in this video I'm going to teach you the Arts of Charisma and alure and simple little ways to be absolutely Unforgettable even if you're more of an introvert like me hey friends welcome back if you're new here my name is jills and I help women step into their power tap into their divine feminine and become their best self so if that's something you want to do you should subscribe and stick around so I'm going to talk about easy things little habits that you can do to be more charismatic and alluring and own any room you
walk into and although some of these are very small They do change the game but before I get into that today is the day my new course awaken your feminine energy is now available for pre-sale I am so excited so this is a self-study course taught by Yours Truly to help you transform your life unlock your feminine energy and help you become your most magnetic radiant feminine self I'm not going to go on and on about it because if you click the link right below in the description that will take you to the course page
and it has all the details on there every single module every single lesson how long they all are all of the bonuses that you get just like everything um it is over 7 hours of educational content not including any of the bonuses so there is quite a lot of substance to this course and pre-sale is only available for one week and one week only so this is your only opportunity to get the course at this reduced price the price will go up on May 5th that's when the course officially launches and is made available so
again the link for that is in the description box and I can't wait to see you there now I'm going to break this video down into three different sections your body language your communication and your energy because all three of these different things are very important for your charisma and your alert but before I do that I first need to talk about what Charisma really is like obviously we know that Charisma makes people attractive but what is it actually there's this book called cues by Vanessa van Edwards it's a good book I recommend it but
she breaks down Charisma and she explains how there was this Princeton study and they found that Charisma is really just a blend of two key traits warmth and competence so basically warmth are you likable are you friendly are you Pleasant to be around do people feel good around you do people trust you and competence do you have presence do you have that confidence that inner Authority can you command that respect I really just see competence as not just like you're able to do a certain thing but are you able to hold a room are are
you able to hold yourself are you able to project that inner power and if you think about this for yourself most people are naturally better at one than the other like most people are naturally better either at warmth or at the competence piece but that Charisma is really a blend of the two like I know for me I'm just naturally I've always been a bit better naturally with the warmth aspect and less with the competence aspect that was something that more so had to be learned so with all the little habits that we're going to
talk about they will either be helping us to project warmth or to project competence you know like that inner power that inner confidence so let's get into it and first talk about body language so to be charismatic and to have that alert a lot of this is communicated not just through your words but through your body language so first of all right off the bat how do you walk into the room are you walking with your head down are you hunching are you kind of like making yourself small are you trying to cover yourself up
a little bit with your arms are you looking at your phone so that you have something to distract yourself with so you don't have to make eye contact with other people if you want to be charismatic and luring the way you walk into a room matters and you need to be able to walk into the room like you know what you're doing even if you don't head up eyes up chest open do not be just like hiding behind your phone like trying to like avoid eye contact from other people put it down okay do not
make yourself smaller take up some space like I'm not saying to like stretch everywhere but just don't be afraid to take up space allow yourself to have that open energy allow yourself to be seen walk with confidence and do not rush if you're at a restaurant and you're going to the table do not rush to the table be relaxed in your walking be relaxed in your body language the thing about body language is for the most part not always but for the most part you have control over this like it doesn't really matter if you're
nervous on the inside once you learn what those confidence C are you can then turn them on you can force your body to slow down a little bit you can force yourself to put your phone away you can kind of turn these on as long as you think about it every time you go somewhere you can practice this walking in with a little bit more presence it doesn't matter where you go maybe it's you walking into a restaurant or a store or Target or the coffee shop practice walking in with presents it might feel weird
but practice it when you can have some of that presence immediately upon walking into the room you will project some of that competence some of that inner power some of that inner Authority before even meeting or talking to anyone another way to have more Charisma and Aur through your body language is by making appropriate eye contact people who are charismatic can maintain eye contact and it's how we build relationships eyes are the windows to the soul and it builds intimacy as long as you're not staring too intensely and being a little crazy with it when
you're able to hold eye contact people will see you as having higher confidence and higher self-esteem but also because it builds intimacy and connection there's this level of warmth to it too and this is even scientifically confirmed people who can make eye contact are shown to be more likable and more trusted your eyes can be a part of what makes you magnetic if you use them right but of course also smiling at this one is probably pretty obvious but charismatic people tend to smile a lot more and smile a lot more when they're talking to
people this exudes warmth but you want to make sure that you are giving people a real genuine smile and not a fake one because people can tell the difference and when you're giving them a fake smile then you'll come across as ingenuine and not likable and not to be trusted so a fake smile is when you smile basically using only your mouth and you really only move your face from the middle of your face going downwards so a fake smile looks more like this right but a real smile a genuine smile usually uses your whole
