're taught that we always need to be capable we always need to be having something to say very logical very just driven and that's very good for us in the work environment but sometimes taking a back seat and pretending we just don't know is the best recipe because it just makes you more likable and being likable is sometimes a good thing let's not get it twisted I don't want to
battle everyone in my life my whole life okay but being a bimbo and acting like you have no idea what's going on and you just don't know is not the right way to go about it either because again you will attract a man with a small ego who wants to look smart at your expense and that is not what you want you're not going to attract a high value man and quotations as you guys like to talk about because he's going to be like who am I going to take her to what is she going
to say this is ridiculous number three the he's better than you my girlfriend's partner is nicer than you and he drives a faster car than you this I'm just going to deunk right now does not work never will work never has worked I don't know who made this up if you are telling your man in order to motivate him how Tom Dick and Harry are better than him because your girlfriend's boyfriend took her on holiday and how your man ain't this is a recipe for disaster straight away take that put that in the bin along
with your other ideas it is not a good idea is it going to work on you if your man comes up to you and says Amanda looks better than you in a dress and by the way she's bounced back from postpartum really quickly and he doesn't know what your problem is and also she's very nice baby I know if you're listening to this and you're a woman you know one thing if you tell a man your man a story about another girl and how she looked at you funny and how she text you the wrong
thing and if he even dares to utter the words of like oh yeah but I see her point of view he is dead to you for like the next few days like you don't even want to know what he's got to say when he's got to say or who he's got to say he took the other woman's side so don't think that just because you compare him to another man it's going to make him run quickly get jealous and do better things this is just a recipe for disaster the other two have some Merit but
number three just has no merit bin it put it in the bin in fact don't talk about other men don't talk about it it's it's bad don't talk about exes don't talk about anything like that it's a bad idea trust me number four crocodile tears and this one is a very interesting one it's close to my heart because I'm an emotional person me I don't cry often but I if I am crying I'm crying like I'm not going to pretend I'm not crying and I often advise you my loves that if you feel something say
something like if I feel like I don't want to do something I'm going to say it we as women suppress a lot of our feelings and a lot of our emotions in order to then attack the guy like some kind of saber-tooth tiger the next week because we've just done so many things that we don't want to do so if you feel something say something that is the true feminine energy but also don't be stupid and don't be talking about stuff that doesn't matter again the dumb Fox Okay so you've got to have balance between
that does it really matter enough for you to talk about it talk about it and if not then sit on it but make sure it's not going to compromise this is the key it's not going to compromise your behavior with him if you're going to be an angry rat in the corner it's something you need to talk about but crocodile te is something that women use I don't use it but I know from many many men and many women I've coached that if you use tears in order to facilitate him to feel that you mean
what you say you will eventually turn off the gauge in him where he believes that what you are saying is authentic do you know what I mean a lot of women can kind of go back to that and if you can refrain from it and my biggest example is if he doesn't turn up on time or if he doesn't do something I will often personally go into the realm of anger and I need to control that but a lot of women go into tears and crying and how could you and how dare you and all
these things don't think that just because he reacted one time to you crying leave it for when it's authentic if you're going to cry constantly and I know this because I get the DMS and I get people who I talk to telling me my clients and stuff that he doesn't react anymore this is a line I've heard a thousand times I just lie in bed crying myself to sleep and he just does nothing and he lays there for some reason if you overuse emotion not that it's your fault it just happens men will turn it
off they will turn off their emotional connection to you so be who you are but don't let yourself get to the state of overwhelm where you are crying if you're already at the stage where you are crying because of a behavior he did then you need to understand that you're in a relationship place where you shouldn't have gotten to that in the first place if suddenly he's done something that makes you cry girl cry like it is what it is but if you're crying every Wednesday Friday and Sunday because you know he didn't put the
cheese on the toaster properly and you're expecting an emotional reaction that's the problem here if you're expecting an emotional reaction and a connection that might not be it number five using intimacy AKA sex as a way to get what you want I often talk about you need to on one hand know how to make the man in your life very very happy as in you need to understand him more than you love him that's just the recipe for a good marriage or a good long-term relationship in my eyes and he needs to just love the
hell out of you and not understand you much because I cannot explain myself to you all the time if you don't understand you don't understand just love me and do what I need okay sir but the point of this is a lot of women say yeah but how on the other hand do I set my boundaries how do I punish him in quotation marks if he's done something wrong you need to be authentic to yourself and this is the key authenticity is often the key in life okay for example some men really react to your
closeness like let's say every day after work you guys chat or let's just say you guys are intimate like you you sleep together every other day or maybe you cook for him or something like that but it is within reason it's not like if you upset your man and let's say his role is the provider in the relationship this is just an example he snatches the card out of your wallet and doesn't give you money that week that's not what happens you have some roles in your relationship which still stand by which is why if
my partner does a small indiscretion which isn't really but he really annoyed me but d d d I won't stop washing his clothes because that's something I usually do to run our household however if he does something that truly hurts me on a real personal level which hardly happens but if it did happen let me tell you there would be no intimacy there would be no washing there' be no cooking because why I am genuinely heartbroken and sad I am genuinely not doing those things not to punish you but because I don't want to talk
