you know when you're walking down the street and you see a dude and he's muscular and you think to yourself that guy looks pretty good he's nice and jacked he takes care of himself a stupid question is wondering how he got that way cuz everybody kind of knows you kind of know that he probably goes to the gym in fact he definitely goes to the gym that guy shows up to the gym regularly and has probably been doing that for a long time and he looks that way what doesn't matter is how he got to
the gym what doesn't matter is his reasons for going to the gym gy maybe he's super angry at some ex you know he's like Revenge lifting or maybe he has a very healthy outlook on life he loves himself so much as he tucks himself in at night and he thinks about how lovely it is to go to the gym and he just can't wait to go there or maybe it takes him all day to summon up the motivation to go to the gym and he finally guilts himself out of self-loathing to walk in the door
but ultimately none of that matters it doesn't matter how much or how little mental resistance was in the way for him to go to the gym because all we see is the result of him making a binary decision to end up going to the gym more often than not over a long period of time almost everything in life is like this more often than not life is exactly as simple as we need it to be and it's us that brings the complication into life we completely over complicate things we like to paint this very emotional
picture we like to have strange incentive structures maybe some guilt maybe some excitement motivation we add some weird things to things that probably don't need to be so weird if we want certain outcomes in life it'll almost certainly come down to either doing or not doing things that we already know need doing or not doing and anytime this becomes clouded it's almost always because we clouded it the things aren't clouded so here's kind of a weird example so I have two well well I have three sisters but I have two sisters in University and they're
always writing essays always writing papers and I sometimes have to help them out with it sister number one generally has very little roadblocks in the way of just writing a paper you know 99% of papers you have to write at school aren't actually papers they're kind of just like Reflections and sort of polished train of thought it's like what do you think about this article sister number one just writes it it's probably pretty good and she gets decent grades sister number two will procras and really try to think about the best possible way to write
this and whether it's good enough or maybe do I sound stupid or maybe it sounds like I haven't even done the readings and it's so emotionally and psychologically taxing for her to do these Reflections it's almost hilarious to watch but unsurprisingly she always ends up doing it they both always end up doing it and the funny thing is they get pretty similar grades right it's kind of a wash and that really got me thinking it's like sister number two just do it you're not going to think your way into becoming all of a sudden like
a 600% better writer here's another example if you are a single male and you lie awake at night wondering why you're not married with Children yet and you're also somebody who doesn't ask girls out ever you don't go on dates you don't do any of that stuff then you might as well not bother feeling bad about yourself because you already know what the solution to your problem is if you want to find a wife you probably have to ask a girl out so the next girl that you come across that you want to ask out
just know that you can either ask her out or not ask her out and if you choose not to her life will go on and your life will go on and everything will probably work out okay but you're not going to be married so if you want that outcome you have to behave a certain way you have to ask girls out if you want to eventually get married if you just almost look at things like a robot it might help you we might need a little bit more robot energy in our lives where we kind
of just take the over complication of the human psyche out of it and just perform optimally when it comes to tasks and just getting things done you don't need emotion right you can bring emotion into things that actually require it art relationships wait but I just said you got to not think about asking a girl out so maybe not relationships maybe asking her out is like not a big deal and you should just do it and then on the date bring your personality with you hopefully you understand the point I'm trying to make and I'm
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and just think about the few most important things that we have to do think about them as objectively as possible call them by name maybe it's something like do my taxes or submit my firearms application license to the RCMP you know for instance clean my toilet whatever those things are just try to look at them as if they are text and then pick one and do it unthinkingly right just perform the action and on your own time when you're soaking in the bathtub or pampering yourself or watching succession you can think to yourself what's my
life all about you know where do I want to be in life what what are my hopes and dreams you can think about bigger pictures stuff but at the end of the day to get there you just have to do certain unemotional things that are either done or not done so you just kind of have to do them right not a big deal just do them
