If You’re Spiritual But Feel Lost, Please Watch This – Wayne Dyer's Life-Changing Wisdom

The life you desire is waiting on the other side of love and faith Dr Wayne Dyer shows how letting go of ego and surrendering to the Divine can transform every area of your life through powerful stories of healing synchronicity and deep spiritual connection he reveals the path to overcoming limitations and finding profound peace in this radio show he inspires listeners to step into their higher selves serve others and Trust the universe's miraculous design when you align with love you don't just survive you thrive in ways you never imagined possible special thanks to hey House of

partner with us to release this content exclusively on our YouTube channel and if you make it all the way to the end of the video leave a hash believe in the comments below so I can celebrate with you believe Hello everybody welcome to the show I'm Diane Ray taking your calls here for Dr Wayne Dyer in the studio in Carl's vad and this is Dr Dyer's uh last live show for a couple of weeks he's going to be on tour going to Europe I've been reading about uh St bernardet who was uh just a young

girl when she had the 18 uh Apparition visitations in 1858 in Lords and it's interesting that there were 18 I've always said that that number 18 is very very powerful spiritual number in Hebrew it means uh uh life I but but if you break it down the 181 and then eight Is infinity it's one Infinite Source I've always said that there are 18 verses in the Bhagavad Gita and 81 verses in the da Ching which is which is the reverse of its infinite it Source once and you hear it coming up over and over again

and again there were eight exactly 18 visitations the interesting thing that uh was said on this uh when uh St bernardet asked this Apparition the Blessed Mother what is your name what is your name she had to go back Nine times and the everybody in the village or the priests and so on just kept saying ask her what her name is cuz nobody believed and she said U finally she said my I am the Immaculate Conception that's all she said and uh the priest there said well not possible that's grammatically incorrect I you know uh

the Immaculate Conception is an event and I am uh refers to you know an individual so an individual can't be an event but then they looked at uh what Jesus said I am the resurrection you know which is an event also and of course you've heard me talk about this and it's in my new book and I'll be lecturing about this that the words I am are the words that uh God gave to Moses back in uh you know 1300 years before the birth of Christ and the Torah in the book of Exodus he tell

them he told Moses as he was going back to free the Israelites uh tell them my name is I am that I am so when she was saying I am The Immaculate Conception she was really saying God as was Jesus when he said I am the resurrection so and when she died she was buried in 1874 I think it was she died at the age of 3 35 or 36 3 35 I think she had color she was was only 4' 7 that's as tall as she grew and um the 30 years after she had

been placed in the wooden box her um they dug up her body they exed her body and it was exactly incorrupt I mean it was exactly her habit had been Deteriorated they her Rosary had all rusted but her body was in absolute perfect uh condition no deterioration at all in a wooden box they reput her back into the ground and they uh that was in 1909 and then in 1919 they exhumed her body again 10 years later and her body was still incorrupt they put her back in the ground when she was declared a saint

6 years later 1925 they exhumed her body again and it was still incorrupt and now it's you can Visit and view that body although it's not in lurs and this is a rare rare rare occasion and it happened with paramahansa Yogananda as well there's a letter in autobiography of a yogi that uh tells the story of the that shows the the corner writing to the people who were responsible for bringing his body there and he said he had never seen anything like this his body was just simply not deteriorating so being around that kind Of

energy and being in that kind of place and of course she this is where the holy water came from and being there I remember being there years ago I took uh my wife and uh about 25 people on the tour of AI and Lords and um there was a woman there who was going back to give thanks uh she she was an African-American woman and she had uh had breast cancer and when she went there and came back it was gone and she was going back to give thanks for that And there's rooms there filled

with people who left their crutches there and who left their wheelchairs there and left their canes there and so on and just and I don't know that I you know certainly there's no promise of any those kinds of things this is not what I'm saying but there is there's something miraculous about being in that energy and being around that and if you've been thinking about that or would like to you know visit make that happen In your lifetime this is your last chance I mean I think there's just under a handful and the only reason

there are a hand is because some people had to back out at the last minute for uh personal reasons and so on if you've been sitting on the fence there's an old song if you've been sitting on the fence and it doesn't make much sense uh keep me in Spence and you know what if you're kind you remember that song you don't know you're too young for that if you Don't keep us aart make up your mind you're undecided now so what are you going to do get off the fences anyway I'm just encouraging whoever

you are I know I'm talking to someone and you'll probably sign up today or tomorrow and tell me about it when I see you in and then of course we're going to a CCE the place of St Francis and I've been reading a lot about magigoria and the six children who saw again this apparitions of the Blessed Mother and The the miraculous kinds of things that have taken place and I'm going to be lecturing at three of those places and one of the things I'm going to be lecturing about is what has been happening to

me in my life in the last few shows Diane I know youve said there's been a real major shift in me uh I had a experience with John of God and a healing that was done through I don't know how how it was done but through photographs and so on and since I've had That what it's called the suture removal and I encourage you to go on the internet and go on YouTube and just um look this uh John of God thing up and see some of the kinds of things that have been taking place

down there he's seen something like 20 million people in the last 50 years and I was it is I was and I was so blessed I mean the man that went down there with them was a psychiatrist from Harvard and and he was watching them do surgery and he was Saying on the Oprah show this just doesn't make any sense to me from my world view just I can't imagine this there's no antiseptic there's no anesthesia it doesn't seem to be you know doing things in the way that we're talking and there's never ever been

any report of infection and U people being cut into and having their eyes scraped and so on and this physician who was down there to observe this with so much skepticism when he left he was walking Along the casa there and somebody noticed that his shirt was bleeding and all of a sudden there was a little incision right underneath his heart and uh the the lady who had worked there for all those years said it was uh it was the entities who had actually decided to open his heart and this has literally opened his heart

and he was saying I don't have a bleeding disorder they couldn't stop the bleeding it's what going on for an hour and then and then Finally that it did and he has now become just totally reversed and you know the um the slogan down there or the motto down there it was from St the St uh ignacius of lyola and it says from for those who believe no words are necessary for those who do not believe no words are possible and if you have an open heart and an open mind and uh I kind of

went into this surgery thing uh by my friend eye doctor Raina pesova who's an eye surgeon in California she Uh in madira she went down there and she was just so absolutely 100% determined that uh I needed to have this experience cuz she had been down there twice before and had these amazing healings taking place and and I was supposed to go down with her and I didn't I had to cancel because of um I didn't have to cancel I guess I chose to cancel because I wanted my writing I had writing deadlines and I

didn't want to give up that writing time I was going to have to be down there for two weeks but she was just so determined and has so much uh faith in me and so much love for me that she went down and uh insisted that I have these photos taken and went through this process and then finally got after having uh sent these herbs up to me fedexing them up to me me and went back down again and John of God finally said first time he said no when he looked at the photographs of

me there were four photographs from the Front from the back from the right and the left all dressed in white and he said no he's not taking the herbs and I can't do this without the herbs so she fedexed the herbs up to me from Brazil and took three days from to get up here I took the herbs and uh he said yes and U I still had a just a sort of a dose of skepticism that I can I can sort of read right now from people all over the world thinking about this um

well a lot of people are are curious Yes they are they're asking you know how how do you feel now and been a few weeks right it has been a few weeks and what has happened the the most amazing thing that has I was tied up for an entire week when I say tied up I mean I was unable to walk I was unable to uh I mean I could walk but I couldn't go for walks I couldn't swim I couldn't ride I just slept virtually all the time about 20 hours a day and as

Raina had said you've had surgery but I said you know I'm I'm 10,000 mil away and she said for God you know uh 10,000 Mi and and a and and one inch are exactly the same cuz there is no time and there is no space open your heart open your mind to this and I did and so I just rested for the entire week and then the following uh week I had the what they call the removal of the sutures and everything in my life has changed since then I had just got sort of injected

or infused with a a sense of love that has been so overwhelming that Almost every day not almost every single day I awakened and um I asked what am I to do today how can I and I'm I'm extending love to someone someplace I have uh no anger no criticism in me at all I've changed some of the unhealthy habits of things that I had done I would every once in a while take a little to of something you know uh in the evening before that that is completely gone I haven't had an alcohol-free beer

in since the 21st of April this was all Done on my 90 my mother's 95th birthday and I just walk around just in a sort of a cloud of love and uh I I've got a a lawsuit that is going on in my life that I've just sent love to those people and I just feel more peaceful but more than that my body has just undergone some radical changes um I'm 71 years old one of the things I heard is that one of the things that you guarantee that you get when you as you get

older one of the if you're wondering what you're going to Get when you get older one of the things you're definitely going to get from the universe is more trips to the bathroom and I don't have trips to the bathroom in the middle of the night any longer I mean it's it's it's now six seven nights in a row it just I've been doing that for 20 years and I had a growth on my head that was getting worse and I was going to have to have removed it just sort of dried up and went

away I've been feeling strong I've been Feeling happier and people have been coming to me and the other morning I had just an experience I can't haven't got time to do it now cuz I want to take some calls today but uh I was just directed that when I wake I now wake up at 5:00 in the morning by the way I'm back doing yoga again I had taken 11 months off because I was told when I had this diagnosis of emia that I couldn't do this hot yoga that it was just too much for

me you can't be overheated and So on and uh and I found that I was having difficulty with it last a week ago Sunday I uh awoke at 4:30 in the morning which is what I do now and I was just told by a voice go you can do yoga now go go today go this morning and I got in my car I went to the 8:00 class and I've done 10 classes in the either 9 or 10 classes in the last 14 days and I'm now doing yoga at a level I did yoga for

five years and then took a year off and I started at the age of 65 I'm now Doing yoga postures that I couldn't even do before I had the leukemia diagnosis and I do it virtually every morning I've been meditating much much more but I've been getting these sort of messages uh in the morning the other morning it was uh go out and walk don't do yoga today go out and walk till at 7 at 7:30 and don't walk for an hour walk for 90 minutes and at at 9:00 you'll know why you're being directed

to do exact information it was exact exact to the Moment and at 7:30 exactly I took off and uh I walked for the the normal hour and then I had another 30 minutes and um I didn't quite know which to go and I just let myself be directed on another 30 minute walk and I got back to where I am and a couple came up to me at that time and they had uh uh they just asked me if are you Wayne Dyer something I hear a lot out there and I brought them up into

my home um gave them a a film gave them copy of the shift which I do To everyone I meet out there and then they started telling woman started telling me about her son her special need son who had mental and physical handicaps his name is Samir and um would I be willing to talk to him and um I gave her a copy of Anita M's nde and he came over to me that night and he had some kind of congenital uh disease or disfigurement so he doesn't have any wrists and he doesn't have any

uh his legs Are he's only only maybe 4 10 or so 4' 8 maybe um 22 years old and she brought him over and and uh she said you wanted to ask Dr Dyer a question and he asked me why does God this young man who was somewhat handicapped um but just a beautiful soul I'm get very emotional here he asked me he said why does God let some people suffer the way I've suffered and my mother has suffered taken care of me for all these Years and I responded in a way that I've never

resp I I don't even know where this um Enlightenment or this love or whatever it was came but I just said you you suffer because you identify yourself with your body and um and you really believe that this is who you are and um you are not this is just your curriculum to God and once you let go of your attachment to that and realize that uh there it was him his mother his father myself my daughter sage and her Girlfriend Ali all six of us were in the room there I said there are six

people here in this room but uh and we can all see who we are and what we look like and what's what our differences are but there's only one mind and all of us are using this one mind and this one mind is called God and uh that's who we are and this body that we're in just changes continuously I just I talked to I could just see a weightlifting off of him and he smiled and he was so happy he can Hardly stand so they wanted pictures taken so I held him and when the

mother walked out she said you've lifted a burden off of me that um I've carried since since our son was born and um something like that has been happening to me every single day since these entities came into my into my body and um they didn't just Heal Me of whatever physical thing was going on they taught me something that Anita spoke about in the uh near-death Experience that um and I I underlined this as I sent this off to a friend of mine in the mail I'm going to send it tomorrow and what she

said was that you can change the future when you become love and everybody out there powerful yeah you can and she said I did I changed my future meaning I changed my medical uh reports and I changed my physical body and it's it's and what it was to do it was to die by just becoming pure love and it just feels that way to Me just like this sense of pure love has just encapsulated me and it's a I could tell you seven or eight other stories also of that that happened every single day whether

it's on a walk whether it's yesterday I have a uh I had a friend um her name is Sue she's listening right now Sue Linder here on Maui and um last year she borrowed uh some $4,000 or so because her son she has a son named Max who is a hydralic and uh she he is now well with that he's had the drainage put In and so and he's a wonderful young man and she raises him as a single mom and she got behind on her uh finances to pay for his private schooling and um

she borrowed the money from me last fall to pay it back and has agreed to pay it back at uh a certain amount each month $360 some dollars each month starting in January and she would bring those envelopes to me on the first of each month which is and she bought them January February March and she had the Envelopes and I didn't ever open the envelope opes and then when the envelopes the last envelope came in on June 1st just the other day and um I called her yesterday this was just what I was to

do and I don't it's just a calling Diane I can't even explain it and I just called her and I said there's a package for you downstairs come over and pick it up and I said uh and I wrote a little note I said your your debt is paid and I returned the envelopes that She had given me all except for the first one wow some things are definitely happening yeah so and she just said I talked to her this morning and she said nobody's ever done anything like this for me before and it was

just I said this is this is just what happens when you become love when you become it and um I've just been infused with this I met uh somebody else on a walk out there whose face was in paralysis I think I may have spoken about it on my show yes And she has healed and I met another woman out there and with her daughter who's a comedian her name is Sarah sweet and I'm going to take her career into my hands she's just got a she's just beautiful funny terrific and we took them out

for dinner these are things that I never did before I I walk and keep very very private and go back and sort of really value my privacy and um each day I just seem to get a message each morning between 5 and 6:00 in the morning and I just lay there and uh and I hold these two crystals in my hand that were blessed by John of God and ask what's today and um I don't know what today will bring but it's uh for sure something like this is is happening and I feel like it's

going to happen the rest of my life and each morning now my prayer used to be this is what I want I had certain things in my mind in my heart that I wasn't really asking God for I don't have anything that I ask God For now I just ask uh how can I stay in God Consciousness how can I serve use me let me be an instrument of love for as many people as I possibly can in my writing in my teaching in my speaking and but most important in my own daily private life

let me encounter every human being that I encounter and be pure love and that's what's happened to me and these people just get put in your path you know like you have a knowing after a while Diane that that everything Is connected and that we're all one and I think about meeting Samir and his parents who are from India but they actually live in California in El Dorado outside of Sacramento and they met me that morning at 9:00 and I was told to walk when I was going to yoga but I was told not to

and I don't when I say told I mean I didn't hear a voice in the room say do not go to yoga is God speaking it was just an internal kind of annoying that this was what I was to do and I Just really listened to it very very carefully and um so they were going to have breakfast some place else and they had no idea that we were going to meet at 9:00 and that I would bring them up into my home and I would uh you know and take pictures with them and give

them books and tapes and CDs and movies and so they had no idea about that and they went One Direction and then they decided at another and they were telling me all the what quote weird circumstances that Allowed them to get to where they were and I thought about why I walked where I did and when I did and so on then we show up and you stop and you look and you realize something else is moving all the pieces around just be at peace with it just be in love with it and whatever is

supposed to occur will just take place right and it's all perfect yes it's all perfect and wow that's incredible yeah the other one last thing I wanted to say about what I spoke about In the first half hour is that the lady Su Linder who uh one of the things that she told me this morning which was what really touched me was she said because she got all that money back it was a couple of thousand dollars that she got back in cash that she wasn't expecting in all of those envelopes she said yesterday I

don't know what it is that she did for Max her son but she said um to me she said max said to me this is the greatest day of my life and I Thought I don't know what she did for him or what she bought for him something that she was able to do that she you know this windfall just came to her imagine being able to just with a thought and a love energy inside of you make a young boy's life the greatest day of his life I mean how could there be any greater

reward than that that's beautiful yeah it is it really is so congratulations Max whatever happened whatever you're doing I'm proud to have Been is he listening his mom is I'm sure and if not she'll play it for him once she tell yeah he's a great little boy not a little boy big boy now yeah he's going into he's going into high school now well we've got a lot of people waiting to talk to you okay let's do that so let's start off with Michelle on line three and she's calling from Edmonton Alberta and thanks for

holding Michelle you're on with Dr Dyer today you're welcome hi Dr Dyer how are you hi I'm great thanks how are you I'm fine thank you um I had a question I'm currently in grad school to gain licensure a psychologist in Canada and I have a history of self- sabotaging I do have mild OCD mostly just anxiety but I know that what I do with school is it's I know it's because I don't believe in myself and I really don't know what to do to get over this I've tried a bunch of different things what

