influenced by friends who prefer rich men my wife filed for divorce with the children involved my decision is clear we don't need her Come on she came back to try to fight back but what she revealed puzzled me she said she was sorry but I didn't know if she was just running from the consequences about 7 months ago Ema my 42 year old ex-wife we moved because of her new job she had received 1 offer for 1 Senior management position in 1 company where he had applied without my knowledge the reason she did it it
was because I knew I would never accept the change we were together twelve years ago married by ten and we have eight-year-old twins our families have been here and for a few years now my father was diagnosed with leukemia since then it has been very difficult for our family because my father's health is not good and we always fear the moment when we might lose him of course as an only child I want to be here for him also for my mother that's why I didn't want to move after my father's diagnosis thought I would
understand what we were going through but instead she told me i was being too sensitive and that I couldn't go on turning down out-of-state job opportunities expect her to do the same just because my father was sick before my father got sick actually we were planning to move because she wanted a change of pace but after my father's diagnosis I told her that this would no longer be possible for me at the beginning she tried to understand but little by little along the last year or more began to feel very restless and we were fighting
a lot about it she wanted to move because she felt stagnant here and I couldn't think of changing while my father was in such a condition especially because also would mean leaving my mother to deal with with everything alone even though I had brothers couldn't have gone because my conscience would not allow I tried to explain this to Ema but she refused to see my point of view and thought I was being selfish while she felt like I was the selfish one so earlier this year one day she came home from work and told me
who had applied for a position well paid in an out-of-state company and that he had gotten a job it surprised me and i wanted to be happy for her but I just couldn't because she had not told me anything about this candidacy or this job I was kind of in shock so I just congratulated her and said nothing that day I remember we had a discussion because she thought that I wasn't happy enough for her even though it is something important I admit it was a good job with a decent salary but it pissed me
off that she not even thinking I needed to speak with me about it before applying she told me that I didn't even believe I would get the job but now that i had I was thinking of moving and wanted to that I accompanied her she wanted to change our whole family knowing what my feelings were about it we end up fighting about it and it was 1 of our worst fights it got so bad that she ended up going to be with her parents for a few days and we had no contact during that time
actually I thought she was going to file for divorce and be done with it but then she came home and decided to try to work things out between us because we still had the children and we couldn't resist them at that moment thought it might still work with her because I didn't want to leave this marriage I was sure I loved and she told me that she loved me too so I wanted it to work but at the same time he didn't want to give up on his dreams after many discussions we decided that she
would take a job and i would stay here she told me who would try to travel from place to place as often as possible so we could make it work have no other option except opting for a long- wedding for now since none of us was ready to give up on the other it was hard to accept but I had to do this at least for a while until we decide what we wanted to do in the future so she's gone and started coming home every two alternating weekends even so could only spend two days
with us and returned on Sunday afternoon since it needed to be back to work on monday it was tiring for her and i knew it but there was nothing I could do since he had already agreed to this arrangement I think she started to resent me and your attitude towards me got worse we had promised we would try to make it work but all time I tried to call her during the week she was always very cruel to me and we ended up discussing for some reason reached a point where it seemed that she didn't
even want to talk to me anymore instead of calling her on your own I started waiting for her to call me first and then we started talking less and less even when we talked it was always very cold and strange and i didn't know what to think about it finally after almost four months away she came home one weekend and brought the divorce papers with you at that time things were really tense between us she told me she couldn't take it anymore when he returned that weekend hadn't spoken for almost seven days straight due to
the discussion we had last time we talk wanted to find a reason not to get divorced but I couldn't think of anything because the last fight we had was when she really suggested the idea of break up and end with marriage forever i should have seen this coming for months not only were we fighting but she also started to approach a friend from high school this friend come on, mommy, grandma's was not 1 good Person and had 1 influence even worse Emma has always been 1 good friend for and this woman was even maid of
honor at our wedding but I never liked her because it always transmitted me 1 strange vibration for what you knew about her was a complete fortune hunter always after married rich men not having to commit to them but still get the benefits of being with a rich man she even bragged about it like what he was doing wasn't hateful enough when you mention your behavior to Ema she told me it was her personal choice and that we shouldn't judge her that was quite then eventually I stopped talking about Berlin and decided to ignore this restriction
