You want to know how to be more attractive or attractive, so I bring you 5 keys backed by science to achieve it. Oh! And I am going to raffle a month of full access to the Campus and all its trainings.
It could be for you. You will agree with me. Feeling like someone likes you… is great.
And I do n't just mean someone liking you in a sexual sense, that too. People love to be liked, liked, that others want to be in our company. One of the most stimulating phrases someone can say to us is "I like you.
" And I'm going to tell you something that you may have already perceived in some way: the people who are liked more, who are more attractive (and we are not talking about physical appearance at all, because you will see that this is something secondary although it does not seem like it) . . .
Well, the people who like the most are the people who get the most. They get more friends, they close more deals, they have more dates, they get better positions… When one of these people appears on the scene, they all want to connect with her, to get a piece of her attention. These are extremely desirable people , and you can be one of those people.
We are going to achieve it with the 5 privileged finds that I bring you today. If you are a student of mine at the Campus de Poder Personal http://www. 30kcoaching.
com/poderpersonal , you are already working on all this in detail and surely you have already begun to see results. But if you are not on campus, these 5 keys will help you start strong. Pay close attention.
The Australian Journal of Psychology published an article where it was shown that people who are most attractive to others keep their jobs much more often than those who do not like them so much. This is serious stuff. We are not talking about technical skills for the job in question or talent.
We are talking about social appeal. And why is this happening? Well, because people who like others are usually people with whom it is easy to work.
They tend to be great working as a team and have it easier to lead people where they are interested. Another scientific fact that will surprise you. A study carried out by the Talent Smart team with more than a million people found that those who are attractive tend to bring out the best in others when they interact with them.
This is an awesome super power. Are you ready to make your attractiveness your priority? Let's go there!
These are the 5 scientifically proven keys shared by social psychology expert Vanessa Van Edwards to make you a more attractive person . Key 1: Throw signals Ok, I just checked just before I shot this video. In the last 30 days, 6,600 people googled "how to tell if you like me.
" And this only in Spain. Another 2,400 in Mexico. Another 720 in Argentina.
Another 590 in Chile. Another 480 in Colombia . .
. And it continues to add. And this is just one of the endless ways to ask Google the question .
Almost 100,000 people from all over the world searched in the last month "how to know if someone likes you", and this only in Spanish. Other so many searched "how to know if a girl likes you" and more or less the same amount searched "how to know if a boy likes you . " I don't know what it will look like to you .
. . but what I see clearly is that we have no idea when someone likes us.
And it is not easy to know. You know why? Because when we like someone .
. . we hide.
We don't want to be noticed. This phenomenon has a scientific name. It is known as "signal amplification bias.
" What this means is that people tend to believe that our social signals are very obvious, when in fact they are not at all. Human beings have a constant nuisance sitting on our shoulders, which is called the ego. And our ego lives in fear of being rejected.
In fact, I am going to leave you in the information box a previous video where I show you how to overcome the fear of rejection, because I know that it will come in handy in your goal of being more attractive. The fact is that our fear of rejection leads us to try, by all means, to hide when we like someone. We are so afraid that this attraction is not mutual, that we choose to hide that this person attracts us.
And this becomes a meaningless cycle. You hide that you like him because you don't know if he likes you. The other person hides that they like you because they don't know if you like them.
And so on forever and ever. And what do we end up doing in a desperate attempt to get a clue? Ask Google.
I am going to propose something that I know requires a very big step of courage. Shake off that shoulder pain. Put your ego aside and stop this cycle.
Do you remember what you did as a child when you wanted to be friends with someone who, at first glance, seemed cool to you? You would approach him and say: "Hello! Do you want to be my friend?
" Without a single gram of ego in the body. Exposing yourself to a negative response without fear and knowing that, really, you were not losing anything. Oh what good times!
And what are you doing now? Well now you make yourself interesting. You pretend the other person does n't even get your attention.
Given this, the other person understands that you do not have the slightest interest and, although she was interested, she withdraws, of course. And this happens in romantic relationships, in friendships, in professional relationships . .
. in all kinds of interactions! Imagine how much fun it could all be without the annoyance of your ego.
Researcher Monica Moore conducted an investigation that even when we think we're being very obvious, we're actually not. For example, do you know how many direct glances he discovered that a woman must throw at a man before he realizes that she is interested? Come on, think about it for a moment and try to get it right: 2 looks.
5 looks. 9 looks. 13 looks.
Do you have your answer? ……… . .
tic tac tic tac tic tac. The correct answer is 13 looks! 13 looks!
When in your life have you cast 13 direct glances at someone hoping they would get the message? Generally, we tend to feel that if we don't get an answer on the second look, we are humiliating ourselves too much if we look a third time. And here is the problem.