to you before we go to bed I don't want to touch you I don't want to anything it's not these rules that I saw I can't remember which American dating show I saw her on but there's some kind of like no touch rule or something like you were mean to me so now you're not going to touch me for 3 days what are you talking about there should be no no intimacy rule or no touch rule the only time you should stop physical affection with your partner or let's say cooking for him or whatever it
is you do or talking to him is when you genuinely in your soul feel sick in order to do it you don't like to do it it makes you disgusted because what they did was so awful to you or you just don't like them as a person right now and you you need time and in that moment when he comes to you and he's like hey baby let's do this where's my where's my dinner you say do you know what I am genuinely so sad that I can't even think about that right now not oh
because you did ABCD e FG now you can't sleep with me for 2 weeks that's not the way that's not the way so as much as you need to understand him and know how to make him happy you you also need to know how to make him not so happy and that is in the minor small ways like if you always pick up his random drink when you drive through a drive-thru don't do that anymore because he's not respecting you so don't do that but you can't suspend intimacy and you know completely derail your household
not pick up your children from school like do all this madness because those things have to come from a genuine place so don't use sexual intimacy in order to control anybody it is not a tool it is a genuine intimacy between the two of you as people so you cannot use it that way however if you truly have been hurt there is no time limit there is no reason there is maybe a counselor you need to see there is a therapist you need to see but using that to control him is not the way it's
it has to come from genuine emotion number six feel sorry for me I have no boundaries but you need to feel sorry for me this is a female manipulation that I really don't like and I talk about it so much you have one life you are this feminine creature as I talk about it life isn't always easy you have your periods you have postpartum I'm 8 months pregnant at the moment okay I'm doing all this and what a lot of women will do is instead of taking up space in this world taking up their rightful
space in this world and saying listen I can't look after your 700 children and five horses and five dogs okay I can't do it you need to pull pull in and and do it as well before you get angry before you get angry you need to say it with the likeness of spirit you need to say it playfully girl you need to be like baby it's too much for me I can't do it today I can't cook I can't cook because I'm 8 months pregnant and our toddler son is really a lot that's something I'm
going through at the moment without guilt without anything sit down with him and be like we need to sort it out we need to work on this together because I can't do that right now this is my boundary this is my limitation and men really understand that you know why because men won't take on more than they can do and want to do like I know some men take three jobs in order to support their families but that is a decision they made in order to support their family it's not that so the woman swoops
in and takes one of the jobs from him it's a decision he's made in order to be the provider okay but a female manipulation and what women love to do is oh just so tired today can't can't do anything I'm just so tired well if you're so tired carve out the time and carve out the space and baby trust me I get tired I get very very tired I just had hyperemesis in my pregnancy which is Extreme vomiting and nausea I have a toddler I'm running a business I'm doing this and that and the other
we might be moving house listen it's a lot we're all human I understand and I love to complain but the complaint is from a place of like damn this is like a lot it's difficult it's not where is me you know why you know why I really discouraged the woe is me mentality and the woe is me kind of approach to a man is because you will kill your sexual intimacy you're going to go into the role of haggard mother Haggard and tired mother you and he is your son that is the dynamic you will
go into because we use that a lot as children and maybe not so much now because we're more enlightened and parenting or at least we're trying to be but a lot of men were raised with a mother who was overworked and tired maybe had a job or stayed at home home and had five kids and was tired and hagged and get off me don't touch me I'm just too tired and I'm just so stressed and I'm just so down about myself and I'm just like get the violins out and it makes them feel guilt it
makes him feel not sexually attracted to you so instead of using this feeling of feel sorry for me and pity why don't you use your voice and boundaries and say actually it's too much for me and sit with that feeling of guilt sit with that feeling of guilt babe just sit with that feeling of like I've set a boundary I've asked for something this is a strange feeling I'm not used to it because I so badly want to be the good girl I so badly want to be loved I so badly want to be everything
to everyone you know I just I just want to be all of that and you can't be so sometimes you need to be a big woman about it and just set some boundaries number seven is I am the Workhorse I can do it all this is the other spectrum of women the first one is the archetype the the number six is the archetype of the cow which I talk about in my master class 20 feminine energy principles and I really dive into it more in my polarity master class and that is about how to maintain
the relationship and the spark once you do have a relationship if he's losing interest in you all those things so check those out on margarit and nero.com and I have a bundle to buy them together Which is less I never say that so you know it's there and I'll put it all in the description boxes as well so you can check that out but this archetype of like wo is my life is the cow like she's overworked motherly and like BL and this one number seven is the Workhorse this is the woman who does it
all was programmed to think that she can do it all has to do it all I don't know why you'd want to do it all like even the ant Queen has all these ants to do it all for her and it doesn't reduce her value in fact most people who do great business or do great things have a lot of people working with them and for them and you know they delegate tasks but we move on the Workhorse is the woman who's overworked over tired overstressed and she just doesn't say anything and she thinks that