completely eventually this became easier because after you moved and Emma got busy with work and her kids they distanced themselves a little but i knew it came was also living in the same state with your child there is a few years since moving after his second divorce probably to look for new prey coincidentally when Emma got a job in the same state she contacted who was the one introduced you to the city and started moving and everything I expected perhaps had moderated himself after so many years but she was still the same weird person I
didn't feel comfortable with the fact that ema is so close to Berlin again but she was the only friend Ema had there so i couldn't even say anything about it in the months that Emma was there she told me that had been very sympathetic to her since I was alone and even introduced her to some of her own friends this group of people that introduced to Ema was quite strange because as I recall was a group of three or four women who were all single mothers they met through Facebook had 1 kind of support group
on the platform for what AMA told me these women had been with men had children with them but for various reasons your partners abandoned them and now they were raising their children alone the only support they received was a food restriction however it wasn't as sad as it looks because most women who you got along with was like her they had met very rich men got pregnant from them and when these men decided to stay with their wives and families these women got them to pay a great food absorption this sustained their lifestyle actually it
wasn't just financial support for them but also a payment to keep their mouths shut since I suppose that these men didn't want their adventures come to the attention of their wives it was very common that all of them had some kind of online business that nobody cared but they considered themselves autonomous and wanted people to believe that they were getting it all by themselves in reality they were conducting a farce and were proud of themselves call independent women who had all the freedom in the world to live accordingly with its own rules while living on
men's money who were fools enough to fall into your traps Emma thought it was fun but I found it disgusting did not consider 1 good idea she socialize with these women however she kept defending her friends and told me that he met them personally that they were all really nice given that we were already fighting over so many things I didn't want to fight over it either so I didn't say anything but in the last fight we had before she filed for divorce she told me that she really admired the strength of because even without
any man's help was raising her two children brightly alone I ended the call with Disney said anyone who made so much money for staying awake after an adventure with rich men would probably be taking good care of the children since they weren't your kids but a lottery ticket for them it led to a huge fight between us frustration had built up for months and that day this little discrepancy was enough to trigger the anger of both we begin to curse each other and saying how much we had tried to make the relationship function but unfortunately
we couldn't even the children by whom we were supposedly together they almost didn't see us together and when we were together we were not happy like this instead of letting them grow up in a toxic environment we decided to get a divorce the divorce process was relatively simple as there is no waiting period in our state and we only had to share our goods together which was quite easy I stayed with the house and the children since she didn't want to take them at that moment and said for now we could continue with the agreement
that she would come back here every week to see them we were sharing the cost of creating them anyway so we keep doing this when they were a little older we would let them decide what they wanted to do it wasn't convenient for either of us but we didn't want to fight for custody since we believed that our children deserved have both in their lives in relation to the house obtained a verbal agreement of that we would put it up for sale in a few years and when it was sold we would share the money
the divorce was finalized about a month ago and I didn't think that she wanted to talk to me after that because even during the divorce process we barely had something to talk about in addition to meetings with our lawyers now that everything had been completed I was trying to deal with the situation although in fact it seemed that nothing had changed since we were still following the same routine life would definitely be quite different for me now that I wasn't married to Ema anymore my children were also very confused about what it was happening so
I had to explain to them that your mother and I were no longer together though nothing had changed exactly last night she decided to call me again so we could work things out between us and give another relationship opportunity apparently she committed a big mistake and wanted to reverse the divorce eu I could notice that she had cried and was quite hysterical on the link she started to vent about how she idealized involuntarily the lifestyle that prevails and her friends took because of that group she didn't mention this to me before because you knew how
I felt about Berlin but after the last fight we had she spoke with her group of friends and they told him to go ahead with the divorce initially she was skeptical but convinced her then she spoke to a lawyer who recommended her however it's been 1 month since then she tried to give up everything to move on how dating apps meet blind and go out almost every night but ended up having only casual encounters it just made her feel pathetic because at least with me even when we were fighting she knew she loved me and
that I loved her now she's really alone and more than anything misses children your friends told you this would pass but she failed to Declaration of loneliness and guilt after divorce in addition her company was doing well when she came in. but has since suffered several salary reductions apparently they exaggerated how well they were doing to cheat on her and current salary does not correspond to what was initially offered not only her but everyone in the company went through the same keep telling people that things will get better if they keep working hard but she