When we don't send obvious signals, we miss out on opportunities for mutual attraction. If we openly show that we like the other person, it will be much easier for that person to like us. Because I'll tell you a secret… do you know which people we tend to like the most?
People who like us (and this is a second key spoiler). So always remember this: even if you think you are being very obvious with your signals, you are not. Put your ego aside and let the other person see that you like having them around.
This trick is almost, almost foolproof. Very badly you would have to do the rest so that, just with this, that person will not like you a little more. We then go with the second scientifically proven key.
Key 2: We are attracted to the people we attract I have already told you before. When you perceive that someone likes you, instantly that person likes you more. And it is the simplest and most effective advice that I can give you.
Take an interest in people, look in them for the things you like. If you like more people, more people will like you. And there is nothing that is more attractive to us than feeling the attention of the other person.
Your interest, your curiosity about us. Do you know why this happens? Why do you like someone more when you notice that they like you?
Because there is no risk of social rejection. Your ego feels that it can relax in the presence of that person, and it likes that. A study carried out by the Science of People research group in secondary education institutes proved just this.
The most popular kids were precisely those with the least fear of rejection. Those who had no qualms about greeting new guys or girls for fear of being rejected. The ones who confidently approached people they found interesting and showed… interest.
Conclution? The same one you have already reached. Park your ego, relax and approach who you like.
And you will like it more. Next key! But first, head over to the comments section and write me a comment with the word EGO and an emoticon, whatever you want.
I want to know how many people have reached the third key. You are my favorites, without a doubt. Key 3: Take Advantage of the Similarity Attraction Effect Although variety and differences add immense richness to our social interactions, there is an undeniable phenomenon that occurs in a very powerful way.
We know it as the Similarity Attraction Effect. And what it means is that we naturally tend to be attracted to those who resemble us. I know what you're thinking… You've always heard it said that opposites attract.
And the truth is that, once we deepen relationships, we tend to be attracted to the bits and pieces of other people that we do n't have but would like to have. For example, if you are an insecure person, you may be attracted to self-confident people, because they have that which complements you. However, instant attraction occurs more easily and immediately with people who look like us.
And how similar am I talking to you? Well, I'm talking about people who have your same values, people who speak with a speed and volume similar to yours, people who gesture with the same intensity as you . .
. It has even been proven that we tend to like those who physically resemble us in some way . For example, if you have small eyes, you are more likely to like someone with small eyes than someone with big big eyes.
If you are a redhead, you are more likely to be attracted to a person with red hair than one with afro hair. If you are a short person, you are more likely to be attracted to someone of average height than someone tall. Why?
Because unconsciously we feel safe, we feel at home with those who resemble us. So how can you take advantage of the Similarity Attraction Effect to be more attractive to other people? Well, very easy: highlight your points in common.
And the following key is going to show you exactly how to do this. Key 4: Highlight the similarities When you meet someone new, focus on identifying your similarities. It may be the drink that you are drinking, that you were both invited to the event by the same person, that you are both at the snack table for celiacs .
. . And as soon as you find the first similarity, take advantage of it.
Mention that you also add tomato sauce to everything and laugh together. The more the other person feels that you have in common, the more they will like you immediately. So don't let it go if you spot similarities.
They are powerful! And we go with the last key . .
. but first I will tell you how to participate in the draw for a month of full access to the Personal Power Campus . .
. because if you have come this far it is because you are interested in learning and you deserve it. I'm going to leave you in the information box a link to a form where I ask you a very specific question about today's video.
The winner will receive an email from me very soon. The giveaway lasts 24 hours, so if you are watching this in the first 24 hours from the publication of the video, go quickly to participate, because you are on time. And if you're watching this video later, don't worry because there will be more giveaways.
Just make sure you are subscribed to the channel and with notifications activated to be among the first to see the videos and take advantage of the opportunities. Key 5: Be Authentic You may be tempted to pretend to be who you are not in order to please other people. You may feel like you have to be more outgoing, more joking, or on the contrary, more distant to be interesting.
A study carried out by the University of California, Los Angeles, asked a large sample of very diverse people to rate the importance of a whole series of qualities when it comes to liking someone . It involved more than 500 qualities, but the results were clear. People like us not because of our physical attractiveness or because of our extroversion or because of our intelligence.
They like us when we are honest, transparent and when we care to understand other people during conversations. So don't complicate yourself by trying to be what you are not. Be yourself.
Be honest, display your personality (yours, not the one you think you will like the most) and even if the situation puts you in a vulnerable position in some way, show it too. Vulnerability is a very powerful trigger for the connection between people. And if you add to this the handling of some persuasion tricks, you will become a socially irresistible person.
As for persuasion, I leave you the Free Persuasion Course that I have right here, on YouTube, for this little corner. And I also leave you the button to subscribe to my weekly newsletter, where a welcome gift is waiting for you: http://www. 30kcoaching.