face including your eyes and a genuine smile looks more like this and so you are usually what happens is people will squint their eyes just a little bit and they might get like some crows feet right here as well so you can tell the difference between a fake smile and a real one usually just with the eyes again eyes are the windows to the soul right so smile genuinely at people using your whole face another thing that can help exude more warmth and I feel like women are actually pretty good at this but nodding your
head so when you're in a conversation with someone nodding your head occasionally helps them feel like you're listening to them it helps them feel seen and heard and like you're engaged in them in the conversation obviously you don't want to be a bobblehead but just occasionally nodding your head it can help communicate like yes I'm listening yes I hear you or yes I agree or you can do some head tilts it's kind of like the same thing it kind of communicates the same thing like that you're interested that you're engaged in the conversation that you're
listening and more than anything people just want to be listened to to be charismatic another simple thing that you can do is just leaning in occasionally when you're talking to someone so to do this you don't just lean in like a crazy person during the entire conversation what you do is you use the lean almost as like a head nod again it's almost like encouragement and like I'm listening to you I want to hear more it'll build that warmth and connection and again people will feel seen and heard you don't use this lean in just
during like random moments you use them intentionally like oh what did he say or oh tell me more about that right or when you're trying to express like interest in something that they're saying right that leanin can signify that to be charismatic more than anything it's about making people feel good in your presence that is like the most important thing if you can make people feel good when you're with them they will remember you especially if you're ever talking to someone quieter more introverted or more shy you can use some of these little leanin moments
some of these little head nods to signify that I care about what you have to say and they will feel more comfortable with you and more comfortable opening up with you and lastly make sure that your body language not just when you're walking in somewhere but just in general is confident and relaxed not like fidgeting and like messing around with yourself and like being anxious and like rushing not trying to always make yourself smaller and hide a little bit standing up straight right like that confident body language is what's going to communicate that inner stability
it doesn't matter how much warmth you have if you can't communicate that you are secure in Who You Are you might be able to turn on that likability but you won't necessarily be able to turn on that Charisma now let's move on to the communication piece so one of the biggest mistakes that people make when they think about being charismatic they think that that means that they have to be this like super interesting person all the time be super extroverted be telling jokes and all these cool stories and have all these cool things to share
about their travels to Japan or whatever try to make people interested in them but it's actually the opposite remember if you can make people feel good in their presence you will be remembered so the goal instead is to try to be interested not interesting you don't need to talk about yourself that much to be charismatic and alluring and realizing this as an introvert myself this was a huge aha moment for me it was a very freeing moment for me and this is when I started to become better at conversations people love to talk about themselves
and especially when you are like genuinely interested in what they have to say people can sense that they will feel so good in your presence because again it feels so good to be seen and heard everybody craves that if you can make someone feel seen and heard you will be special to them stop trying to become interesting and simply become genuinely interested in the other person not fake interested genuinely interested ask them thoughtful questions about what they're saying don't look around the room while they're talking and you're just like waiting for them to finish be
absorbed in them and what they're saying and like trying to put on this show and be interesting for someone I don't know about you but that just sounds anxiety inducing move your focus from yourself to the other person or if you just have like anxiety in general use this tip Focus Less on yourself and how you're feeling and more on the other person another way I like to think of it is just like listen more than you speak another reason why I love this little tip is it makes people enjoy being around you yes but
it also gives you like a little bit of mystery because you're not talking about yourself all the time it kind of keeps a little a little bit of that alert so in my opinion this is one of the biggest and most important things for Charisma be genuinely interested in the other person and make them feel seen and heard and if you do this you will be Unforgettable to them now another thing that you can do while talking is to be a little bit more generous with your compliments but if you can make those compliments a
little bit more specific and thoughtful even better again people want to feel good in your presence and if you make them feel good in your presence they will enjoy being around you so don't be afraid to compliment people but if you can make them a little bit more interesting and thoughtful they're more likely to be remembered and more likely to be well-received right so you don't have to think of like all these crazy different compliments you it's not that difficult just like instead of oh you look good you can say you look amazing you always
put together the best outfits or you look so good your eyes really pop in that dress or I love your outlook on life it inspires me or wow that's so awesome that you just did that cool thing that you just told me about I love how passionate you are about it or even something simple like you always have the best Vibes like I don't know about you but I would like that compliment just something a tad more interesting and intentional and another little tip is to compliment people behind their backs so basically instead of complimenting