thinks it's just 1 for keeping employees that's another reason she wants to come back for me she said that really wanted me to reconsider the decision to get divorced because she misses her family and the life we used to have but then that she finished speaking and explained to me her situation I felt immense anger couldn't believe she allowed that her friends and morals influenced her in this way I've seen warned about poison and made it very clear who didn't like the company that she was pregnant after she moved away but she never heard me
and now these people were the reason why she made the decision she made if it had been her mistake maybe i could have been understanding but the fact that she having decided to listen to people I despised really pissed me off at boldness to call me and start cry over all those things as if everything had been easy for me just pissed me off I ended up blowing it up and said that now she would have to fend for herself because I wouldn't help her despite everything I tried anyway to make this wedding function I'm
not just talking about the last few months but since my dad got sick I fought tirelessly for our marriage and for a while she did the same but she's been incredibly selfish the last few years and that's how we end up here divorced the least she could have done while I was away was trying to understand my feelings and my situation but instead let herself be taken away by friends who knew I didn't like I told her we were no longer teenagers and what a youthful excuse how to be influenced by friends to make wrong
decisions it wouldn't work for me that wasn't coming home drunk and dealing with your parents it was a very different situation that had affected my life and even our children's now just because it's uncomfortable she wants to reverse the divorce first of course it doesn't work like that and even if it worked I wouldn't I was really mad at everything she told me. and I just couldn't control myself so i told her that if she really felt alone and guilty you should ask your friends for help I'm sure if they were the ones who encouraged
her to file for divorce would care enough to help the financially if it wasn't right and also to support her emotionally also I was very excited that she basically have confessed that was having casual encounters with random people during last month after our divorce technically she was single then he could do whatever he wanted but it made you feel really uncomfortable and depressed because I felt that she devalued what we have shared over the past twelve years then I told her I didn't want her back in my life especially after the things you'll just tell
me and that I would make sure the kids stayed with me because i wasn't right if she was a good influence on them she started to cry even more and told me that was willing to do whatever it was needed to sort things out but i said she had made a decision and would have to live with her and that the kids and I didn't need her anymore after that turned it off and blocked it when I woke up this morning I had several messages from my former in-laws they said i shouldn't have said the
things you said because she was already really depressed and that it wasn't cool on my part kicked while on the ground said it wasn't necessary for she was already sorry for everything she had done and it looked like I was trying to punish her yet but by saying that the kids and I didn't need her I usually I wouldn't care what my ex-in-law say but they've been very kind with me after the divorce so I don't know was it wrong for telling my wife I don't want her back and that the kids and I don't
need her anymore update 1 it's been 4 days since I published and blocked 1 after our conversation so she couldn't contact me this weekend she must come see the children and spend time with them so I don't know what will happen in recent months since the divorce started she just picked up the kids from my house and was going to her parents' house to spend the weekend with them occasionally spending time here with us four for some family activities but most of the time he tried to keep away from me and I was fine with
it because it simply made things easier to me this weekend however is uncertain actually I'm a little worried about seeing her because your parents are so upset with me and I was told that the things I said were so hard that she ended up crying every time they called her since then did not reply to any of his messages because I really don't know what to say but i feel a little bad because I know that ame is a person little emotional and I managed to hit it in an instant because she has cried so
much although she wasn't exactly kind to me and our circumstances have not been the best I still feel really sad about her because we could have had 1 big life I feel like she screwed it up herself I did my best to make it work more it's not like i can make marriage work on your own without any help from her I don't know what to say to be honest update two Emma came yesterday to pick up the kids and we ended up having a conversation about everything that was said was evident by its appearance
that she was going through a very difficult time it was visible on your face and it was very difficult for me to be cold to her she asked me if i would be willing to talk to her even if only a little and I ended up agreeing after the children were in the room we started talking she told me she was really sorry about everything and wasn't just referring to the recent months but in recent years she mentioned that it had been very difficult for she realized how selfish she had been in the end of
the accounts and even said he didn't deserve to be with me explained that in the last few weeks after the divorce every time went on a date or met some man all I could think about was how wasn't sure if this was the life I wanted for herself she felt guilty for throwing it all away she had idealized this new life but it wasn't as amazing as I thought it would be when you realized this it was already too late because I had already been lost as he spoke started to cry again I tried to
comfort her but she told me it would only make you feel worse because it only made her understand the type of person and or how much she had treated me bad it was kind of bittersweet to hear these things about me because I really would have appreciated it when we were together but now I don't know what to do with this information anyway after a while she told me who decided to leave his job and move back here to be closer to the family she also wanted to spend more time with the children because he