have you Tried I mean self positive selft talk meditation journaling writing notes to myself when I'm trying to write papers I mean talking to my psychologist you know just I know what the everything that you've tried is uh coming from your ego let me encourage you to sort of suspend your ego put it out of the side put Michelle out of the picture completely especially your body and you know your possessions and and your goals and all the things That you want to do and um just ask yourself if I were God you know what

would I be doing okay what would you be doing if you were God I mean if you were like the king of the Universe I mean you have all the creative powers of the universe they're yours and you look around you're up in Alberta in this beautiful place at this time of year I've been up there you know you're not far from bamp in Lake Louise some of the most beautiful places in the world um And and you look around and you say okay I'm God today I am God I mean I have the power

within me to be anything what would you do I don't even know that you can come up with an answer to that it's a pretty profound question but um yeah but think about it think about it after you hang up the phone think about it because uh if you can do did you hear me talk the first half hour of the show yes I did yeah yeah and those things that I have Been doing have brought me probably the most Joy the most fulfillment the most contentment the the most happiness the most sense of living

a fulfilled life you know on my 71st birthday on May the 10th I was in San Francisco and I spent the day talking to homeless people and giving money away and just you know get putting like a $20 bill or a $50 bill into the hands of some many of them were drug addicts and so on but it was the most memorable birthday of my life and It was another one of those things that I was just totally just directed to do and I'm not asking you to go out and do that but I'm asking

you to you've got just in the brief conversation that we have you said I've got sort of OCD but it's really just anxiety all of these labels all of these things all you have to do is just be love just be love just like go look out around yourself and say uh how can I serve how can I make somebody else's life better what can I Do to stop thinking about myself all the time and what's in it for me and what I'm going to do because when you do that everything that you're here to

do you'll be directed by I mean there is when I said earlier there's something bigger moving the pieces around you know that something bigger wants you to be like it is and what it is it is just an allg giving all knowing all loving here's the universe here's endless abundance here's the sky here's the here's everything That you could possibly want just share everything that you are just share it Just sh you know just give it away and all of the things that we call quote problems I mean and miracles has a wonderful line it

says you have no problems though you think you do you know and your pro our problems are just because of the way we process this world if you can do that your lure will be taken care of your psychological things and and as a psychologist when you do Get your degree and their license and so on you will be the greatest psychologist ever you'll be the one that people will want to keep coming back to because you'll be teaching people this very lesson that I'm trying to teach you right now okay that's very thank you

yeah I want to be profound I'm going through quickly because I I I want to get as many people in as I can today but but what I've just said replay it when you replay the radio show just Think about that and when you hang up go out and just remind yourself if I were God this is how I would behave and try to find four or five people today that you can assist even but with just a smile or a flower or a dollar or a gift or taking them to lunch or something just

try doing that today it's make today a day of just giving and you'll know what I'm talking about okay thank you so much thank you thank you Michelle God bless you and let's go to Terry Who's on line one calling from Scottdale Arizona and Terry welcome to the show thank you so much I am probably shaking so much right now really me too me too and I'm just getting over sorry got a little bit of a sostis I'm getting better though and uh the miracle is Dr DWI I would probably been working today and I

caught the last 15 minutes on you on Channel 8 and I just stay uh on the I think it was Saturday on PBS uhhuh which You've done you have you have definitely changed my life and my husband's life since you've been on channel like that's when we you know first heard about you a long time ago always followed you but I'm 60 years young and um I've had some I mean I know you have certain things you feel for people I feel I have a call because I've had a miracle happen with my body to

where if I hadn't have taken a certain particular I don't mean to talk in Circles I'm sorry but that's okay I can understand you clearly tell me the miracle what was the miracle well I've always been um believing in natural products right and um I had osteoporosis of the worst kind and my doctor always said if I didn't take anything I'd end up on a cane right and um the Lord worked in mysterious ways and I went to work for this particular company and that particular day this I'm someone has fast I can I'm sorry

but when I went to Work he said the the gentleman who brought out the product said we are coming out with this brand new product well let me tell you I mean I would be at the point in 2006 where I'd have to pull on something to you know stand up and all kind and I was in a just I go up a little quicker and my story's been quite a few today my back is in the best shape I mean my chiropractor can't even believe I'm like the same back I mean I'm in Better

shape than my kids and I have people all around me and I can't reach them I mean I want to give them this and they sort of stay away and it's just this one particular thing that has has changed my life totally wow what's the product the name of the product M yeah everybody wants to know okay it's bone growth factor by Trio which is here in Scottdale Arizona bone growth factor okay well people can look that up and uh you know um and it Might be the bone growth factor that did it but I

I suspect like you said the words the Lord works in mysterious ways they're only mysterious because we have limitations you know because we we we think that uh we know the answers and and science is what proves it it's like I loved watching the scientists who went down to John of gods walk out and have had invisible surgery performed on him while he was in there and had his heart opened and has now become open to you Know that science tells us this this this and this and uh the fact is that uh you know

that all things are possible all things are possible with God and it might be the bone growth factor that you're talking about and I hope that it is and if there's people out there with serious osteoporosis check it out but I also suspect that you've had a shift take place in your life and I really and I also feel what is your name my name is Terry Terry uh you might have You have you thought about going on this trip to Europe with us I heard that well my um every time I get three steps

up I get three steps back financially I know you keep saying reaching out but it just you know well to try to let go of that thought and and uh I would I wouldn't be surprised if in the next day or two you come up with a with a a reason for uh being able to make that happen I always tell people and I've said it all my life And look I grew up in an orphanage dirt poor worked you know from the time that I was 9 years old five four or five jobs always

my whole life 71 still working full-time still saving still taking care of people all over the place eight children and I'm telling you don't let money be a reason you do or not do things there is always a way always way Five Daughters Five Daughters 11 grandkids one great-grandson and great granddaughter you're Busy yeah I five daughters that's nothing I I got six of those and two sons on top of it I don't even want to hear about your five God bless you anyway think about it you might be the person I'm talking to and

thank you for for calling in and I love you that's all that's all I can say to you much love to you thank you so much Dr DWI and God bless thank you God bless you too and let's go to Mexico and talk to Fay she's on line five and Fay thanks for holding On and joining the show hi thank you so much for taking my call hi Wayne hi Fay how are you oh I'm just great I'm so thrilled to speak to you me too and I'll tell you what I really wanted to call

because you know um two weeks ago on your show when a woman from Michigan named Glenda rang in yes remember she said that and she said she'd created a website right right well after that I went and looked at it I was curious because I've always thought I Need a website you know and everything I have no idea how to do things like that I bought a domain name right I'm with you on that I'm like an old I have other people do that for me thank god well I can't wait till I can have

other people do that but well visualize it visualize it anyway go ahead well what happened is I went to her website and I I looked at it and everything it was and it was really nice but then I noticed at the bottom was a little thing it said make Your own free website click here and I clicked on it and literally within about 2 and 1 half hours I had created this beautiful website for myself I mean I still am just in shock and I well it's I'm uh an integrative life coach so it just

what the title of it is stop slow down breathe okay you got it that's your website I love that stop slow down breathe oh no the actual Oh you mean the actual name the URL what's your website yeah oh yeah it's follow Fay. yolasite.com okay it's on there great so tell me it's really a miracle to me I I haven't I mean I can't tell you how uh it was as if angels or something just helped me just right then and there I created it and now I got a client from it because I got

a PayPal button on so I've actually got a woman that I've now done a session with via Skype in New Zealand and I'm in Mexico so now I'm really nervous because I see this is what I've been working towards Since 1998 when I first heard of a woman you know on the phone life coaching in a Winnebago somewhere and finally I'm here I'm in this beautiful house in my dream town in Mexico and it's all happening and I feel what I always happens when I get to these points in my life something undermines it and

it's about money you know I never have any money and I get nervous about charging and stuff so I just um I just don't want that to happen This time well then you shouldn't even be talking about it and shouldn't even you have to you have to understand that you become what you think about and if you if you're thinking about things not working out the last five minutes I can't wait for you everybody out there to read my new book I just can't wait it's called wishes fulfilled but it won't be out till next

spring we're going to do a PBS show on it and Anita is going to be on the PBS show the woman Who had the near-death experience and as well Pam McDonald who's been very life-saving for me as well but um the last 5 minutes today of your day tonight before you go to bed tonight I want you to I don't want you to I I want you to put into your Consciousness into your imagination exactly how you want things to work out and don't think about it in terms of it's going to work out see

it in your mind as already having worked out and live from that place and then What I want you to do is assume the feeling of that wish fulfilled like really feel that in your body like you have to feel it isn't just a thought now you're feeling it and your body is where you do your living and so as you begin to feel this I want you also to uh during the day throughout the day today especially don't allow yourself to think about the things that aren't that you that might happen or couldn't happen

or whatever see it as already happening and The fact is the universe has already shown you it's happening this is it this is real and now you've got your website out there again I'm going to let you say it one more time so people can jot it down and you're going to have other people calling you and let's think about what's going on here e you're in Mexico I'm in Maui and your client is in New Zealand you got the whole damn world covered okay and here we are we're just doing this kind of thing

and the Universe is saying to you God is saying to you all you have to do is keep it into your imagination and don't use the last five minutes of your day tonight when you go off to sleep to review all the things that might sabotage it instead use the last 5 minutes of your subconscious mind to program it to be in a state of just pure absolute Bliss and joy seeing it all working out go for the next8 hours of while you're asleep your subconscious mind is most comfortable When it's with its unconscious mind

which that is when you're sleeping so for 8 hours you will marinate in and the next day when you wake up tomorrow morning the universe is going to say oh so this is what you want so here it is here's some more of it and here's another example of it rather than if you spend the whole day thinking about all the sabotaging things your subconscious mind which can't make a distinction between what you're thinking and what You're experiencing will say oh so this is what you want here's some more sabotage here's some more information it's

like this is so powerful it works and did you hear the first half hour of the show today I did I I mean and I almost felt like hanging up because I thought this is my but you know obviously I can just do this because the uh I mean just I love listening to your the Miracles you know they're all around yeah they are they're all around and You're one them so give us your give it again what is it f okay it's I wish it was just follow.com but I can't figure out how to

make that happen that's okay will also it's it's follow fay. Yola site y o l a s i t.com there you go okay it's out there people will listening to it all week and you'll hear more and um you're so and maybe and maybe I'll see you in uh maybe I'll see you in Europe maybe you should go come to Europe with me somebody El Lely yes well it's only we thanks F God bless you Namaste Namaste and uh you know like you said miracles are available for all of us they're out there for everybody

that's perfect example she's sitting in Mexico she hears a show in Michigan she's all of a sudden got a client in New Zealand and I'm in Maui amazing I mean yeah it's like the whole world is ours The Whole World Is Ours it's it you let's go on if we can we get any more calls yeah we can Get uh probably one more call let's go to Greg on line 7 calling from Philadelphia good afternoon Dr D it's a pleasure to speak with you likewise how are you Greg I'm doing well trying to take a

positive attitude I have been uh a follower and reader of yours for many years through a great many challenges in my life I am in a crossroads right now I am dealing with panic disorder severe panic disorder I've been doing so I've been dealing with it now since January Of 2008 I find myself mostly housebound at this point I'm now unable to work and um I'm really unable to do much of anything with respect to socializing I used to do a lot giving back to the community I'm not able to really do that any longer

and for the first I would say two years of this I really tried to take the approach of just going with it and just letting it run its course and not really thinking about it not trying to give it Not not trying to give it any power right and it's you know now now that we're past 3 years I am sadly truly I am truly at the point where I'm discouraged and I'm at a loss because a lot of the tools a lot of the teachings that you have provided that I have followed I'm now

at a point where those things are not providing me that ability or they don't see me provide I have I have to stop you because we only have a few minutes left and I want to help you if I Can um first of all there's no such thing as severe panic disorder it doesn't exist if I ask you to go out out and bring me some severe panic disorders in a box and wrap it up put it in a bucket you'd never be able to find it severe panic disorder is just a name that you

have PL you have allowed yourself to place on the way that you process life and so I urge you to begin to process your life in a different way but I just got a very very strong sense While I was talking to you that there's something going on with you either nutritionally or you were putting something into your body that is poisoning you there's I just kept feeling that very very very strongly are you overweight no absolutely not I've always been very uh big big fan of physical fitness always worked out always watch my diet

okay so you're physically fit are you do you smoke do you drink do you use drugs Of any kind not I have not put anything like that in my body no no are you taking medication for this uh I do take yes I do I take medication so you are you are putting very serious drugs into your body what are they uh it's clopin oh boy okay clopin is a drug I'm not a doctor I'm making this disclaimer right away but clopin is a drug that is fat soluble it's not water soluble so that most

of the many of the drugs that you take that Are water soluble you pee them out at the end of the day kipin is the exact reverse it's like Xanax this is the drug that stays and is stored in your body you need to get into a detox center and get off of clopin and you will be healed okay I'm just telling you how much of it are you taking it's 1 milligram three times a day oh boy so you can't just go off of this quickly you need to get get to a detox doctor

someplace and get yourself worked to a place where you can Get this stuff out of your body it is toxic to you it is poisoning you it is killing you and as I said I'm not I'm not a medical doctor to giving prescriptions over the a I'm just saying this is one of the most dangerous drugs in America be very careful see if you can get yourself freed from it and begin to see yourself as uh you and you have to be careful because you can to have seizures going off of this if you got

so much of it in your body for the last 3 Years you need to get to a place check yourself into a place and get and make your determination I am going to be totally drug free you're physically fit all of those kinds of things but this is something that's in your brain at all times got it Craig I got it I appreciate it thank you so much okay you need to do that God bless you see you guys in a month Dr Dyer welcome hello thank you summer hey how are you doing today I'm

doing great thank you great so tell me Tell me please this is a show for me how do we let go of stress and fear and start start living the way we want well I've talked about this uh on many occasions this whole idea of stress being an illusion because um it's just not something that exists in the world and that's uh and it's one of the things that people are always constantly blaming something that doesn't exist on on on why they're unhappy and why their blood pressure is up and why they're Getting ulcers and

why they're unhappy in their relationships on why they can't get things done in at work why they're always being forced to do things that they don't want to do why there's so much pressure on them and so on and the big an to all of it is always this word this great big word stress or anxiety or whatever and uh the fact is as I've said if you take a a container and go out into the world uh with an assignment to bring home a a box full of uh stress You'll never find any uh

so what there is in the world though are are lots and lots of people who are thinking stressful thoughts and stressful thoughts are I think the thing to understand about them is that first of all is that they originate uh with us that you whoever you are you're the source of your stress these are choices that we make to process an unpleasant event in a way that is going to um you know be invasive in our lives or going To be painful in our lives and so on but most people what they do is they

blame the outside forces for making their life stressful which of course makes uh makes for more and more stress so what they're doing is waiting for the economy to improve or waiting for their uh their spouse to uh to change his or her behavior uh waiting for the kids to grow up waiting for uh you know a new uh a new political party in Washington or whatever it might be and there's this Constant belief out there that if only the world were different if only things weren't the way they were then I wouldn't have to

be so unhappy right now and it's basically the the source of almost all of our our problems and all of our relationships uh basically what people are saying is if only you when they're upset when they're angry when they're full of stress about something what they're really thing is if only you were more like me then I wouldn't have To be so unhappy right now or I wouldn't have to be miserable I wouldn't have to be feeling stressful but people aren't going to be like you the world isn't going to be the way you think

it should be or ought to be and what you want to learn to do is get into a different place and one of course the kinds of things that you can do to make that happen included in such things as meditation getting quiet getting peaceful I've just returned from a Practically an around the world tour and uh had a lot of uh speaking engagements uh that I had to do in addition to that I had interviews to do and radio shows to do and uh interviewers were sent to my hotel rooms and uh places like