someone to their face like normal complimenting someone else while you're talking to someone else right like oh she's so intuitive and wise this is something a kind trusting person does so not only is this just a nice thing to do but you will also come off as a more interesting person and sometimes that compliment makes its way back to them and they're going to like you more too hearing people say good things about you behind your back that is powerful that makes you feel good they feel more genuine and real okay now moving on this
next little one it is little but it is huge now you can only do this when the opportunity presents itself but when it does this will increase your warmth like no other and the other person will remember you so let's say you're talking in a group with people and one person to gets like cut off for some reason or let's say maybe you're at a restaurant and you're talking to the other person and then the waiter comes and talks to you just kind of interrupts you guys and talks about the food for like 5 minutes
some kind of situation where that person gets cut off afterwards you turn to that person you give them your full attention and you say I'm sorry you were talking about your recent trip to New York City tell me more about that instantly that person will be drawn to you because you are helping them to feel seen I call this the you were saying tip and it's powerful and if there's any people listening who are just on the quieter side and tend to get like talked over more but someone turns to you and is like wait
what were you saying like you know how good that feels you're probably like oh my gosh I feel so seen right like whenever this has happened to me I remember it and so that's why I always try to make sure that I do this with other people too and lastly when you're communicating with them remember things about them and bring it up first of all remember their name this is important but also if this isn't your first time meeting someone you can ask them a question that's kind of like a follow-up to something that was
talked about in the last conversation like maybe someone mentioned that they're going to start a new job in a week so you can ask them a question like hey how are you enjoying your new job in real estate or some other follow-up questions like did you get your puppy yet what are you naming him do you have any pics can I see or like weren't you going to Hawaii wait tell me about your trip just really anything that shows that you remember when people feel special when people feel heard they will love being around you
so now finally let's talk about energy I think your energy is incredibly important for Charisma but especially if you want to give off those vibes of competence and presence and inner power so first of all one of the best ways to be charismatic besides making the other person feel good is to stay in your energy bubble and let me explain what I mean it is magnetic when someone is just in their own energy and unaffected by other people or other things like when you are less reactive and more strong and grounded in who you are
and in your energy I'm not saying that you should never react to things but when you let other people negatively affect you and shift your energy there's something that doesn't feel good about that it's like you're letting other people take your power away and people can feel this from you too like I have noticed that when I go about my day in my own little energy bubble of just like being more High Vibe and happy and soft and not being reactive and not letting my energy get pushed around by other people staying strong in who
I want to be and how I want to feel there's this sort of natural presence that comes from that and it's quite magnetic when you can stay grounded in your own little energy bubble this kind of communicates like Inner Strength inner power inner stability but in a soft way and I think this is one of the best things that you can do to have that air of competence and presence and this will help you stay high Vibe and feeling good too next thing when it comes to your energy is to stop craving attention from others
because once you start craving that attention and that validation from other people people can feel it and being charismatic and alluring it doesn't mean that all the attention needs to be on you all the time and in fact if you try to do this it can actually be a little off-putting the more you don't need that attention the more confident you come off and again if it's done right this can make you seem a little bit more mysterious as well I believe that the key to having that presence which you need for Charisma is to
be strong in Who You Are you don't need to be this authority figure you don't need to be this crazy extroverted person you just need to be strong in who you are sturdy in who you are confident in who you are when you are chasing others attention that simply does not give off competence and presence and lastly everyone has the ability to be charismatic if you believe that you can work a room you'll be able to work a room if you truly love and respect yourself others will too if you always feel like you're struggling
to be better around people if you're always trying to get people to like you you will probably always struggle like fully getting there with your charisma and your alert because you are separating yourself from the state of being that you want to be in wanting something tells yourself that you don't have it yet you have to just trust that you are that person and people will see you as you see yourself if you love yourself if you respect yourself other people will too it's just natural we teach people how to treat us stop trying with
all of this so much and just decide that you are switch your energy switch your way of thinking stop wanting to be her all the time and instead believe that she already exists deep within you and you're just going to bring her out again that is it for this video I hope you got value out of it just a reminder that my new course awaken your feminine energy is available for pre-sale for one week only the price goes up to full price on May 5th when the course is officially launched so if this is something
that you feel called to do something that you're interested in don't forget to snag it at the reduced price while you can the link for that will be down below and I can't wait to see you guys in there I'm so excited now if you liked this video you might also love this video how to have a magnetic Aura the two topics really complement one another so if you're interested in this topic I highly recommend you check out that video so I'll see you over there or I'll just see you next time in my next
video bye