had already wasted a lot of time with them not worth it's worth staying away for so little money and sacrifice so much the only thing she asked was that I did not request full custody as I mentioned I could do I told her not to worry that I had said that in the heat of the moment but that he didn't really intend to do it because so much she and i always take good care of our children I knew they missed their mother so spend more time with her it would certainly be good for them
and I would support it after we finish talk she apologized again and told me that i was a good man she also promised me who would try to be a better mother and person and thanked me for allowing her to talk to me after everything that happened instead of just slamming the door in her face it moved me 1 little but said nothing and then she left with the children so it was didn't expect things to happen that way I thought she would come and fight with me but that was nice and unexpected she apologized
and i won't say that forgive her and that everything is in the past but at least we're on the right track now don't think i can go back with her this seems realistic after all it's happened but the minimum what we can do is try raise our children in the best possible way and make everything as peaceful as possible for them and of course this will also be better for us now let's see what the future holds for us update three well it's been four months since my divorce after my last update Emma kept her
word in a few weeks she left her job and moved back here since then our children have divided time between the two of us spending half the week at my house and the other half with their mother and until now this has been quite convenient for them initially Ema kept her parents but found an apartment a few blocks away the kids are having a lot of fun with its two houses now as for my former in-laws we are back to normal terms we don't talk regularly but they apologized for bothering me when Emma was going
through its crisis said it wasn't my fault but as a country were really stressed and ended up blaming me in 1 act reflective Ema I'm on good terms again too I wouldn't say we're friends but we are cordial and we kept things in civilized terms i am too advancing little by little and trying to process everything what happened until now is going well and I am hopeful that it will continue to improve update 4 almost seven months have passed since my divorce and wanted to share with you a significant update a few months ago I
met someone and we started dating she is a single mother and your children are similar in age to mine which I think can be pretty good it's been nice dating someone again and I feel good in this relationship my children in turn I think they will be incredibly understanding they often told me it would all be well if i started going out with someone that i didn't have to be alone so I have been seriously thinking about presenting them to my new girlfriend because i believe that they will handle it well and that it will
be a positive transition for all maybe they even get along well with my girlfriend's kids however this update is not just about that but also about something that happened to Ema a few days ago when Emma came to get the kids she asked me to sit in the living room while the kids were upstairs finishing preparing your things to my surprise Emma told me that it had been a long time since our divorce and that now that we're getting along she wish we had 1 date to see how things would she explained that since returning
to town didn't date anyone and also has not been in contact with OR your other friends for her it would be an opportunity to see how she feels if we could reignite what we had it was a little weird for everything I mentioned before and i didn't know how to say that to her but finally he said he had met someone before I was thinking of introducing it to our children although both we are in 1 better place and we got along well I don't think it is 1 good idea try 1 relationship again Emma
accepted well and thanked me for being honest with her although i agree that she was a little hurt by it all but the truth is even if I hadn't known someone I still think I give a new chance for our relationship would be a bad idea update five wanted to give you a little update about how things are going first in relation to my father since many have been asking he continues to struggle with his health problems but I'm relieved to say that he is improving little by little it has been a long and complicated
process but he is a fighter and his improvement gave us a little hope as for my personal life recently I introduced my children to my new girlfriend I was a little nervous at first but I'm very happy to say that they received her very well seem to get along with her and that has been a big relief for me know that my children are comfortable and happy with this new dynamic gives me a lot of peace of mind in addition I recently had the opportunity to meet the children my girlfriend's we decided to have 1
barbecue at my house so everyone could spend 1 time together in 1 relaxed atmosphere it was an amazing day the children got along very well playing and laughing as if they had known each other forever I am very happy with the progress both in my personal life and in my father's health thank you very much for your support and good wishes from everyone comment this story is an example of how time and reflection can bring clarity and maturity to our decisions and relationships it is interesting to see how despite everything both managed to find a
way to co-paternity in peace prioritizing the well-being of children even with all the hardships and pains it is inspiring to see how ope managed to follow in front and eventually find happiness in a new relationship this story reminds us that though forgiveness and don't always mean going back to what we were before it is possible to create new ways to coexist and grow the important thing is to focus on what really matters and above all in the well-being of the children involved if you liked the video leave the like and don't forget to subscribe to
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