Dublin and and London and uh and all over the United States as well and I can sit there and say to myself that um you know this is just a lot of stress on me and why are the people always doing these kind of things or I can say to myself uh You know I chose all of this this is this is something that I opted for and if I didn't want it to be here in my life then I could do something about it and if I want to change it I still have that

option as well and I can have the option of just calling uh uh whoever it is and just saying I'm not able to do that or it's too much or whatever and that little piece that Debbie had on Debbie Ford had on just before the show started I think was uh is really Relevant that whole willingness and ability to to just say uh no this isn't something that I intend to take on thank you very much for uh offering me that opportunity and you can do that that uh very peacefully and very calmly I have

a chapter in The Power of intention it's chapter 11 and I think a really very very helpful to those of you listening if this is an area of concern in your life it's called it is my intention to live a stress-free tranquil life and the Fact is that when we have anxiety and when we have stress in our life basically we've removed ourselves from our source we've removed ourself from God because we come from a a peaceful loving kind source uh we come into this world that we take on these ideas that we have to

do certain things and other people's opinions are more important than our own and we can't say no when people ask us to do things and these is just a whole bunch of beliefs and what Is a belief it's just a thought that you keep thinking over and over and over and over again until ultimately it becomes something that you think of as a truth but it's not necessarily a truth many times those thoughts just don't have any basis in Truth at all like people won't respect me if I say no or people will be unhappy

with me if I say no but the fact is that people respect you more when you say no than when you when you just automatically go ahead and do something That you don't want to do so what I have done when I got back from this trip and I uh I always say that uh if I can get a picture of myself returning back to Maui and returning back to this place that I love so much and being out on the beach and and doing my running and practicing and uh tennis and all of these

kind of things that um if I can get that picture in in my mind then what I'm going through at at the time is much easier for me to enjoy it so rather than Sitting around you know people say well you your six hour difference in time zones your 11h hour time zones off and I say I don't do jet lag I just don't cuz jet lag is just a thought that you think over and over again until it becomes a belief that you have to be stressful when you change time zones so when I

change time zones I just remind myself what my friend ramas said just be here now be here in this moment so I'm now in England or I'm in Ireland or I've Changed time zones this is where I am and I don't allow myself to think a thought that is going to interfere with that then I get on an airplane and instead of getting on an airplane and saying oh my God all of these flights and I've got to go through security and I've got to go do all of this I just change my mind about

all of that and just decide that this is going to be a pleasant lovely nice kind uh you know fun experience and and to remind myself To not take myself so seriously in the power of intention we call this rule number six which is don't take yourself so seriously about everything another thing that I remind myself of over and over again and I just got this from a wonderful book um written by Susan monk kid back in the early 1990s called the when the heart weits uh she also wrote the The Secret Life of Bees

which is a big popular book now but in this book when the heart weits she speaks about The value of waiting and I and I and talks a lot about how impatient we all are in our lives we go to the drugstore and there's one person ahead of us to get our prescription and and we think that that you know we should uh we shouldn't be able to slow down and that and that we should be there first and we get in the highway and somebody drives a little bit slow and we want to get

around them right away you go to the Post Office there's five people in front Of you and somehow this idea of just waiting and uh you know but you know we you know every one of you who are mothers know that uh if you're going to have a baby there's a waiting period there's a 9mon period in which you just have to go through and let nature reveal its Secret it's by and by and almost as if we've bypassed that whole automatic notion about ourselves that waiting and just being at peace and meditating and getting

quiet are bad things and that we Should try to avoid them as much as possible and get to the front and get it fast and the faster we do it the better you can see I even talk faster when I speak about it so when I got back from uh this trip and all of that I practiced that the whole time and it was the best trip I've ever had in terms of my health I didn't have any difficulty with sometimes I get Broncho kinds of things I changed my whole approach to the whole thing

I got back and I decided I'm going To take up yoga so I'm doing Bick Room yoga this is my third day in a row and uh going in there and sweating and doing all of these things and trying to stand on one leg and move my other leg behind it and sit down and stretch my leg out to them I can't do about 70% of what those other people are doing you know but I'm nevertheless I'm there and I'm doing it and I find that just doing a 90 minutes of yoga every day is

one of the most peaceful things and all the things That stress me out about so many things um just aren't even a part of my life any longer so those are some of my suggestions and maybe we'll take some calls about them wonderful you know the the best thing I heard in there is that stress is entirely self-created exactly there's none in the universe whatsoever even a hurricane and all of that it's like it's our reaction to it that causes us to have problems and we always have a choice in what we think and how

we Process things absolutely Dr D what do you say we go to Amita I believe or I'm probably mispronouncing now Amita she's in London and she's been waiting on the line for you hi there Amita welcome to the show hi Dr D hi there how are you I'm very well you are my Guru you are my mentor oh well thank you I I Met You in London a couple of weeks ago and it's a real honor to be able to speak to you thank you I love your City you know what I discovered you know

what a cab driver told me yeah he said in 1890 when they had horse and Buggies to take people across the town that you could actually go from one end to London to the other Faster by horse carriage than you can today in a cab so I believe he's abely go but no stress but there's no stress with that Amita what's your question for Dr Dyer today my question today is um I've read a lot of your stuff I've heard so Many of your audio tapes and uh basically you're in the car you're in the

gym you're you're everywhere I go I that you're all I listen to oh well thank you and I tried to very hard to practice everything that you teach but there's just this one thing that I I can't seem to get over and and that is there's a person that I suppose I I could say that I have a fear of in my life and wherever she turns up or every time she phones I it's almost like fear Grips me and um I think about the past and I think about things that she's done and I

I just can't seem to get over that stage is this a relative it's a relative of my husband's relative of your husband's and are you forced to see this person on a regular basis well it's her sister it's it's a so it's your sister-in-law yeah it's my sister-in-law and um we do get on sometimes but beneath all of that I suppose what kinds of things did she do that I mean just Very quickly that that uh that you are still hanging on to that uh were so Troublesome or difficult for you in the past um

it's accumulated over 15 years so there's a lot to go over yeah but what is it is it all verbal or I mean did she ever yeah it's all verbal and things like um it stems from Jealousy on her part and things have been said and uh here's what I recommend you do there's a that you you take out a some something And you and you laminate this and you carry it around with you literally laminate you know what I mean when I say laminate uh yeah okay so you take it to one of those

printer placees places and and you get it typed up beautifully and what and I want you to write these words right out on on this little card I want you to carry it with me where carry it with you wherever you go for like the next six months for a year and it's and on there I just want you to write the Words what you think of me is none of my business and just keep reminding yourself every day just read that particular thought whenever the thought of your sister-in-law comes up whenever her presence comes

up whatever it is is what you think of me is none of my business in other words you are taking your power back what you've done is you've given your power away and by giving your power away what you've done is you've said that what you think of me Is agonizing for me is uh upsetting to me is uh stressful to me is painful to me is any number of these things and the fact of it is that whatever she thinks of you and I always say to let's say that uh instead of her thinking

uh and having said all of these terrible things over the last 15 years what if she came to you one day and said I used this example before what if she said you know last week you were this this but today you're a car you know you're an Automobile and I want to put you down on all fours and I'm going to put a funnel in your ear and I'm going to pour gasoline into your would you be a car if she thought you were a car would you be a giraffe if she thought you

were a giraffe and of course your answer to that is of course not I'm what I am and the fact is that you are what you are and what she thinks of you is just it's her problem it's something for her to deal with and it isn't even worth you Giving uh five more minutes of your energy to and as soon as you get that as soon as you understand that you'll see her as somebody who has the same kinds of concerns as you do she came from the same place as you do you share

the same God that she shares we all come from the same place and uh and she doesn't know how to be anything other than what she is and now what will happen is you'll start just uh surrounding her with um with kindness and with love and with With joy in your heart and forgiveness and you'll be at peace because you're not making her opinions of you more important than your own opinions of yourself and that's my advice that's the best I can do what do you say good thank you I will I I will definitely

go uh to the shop tomorrow and uh and every time you then look at that little line and it's a great line what you think of me is none of my business it's just that's just not My business my business is how you know making somebody else's opinion of you more important than your own opinion of yourself is the cause of your suffering and as soon as you change that around and make your own opinion of you the most important thing then you'll be able to you'll be actually be able to love her which will

be freeing to you it'll actually free you up yeah I have actually tried to do this as Well but I'm just I I feel that I keep going back back track uh yeah because it's a habit and it's it's just a habitual way of thinking over and over again you believe that because somebody said nasty things about you that your responsibility is to think uh those nasty things back and be upset and be hurt and so on but again think about our great spiritual Masters think of Jesus you know it's like and and when someone

would say something bad you know there's A story I don't know if I have time there's a story real quickly of uh I think I've told it before on the on the air but of of the Buddha who had people follow him around who are always criticizing him always finding fault with him always you know saying terrible things about him and uh and always he would respond with love and always he would respond with kindness and finally the devil tell they couldn't take it anymore they said how could you be so Kind in the face

of all of this negative stuff just keeps coming at you and what he his response was he said when someone offers you a gift and you do not accept that gift to whom does the gift belong and what he was really saying is if someone offers you a gift of their anger or their bitterness or whatever and you don't accept it then who owns it you don't own it so why would you be upset with something that somebody else owns and that's what you're doing you're Being upset with something that your sister-in-law owns instead of

being happy with what you own wow thank you thank you sweetheart God bless so much thank you much appreciate your call well Dr Dy we have just enough time to get Randy on the line from Tahoe Nevada and uh bring the question out Randy and then uh Dr Dy will answer it uh when we get back from the break so welcome to the show oh it's Brandy oh Brandy welcome thank you I have uh been Practicing the power of intention power of focus and belief and creating your life by that and um my I I

keep getting roadblocks that when it when it seems like everything's flowing and it's happening and I feel like you know wow it's you know I'm really on track it's flowing then all of a sudden I get these big roadblocks where there's nothing I can do to make continue make it continue to go forward and it just ends you've got to give me an example what do you What do you mean real quick it's happened through in all areas of my life it happens through it's happened in relationship it's happened in a business opportunity but what

would be an obstacle that you just can't overcome what what what would that be I'm trying to think of what that might be well like for instance um with the The Business Partnership everything was flowing and then all of a sudden there's we were kind of getting into contract Negotiations and then um there was just all a sudden miscommunication that seemed to be happening that made hold it right there hold it right there so you get into these business kind of things and and these obstacles present miscommunications occur and and and you think that and

that's that means what to you when when that happens that uh that that that what you want to create isn't happening yeah I'm getting now discouraged that all this stuff that I've been studying and trying to live my life by doesn't really work because it's not been working for me um in the past three years I've had a three years of this happening consistently it kind of everything just seems to blow up right as it after it's flowing and then it just stops and it blows up does it ever occur to you that you are

attracting exactly what it is that you are putting out there that this is this is not the universe doing that that this is you Doing that I mean I mean I'm not like asking you to blame I'm just saying it's what keeps showing up in your life so the independent variable here is you it keeps showing up you keep maybe anticipating it expecting it not believing you're worthy of it uh thinking that these is the way things always are going to go for you whatever it might be uh and there's almost like an anticipation that

when we we're going to get close to the edge but we're never Going to be able to jump in and and really make this happen well I'm only getting to that point right now after my third year and the final strive yeah but I mean as these things have happened in the past have you processed them in such a way that you say you know I needed to go through that like like when you go through a divorce or or when you go through a uh you know a bankruptcy or when you lose a job

or when there's an accid or whatever most people start you Know uh telling themselves this is awful this shouldn't have happened this is but if you're if you're at the place that I'm speaking to you from from the power of intention you would be saying to yourself of course this is what I needed to go through that there's no mistakes in the universe that my plan doesn't work God's plan does I'm going to listen to that one uh I'm not going to judge it I'm not going to tell myself that it should be something different

and it's Like and and then and then you you begin to attract an energy that says there's no obstacle that could possibly show up as this thing uh unfolds that could could prevent uh the the best outcome for me there's nothing that could prevent the best outcome for me I may not know what that best outcome is but there's and it's on its way and I expect it to continue and it's like and you create that kind of a mindset and all I can say to you uh Brandy is that it Works for me it's

a I just don't anticipate things not working out and I have some things even right now in my own life that haven't worked out exactly the the way that I want them to work out and I know that there's a greater plan at work here and it's like and it's so it's like I get to a place where I just suspend that and I get into a uh into that thing that I was talking about at the beginning of the show where I just I allow myself to be in a state of waiting And in

a state of anticipation and a state of joy of not trying to push the river and not trying to make something bigger happen and and not tell myself that something terrible has happened in the way of an obstacle then the obstacles disappear and then you you get past that and you realize yeah so this is why this is exactly why I mean 5 years ago I was in a just a miserable state in relationship and what's going on and so on and I thought perhaps that I could never be happy again and today I'm deliriously

happy and I look back on what happened 5 years ago and I understand exactly what was going on and why it had to go on and I'm in a better relationship with everybody including the person from 5 years ago and now and everything and uh and at the time I just wasn't able to uh to see the bigger picture and that's what I'm asking you to look at look at the bigger picture don't give up the source that created You is what's behind all of this be completely at peace with that and uh and whatever

you want or looking for anticipate that it's coming rather than that something's going to blow it up that's my advice oh I hope that something does happen what about this relationship thing what what what happens that you said something of relationship well you know you I felt like I met the that right person and that we were brought to Together at the right time and the right place and then all of a sudden it the relationships seemed to change he seemed to change and it turned into this wonderful beautiful relationship to a verbally abusive one

that I just could not you know have in my life you yeah and you can't see the the the the greatness in that and the joy in that and what you were taught there and uh and so on I mean I don't I can't see the greatness of why you know it every each Relationship seems to you think it's right and it just seems to not be yeah except that uh you know when when you are in what you think is a beautiful relationship and then it turns out that somebody becomes verbally abusive it's like

it it teaches you so much about entering into those kind of relationships in the future meaning attracting those kinds of people and before long you won't even be those kind of people won't you won't even allow Them to show up in your life you know it's like uh as soon as that that kind of that the first little hint of verbal abuse that just starts to show up the first little hint of disrespect or physical abuse or any of the first little hint of it you are so now in touch with who you are and

what you anticipate and what you're worthy of and what you're going to have in your life and you have such a strong knowing about that that you just very gently just move On and say well thank you God thank you for letting me see this here right now in this moment and off you go and you don't have to go through this long period of suffering that you go through now it's all part of a great learning process and and the right person's on its way you just have to open up a door and and

allow that person in we've got to move on okay yes Randy it's time for us to go but thank you so much for your call that was a lot of good information In there about a couple different situations for her what do you say we have uh Natalie on the line from Montreal Canada and she's got a question for you too as well hi hi Natalie hi Dr dier how are you my dear I'm fine and how are you how are things in Montreal uh in Montreal they're going fine um yeah beautiful weather that's great

uh the reason I'm calling is uh I'm having a lot of problems because of stress in my life my father was sick over the Summer the operation went very well but ever since then his mental aspect has really degraded he he he's practically driving us up the walls my mother and myself and we don't know how to deal with him anymore because uh he gets upset said if uh it's too cold in the house and he wants to put up the heat uh he'll even call the police uh he's done all kinds of things that

we we really do not know what to do anymore is it a dementia has he got a form of dementia Of some kind is he uh we don't know because they have now they're talking about maybe getting psychiatric evaluation done because last night he called the police so my mother has a resource person that she can talk to a social worker and when she called her today she goes I think we're going to get him evaluated and all that because he's really draining yeah you know when someone gets to that point how old is he

he's 76 mhm and and The worst part is is that he's the one who has basically given up because his operation went very well he he has no reason the doctor say no everything's fine you shouldn't have this all these problems that you say you're having it's hard to get inside of his head and understand what's going on from his perspective I mean especially especially after having had surgery that's a very traumatic thing and it may be something he may believe believe that something Has been rearranged inside of him that is making him this way

even if there's absolutely no reason for it whatsoever at any rate uh we can't get inside of his head and change it but we can certainly look at uh what your options are and uh you know in addition to getting the evaluation and so on I would really very strongly recommend that you go within yourself and make an absolute conscious decision that you are not going to allow yourself to be Emotionally manipulated by the behavior of this man what he is doing he is really em manipulating yeah absolutely so you just make up your mind

that's not going to happen so when he starts behaving in these irrational ways and starts making these accusations you let him know just like you would do with a child that's having a temper tantrum that this is not behavior that you're going to tolerate you do it with love you do it kindness and you leave the Room you walk out you say and each time you condition yourself with this person that every time he behaves in these ways what he's going to be doing is sending you away and then you leave and then you come

back and eventually he will get it that this kind of behavior is not something that is going to keep you around and make you unhappy and make you miserable and manipulate you he'll get that this is behavior that's sending him away that's that's the beginning and you Do this all up and down you just surround him with love as much possible love as you can surround in him with forgiveness and uh make your own conscious decision about what you're going to be we've C William on the line he also has a question for you and

I believe it may be about uh communication just like we're talking about William welcome to the program William how you doing Dr Dy good how are you I'm doing well where are you calling from Ogden Utah oh great in the Rocky Mountains yeah beautiful place I've been up there yeah yeah you have a question for you if I could sure well I've retired as a psychotherapist and I teach at a Loca University and I read your book The Power of intention and that's a remarkable piece of uh literature thank you very much I followed your

career also and uh watched you grow gr and become the kind of human being you are and one of the things I'm struggling to Do is twofold number one um start doing some seminars to help uh individuals and couples with their relationships and then secondly uh to write a book about a concept that hit me a while back when I was teaching a domestic violence class my question is how did you get started and if you give me some ideas that might circumvent some unnecessary suffering I'd appreciate it yeah it's a it's a good question

a it's a hard one though because nobody can you know everybody Has to sort of follow their own path mine I I took a very unusual path when I got started um I I've always been extremely excessively um probably obsessively uh uh committed to uh what it is that I'm going to create and I just I've never let any obstacles ever come that's why I always have a difficulty with people calling me up and telling me about all the obstacles that show up in their life because to me they were always just more indications of