by doing it all by doing doing doing doing doing which is a masculine trait she will get rewarded by from others with recognition when she understands finally that the feminine energy and what women what people pardon me want from a woman is feminine energy and this light and this sensual juiciness of femininity and I know you can't always have that if you're a single mother and you're working but this is in the context of manipulating a man so say you're married and you're together and you're like yep I can do it all I'll work two
jobs or I'll work really hard and then I'll come and do the house and I'll do this and I'll do that and you are just grinding yourself into nothingness and it often reflects on a woman's image how she looks She's going to cut her hair off not that there's anything wrong with short hair but let's say that was not your style she will start to simplify her life she will stop to wear clothes that she wants to wear she will stop to embellish herself she will stop to do all those things that make her feel
glorified in her femininity in order to just keep on working because she feels like some kind of reward like heaven in Christianity or something I don't know she feels like once she has mared herself enough everyone will recognize her but sadly that's not the case people the world and especially men recognize women who can take up space and love themselves because value is given to those who give themselves value people only talk well about women who are the Workhorse and sacrificed themselves and never did anything after they die basically they just go oh yeah she
was a really good woman yeah my mom she she worked so hard not my personal mom by the way my mom really knows how to take up space my mom is my mom would give Beyonce a run for her money of how much Queen energy she has and how much space she takes up which is I guess where I got this point from but no one's going to glorify you from doing doing doing it's just not going to happen that's all I'm going to say so ask people for Help number eight I'm leaving you but
daily in every argument I will say it's very very important to set a boundary of if you ABCD EFG somewhere in your conversation of long-term relationship if you ABCD FG I won't be able to be with you and I will leave you what is that for you I don't know he hits you he fanders he disrespects your dog I don't know what that is for you for me I have some things where I have said once not every day not on the daily but I've communicated the message to the men I've been with and specifically
my husband especially my husband pardon me that these things I as much as I'd want to look past I won't be able to so you do that you'll lose me and I know what he wouldn't be able to look past either this isn't just a feminine thing it's a masculine thing too I know his boundaries he knows mine but we don't talk about it we don't go on about it if you're the type of woman who is constantly saying you're going to leave because of a behavior baby goral you are the reason why the person
who is with you does not change even if you want the ring like we talked about in last episode if you want the ring on your finger and you're always nagging him about it and you're always like I won't be able to be with you I'm going to leave yada y blah blah blah but you're not leaving he understands that it's not a thing for you you're tricking yourself you're tricking him things need to be understood and communicated once and clearly I want to be married I am 29 years old I want to have three
kids God willing if that's not you that's absolutely fine but if you don't let me know within a year then on Mutual ground I am off you know it's it's no no problem for me and you need to let people know like that because you are a prize my love you are a prize in terms of the fact that you were born people raised you if you ever raised children you understand how much hard work that is to put into actually raising someone and effort and all your ancestors that came before you and everything so
you're a prize not because you are more special than any human being but because life is precious it is a prize to have life so you don't need to cling onto Jeff over here who doesn't know if you are the one for him let Jeff go because maybe he's meant to be with Mary and the one you're meant to be with is just waiting around the corner and in every argument if you're threatening to leave you are losing the power in your voice it is literally the most power reducing thing that you can say if
you say it often do not do it do not use the divorce word don't do it because because you will lose with that manipulation number nine one that is near and dear to me blowing hot and cold I made a Tik Tok that said if you're always consistent and you're always the same in your relationship you are losing out why because you are building a level of love and intimacy that might make your desire part suffer and I said like if you're always texting your husband 500 times a day then maybe one day delve into
work go to the cinema with your friends do something else for your life don't always be consistent in how you act because in being consistent in how you act and always being his beck and call it denotes to me that you might not have very much of a life of your own people are busy people who have value value their own time when you're doing your yoga you're going to your gym put your phone away when you're pushing the shopping trolley don't don't be trying to text in with one arm while your kid is crying
I am guilty of these things I'm talking to myself as much as I'm talking to you because we're used to so being so subservient to people and what they need from us that we're not there and present in our own life don't always reply to everyone this this this this is for friends as well don't always be jumping on everything have some kind of I don't know demeanor about you of your time being precious and what a lot of people misunderstand that as as blowing hot and cold like on purpose like one day I'll be
sitting there sulking and the next day I'll be there and happy it only works if it's genuine and that is your genuine emotion and I'm a big advocate for adhering to your genuine emotion in the moment but I'm not an advocate for pretending to blow hot and cold because if you've got a mature masculine man who is basically in his he's secure in his attachment he will very quickly get bored of you and just lose attraction to you how ever if you've got a man who is avoidant or a man who is a anxious this
blowing hot and cold on purpose is going to work really well on him because that is part of his trauma and how he was raised so if you got one of those keep going girl I wouldn't recommend it but if you want a secure man don't pretend to blow hot and cold don't play games be authentic because you want that secure man in your life but don't also be at his back and call constantly constantly constantly anyway let me know in one of my posts DM me let's talk about it leave a review on this
leave me a comment are you guilty of these manipulations and if you're a man have they worked on you let me know how you feel and um I'll see you on the next one I'll talk to you on the next one thanks for Lending me your ear love you lot like J talks [Music] bye [Music] oh
