one thing that i'm really starting to notice is that it's becoming extremely difficult not to spend all of our time on social media on the internet and all of that during these times of isolation as if it wasn't already a huge problem and it kind of makes sense when you think about it if people are locked inside their houses all day long then obviously they're going to start gravitating towards these pleasure boxes these entertainment cubes and i don't want to be another video that's just like smartphone bad books good but i do think that the
growing influence of these algorithm-heavy websites needs to be talked about because the majority of these websites or these apps are designed from the ground up to be as addictive as possible you know i just finished watching the documentary the social dilemma on netflix and it really reminded me of some of the things that i also read in digital minimalism by cal newport and that is that for these big tech companies our attention is their currency you know we're not the customer we're the product the customer of facebook and instagram and whatever are the third-party companies
that have advertising on their platform and that gets advertised to us so it's in big tech's best interest to keep us hooked on these apps for as long as possible and that's why they're so algorithm-dependent because there hasn't been a tool in history that has been so powerful at predicting what you're going to do next what your likes and what your dislikes are what videos you're most likely to binge what topics you're most interested in these websites are unbelievably good at just serving you a video that you're likely to watch and that you're likely to
waste a lot of time on you know maybe this video this type of self-improvement content is something that you're likely to binge which is why i ended up on your youtube homepage these algorithms are powerful and i don't want to be all doom and gloom about this you know i'm not saying that there's nothing we can do about it but i think it is important to be conscious of our behavior because these apps rely so heavily on our unconscious behavior so what's the solution it would probably be pretty lonely if we just you know cut
ourselves off from technology altogether and then also just lived in an empty house by ourselves for months and months and months until this whole thing blows over but at the same time we do have to be proactive with finding solutions i think otherwise our internet use is gonna get so out of control and occupy like 90 of our day and when the pandemic is actually over we're still gonna have this habit of just waking up and going on the internet for like 90 of the day and then going to bed and i'm not sure if
i have the answer to this problem because everybody's life is so different so i figured it would be really cool to talk to my friend and fellow creator nathaniel drew uh about this issue and try to get his thoughts on maybe some solutions and hopefully through our conversation you guys can start thinking about a game plan that makes sense for you and your life so nathaniel what do we do about this problem there is a lot we can do about it you know this is nowhere near a sort of situation where it's like out of
our control that's it we live in a dystopia like i'm seeing more and more people wake up to this and i find that very encouraging and i have felt in myself over the last year particularly because of the imbalances that i feel my life and in the world that i am also making an effort to not feel like i'm at the mercy of this machine learning that is deciding everything for me i do believe i have control over this to a certain extent and if that means that at times i need to remove myself from
it or change things up then so be it but i have control over that right off the bat i love this point that nathan makes you know my entire last video was about how having an internal locus of control is extremely important when everything around us seems to be so out of our control we can't control the pandemic we can't control the economy you know we can't control a lot in our lives but we do have control over our actions and our behaviors and i feel like social media's influence on us is a great example
of something that we have the power to be proactive about i think this is really interesting internal locus yeah yeah dude you know if you're trying to break out of an algorithmically controlled life i would say there's two things to take into consideration one there's a level of personal accountability take a level of ownership over your decisions and how you're spending your time like there's no alternative to that you can there's no workaround but there's also a level of understanding that helps me feel a little bit more self-compassionate in when i recognize that okay i
am susceptible to distractions and bright brightly colored interesting looking thumbnails let's say um and so i take steps to sort of remove it from or add friction right like make it make it all a little bit less accessible and i think it's been a process dude i say this all the time i feel like i sound like a broken record but i'm always trying things out to see what works and it's been a multi-month multi-year process of me trying to figure out what is the life that i want to live and what is the level
of information consumption that is right for me i find i have to just check in with myself regularly constantly almost so if how we spend our time is our choice and we know that we probably shouldn't be spending as much time on social media i think it's really important that we take out a good old-fashioned pen and paper and try to think about how we would ideally like to spend our day you know how much time do you want to be spending on social media and you know maybe that's not zero maybe you do want
to engage in these like you know pleasures a little bit but be intentional with it try to plan out how much time you actually want to be spending and be conscious of that decision otherwise youtube and reddit and facebook are really good at just stealing your time from you if you don't have a plan and once you've made this plan once you've kind of designed the structure around your social media use i think there's a lot of tools i think apple has one if you have an iphone android has one if you have an android
where you can actually set timers on certain apps i'd highly recommend you look up you know a youtube video on how to set timers on apps depending on what os you have that'll add an element of friction and help you stay on your goal yeah i think that's a good that's a really like level-headed approach because i feel like so many people they get so fed up with like all the control that social media has over their lives and they uh they get very extreme about it so they'll like smash their phone with a hammer
or like install like blockers on their computer and they're like oh i'm deleting my facebook i'm never going on any of these apps again yeah i'm retaking control of my life but i feel like 99 of people who do that end up kind of like bouncing back they underestimate the gravity of like what this social media is replacing in your life if you find yourself constantly escaping from reality then you need to work really hard to create a reality you don't want to escape from it's easy to forget about this being too externally focused thinking
there's solutions in terms of systems or how i should live my life or what i should be doing with my time that will solve everything and that is a part of the equation but it's not the whole thing to get to a place where you're living a life that you don't necessarily want to escape from there's an internal element i don't know if that makes sense it's sort of like a what is your relationship with yourself yeah i think a lot of us use technology as a form of escapism which i can totally relate to
by the way i know personally that especially in times like this when i try to just not spend all day on facebook or instagram or even youtube sometimes an anxiety or discomfort starts to stir within me and it's it's very uncomfortable it actually feels almost physically painful to you know remove yourself from technology and just have a more boring day or at least a less stimulating day but i think it's extremely important that we engage with this side of ourselves i think it's extremely important to really feel this boredom and to feel this anxiety so
that we can actually work through it and stop escaping from it all the time and there are a couple things that you can do to sort of properly work through these emotions and become very become a lot more okay with being alone being cut off from this constant flow of information one of my favorite ways of doing that is mindfulness learning how to just observe your negative thoughts from sort of a third person perspective and also journaling writing down things that you are concerned about and writing down a game plan for how you might overcome
those obstacles and honestly just get outside get out of your house go in nature there are safe ways to leave your house and i honestly think that one of the best ways to clear your head is to sort of reconnect with that primal aspect of you go outside go for a walk in nature go for a hike you know exercise as much as possible there are ways that you can spend time away from social media apps that are actually kind of fun and will make you feel a lot better that's why i'm saying that this
period of uh lockdown and time alone it was painful and was difficult especially uh early last year but i'm really really grateful that i went through this because it has completely shifted how i spend time with myself and i think i kind of saw more clearly than i've ever seen before that it all starts from there so if i can't solve that no matter what i try to do in a self-improvement sense i will never get to that sort of lifestyle that makes me feel like i don't need to escape ultimately though even the fact
that you're watching this video hopefully has caused you to think about the role that you want social media and the internet in general to play in your lives and also be more cognizant of the fact that a lot of these websites that you like to spend time on are profiting greatly from your attention they want to keep you hooked into them as much as possible even at the expense of your mental health and your overall sense of well-being and hopefully all this will help you spend your time in a way that you want to be
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the person who interrupts a chess game with your father or a conversation with your grandma you know me being like hey get off social media and it's notification to tell you to get off social media it's completely counterproductive anyways that's all for today thank you so much for watching and we'll catch you in the next video