What I was hadn't been willing to do yet cuz I don't ever believe it's not what you're willing to do it's what's on your list of what you're unwilling to do and that has to be a list that has nothing on it uh and and so for me it was when I wrote my very first book which was a a counseling textbook uh group counseling for Personal Mastery I sent the entire manuscript out I made a 100 copies of it on a xerox machine and sent it out to 100 different Publishers and I got 99

Rejections and I got one it was called educational technology Publications in Englewood Cliffs California and they said yes they would like to uh they would like to publish it and uh and and so that was my very first publication and when I wrote your aronia sounds uh about six years later I bought up the I went in and talked to different Publishers in New York and uh and I bought up the first uh three printings myself uh because they they didn't have Any plans for it to go beyond just the first printing and so I

bought them up and I stored them in my ex-wife's garage and circulated them myself and took them in a van and went across the country and I spent literally spent two years on the road going from City to city did you ever see Coal Miner's Daughter I did wasn't that a wonderful I mean that that whole and that was that was reminded me so much of what I was doing uh going from little radio station To little radio station and and delivering the books myself and going to the bookstores and uh having the time of

my life literally it was uh very joyful experience and uh I never ask anybody else to write anything or to any endorsements or anything like that I just uh totally threw myself into it's what uh in Think and Grow Rich uh you know Napoleon Hill talks about having a burning desire which is different than a regular desire a burning desire is one That won't go out you know it's inside you and you just absolutely know so that everything that you attempt to do if it doesn't seem to be working out the way you want it

you just cross that off the list and say it's like that old line from Thomas Edison when they he was trying 25,000 different ways to invent a light bulb and he still didn't have it and and here was the most famous inventor in the world and they asked him the question you know how does it feel To have failed 25,000 times and his response was classic he said failed he said today I know 25,000 ways not to make a light bulb you know not to make a battery and I just kept learning what not to

do and uh and you and so I I never think of obstacles as things that are bad I always think of them okay one more thing to cross off the list that one's not going to work you know and and the other thing is I would uh I started out doing it in uh in very small places Like up in Port Washington New York at the educational assistance center I gave a lecture every Monday night I was a professor also at at St John's University in New York and Monday nights were free for me so

I just offered a course and like 12 people showed up the first time then we did it for four weeks and I think they paid $5 the next after the four weeks were up uh they told a bunch of people about it they wanted to continue the course we had about 30 People show up and the and you know the conclusion of all of that is three years later in Port Washington New York on Monday night at shriber high school we had 1,200 people each who were paying $20 for a 4-week seminar to come uh

and and listen and it became like a an institution there in the town and then it went from there to bigger C in Manhattan and then all across the world but it's like you start out and you give a talk if three people show up in a Phone booth start give your first seminar there you know don't have anything on your unwilling list that's what that's my best advice hey thank you so much thank you my friend continued success for you thank you and God bless you you live up there in a beautiful beautiful part

of the world thank you God bless you yeah thank you sir thank you William we have Matt now on the line he's calling from Arizona Matt welcome to the program yeah hi hi Matt hey how You doing and what is your question for Dr Dyer today I've identified my ego and I actually have um conversations with it frequently good um but it constantly wants to be in charge and it sometimes lets me function uh I've learned that the best way um is to stay on um um to stay on top of my ego is to

watch it but it doesn't like this right yeah exactly um and in fact it's frantically always trying to you know distract me you know From from doing this you ROM do and others um have advocated actually the death of the ego to remove that control right um but I have the sense that the ego does actually play an important role yeah I used to think that too I'm not sure about that I I've sort of changed my mind on that because the thing about the ego the most important thing to remember about the ego is

that it's an illusion it's really the false self I mean that's what all of the great Spiritual Masters are that's what patan was teaching like 4,000 years ago it's the false self the real self the real the the is the you know that Lau said that is real which never changes so the part of you that the only part of you that's real is the part that's Eternal and everything else is an illusion including all of those beliefs that you have about uh you know what your ego is and all of the it's like you're

you're you're really slaying something that Doesn't exist in the first place if you just recognize that then you'll be much more at peace with it but we're going off the air here I can tell that in about 30 seconds so okay well than you very much we'll thanks Matt great questions and uh yeah maybe I'll meet with you we can all get together on Maui over here it' be great sounds great thank you sounds great God bless you appreciate your call Matt you know that's a great idea for a show how about A whole show

about the ego and tackling that anytime you tell me some you're in charge bring your FX 47 with you and we'll do it all right well Dr Dar thank you as always for being with us today we look forward to having you on air again next Monday same time same place I'll be here Dr Dyer hello again good morning or good afternoon wherever you are good afternoon how's the start of summertime treating you in Hawaii well I got to wait till tomorrow I know I'm jumping The gun but by 24 hours let it come we're

still in Spring yeah now all is well I'm uh U having a a glorious morning as usual yeah well um let's go from that glorious morning to talking about loss and transition in our lives what what are your thoughts on this well there's there's two areas there you know one you mentioned as the whole idea of death and the other is loss and I'll talk a little bit about each one of them I think what happens as you move in your Life as you begin to make a shift uh uh into becoming more of a

spiritual being having a human experience rather than the other way around most of us think of ourselves as human beings having an occasional spiritual experience maybe Sunday mornings or something but uh by and large uh if you if you begin to understand that uh everything that uh everything that composes as Jesus said everything that composes decomposing everything that shows up into the Physical world everything there are no exceptions everything that has boundaries that has form that has whatever is uh Lau said that is real which never changes so that anything that is uh is in

the world of the changing is uh is something that is uh trans transitory it is something that in the sense isn't real because there there's no lastingness to it so the only thing that is real the only thing that really is uh something that we can rely Upon is that which never changes and that's the world of spirit and that's where we all emanated from and that's where we're all headed to whether we like it or not we can look at these bodies of ours and we can get them nipped and tucked and we can

get things keep them from drooping and we can do all of that but ultimately we know that that which shows up in the world of form is headed out and uh and you can see it and uh you know many times I've held a a Hair up on the pillow in the morning and I've had this experience several million times and I'll look at that hair that's on the pillow and I'll say what held it in yesterday it's like and we know that there's some invisible Dynamic source so the way that I look at death

because I don't want to look it's a sort of a depressing subject for most people and I don't want to make it depressing at all I received something in the mail oh several years ago and I I wrote about it In a book called your sacred self and uh it goes like this this is It's called There Is No Death uh I am standing upon the seashore a ship at my side spreads her white sails to the morning Breeze and starts for the blue ocean she is an object of beauty and strength and I stand

and watch her until at length she hangs like a speck of White Cloud just where the Sea and the sky come to mingle with each other then someone at my side says there She's Gone Gone From My Sight that's all she is just as large and mass and Hall and Spar as she was when she left my side and she is just as able to Bear her load of living weight to her destined port her diminished size is in me not in her and just at the moment when someone at my side says there she's

gone there are other eyes watching her coming and other voices ready to take up the Glad shout there she comes and that is dying so That it's really is truly just a a transition and there truly is no such thing as death once you get at that and you get very comfortable with that and very at peace with that death isn't something any longer that uh you know like it's like taking off an old tight shoe or something it's not anything to fear whatsoever and um it's every single person's Destiny out there who's living in

the world of form so the other thing we talked a little bit about is this Thing called loss and U many of you who go on my website which is just wy.com it's created by Hay House and and all of the lectures and things that I do and a lot of the work that I'm about in my life is on that is on that website and um I've put a letter out on there promoting people to help a man named ramdas who wrote be here now and Gris for the mill and so many great books

who's who's had a stroke and struggling in his own life and has uh had some loss And uh he received a letter this man this man I love so much um received a letter from uh Steve and Anita who were the parents of a young woman a young teenage girl her name was Rachel and um in the film Fierce Grace um Anita who is Rachel's mother read this letter now it turns out that Rachel was murdered and was raped and it was a very devastating experience on her but this letter that ramas wrote to them

is one of the most beautiful letters I've Ever heard or ever experienced uh when it talks about loss and so I'm going to read it here and then we'll go to a break and then we'll come back and we'll take some some calls not necessarily about this subject but about any subject and here's what the letter goes dear uh Steve and Anita Rachel finished her work on Earth and left the stage in a manner that leaves those of us behind with a cry of Agony in our hearts as the fragile threat of our faith is

Dealt with so violently is anyone strong enough to stay conscious through such teachings as you are receiving probably very few and even they would only have a whisper of equanimity and peace amidst the screaming trumpets of their rage grief horror and desolation I can't assuage you your pain with any words nor should for your pain is Rachel's Legacy to you not that she or I would inflict such pain by choice but there it is and it Must burn its purifying way to completion for something in you dies when you bear the unbearable and it is

only in that Dark Night of the soul that you are prepared to see as God sees and to love as God loves now is the time to let your grief find expression no false strength now is the time to sit quietly and speak to Rachel and thank her for being with with you these few years and encourage her to go on with whatever her work is knowing that you will grow in Compassion and wisdom from this experience in my heart I know that you and she will meet again and again and recognize the many ways

in which you have known each other and when you meet you will know in a Flash but now it is not given to you to know why this had to be the way it was our rational Minds can never understand what has happened but our hearts if we can keep them open to God will find find their own intuitive way Rachel came through you to do her Work on Earth which includes her manner of death now her soul is free and the love that you can share with her is invulnerable to The Winds of Change

time and space in that deep love include me and love ramdas and I think that's as beautiful an expression of how you have to deal with some of the things that show up in our life that we just can't explain whatsoever the losses the struggles the things that come and go and particularly when people close to us Are are taken from us whether it's violently or just accidentally or as a surprise and that's my take on loss and death here today Dr Dyer that was a beautiful letter did you say that that is in a

book someplace that that's in a it's in a DVD uh film called Fierce Grace which is ramas in his wheelchair uh as having had a stroke talking to people about um how to deal with the loss of his own mobility and his own ability to express himself the way he Used to be able to and so on and the mother read that letter in there but I'm going to put it in my new book on inspiration Dr D let's go right to a caller I think we have Michelle on the line Michelle yes welcome to

the program hi what's your question for Dr Dyer today well my question is we recently me and my two girls have went through a move from Illinois to Colorado and I have a young girl who's 14 and she just finished her first first year in high School and she's having a hard time and I guess we all are because we miss it so much back there and everything is so new I think we feel such a loss and go ahead it was just seemed like such a good idea at the time but now I'm just

wondering if we shouldn't go back well I can't give you the answer to that but I can tell you to listen to your heart and to why did you decide to Leave there um well I'm divorced and their father lives in Colorado and he's lived here for the past three years so partly so they could be closer to here partly because this sounds so silly but I got to thinking that it seems like time's going so fast and they're growing and I don't we lived in a very small town back there and I just didn't

think they would stay back there M so I kind of did it more for me I had a good job offer my family is out here cuz I'm from here and um but yet it's still familiar back there we've lived there for 10 years and that's really most of their life right sometimes the the thing that uh you have to really look at within your heart is uh whatever it was that motivated you to uh to leave that familiarity and to move into this sort of unknown uh thing out there if that is if that

is still operating for you in your life I mean uh The closeness to their father the uh I don't know the new environment they getting away from whatever it was that uh that wasn't so uh appealing from a a hindsight sort of uh sort of uh Viewpoint that that you're taking my suggestion is that you just uh that you live in joy wherever that wherever you are you know you know it's like instead of uh commiserating about what what it used to be when you were back in Illinois and and thinking about all of That

and just keeping that on your mind is instead to begin to go into practice uh with with living in the present moment you know being where you are finding a sense of joy in everything being in a state of gratitude uh knowing that you always have the option the option is always there you live fortunately you live in a country where you're free to just move about and and go wherever you want to go and that the option to go back is always there so I Mean you can just do that in your mind and

say okay but but since we haven't done that and certainly if we're not doing it today and you know you're not leaving today then I'm going to take today and I'm going to look for as many things as I possibly can to find uh you know joy and and peace and and and happiness and so on in the moment that I am that's how you deal with homesickness I think more than anything else and then ultimately if you get to a point where You just say it's just too unbearable and I want to be back

there um it sounds to me though that you would have done that already if um there's got to be something holding you there other than just U wanting your girls to be close to their father there something going on that you're not saying it seems to me well I just I don't know I just have a feeling that it's the place to be but I don't know why and I and I think if if I feel that way then why do I miss what I Knew you know sh and I think what's making it hard

is that she misses it so much the children right right and she had just finished her first year of high school and so she you know um talks to her friends back there and she just really missed is it supposing you said to her that 're we're going back do you think she would be happy then yeah I think she would go I don't know if she would be happy because you know being back there when we were back there she Wasn't completely happy so it's so happiness isn't about uh you say there is no

way to happiness happiness is the way you know it's like if you don't have happiness with inside of you and you don't bring it to you could you have to be able to bring it to Colorado or bring it to gardening or bring it to the the new school that you're in or whatever and if she doesn't have that within her uh then disrupting everything again and going back is just another prescription For uh you know letting uh forces outside of you determine where where your happiness is going to be it is and Dr Dyer

you have um you know children teenage and how you how do you put that in them though do you know what I mean not put that in them but that age is just so hard to I just I don't honestly U Michelle I don't think like that I don't think it's that hard at all and I I think at the age for me I have eight children and I have teenagers now 15 and 17 and and 19 years old and for some of them uh leaving uh you know one school and going to another then

we've had to do that on on several occasions it's it's very traumatic and then they get used to it and then we just move on and for others of them you know they they have a tendency to be very dramatic and to try to manipulate you with uh you know this is you know you're ruining my life and I'll never speak to you again and everything is just uh you know Upside down because of you and the decisions you're making and U I always tell them that uh you know you have uh you know you

go to school because of the choices that you make and you are uh you have the right to either be happy or not to be happy at any moment you have the opportunity to make your life joyful and and and so on or not it's up to you so don't impose that on me don't lay that on me this is where we live this is where I make a living and they've Understood that right you know okay I don't let the those those teenage emotional years and and all of those those changes be the things

that control and dominate what I know to be the right thing for them and for my family or whatever right right I know I think I've just been confused as if it's really the right thing but well there's no there's no answer to that there's absolutely there is no answer to that and the real the real thing that the what this call Is really about because it's interesting we're talking about loss and and and and so on is how you deal with the present moments of your life right you know I mean I had someone

on the show a few weeks ago who was in Rwanda when she was a teenager and with you know with a hunted woman with you know people were trying to kill her uh and and she had to go within find peace within herself by hiding in a bathroom for 91 days uh and I always tell my children you know You've got to and I try to expose them to the kinds of things that are going on in the world that make their quote problems really seem you know not nearly as dramatic and not and it's

it really does work by the way yeah I mean I I have them watch uh you know shows on uh you know often say just as we sit down to eat we've just got to remember as we're sitting down to eat this wonderful meal that we have that we have prepared for us that there are people our our Brothers and sisters someplace on the planet who are digging for worms and roots to try to stay alive today so let's keep them in our prayers and in our Consciousness and remind ourselves of how fortunate we are

and how lucky we are right because you know it's the biggest choice that your children have to make is whether they're going to live whether they live in a friendly universe or a hostile universe and if they believe that they live in a friendly Universe and they're going to be looking for opportunities to extend that friendliness and that goodness and that love outward if they believe that they live in a hostile Universe they're going to be looking for occasions to be offended and there's no amount of your moving about and changing things that's going to

get them to see that they have to come to that awareness themselves okay yeah I remember Marian Williamson talking about her father taking her to China and to Vietnam when they were young kids just so that they could see what was going on over there so that she said when we came back our whole perspective changed it might be really good to take your children over to a place where there are drug addicts and things or old people in in a home and let them just spend the day there we have to take a break

okay thanks Michelle great call God bless you yeah Namaste thank you Michelle I really Enjoyed how that call migrated from her move to the difficulty of raising her daughter and how to try if you're raising three teenagers at once right now you you have a few things to say a great book about how to raise te it's called get out of my life but first drive me and Cheryl to the mall it really describes exactly it's like to raise a teenage daughter that's a real book yeah it's a real book it's a very good one

by the way get out of my Life but first drive me and Cheryl to the mall I like that we are going to go to Valerie now in New Jersey Valerie welcome to the program hi thank you very much hello Dr Dyer hi Valerie how are you absolute pleasure um sending light your way thank you very much for uh my call my Call is actually a relation a call about relationship I'm actually in a relationship with a wonderful gentleman that I I've known since I met was my soulmate and the person that I'd One day

marri ironically or interestingly I was introduced to him on the same day that my father passed away and so there's an interesting connection between us a very deep connection that we both acknowledged but in the last um month or so we'd hit an impath and and uh there was a real disconnect between us and not communicating and really reassessing the relationship and at one point we decided to bring closure to it and then not and we've kind of been in This back and forth interestingly at the time in this season of Silence that I called

it is when I got introduced it was a time when I was praying and meditating and and gotten introduced to your book uh the power of intention which I read and then read um asking it shall be given and one thing kind of flowed into another and I'm in such a wonderful wonderful place spiritually and I thank you for that my question is actually regarding meditation however is Uh when you have a sense of knowing an absolute knowing about a relationship connection with someone and you are meditating to manifest destiny can you meditate with a

specific name and person in mind or is it better to leave yourself more open to allow to not put so many limits on how the Creator uh will send that's the first portion of my question that and I think I may have kind of answered it because I have been meditating with him in mind and uh sure Enough in in a matter of days we've begun communicating again but I just wanted to know if I was going in the right direction with regard to that well I think you can meditate on attracting virtually anything you

want into your life and be as specific as you want to be and you can have it show up but I think it's much more important in your desire s to uh put your attention on the on the feeling behind what it is that you are asking for and um uh you Know and keep always keep that in mind no matter what it is I mean to to ask to win the lottery for example or to ask to have uh you know something happen at 4:15 in the afternoon you know on your timetable that the

universe doesn't work on your timetable your timetable comes from your ego and the universe's timetable comes from Spirit comes from God and there's a line in one of Jackson Brown song that says creation reveals its Secrets by and by you know so that If you you know you live in New Jersey well about this time of year you start planting um tomato plants don't you up there those beautiful New Jersey tomatoes that are so wonderful and then uh but you start seeing the shoots come up uh around uh about another a month or so from

now you'll see them just shooting up from the ground I mean you can't get down on your knees and start tugging at them and say look I want some Tomatoes today right the tomatoes will Show up exactly on schedule when when the when they supposed to show up and I think the same thing is true of our relationships and and all the people that are ined and so on the key to manifesting in my opinion is not so much in uh whether you put your attention on a specific thing and a specific person but in

becoming a vibrational match to what it is that you desire and if you've read Asen it is given the the wonderful book by Jerry and Esther Hicks it Absolutely is wonderful yeah it is I wrote the forward to it and I don't write forward so I mean it's like it's a book that I really recommend and you can get that through ha house at any any rate um one of the things that you learn is that let's say your desire I always go back to like uh if you if you just can put a number

on your desire and the highest number say just say is is 100 and so on a scale of 1 to 100 your desire is to be what with in this Relationship with this person what would it be in a numerical sense or yeah like like no what is the high what's the highest desire that you have for this relationship with this particular person what is your highest desire my highest desire is actually to have such um a a a spiritual connection and loving relationship that it by okay that's enough you don't need anymore that's perfect

okay so that's what you want you want a loving Divine spiritual God realized relationship right yes okay so that's at the top that's number 100 now let's look at what you've been offering up to that uh you know to match up to that so that's a very Spirit that's like a god realized ambition and desire but most of the things that we offer up to that are um I don't know if it's going to work out um I'm looking at some of the things that I'm seeing that I don't like about this person uh it

isn't he isn't quite measuring up we Don't agree on this you know what I'm saying that before you know it you what you offer up to that number 100 that highest number that's possible in terms of your desire our uh numbers around 15 20 25 and so now you try to you slide them over and you try to match up how can you match a desire that is 100 with thoughts and energy and behaviors and feelings and worries and so on that don't that aren't in in harmony with that so that and that's why you

don't Man that's why things don't manifest because the universe responds to what it is that you were putting out there it's just called The Law of Attraction so what you want to do is offer up to that Consciousness that you desire thoughts and and particularly feelings and uh and behaviors that match that so what is a matching thought to that this person is divine he's a creation of God um I give in a in a book I wrote a few years ago called there's a spiritual solution to Every problem I just jotted this down while

I was listening to you T yeah Valerie right yes here's two tests for uh uh turning uh uh a relationship into something that's Divine it was written by Anthony Dello number one he says try these two affirmations out I am not really attached to you at all I am merely deluding myself into the belief that without you I will not be happy that's number one and number two and this is the hard one I Leave You free to Be yourself to think your thoughts indulge your tastes follow your inclinations behave in ways that you decide

are to your liking and I will still love you unconditionally that's beautiful yeah and it's tough isn't it it is and it's interesting that you said that because recently he had communicated with me that he was not sure you know where he was with the relationship and that's exactly what I did give to him I said You know I love you enough to let you go and find your way and sure enough you know he came back and we're just progressing a day at a time and that's where I'm taking it and one thing that

I did want to add I know that you said before that the music is often made in the silence between the notes right um and I find that all the music by the way not often all the music it's the silence between the notes that makes the music it's out of the silence that all all Things are created that's how God creates and that's how we create yeah and I'm finding that in love relationships it's nice to have the warm fuzzies and the together time but a lot of times your love is devel in those

quiet times in those seasons of what may appear to be Discord um in as Seasons where you're stretched so um I'm finding that and I just and it's an awesome journey and I am very excited about uh what the future holds well I just Finished a a book that I've just just the other day it's a little book that'll be out next year it's called the being in balance and one of the chapters there's nine of these chapters and one of these chapters is called love is what's left over when falling in love Fades away

oh that's wonderful yeah so it's like you know like falling in love is like gag can't keep your hands off each other can't get enough sex can't get enough of holding the person's hand Snuggling up to them you know bringing flowers uh you know all of the all those wonderful things but uh that Fades that Fades and and everything you just can't keep bringing flowers cost too much smell too much whatever it might be so that uh that but love is what's left over and I saw a little boy give a comment about when he

was asked what love was he was only four years old he says love is what's in the room when you're opening your Christmas presents If you stop and look around and see what's in the room oh how about that that's wonderful yeah if you stop thinking about yourself and just say this so there's lover you know lovers come and lovers go but Love Remains and it's the and that's what you have to be be the love because that's what God is the love and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in me and I in him

that's what God realization is wonderful great call thanks much yeah thank you and great Enjoy New Jersey watch for those but wait L us till they get okay thank you okay God bless byebye all right let's go to Rod now in New York City Rod welcome to the program hello hello hey Dr Dyer how are you I'm great thanks how are you my friend very good bless you thank you likewise I I had a comment I actually met you um in New York uh when you I I had a chance to see you uh meet

Immaculate at the Omega conference and I came up and gave you some hugs and uh Got a to tell you about my um experience using your material to uh get through u double neurosurgery on my spinal cord I remember now yes yeah I I um gradually lost my ability to walk and uh after having been a very vibrant and uh personal trainer and all around sporting guy I uh ended up with this extensive healing process uh which began with intense pain uh that would basically caus me to pass out and I mean it's just It

went beyond words right I was uh uh fortunate enough to uh get a gift from some friends called 101 ways to transform your life yeah that CD yeah yes indeed it was a goodie and uh that kind of introduced me to you I had uh Louise Hay's version as well and I'd play you guys back to back over and over right uh and I I just used it often enough to uh try and get over what was for me tremendous loss of uh Mobility um because I had to go into a wheelchair For a period

of time but you're not in a wheelchair now are you no thank heaven No I um and but it was it was hard to see uh my way out of such an experience between the pain and the despair uh depression took over I mean it was it was very frightening it terrorizing uh time for me but as I laid in my uh bed uh healing watching the season uh change I'd have the uh material on and I charged on it and I just wanted to share that with the viewers that you can plug In and

take yourself to another level just by uh riding that wave you might say right and allowing yourself to uh transform and if thank you I want to thank you again for that 101 wave right now I'm living in the power of intention as I take my train to uh see my clients nowadays because I'm fortunate enough to have uh gone through the healing process right and you're and what work are you doing now R right now I'm able to um train clients again and but what I've Done is I've kind of uh begun to take

some of the material I actually use some of your material to inspire my clients now and incorporate Health and Wellness in terms of a physical aspect with the spiritual and I believe that's going to be like the new way well not the new way but a way to uh channel to uh allow us to uh take ourselves to a higher level physically and spiritually in the same uh level oh I think so too not only is it going to happen for individuals like That but I I really think that we're on the another a bigger

wave than that with uh being able to do that all over the world all over the planet where we're going to create the kind of planet the kind of relationships the kind of peaceful uh loving God realized place that we all came from that uh and it's only by going within it's like it's only through a change in Consciousness that we're going to transform the world that's how you transformed your life and I'd love to take the credit for it but um it's all it was all you and your relationship to God and as you

went there and and found that and discovered that you realized that you don't have to offer up to a desire to be healthy again any energy that says I can't do it or it won't happen or poor me or I've been a victim or whatever and instead what you offered up to it was a match to what it is that you intended to create so you did it R I'm really really proud of you Dr Wayne Dyer is joining us now from Maui and how's how's it going post Thanksgiving feeling good it's going fine going

fine I have an announcement to make that um I wrote a book uh several years ago um back in the in the 90s was called A promise is a promise and it was the story of um a woman who was taking care of her daughter who was in a coma it was about a the woman her name was K oera and she um was taken care of her daughter slipped into a coma On the 3rd of January in 1970 when she was 17 years old she was uh a diabetic and she uh had taken an

oral form of insulin and she got the flu and she vomited up all of her uh her insulin and so she slipped into this coma and as she was slipping into the coma um she said to her mother you won't leave me will you you won't leave me and the last words her mother said to her she said no I will never leave you I promise and A promise is a promise so I Read about her it was 25 years after that in 1995 that I read a story about her in the in the newspaper

and down in Florida at my home and um I was just so touched by This Woman's selfless dedication to her daughter and living up to her promise that she had actually sat next to her and put her in into her home and uh would feed her through a tube and so on and and refused to have uh life support uh removed from her because she knew that she would starve to death and She just couldn't bring herself to do that and and um so she stayed in the coma and the mother just slept in a

chair next to her for 25 years and then uh I got to know the family I sent them a copy of one of my books that I had written a book called real magic and went down to visit them in Miami a lot and spent a lot of time with them and decided to write this book and to have all of the proceeds all of the prophets all of the royalties and everything go Directly to the family to help them with it and then K died about uh oh maybe four or 5 years ago and

meanwhile eduarda was still in the coma and uh her sister Colleen who had been in actually had been incarcerated um and she had gotten herself addicted to uh to some kind of drugs I'm not sure what they were but um she had gotten herself into trouble with the law and uh when Kay got very sick she came out of jail and she just felt that eduarda had saved her Life her sister's life and then after Kay died eduard colen took care of her up until um the day before Thanksgiving and then uh Colleen called me

and uh she said I was the first person that she called and um eduarda passed away on uh I think the 20th of of November it might have been the 21th at 7:15 in the morning which is the middle of the night here when she called and and told me so she was in a coma from 1970 until um 2012 um so and she yeah she was almost 60 years old she was 58 or 59 years old and they had taken care of her since she was a teenager and there were many amazing stories about

this woman one one time my son Sans who was about 11 or 12 at the time was taking a shower and he came running out of the show with a towel wrapped around him and said mom Mom Dad Dad you're not going to believe it I saw Ed waterer she was in she came into the bathroom uh and I saw her I saw Her in my shower and uh and there were other people who had reported these kinds of visitations from her and had done healings with her and so on so I wrote about a

lot of those things in the book it's called the promise is a promise and uh but anyway a lot of people have asked me about her and so on but um she left this Earthly playing and Colleen who has taken care of her now for the last five or six years we're talking 247 here this is you know Someone who has to be cared for continuously and she just couldn't believe that she wasn't uh still alive um she just thought that she was just rest uh when the nurse they had a nurse that would come

in three or four times a week she came in and said no she finally passed in the middle of the night so I think it might be the longest anybody has ever stayed in a coma and stayed alive wow no I've never heard of that of Someone lasting that long in that state 43 years wow 42 years and just the family taking care of her for so long that's just incredible just an incredible display of U of unconditional love and a commitment into living up to a promise because um Medicare or Medicaid or whatever is

wouldn't provide for it wouldn't allow for some reason the funding wasn't going to be allowed unless she was in a hospital and they wouldn't put her in a hospital because They just uh felt that they wouldn't be there in contact with them so we used to go to her home all the time and my daughter would sing for them and we would all just talk and I always swore that Colleen would or that eduard would know when I was there I I would just sense a smile from her and uh and Amazing Story it's uh

so anyway the book is still out there and of course all of the proceeds still go to the family and and I'm going to be helping them with The with the funeral and all of that because they have absolutely no money they depended upon uh on contributions that's the only way they were able to sustain it and keep the food and so and they had a doctor his name was Dr Chen and he never charged for any of the service that he offered just a beautiful man who never charged them anything but we were always

doing fundraising for them at many of my speeches I would tell her story and just leave a little box on The stage and people would come and put money in and we would always make sure that she got it and anyway so it was kind of a an interesting morning to to to get that call totally unexpected and I was such a I was such they were such a big part of my life in fact in my book uh that I'm writing now I can see clearly now I tell the story of what uh just

to be able to be around people who are so selfless and who give so much I remember when Kay uh had her birthday And I gave her a set of u a pearl necklace that cost a few thousand dollar and she she just uh couldn't bring herself to uh to keep them I mean she just was she just kept insisting no I have to uh this is for eduard I'm going to I'm going to sell them and and all of that and I said no you're not selling these okay whatever it was just anyway they

were just a beautiful beautiful family the oera family many prayers go out there for for us about keeping your Promises yeah it was one of my first book uh books with Hay House I'm I'm fever searching the Hay House site right now that oh there it definitely is it's now out in paperback it was out in hard cover it was the first book it was the first time for me that I had you know any writing that I'd ever done or any royalties that I'd ever received or any profits from my writing I always just

I invested or I made a part of my gave to my family and things like this this was The first time that I took uh this god-given talent that I've been given the ability to write and devoted it to uh writing for somebody else and having all of the proceeds and everything go to them and it really was one of those moments of Shifting in my life where I wasn't doing something for me for Wayne Dyer and what come my way I remember going away and uh renting a place to stay I stayed for about

a month and I interviewed Kay and everybody associated With it and listened to all of the recordings but it was one of the most pleasurable writing experiences maybe the most pleasurable writing experience I've ever had because of it was all about giving I knew that every single thing that I was doing here and devoting this amount of time and so on to was in the category of just offering and serving and doing something not because of what's in it for me but uh how I might serve someone else it's that I've Spoken many times about

the Mantra of the of the ego is always uh more more more and what's in it for me what's in it for me and the Mantra of the higher self and the highest self is uh how may I serve what may I do and keep myself s out of it and that was one of the uh Beginnings for me of uh putting much more of my emphasis in my life on on serving rather than on thinking about what I might get for it wow that's a beautiful Ed was a great she was a great Teacher

and so was Kay but you have to imagine Diane about having a daughter that's in a coma from the time that she's 17 years old and a senior in high school and staying next to her and sitting up in a chair for 25 years and never getting a night's sleep in a bed because she had to be turned and she had to be fed every 3 hours and given her medicine and so on to keep her alive I can't even imagine that how many times that she'd want to just give up and yeah Imag felt

yeah there was no giving up in her she was a I had many many wonderful evenings and um and many meals and so on and many wonderful times over in uh in that room with eduarda lying there and talking to her and singing to her and uh bringing gifts and so on so every year in March on in her birthday she would have uh this party and people would come because I put it on TV and in fact I told Oprah about it so Oprah came down and interviewed her quite a few years Ago when

she had her you know her own TV show a Daily Show and she put her on there and and so the world was really knowing about her and people would fly from all over the world to come and see her and many people felt that they had uh spiritual experiences and Kay was absolutely convinced that Edward would when when everyone else would go off to sleep that her spirit would leap and go out and do healing work and and things like that and and I know for certain That my son saw her because he's not

the kind of he wasn't the kind of kid and he still isn't he's 25 years old now but when he was a young boy who believed in any of this stuff you know he but boy he came running out of there and uh and named her and said that she was there that's amazing well I did find a book on the Hay House website it's available can add this one to you can read the story It's a Wonderful story and when you're buying it know that the royalties and The the proceeds and all of that

all will go to helping uh get that get Colleen she's lost her mother now her father passed away about 3 or four years into the uh coma uh he just couldn't deal with it it was so such a struggle for him to but the mother stayed with it and stayed with and she passed away in her sleep a few years ago and and beautiful Colleen who when I talked to her the other morning she was sobbing and she was saying you don't understand Wayne and she said you just don't understand she saved my life she

said I was using drugs and I was stealing and I was in trouble and all that and she she gave me a reason to live to serve her and to take care of her and she I don't and then she was trying to she was going through all of this inner pain about um I wonder if I maybe I didn't do something right maybe I I didn't put her medicine in right maybe I hope I didn't do anything to cause her to you know She so yeah well that'll bring uh that story back to light

and people can check it out and read it for themselves it's amazing yeah W so that's it I wanted to announ Def thankful you know for what I have after hearing that yeah you might want to read that it's a wonderful story you can read it in just a few hours my wife actually wrote a chapter in there as well it's first time she'd ever published anything wow well we'll have people check that out A promise is a Promise A promise is a promise right okay and we still have some time for call you want

M yes I'd like to let's see where should we go first uh let's go start at line number one let's go to Jackie in Philadelphia hi Jackie thanks for holding you're on with Dr Wayne Dyer hi can you hear me sure can hello oh hi can you hear me I can oh my goodness I'm shaking Diana and we're off to Philadelphia in the morning do you know That song oh my gosh I'm n I'm not nervous I'm just so excited I said if I get through then I have to tell you know tell you what

I wanted to tell you but I want to start out by saying I'm a big fan I a thank you for many years read your books listened to Hay House every week to your program because it gets me through my week a that's nice and Diane thank you for being there to help us get through it oh my pleasure oh my gosh um Wayne I said if I got through to this Call and so ironic that you were telling this wonderful story as you started today that I want to tell you this only because this

is hurting my heart so much and because of the love and the wisdom that you you know impart to us about relationships that I just want to tell you this really quick and ask for your loving wisdom about it over the Thanksgiving holiday at my daughter-in-law's house my daughter and daughter-in-law had a had a Dispute and they you know they had a shouting fight and um it was very upsetting my my teenage granddaughters were there and felt very sad and of course you know I'm praying for peace you know to to happen and in the

meantime my daughter after everything you know we left she was angry with me because she said that I didn't stick up for her I wasn't in her corner and I should have said how dare she say those things to you and I just kind of don't React that way I'm more of like a peacemaker right I just want to see everyone be at peace but if my daughter's telling me that this is hurting her so much because I'm not responding that way I'm wondering what would be the more loving thing to do and because I'm

emotionally a little upset right now I I can't seem to pull on that well the loving thing to do is exactly what you did do which is to not Take sides and to just be an instrument of peace and to try to have your daughter understand that um you know that she doesn't need to have your approval or your support in order for her to feel good because uh or to feel better because but basically what she's saying to you behind all of it is Mom if only you were different uh in that moment then

I wouldn't have to be so unhappy and she needs to understand that her unhappiness didn't come from the Fact that you didn't support her her unhappiness comes from uh from the fact that she allowed herself to get into a shouting match with her uh what what is she her sister-in-law um yeah so um you know when you if you start going in there and apologizing all but basically what you're doing is teaching her that her emotional upsettedness is the result of uh what you did or didn't do and she needs to really know and understand

that That's just that's just not the way it is I always think that you know you take a situation like that and uh she's in the midst of a shouting match and then she gets all upset and there's a um you know that you really are in the role that you're in there with her you're really nothing more than just a reflection of what it is that uh she is uh what what she is sending out there in other words I always tell people look go stand in front of a mirror and look in Front

of the mirror and frown and then ask yourself in order to make that frown go away on the person that I'm looking at in the mirror do I go up to the reflection and try to make the mouth go up in order to make me feel better well the fact is that uh you know you don't go to the mirror and and look at the frown in the mirror because there's nothing there it's it's just a reflection of who you are you her anger towards you is just a reflection of Something that she is doing

to herself and she really needs to know that um you know that your love for her has nothing to do with whether you agree or don't agree with people in a shouting m and that you had just as much love and care and concern for your son's wife as you do for your own daughter and that it's not about choosing sides I mean that's that's the way I would look at it from a logical point of view now there's a lot of emotion that gets involved in Family and it's like you're not supporting me and

you didn't do this and that's the reason that I'm unhappy but that's no different than saying the reason that I see a frown in the mirror is because I can't get the reflection to be what I want it to be when she starts realizing that you don't don't have she you should she shouldn't be giving you that kind of power uh and you certainly don't want to have that kind of power now You' got to always watch out every Time that she might be getting upset because of the way that you're reacting and we need

to always be responsible for how we're feeling ourselves and not putting it on anybody else even if it's your own mother or your own child and so on that's the way I see it wow wng I have to say thank you so much for this because um I'm so emotionally upset because she felt as if she wanted to cut me off in a way like she was saying you know I won't talk to you unless you do This but I just kept praying and I said wow I can't believe that I've got through the Wayne

today because at least I can feel you know that when you give your advice like this it's done through peace and love and in a Godly way so I can feel trusting of it and um yeah and she wants to make it even and now she want this is this is really a reflection of what your daughter needs to really look at and she might want to you might want to tell her to listen to the show Because it'll air several times today and all week and now what she wants to do is exacerbate it

and make it even worse by then cutting off her her communication with her own mother because you're not living up to what she thinks that you should be it's that old thing that we've been I've been saying for as long as I can remember being out in public eye when people say if only you were more like me then I wouldn't have to be unhappy with right now if Only you were seeing the the world the way I see it then I could be you know I wouldn't have to be so depressed or so upset

so people go around putting their upsetedness on uh the reactions the reflections that other people have in their lives and once you explain to her that that I am just about you know I'm just about love I'm just about peace and it's not about choosing sides this isn't a war that we're involved here this is just an opportunity for all of us to Live together in harmony and peace and kindness and joy rather than in these other ways thank you so much for that way how I how War are started they started ways and absolutely

absolutely as a matter of fact I think that your daughter needs to uh um whatever um what whatever uh unhappy words were spoken between the two of them the best thing that your daughter could do was would be to uh send some flowers or something to her Sister-in-law and tell her that you know that uh I have you know I have a loving heart and um I slipped back and um you know I apologize for it that's the best way to yeah she could she could end all of that very very quickly very quickly that's

right I yeah she could end it all very quickly by just sending love to everyone because whatever the problem is you know the solution is always in in having a loving heart and a a loving heart absolutely Wayne thank you that's Why I've resonated with all of your stuff all you know over these years thank you so much have uh have you seen uh the my film on my greatest teacher the story of finding my father and I haven't no have you watched the shift have you seen the shift seen the shift either I your

books but I haven't seen the movies you got to send we're g to send you both of those movies for Thanksgiving Happy Thanksgiving send them SK give one of Them to your daughter and tell her to lighten up thank you so much Wayne God bless you both you God bless you too Namaste boy the holidays are just so emotionally charged aren't they I mean I'm can imagine how many confrontations like that must have happened all over the country well and it's family it's you know it's like you know it's uh that that whole thing I

often said that I'm going to write a book uh you know about family relationships you know and I and Calling it uh you know your uh your friends are are God's way of uh apologizing for your relatives you know because that can be so you know when we get into we we get into situations with our relatives whether they're sisters or or siblings or parents or whatever and we have all of these expectations that um you know you're you're supposed to support me and you're supposed to do this and if I say that you're supposed

to be there and so And the fact is that uh you know all we just have to accept each other for you just because we happen to sh share the same genetics doesn't mean that we share all of the same views right or also what do you think about this if you have a difficult family member who's who's treating you horribly and I've had people say well that's your blood you just have to deal with it I don't think that's true do you no not at all uh in fact the holidays are a great time

for That it's like uh I always say there's every family has an aunt Bertha or something that's just the name that I pick and uh and when she comes over for H for Halloween I was going to say but for Thanksgiving or whatever that what you want to do and when she starts in on the kinds of things that you know are just upsetting to you is just see see how much love that you can send to this person just make up your mind in advance you're not going to allow this person to Get to

you I've been practicing that uh I practice it when my kids come all the time they're they say things sometimes that I don't like and uh they make noises that I don't want or they put on TV shows that I don't want and I just say to myself don't say anything don't say anything just love them just love them that's all that's all we got to do and just let it go that's great advice so let's go to Ray and Cheyenne Wyoming He's online five and see what's up with Ray Ray thanks for holding you're

on with Dr Dyer actually it's Roy AKA Roy Rogers is your buddy oh hey Roy sorry about that been a while the summertime since I last talked to you and everything and yeah nice to hear from you I always do because I wanted to talk to you a little bit about all these I am discourses you've been pounding us with for over the summer and Springtime and I just wanted to tell you how I Think they've been kind of working for me too and that you know at first I kind of thought I don't want

to do it and everything but you know I started doing it and it it's just like today for instance uh we had a dramatic temperature change in Wyoming today where it's barely over 30° and yesterday it was almost 60 and when I woke up I was just I I was just I didn't feel like getting out of bed I'm really tired and I just keep telling myself I am energy I Am strength and when I'm in my doing my workouts now I start doing my workouts even if I'm in pain or if I don't feel

like finishing them I just keep saying that I I I'm endurance I am endurance and I somehow manage um uh to get through them but I think the most in incredible thing that's happened to me is when I was reading that and some of your other books over this summer uh about the IM discourses is about prosperity and what I often do when I Run I don't always work out at the gym I often run to the gym and finish it up there and then run home especially when it's warmer and I tell myself I'm

prosperity and I am all that well what I've noticed is is that every now and then in the past I've always found you know maybe a dollar bill here every now and then or a five somewhere on the street and all that but there was a period of time in the late summer and early fall where it just seemed like Every time I was I turned around I was Finding $10 bills and $20 bills in the vacant lots that I was running through or off the sidewalk I mean I found $30 just3 $10 bills within

a minute run of each other over this summer over the one day during the summertime just $10 bills just sticking right off right off the field from the sidewalk really those were mine those were those were mine Roy I dropped those I was I was out there running it was in Wyoming was it yeah Did they have Hamilton on the the picture of Hamilton on the on the front Alexander I think they had I think they had your picture on it they might have oh okay well then they weren't the on no but no no

but what I wanted to say more it leads a little bit even more so you got that out of the way what just really quick I just want to tell you that ever since I've been doing that what I've been noticing is is I've been know ever since I've been doing the IMs for some Reason I even feel a little bit more sensitive to trying to reach out a little bit more to other people too and I uh was watching this TV show I think it was on MSNBC lockup I watch shows about right and

all that you've heard of it and normally I don't think much of it I just watch the show just in but there was this one guy that was on there a few weeks ago that and for some reason you know just from what he was talking about his life and and he's serving a life Sentence and he keeps and when he's been get given chances he's struck out and he keeps going back and he kind of reminded me a little bit of my father and then he said some stuff about one of my favorite things

which is coffee and I thought to myself just the way he wed it and I said I'm going to send something to him I just for whatever reason I just thought I'm going to reach out to this guy I've never done that before well I did and I and I even put a little bit of money Into his uh fund to help him maybe buy a little more coffee and all that and you want to know what he did he sent me a letter back and he told me that really quick that he said that

you know what this is a very cold and lonely place that just you reaching out to me it was like a ray of sunshine wow and so I started to try to write to him just because I like I said and and just to show that somebody cares because I I that's another thing you've told us to Do is and there there a lot of people out there are way more forgotten than we think we are we think we may have it bad and yet there are people who are just totally forgotten and nobody cares

and and even if they've made mistakes more serious than ours that and all that or or if they're on the streets for whatever reason because of drugs or or whatever you know it's like we often just forget about them and and and so I I I guess this is what's happened with You Roy what's happened is that you're using the term I am a lot this is how it started it's very fascinating what you're saying to me that's why I'm just listening and letting you talk so you've been using the words I am I you

know I am content I am energized you know I am prosperous and every time you use the term I am you're really saying the name of God I mean this is like this is right out of the Torah right out of the book of Exodus you can look up in uh the book Of Exodus uh 3 I think it's 18 where Jesus or God speaks to Moses and says my name is I am that I am and that shall be my name for all future Generations so that's that that means that's this generation as well

so the name of God is the name of I am and when he said I am that I am he's really saying the word that means everything that everything that you look at you look at a surfboard I am that you look at a tree I am that you look at each other you look at the People who are supposed to be your enemy you look at the ones that you're speaking about who are more forgotten and you remind yourself of what uh all of the Saints say it's what Mother Teresa said you know every

day she said I see Jesus Christ in all of his distressing disguises I see God in everything and everyone and when you start practicing and then just simply saying those words I am content I am peaceful I am happy I am God I am love And you continuously say that you begin to act like God because you take on the name of God and how does God act the way that you just described right is the way God acts he offers God just offers us you know what ever it is ask nothing in return doesn't

demand anything doesn't want us to u to necessarily love him or celebrate him or anything like that just this is uh and I even use him I mean it's like him her it whatever it is it's a Divine intelligence from which all Things are intended to which all things return and when you start saying that name and recognizing that every time you say the name I am you're using the name of God you don't want to use it in vain I mean that's one of the things in the Book of Joel it says let the

weak man say I am strong and as you begin to say these things not that I will be and I hope to be but that I am these things you begun to take on what's called God realization a higher level of Consciousness and then you are that that motivation that you had when you watched the lockup Show on MSNBC to go to that guy that really was a reflection of the fact that you have been bringing yourself more in alignment with Divine intelligence with god with Divine love and that's how it get manifest and when

more of us do this collectively when enough of us begin to do this and behave in these ways on a regular basis without asking anything back in return I mean You didn't send that money to the guy hoping that he would uh pay you back you send it because it was just it was something in your heart that's a and it's in alignment with what I was just talking to with the lady in Philadelphia as well that you just align yourself with love you know and love everything and everyone cuz I am that I am

that and I am discourses were very instrumental in teaching me to be in a state of gratitude for that I am presence that is Who you are you know to give thanks for it that there is something internal to you independent of this body that you're in this invisibl within you which is God and to give thanks for that and to be in a state of constantly giving and I'll bet you you're going to also find something Roy that the more of this that you do uh the more that you'll see showing up in in

your life it that's with these $10 bills that you're finding and and and things like that that the More of that that begins to show up as well I do what you do too even when you talked about on your PBS show even if I when I used to find Pennies on the street I say thank you Universe even if it's just a penny that's what you do too right I I've always done that every time I find a Coin or I find uh I say thank you God for the symbol of abundance that continues

to FL show up in my life that's the statement that I make and by the way I was swimming too long ago I Mean I swim every single day in the ocean and I put the goggles on and you know I'm looking down at the fish and all of that and uh when as I was swimming uh a $10 bill was down about oh maybe 20 feet down that had just was on the bottom of the ocean and I had I dove down and I couldn't quite get down that far without my ear starting to

back up and I went back all the way up to the top and I said to myself I know that I can go down 20 fet and get that $10 bill And sure enough I took a big you know lung full and went straight down just kept pushing ping got myself the $10 bill almost passed out doing it but I said there was a $10 bill just at the bottom of the ocean saying here this is for you and that kind of thing happens all the time on a regular basis and it's not always about

money it's about friendship it's about uh the right thing showing up it's about synchronicity it's about whatever you place your attention On whatever your mind is thinking about that you align with that and then it it hardens into an object that's what that's what wishes fulfilled is is really all about it's like Harden in thoughts into physical objects that we're all capable of doing cuz everything that is physical originates in the world of spirit everything so keep your mind on that well I told the inmate wrote um that in my second letter to him that

I sent out last week that I Was inspired by many of your teachings and that and that I said to him that you know if your library in your prison has has any books by wayar and I'm sure that you do you probably are probably book in prisons that you know get some of those and everything like that he my PBS show airs in prisons as well Rory before you leave leave your address and I'll have Diane give it to me and I'm going to send this guy uh something as well I'm going to send

him a check Whatever his name is and what what prison is he in well he's in Florida he's in a should I tell you the specific name but he's he's incarcerated in the State of Florida and in the State of Florida no don't say it over the air because who knows if but uh just put your name and address and I'll send it through you okay yeah and then I I promise you I I'll send it to him and oh I know that he will yeah and because you are a good man and it it

like I said It's incredible how you're it's like what you say sometimes it's hard to believe because it's like when I feel tired I don't feel like saying I am energy or when I'm feeling kind of low with the low pressure be the weather in Wyoming it's like I don't feel like saying I am and it sometimes it seems dumb but I guess it's better than being defeated and you never know it you'd be surprised it does help me it has helped me get through things well I do you know I do yoga class like

three or four times a week intensive yoga bck Room yoga in a hot studio and there are times when I just don't know whether my body can do that for 90 solid minutes at the age of 72 and I just always say I am energized I am well I am and I'm basic I'm very often the oldest person in the room but uh I never ever ever have to sit down or give up on a on a on a p i do both sets of every single ASA through all you know by simply just saying

I am well I am Content I am strong let the weak man say I am strong and I just say that to myself and I say it also to I have my children always say when they wake up and say I'm tired I say you'll never hear those words come out of me I don't say I am tired I say I am energy and I don't ever say you know I am unhappy I just you know I am content I am peaceful it's like that little book you wrote those little books that had one page

says on them like for 200 pages There was one that stood out this summer before I'd let you talk to the other callers and everything but it was something to the effect the way you feel prosperous is think of all the things you are thankful for and you can never feel unprosperous something to that effect do you remember that absolutely absolutely think of everything you've got you'll never feel a lack of prosperity right well don't think about what you don't have unless you want more Of what you don't have to keep showing up you know

and don't think about what's missing and talk about what's missing because when you do you are line with the consciousness of missing and so the universe will send you more evidence that stuff is missing from your life when you say I am prosperous you align with the universe the universal Divine mind which controls everything that says uh so Prosperity is how you feel inside here's another example of it and you'll Start seeing it showing up $10 bills all over the place well I'll get back with you early next year sometime and I'll let you know

how he's doing leave your leave your address leave his name I'm going to send him a check okay yeah okay for Christmas thank you app thanks say hello to trigger okay for me yeah hi yeah he loves you he also loves you do you know that Roy Rogers Roy Rogers used to sing a song that I think is the theme song of the spirit inside of us and the Song goes like this oh give me land lots of land and the starry skies above what is it I I don't know I've heard it Fence Me

In There You Go Diane Don't Fence Me In Don't Fence Me In let me R through the Wide Open Spaces that I love Diane Don't Fence Me In There You Go we are terrible I know singer but that's the theme that's the theme Don't Fence Me In let me expand Let Me Grow Let Me Be Love Love is always expanding okay let's take another call thanks Roy leave your Address that's great what a great story let's go to Monica and uh she's on line six in Pennsylvania Wimber Pennsylvania and Monica thanks for holding you're on

with Dr Dyer hello hi Monica how are you dear I'm fine thank you how are you I'm great is this Monica Lewinsky is this no I've gotten that for years I'm sure you have she disgraced my name not really not really she just was doing what she knew how to do she was just you know misled oh you are something Wayne a Thank you you so are you so are you Monica thank you okay I have a I just have a question I've heard you talk that you have or you did have a child that

suffered with um addictions yes still still struggling okay see I have one too my 30-year-old son Michael and he's addicted to the painkillers and the alcohol and it just kills me it kills me I you know I and I'm so sensitive whenever he gets to H Being negative that I just I can't even be around him and I just don't know what to do I pray all the time I ask Archangel Michael to I've heard dorine virt you talk about ask Michael to vacuum out you know anything they could give out of him and I

just wondered if there's any advice you could give me on how to deal with this I feel if you have you who are like like you're like the father of of self-improvement you're just like so amazing that if you as good As you are you have one that struggles and you can't like Monica not only do I have one that struggles I have struggled with this in my life as well yeah yeah I have uh I haven't had a drink in uh in 25 years of alcohol but uh I drank plenty of it before that

but you want to see my son will say well you've never been addicted it's and I my thing is I would never allow myself to get addicted because I love you know it's that self-respect yeah but there's there's a Chemical component to this whole thing as well especially if you take enough of this stuff especially with the prescription things and there's so much of it out there I mean it's really an outrage I mean how many young people are really addicted to things that they can just get um they can just get a prescription for

or get it without a prescription they know how to do it Esther Hicks speaks brilliantly about uh addiction and said you know that you you Know love is the only answer it's always the only answer it doesn't mean that you have to be victimized it doesn't mean but you just have to fill your heart with love for for this young man as I do for my daughter who's 29 years old but I also have let her know that um it's like I'm not going to be your victim I'm not these are choices that you are

making and if you're going to make this choice you know I'm still going to love you I'm going to love you through but I'm not Going to be around to be the recipient of the abuse that comes with it and that's where you have to really draw the line there and let them know I think that the most significant thing I ever heard about addiction and it helped me in overcoming and my I have positive and I have negative addictions that I've dealt with in my life through you know the alcohol and drugs and eating

and things like that sugar and also I've had positive addictions you know I mean Where I I ran every day for almost 30 years without missing a day 29 years 8 Miles I mean uh and I still even today I mean I swim my daughter said to me last night uh my oldest daughter is here with me um for you know was here for Thanksgiving and and it was cold and it was about 6:00 and it was getting dark and I hadn't swam yet something had happened and I went out she said well you just

you don't have to swim today she said it's cold and it's windy out There I said no I swim every day you know that's just so that's a sort of like a positive addiction like brushing your teeth and so the most important thing I ever heard about addictions that helped me the most and helped my daughter a lot along the way for her was from Patty Davis who was President Reagan's daughter president and Nancy Reagan's daughter and she was a cocaine addict and um was very heavily into it and loved it and wrote an essay

about it In Newsweek magazine called my turn you might you can look it up you can Google that and find that it's a brilliant piece and she said that she um she tried to she she was just she here she was the daughter of the president of the United States and she said I just knew that I was causing him such headaches and I didn't want to disappoint him and I didn't want to disappoint my mother who was always just Nancy Reagan who was always just so upset with the fact that I would actually do

these drugs she just said you know just say no that was Nancy Reagan's famous line and she said and I didn't want to disappoint my boyfriend and I found that I was disappointing him and and I didn't want to disappoint myself and she said and and all these times I just kept always ending up still disappointing everybody she said then it finally hit me that um I decided that I no longer wanted to disappoint God and she said when I made that connection and Realized that who I am at the highest Place Within Myself is

God you know that I the name I am I am God and that's what looks out from behind my eyeballs and that and I came from that and I returned to that and all the rest of this is physical is just is is really nothing it's all illusion because it's constantly changing but there is a component of me that is eternal and that is invisible and decided I no longer wanted to disappoint God I I came from Perfection I came from uh well-being when you come from well-being you don't come with addiction and I will

return to well-being and I decided I I just wanted to no longer disappoint that highest aspect of myself and she said it didn't change my desire to do the cocaine she said I still loved doing it it still made me feel great it was a wonderful feeling to do it she said but there was this part of me that just said I'm disappointing my well-being this which Is my godliness and that that's what ended it and that's what you need to help your son to find to find the the God within himself you know whatever

he wants to call it it doesn't have to be it's not a religious thing at all that highest place within himself and just say that's the part of me that really wants to be sober and wants to serve and wants to help the world and wants to help other people and you can't do that because addiction is really the bottom Line behind addiction is the word that's constantly saying you know I really can't get enough of what I don't want you know I can't get enough of what I don't want I don't want to be

I don't want to be addicted I don't want to be out of control I don't want to be all of those things and yet I can't get enough of it it's chasing after what you don't want and then when you start really just chasing after what you are which is well-being it becomes something you can Just walk away from and he'll be able to walk away from that in a meditative State let's send him a copy of uh of wishes fulfilled leave your address and get his name will'll send it off to him as a

gift as a Christmas gift okay thank you so much thank you thank you my dear God bless you yeah Namaste thanks for your call I know we just have a few seconds left but the addiction issue is a huge one in our culture it's huge obesity is huge in our culture you know Addiction to prescription drugs bigger and bigger and bigger all the time and finding God within yourself and not wanting to disappoint that that's the way to end it some great callers today Dr Dyer some great advice advice you're giving today and everyone thanks

for joining us Dr Dyer how are you today I'm great thanks how are you doing wonderfully over here in California and of course for those listeners who are new you're coming to us from Hawaii Right now I am I just got back from California went out last week and did the LM degenerous show it was air it aired on Friday MH uh with Janet Jackson Who uh I could hardly hear with that tiny little voice of our oh you're kidding it but it was great we had a wonderful time and we did a whole thing

on ego and uh I'll be coming back again next month it looks like great so you're you're starting to appear pretty regularly yeah Well she's just a wonderful soul and apparently some of uh she said on there that she's been listening to my CDs and so on in the car and she went through a rough patch there a while back and they really got her through it so uh it's really nice it's it's nice to know that you're reaching everybody out there it is it must be a great feeling to think hm you know Ellen

degenerous is listening to my CDs in her car as she's zipping around La well that's great anyway so it was great we had a really really really nice time and uh let's see what kind of calls we have out uh sing out in the world today it's interesting how every hour we spend always seems to come up with its own theme so who who knows where we'll go today I think we should start with Peter though he's calling from Saskatchewan Peter welcome welcome to the program you're talking with Dr Wayne Dyer uh hello Wayne hi

Peter how are you Real good real good I've just been uh uh working on your book uh I I uh I believe you believe it when you see it you'll see it when you believe it yes right M I was just reading that and I decided to call you and I got through boy oh good good for you well you got in early that's the way to do it yeah yeah what's on your mind my friend well I've been uh I've been reading your books and I've been listening to your podcast like I just finished

your entire Library about Two two hours ago more you've been you've been doing a lot of listening then yeah it's about two weeks took uhhuh and it's been real good I've been living what you uh suggest and things have been working for me really positively really really positively the surprising thing is uh like a I thought of a vehicle changing changing Vehicles get a new vehicle I had a vehicle given to me free of charge also it given a substantial amount of Money to which I have in my my possession and boy that's I also

found the funny thing that I was uh listening to a program of yours and then I kept thinking thank you for the checks thank you for the checks oh good well you know when you get those when you get those checks you're supposed to spend send half of them this way that's part of that's the way the whole process works but that there was a Catch to it it was checks from my credit card company oh it's probably in Canadian it's probably in Canadian money anyway so I can't W anything they were just for me

to make out if I needed money this is summer I don't mean to break in but you might want to get to your question because we're getting some interference on your phone line I don't know that we're going to be to keep it too long okay okay the question is I was Uh how do I change my frame of thinking to uh be a little more less in uh in depth I don't want to focus on that as okay let me do that why don't why don't you hang up and I'll and I'll uh I'll

answer I'll take that off the air because your phone we are getting interference on yeah okay thank you very much thanks Peter God bless you my friend debt is the very interesting concept and it's one we could do an entire show on for sure and I've always Said this I've said this to my children particularly that uh that debt is a really is a way of turning the controls of your life over to something or someone outside of yourself which is something you want to really uh asue or avoid if you possibly can in your

life I know a lot of people think that they don't know how to do it any other way from my own personal perspective uh that is something that um I grew up I guess believing or getting imprinted in such a Way that it was something I didn't want to do I've never made a car payment for example in my life I grew up with a belief system somehow that I uh inculcated into into my whole LIF style which was uh if you can't afford it don't buy it and don't look at what other people have

uh and and and determine your level of Happiness on the basis of whether somebody's driving a nicer car or has a nicer piece of jewelry or has a her home or whatever it Was I learned and I wrote a lot about this and change your thoughts change your life that uh contentment is one of the most important uh processes that we can that we can learn to be content means to be satisfied to be content means to be in a state of gratitude in a state of awe in a state of bewilderment uh and acceptance

and allowing and love about everything that comes your way whatever it might be from the tiniest little thing of being able to just Observe a spiderweb or a beetle walking across the floor or a butterfly flitting about in the air and being in that moment and finding the joy in it the minute that you put debt into that or put an absence of gratitude into it you begin to take the energy of contentment and put it into something called fear or worry or anxiety or depression or any of those kinds of reactions which is what

happens when we turn the controls of our life over to someone else so while debt Seems to become I just heard heard an amazing figure in the New York Times the other day that we now have $1 trillion in credit card debt which means that people have bought things to the tune of $1 trillion which is the gross national product of the entire country to buy things that they can't afford that they don't have the money for I use a credit card for one thing and one thing only and that is just as a convenience

and they send me a summary at the end of the Year and it helps me with my taxes and I give it to my accountant and that's the end of it but I have an absolute rules that I would never ever send money to a credit card company for letting me use their money to buy something that I don't have that's just not something that I do I don't even have house payments and things like that but I I live always within my means and I think the best advice that I can give you is

to take a look at all of the things that You think you absolutely have and to remember that to believe that you need what you don't have is the ultimate uh definition of insanity you do not need what you don't have and you need to learn to be able to be content by giving away a whole lot more and uh no no longer telling yourself that if I don't have these things my life is incomplete go through the things that you uh that you tell yourself you absolutely must have and put on credit and begin

to as Much as you can file that down into such a way that not just so much that it gives you Financial Freedom but because it gives you a sense of personal spiritual Freedom as well of uh not living beyond what it is that uh you know that you you are capable of living in within yourself and to know that you do not need one more thing in order for you to be happy you do not need to take on one more uh obligation financial obligation in order for you to be living A life of

contentment and I'd recommend you read very slowly and very carefully the chapters uh in the in the daed Ching that I wrote about in the change your thoughts change your life okay that's interesting because you know you think about our culture which is extremely consumer-driven I mean we are told we need to spend we must spend spending is good for us we hear that day in and day out it's um you've got to really but try to try to imagine I mean you know and It's our governments that are telling that our governments for example

who uh who who are so far in debt I mean our especially our federal government is has so much debt attached to it that what we have done is this we've left we have this sort of immoral set setup that we have done for the next generation and the generation after that of children is we're saying we are going to spend and get all of these things that we want and while we can't pay for it we'll just Figure out that the children who are not yet born are going to do that and I think

that's an immoral crisis that's a spiritual crisis that we lay on our on our young people the Native Americans used to say when we walk across the ground when we place our feet on the ground we place our feet very carefully because we know the faces of our future Generations are looking up at us from beneath the ground and we never forget them but we do forget them or we ignore Them or we put an awful lot of misery index on these young people that uh don't deserve you know such a fate and I think

that uh if my household was run on the same principles that the federal government was running their princip there then um I would be broke and uh and probably U be Inon as well for spending money that I don't have I think it's something we have to look at individually in our own lives to me it's a question of being in charge of your Life and if you're not in charge of your own life whatever it is that is in charge is the thing that is going to be your you know drive up your misery

index instead of your happiness index all right well Dr Dar yeah we have um time for one more caller before we go to our break so let's bring on Ellie she's calling from Toronto Ontario Ellie Welcome to our program today hi how are you great hi Ellie Hi how are you doing I'm doing great I'm coming I'm coming to Your city we should give it a plug right now we'll be there's an I can do it coming up in I know I'm coming I'm coming to see you oh good at the end at the end

of this month what's I'm speaking on the 28th I know that and there's going to be a lot of people there so I look forward to seeing you yeah I can't wait me too okay uh two question now that your Canadian dollar is worth more than the American dollar I know I used to have so many jokes about That now I'm not allowed to use any of them it's not funny I think I think you're amazing I discovered you by accident and I just think your works are just amazing I just have a couple question

thank you number one you say that we're all born we're predestined like we're born our death is in there our color of our eyes and so on so given that if everything is in there then is there any point in trying to manifest anything if everything's going To happen anyways well that is such a good that's that's such a good question it's um it's the kind of question that I think about all the time and the answer to that is yes and no so it's it's uh you know Carl Yung had that same observation when

they asked him about do do we really have a choice you know are we really making any choices in our life if there's a destiny that's pre-ordained uh in our world and The answer to that he said was that at the same moment that you are the protagonist in your own life making choices at that very same moment he said you are also the spear carrier or the extra in a much larger drama and then he concluded it with this line he said you are all doomed to make choices so in this okay so it's

and it's really and when you really begin to read and understand Enlightenment and the highest spiritual principles that are out there You can walk through your days and know that everything out there is already taking place and that within that larger context of all things taking place you also have within you the free will to be able to allow it to come and go into your life as you choose so yes you are a part I mean everything that you need for this physical journey is obviously already handled for you you don't get to sit

there and decide whether you're going to be 6'1 or 5'3 or whether your Hair is going to be blue or green and so on I mean your eyes blue or green uh but also within that larger within that larger context there is a part of us that is is everything is already happening and there's also a part of us that is making choices and be at peace with equally with either one of those opposite points of view and ultimately you'll come to a place of Oneness but it's not going to happen while you're in your

body it's going to happen when you Leave it Dr Dar so sorry we're going to be coming right back after this well Dr Dar um we have Molen on waiting to speak with us and of course you remember we spoke with her lasten oh yes oh that's great from Sherman Oaks I think she just wants to give us a very brief update on sandep who as um our listeners recall she was in the abusive the relationship with her husband who was abusing her physically um hurting her and I must say we had a lot of

people email us offering To you know send her to resources to talk with her wanting to say they had been in in very similar situations so it was that's so wonderful I love the idea that the r that this radio show is becoming a place where people can work together and and help each other out all over the world because that's after all who Louise Haye is and what she founded this company on and uh it's something that I it's the only reason I do this radio show I don't get paid Anything for doing this

radio show it is just something that I do to get out there and really make a difference in the lives of people and and as I often tell my audiences if any one of you any one of you out there listening were to take the microphone and talk for an hour and I were to sit down I would have just as much to learn from you as you would have to learn from me it just happens that I've got the mic for a while yeah okay Molina how are you dear good how Are you doing

I'm doing great good I just wanted to share that um I have been in contact with Su and we had a very long good conversation and basically you know we we shared what was going on in our lives and I basically just let her know what had worked for me and you know she asked for suggestion she asked me do you think I could possibly get a job you know and so we just talked about starting from step one which is before you do anything you have to change the Way you're thinking you have to

change from I'm stuck I can't do it how could I get a job to I know there's a perfect job out there for me I know there's a way I can make this work on my own so and not only that M but that not only is there a perfect job out there but then you have to put the you have to make it a verb instead of just a noun which is an action word which is the and that job is on its way that job is going to be delivered to me or I

am going to run Into it or the right person is out there who is going to to uh you know align with me and so on so that you begin to see action because I think one of the big mistakes that people make is they they think that they're disconnected from everything in their world because they're so ego driven they're so belev that where I am and what my pain is and what my particular circumstances are is all that there is in life and they don't stop to realize that we are connected to Every other

single being who's on this planet whoever was on this planet whoever will be on this planet we are connected by an invisible energy sources if there's no place that God is not that means that God is everywhere and if God is everywhere that means God is in the place and the very thing that I need to have attracted to my life so that it's a real realignment uh in our Consciousness that that people need to have and that's a Really really big shift for people yeah it is one thing real quick summmer I was listening

to your show the day after this all happened and I just started wondering I mean I I feel that what you do with flow dreaming is so powerful and amazing and I started thinking about you know the possibility I just thought I'd throw this out there of you maybe doing a a flowd dream show on um helping people who are in that situation of you know being in an abusive relationship Possibly find the strength to to move through that or I mean you would know the best way to do that but I just wanted to

put that out there because I believe you could probably help a lot of people get the push you know to really make a change in their life in that way so and thank you both you're welcome thank you both for your wonderful shows a good thank you Melena God bless you beautiful I hope to see you soon yes okay bye thank you Namaste Elena that's A good idea MH all right when we have D and abusive can go abusive doesn't necessarily mean that somebody is is hitting you all the time I mean very often that

that is you know that's one of the more serious kinds of abusive relationships but abuse can take many many many many forms it can take the form of someone refusing to talk to you or it can take the form of someone talking to you all the time in disrespectful ways it can you know it Can take many many forms other than just the physical yeah I mean it's I hate to say it but the physical you know um abuse can fade in a week or two weeks but the abuse that comes psychologically is what often

stays with people their whole lives it it changes their behaviors it changes their level of fear and people tend to Discount that kind of abuse more cuz there's no physical evidence of it but it's so devastating so yeah agreed agreed okay Let's go back to Dominic like I was about to he's calling from Glasgow Scotland Dominic welcome hi can you hear me yes hi how are you yes we can hear you hi Dr D um firstly I hope you can understand my very strong Scottish accent you sound like you I think I thought you were

from Brooklyn I can't believe you brookly yeah a it's a pleasure to speak to you just just reference to you you've been my uh Jimmy Cricket if you remember that Story you you R zones um and just quickly before I go to my first my question have you ever lectured in Scotland Dr dy I have I have lectured in Glasgow many many years ago and you any plans to come back to to Scotland at any time if they invite me back if they can talk so I can understand them I'll come back no well we'd

love to see you over here I'd love to see over here and it's always been a sort of passion uh and a Passing sort of dream that maybe one day would get you over not just to do some talks but to to to help this country because I think this country needs guys like you more than more than anything but that's uh that's just an aside um just just going on to my my question I recently had some um went through a really bad uh period at work uh so much so um with with my

boss with the management so much so that that really um it was stressful I got very run down I eventually had to go off sick I went into a deep depression almost a suicide depression that lasted um throughout Christmas and the New Year thankfully I'm I'm coming through that um part of that is I've rediscovered my my interest in the spiritual side of things and particularly yourself and other people like you I know that to get through this I know how important forgiveness is and I can feel that forgiveness is the right Thing to do

that I need to forgive these people to to move to move forward but how do I balance uh you know forgiving these people but at the same at the same time I think they should be called to account for for what I think was was bad and buling management behavior and something that affected me I take responsibility for the fact that affected me and I'd like to forgive them I'd like to move forward but at the same token I'd like them to be held Accountable for for their actions and to know that that that it

doesn't do me any good it doesn't do them any good and it won't do anyone that works them again any good is is if you anything you can tell me about that how you handle that situation sure the problem with uh getting people to be accountable generally is that the the motivation behind that is Revenge uh rather than Justice and getting even and if you were to do a muscle test if you were to do a K Kinesiology little test on yourself by by just uh getting uh getting someone to uh if you just were

to stick your arm out uh and make a fist and and as tight as you possibly can and have someone push down on it and have that someone who knows what they're doing do this in the moment while you're thinking first of all about forgiving these people and notice how much stronger you are when you forgive and then just go to the Revenge get to the getting even part Which is what you're discussing and notice the change and you'll see that you'll get very very weak so that when we when we seek out revenge there's

an old Chinese saying that says that if you're going to pursue Revenge you'd better dig two graves yeah um and the reason for that of course is that you're going to kill yourself in the process if you can just let it go if you can turn the holding them accountable thing that you you are looking for over to someone Else and detach yourself completely from the outcome of that then that's fine let the lawyers let the you know the judges let whoever it is uh that's in charge of that and just dismiss yourself from it

let go of it likelihood is that you can't and forgiveness generally means exactly what it says that forgiveness means to let go to no longer assign blame to no longer make yourself the victim of uh all of that negativity all of the shame all of the anger all of the Hatred all of the bitterness all of that stuff is an alignment that you have with that very kind of energy and the universe will just keep offering you experiences that are going to match that and you're going to find yourself being bitter and you're going to

find yourself being upset and so on the other the best way around all of this is that I have found is the is to take those people that you think were the the most demonic the ones who did the most damage and to Have them in your own mind become your greatest teachers to see them as teachers and all of those experiences that were that that have gotten you see you're you're now into March and you're not thinking suicidal you're not depressed you're not as a matter of fact you're you you're moving into a higher

and a higher place right now I can feel it right now for you Dominic something feel that way yeah yeah and something's coming really good for you very very Soon probably within just you know just a matter of of days or weeks uh that you're going to see that without that experience of whatever it is that you had to go through you wouldn't be able to get to this place now where you can now look back back on your depression and your fears and your anger and all of that so those were great those are

great great teachers and sometimes you really need to move in life you know you need to make a decision you need to change Jobs you need to change relationships you need to change cities very often these are the kinds of things that internally you absolutely know that you no longer can can function at the level you'd like to function in the place that you are so the universe or God whatever you want to call it begins to give you all kinds of options to do it but because of your fear because you're just so used

to being in the place that you've always been you just continue to Hang on there and then ultimately what happens is that need to change it turns into something where you don't have any choice anymore now you're going to start getting sick now you're going to start getting you know depressed now you're and all of that so look upon all of them as great teachers to help you to move into a higher and higher place I mean I really I really would like to to move on from actually and and I know that that I

need to change my life and that job is Not for me but I'm definely just letting it go and move on and you know there's some sort of sense of shame or failure attached to is that something I just need to come in terms with AB no convert it to love send all of those people love put so if the best thing that you can do when we hang up this phone which we're going to do in just a second is to send some flowers or send a book just to the person who you think

was the most antagonistic towards you and and then be Be gone with it okay God bless you Dr Dyer let's uh continue on with some of our callers today boy is just with people trying to get a hold of you so making my job pretty hard cuz I have to sift through them all and and think who needs to hear the advice the most oh my goodness and it is tough how about Carrie she's calling from Memphis Tennessee Carrie welcome to the program today hi Summer hi Dr Dyer hi car to talk to you likewise

is is Elvis still There is Elvis in the building they say he's alive and will yes he's in everywhere I go to every time I go to Memphis he's there yeah that's right I love your work I have a question I don't even know if you can answer but can you give me some advice on how to raise my children I have a 2-year-old and a four-year-old and I struggle with disciplining them yet not trying to have them lose their creativity or their own person but raise them you know with with My beliefs but then

have them keep their beliefs you know I struggle with the balance and then when I get to discipline you know the spanking or timeout or you know the proper way to discipline them to not break them so struggling with that yeah it's a big it's a big game it really is I know I have eight children t i and I still I still struggle with it and I struggle with my 40-year-old and I struggle with my 18-year-old and everyone in between So it's not anything that ever goes away I wrote a book about all of

this uh years back called what do you really want for your children which is uh a paperback that you can find it's not a Hay House book but I think they they might they can probably give you information on how to get it okay and also I've written some children's books incredible you Unstoppable me and there's another one uh it's not what it's not what you've got there's three Now but uh I think the the central issue the central thing around parenting for me is came out of a line from Khalil jabran in the prophet

when he said your children are not your children they are the products of life's longing for itself they come through you but not for you and I think always keeping that in mind that these are not your possessions that and and also that your children are not Apprentice people you know it's not like they're on their way to becoming Something else they are whole they are complete they are total right now uh just like you are you know we're all on our you know we're all in always in a constant state of movement and a

constant state of flux and to practice as much as you can the dial will be very helpful have you read my new book that uh change your thoughts change your life do you have that I do have it uh yeah reading it yeah it's it's a slower read and it's a little harder read it it Really is but one of the Bigg things about that is that is that you find your truth in nature and that uh you you know there's a wonderful poetic line that says the things we love we have to learn to

leave alone how much can we practice non-interference how much can we you know we can't take a 2-year-old and allow them to go out and and play in the driveway when there's cars outside you know obviously but on the other hand you know you don't want to become one of Those hovering what they call helicopter parents who are constantly hovering over their children all the time and and interfering and correcting them and so on so find being able to find that balance between what when I interfere it is for their safety and it is for

what is absolutely best for them but if it's for me if it's because I need to you know be this authoritarian person or I need to have uh them be subservient to me and pay attention to me and listen to Me and I'm the boss and they're small and they don't have a right to you know that's where you have to really just begin to practice this non-interference thing I have found that when I say to my children when they ask me what to do or even when I'm telling them what to do that the

less I say but most often what I what I say very often to my children and did did throughout all of the years of raising them is that you know the right thing to do you really know even As a three-year-old uh you know a four-year-old and a 2-year-old fighting with each other and a four-year-old pushes a 2-year-old you can remind them that they know what the right thing to do is that being pushed around isn't something that you would like and and I'm just asking you to do what you know inside of your heart

is is the right thing to do in other words to take your role as the one who's constantly telling them what to do and telling them how to Be and what where they should go and what they should think and all of that to let that go and to remind them that uh just because they share your genetic background doesn't mean that they that they share the same goals and aspirations and what they're going to do in their lives and all of us I think can recognize and understand that you know that's about as much

as I can say in the little bit of time that I have I think just you know love them you love the Things we love for what they are just love them for what they are and remember they even though they have the same mother and the same father those two kids are very very very very different and may have very different uh ways to go in their lives right does discipline even exist then and actually discipline I think discipline yeah but I don't ever think that it's right to be to to lay a hand

on another human being yeah I don't think it's going be and I I must Say there have been times in my life I'm sure that I slipped and know slap them on the butt and things like that but almost always that was my inability to either remove myself from the scene one of the most important things that I used to tell mothers over and over again as when I wrote my book on raising children was uh find a place especially if you got more than one child who do a lot of fighting around you and

they do it for you you know find a place in your house Usually the bathroom I used to call it go to the bathroom and in that in there put uh you know put your reading material in there put a little glass of wine in there that's whatever it is little refrigerator what and close that door and when they start the arguing the minute that they start the arguing you don't say a word to them you just dismiss yourself from the room you get up and you excuse yourself you excuse me and you're gone so

that now if they're Going to do that fighting or that arguing or the pushing whatever it is they don't have the audience which is what they're looking for and almost always their very very very favorite audience is Mommy okay you know M mommy's the one that they do most of that for summer you might want to add something to that having two little ones yourself as well but I don't have any fantastic tricks up my sleeve at this point you got a tiny little baby there Though yet so we won't be long but those two

of yours are every child is is different and what works for one it may not work for the other and that's all I that I have been able to piece together when I wrote what you go ahead when I wrote what do you really want for your children I wrote it based upon asking that question to many many many parents around the country what do you really want for your children and the what you really want for your children is not for Them to be disciplined and not for them to do what they're told and

not for them to fit in and all of that what you want for them is to be happy to have a sense of purpose to feel loved to feel like they are you know strong important uh people and each one of the chapters of that book is based upon what you really want for your children and it's usually not to have someone who's and by the way children who are obsequiously uh always obeying their parents always without Ever questioning generally grow up to have the highest levels of prejudice because they they're taught to they're taught

to not think for themselves but to think like how their parents think right and um and and if you want to have Prejudice children then that's what'll happen Okay we don't want that thank you for your time and your okay God bless you thank you for calling Namaste oh Carrie well good luck to her you caught me off guard with that Question she's only got yeah she's only got two I think two my goodness I could I could I could do two and play a tennis tournament yeah but you know and you would say wouldn't

you that every one of them you have had to modify your parenting style a bit to their own unique exp I mean that's what I really had work on and with the it's it's like a great coach I mean the greatest coaches in any athletic are people who uh who don't have one particular way of Coaching they expect everybody to finish into it all the time they recognize that some kids need to be sat down and talked to some a pat on the bat will will work better some a little crack on the behind works

better some you know if you withhold privileges it works better and they know exactly what it is that works to motivate each and every one of those people and they use whatever it is that they need to do rather than say this is my philosophy and you got to fit into it Because a lot of them just won't yeah I also think that if she's at the point where she's asking if she's already self-aware and self conscious of her parenting she's probably doing fine it's the parents who aren't asking themselves that question that are you

know probably need to well it's it's always crucial also as a parent to look at your children and recognize that they're not going to be the way you think they should be they're going to be what they Came to be very true Dr Dar let's get one more caller in maybe two but I think we need to speak with Erica in Springfield Illinois she's on line n Erica Welcome to our program today you are uh live with with Dr Wayne Dyer hi hi Erica hi how are you gosh I love you Dr Dyer oh thank

you I love you too thank you um first I just I listened to your show last week and it was so powerful and I just wanted to share for some of your listeners because I know a Lot of people listen to you and are going through a really hard time I've been thinking a lot about kind of the the power of tragedy and how there's a blessing hidden in all of it and my own experience with this is that my mom died a couple years ago of cancer and I'm an only child and so I

took care of her the last seven weeks of her life just by myself around the clock you know no no nurse no help and it was the hardest thing I've ever had to go through you Know I was almost broken physically and emotionally but now two years down the road it's such a blessing that I have to say that that was the biggest gift my mother ever gave me and the best thing that happened to me in my entire life I mean I miss my mom every single day but you know the way that I've

grown and let go of fear and learn to let go of people is just it was worth it I I don't know what I can say I'm just so grateful mom the taking care of her was it like uh Total completely like uh putting her on the toilet and taking her off and bathing her and feeding her was what did you do and getting up at midnight when she would throw up and sitting up with her while she threw up all night and you all of it yeah can you can you reverse the roles and

remember when you were thr growing up when you were just um you know you know unable to help yourself and um you know a tiny little infant and That was I'm sure your mom doing the very same thing for for you that that you were doing for her I I've never forgotten that uh I remember my uh when my grandmother was dying and my mother was taking care of her mother and um she was um mashing up a banana because my grandmother was too sick at that time to even be able to chew a banana

so she would mash it up and she actually would sometimes take it and put it in her own mouth and just mash it up herself and Make it almost liquidy and then put it in her mother's mouth and uh she said to me she said that's exactly cuz she remembered cuz she had little brothers and sisters she said that's exactly what my mother used to do for her babies and now now it's my turn to be able to give back and instinctively built into every single one of us especially the feminine energy in the female

there's this internal instinct to offer and provide and to take care of and to reach out and To serve and to give it's exactly what I talked about on The Ellen Show last week that when you get to that place that Lau calls this the uh the virtues you know living from the great virtues when you forget yourself when you just reach out and offer what you are doing other than just being a great servant and a wonderful person what you are doing is you're acting the way God acts you're you're living what is called

a god realized life and in those seven weeks That you had in order to be able to serve and to offer you were probably as close to God as you've ever been since you've been here on this planet um I was it was it was heartbreaking but at the same time I felt this deep sense of Peace inside that helped me get through it and being I was only able to let go of her well first because you know she obviously was going to a better place than what she was experiencing but I felt like

I had done everything I was Called to do and so I had no you know regrets I just felt like it was the way it was supposed to be right well a great lesson for you now though is to be able to take that great learning that you had that great even though it was frustrating and difficult and and you were tired and all of those kinds of things but to go past that and to begin to realize that in the moments that you were in a space of letting go of your ego and just

reaching out and forgetting About yourself just doing that they say that in the presence of the god realize the laws of the material world do not apply this is really important closing for this show when the you know in the presence of the god realize that means in the presence of those who are out there just reaching out and serving and doing nothing more than the laws of the material world do not apply I remember Mother Teresa saying to a a close friend of mine when he didn't know what to do She said tomorrow morning

get up at 4:00 a.m. and go out onto the streets and find someone who's living there who believes that they're alone and convince them that they're not that's what you can do and that's what you were doing with your mom I honor you for sharing that with us today God bless you thank you I hope it helps someone else out there as it will definitely will thanks so much for your call Erica and thank you Dr D for spending another hour of Your time with us this week my pleasure God bless you Namaste to everyone

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