How To Actually Stop Overthinking

hi Laura um I am um sitting here really enjoying this but I find my mind um keeps concentrating on thoughts as opposed to relaxing and releasing and I don't know no but that that already in just we I supposed to just no this as I supposed to yeah so already you're coming from the sense of a uh a rule the sense of what a rule a rule guideline yeah you see so just for you to to to notice so just keep going you were saying so as keep yeah I I find it challenging to yes

yeah but all of that all of that all of that right now is what we are very busy efforting you're efforting wanting to change the agitation of the mind you're effting wanting to change whatever you're experiencing so you're efforting now that efforting is the sense of wanting and not having what you would like to have isn't it yes yeah so it's about wanting ultimately yeah it is about wanting yeah wanting things to be different or if the WAN thing is needing needing really needing I really would like that to be different right it's it's frankly

begging yeah yeah it's begging or I really wish something would not have happened that did happen um yes but so all of that you see it's it's all of that is nothing new as long as you imagine to be what you're not all these thoughts and these feelings so you have to make a decision you have to make a decision what do you truly want you want peace imperturbability yes yes PE you see this yes peace yes or this agitation because perhaps you love this agitation it's fun it keeps you busy maybe I I maybe

that's why it you know I don't know because if it is Cindy embrace it have a good time with it you know have a good time as if it is this is my goodbye party I'm going to really enjoy it have a good look at it because this is it but I know I don't like it I know it makes me no no no welcome that too you think you don't like it but you love it otherwise it wouldn't be with you as your pillowcase it wouldn't yeah okay it wouldn't open you see that you

really love it say wow I am so [Laughter] exotic yeah you see because as long as you you see as it's not here Cindy I know you like to to hang around in the thinking [Laughter] bar you know with a with a little glass of grief but um yeah you see so for how long how long more yeah how long until it goes away until it goes away how wi yeah I just I feel like I don't know how to make it stop okay is it okay you don't know no not really I really like

because yeah I want to control it and know okay so do you rather control and know it or do you rather be free from it I'd rather be free from it okay so really really are you really making that decision or you use blah blah yeah I I really want to be free from it miserable it's miserable without you I'm miserable without it you know with all the chatter just makes me miserable and I concentrate on staying awareness staying in the moment yes yes all of that all of that is a lot of work it

is a lot is exhausting so keep it simple at this point what are you are you all of that fancy stuff the Mind keeps offering no I am I am just no no no don't give me answers I am inviting you to experience it you see I'm inviting you to see it okay yes take a step back be that which sees what the mind has to offer all that all that chatter all that all that and simply stop and at least be interested at least a little bit interested and that which is very quiet yes

what is not demanding for attention simply aware allow within you to find the refinement of a spirit and let go of all the grotesque because it's grotesque what you're experiencing yeah they have never been you City can do you let go wanting to own it yeah it feels so personal at times but yes I but that welcome it feels so personal inside that's just one more feeling look what you said it feels so personally inside yeah yeah so you're describing a feeling yeah you're right okay all right just notice that whatever you are sensing notice

see the the sea that is appearing somewhere in this emptiness and this openness and this spaciousness you see don't leave it open I mean right now I can see that you're sitting outside in the openness you are no different than the Blue Sky open Unlimited in all directions mhm yes those whatever you're sensing like being what they are whatever you're little be like Vapor taking the shape of clouds and never moving without any you see without any with let let them be free from emotional charge let go of the fascination with it welcome wanting to

be fascinated by all this vapor and can you welcome wanting to use this releasing or this thoughts or feeling to give yourself to beat to beat yourself up actually okay I mean you don't need a torturer right right okay I'm just it's for you to to I'm inviting you to not to not to really agree with me because you are able to disagree so you're not sorry I I don't whatever arises whatever arises because it's spontaneous you see sometimes we're sitting in so much anger yeah yeah but we're afraid to feel the aner you don't

have to feel the anger just release that and let it be what is you see you are because anger is a very powerful energy yes yes we're afraid to lose control if we get angry yes so all of this is just plain anger okay just it's for you to see it yeah I do I see yes frust ation yeah yeah yep so something got loosen up a little bit lighter yeah but it's just a little bit because you're still holding on fear to let it go so now that we we did this analyzing which is

not necessary but sometimes it's so tight you know so uh yeah tight like not so again just be what you truly are this Open Sky and allow all these clouds to to just be clouds let go wanting to be interested in the shape of the clouds and yeah yeah let go wanting to make the class personal I know perhaps you want to have a cind the cloud to put all your data there but yes yeah yeah I would not all that now yeah welcome that now the right there now naked is the unsatisfaction see there

is the unsatisfaction so the thing is we don't need to feel the feelings before letting them go we don't right Le used to say do you don't need to smell the garbage but before letting it go okay it's it's unsatisfaction it's just it's just the energy yes let go wanting to to make something out of it yeah yes it just perpetuates things I hear you you see because you're thinking this because then you're write you have written down what you want that's why it's good to write down what you want and if you're going to

think to think what you want but right now you're just thinking what you don't want right yeah I don't want to do that but I do I hear you no but mean I wanted to do that I do what does that means yeah now say I wanted to do do but I do that that is a that is a thought isn't it it is exactly so let's see what that thought culminates is that because you want to to be different or wanting notice that is something that you're doing with it or about it wanting to

get busy with it yes yes see if you see that is the beauty about the the the releasing for us some of us that have this mental uh Fascination is that to take it really to the master programs the master programs is the survival as a body so we want to control right we need to control everything right but when in doubt you're wanting to control you don't even have to ask the question it's to ah I must be controlling okay and just stopped for a second because in that moment when you stop for a

second you're allowing what you are to be the Infinity of what you are I mean that is I mean if you could hear that it really just that recognition oh oh might be wanting to control okay because you we don't sense it because we're so busy right so if is you're so busy ah you must be wanting to you're being a puppet of of the of the tendency of wanting to control right yeah yeah see that yeah so just keep it simple when and down oh must we want to control okay all right you see

yeah okay and just recognize immediately when it happened that there is a moment that you have a break right and then because you've been practicing wanting to go you see recreating it again manufacturing it again and again yes yes I do that okay okay so welcome wanting to be controlled old my thoughts or feelings yes yes a little bit well just a little bit yes yes for sure so so that's the thing you is to make a decision because decision is a we're making decisions all day long but they are unconscious decisions yeah and those

unconscious decision are effortless and they are very powerful yes so you me so not is you're doing the unconscious decision of oh here I am again completely absorb perpetuated you see you're making the decision to be completely control completely taken by all this Imaging activity of thoughts and feeling because it's not even real is imagined right okay thank you the thing is before are you feeling lighter and Freer um I I am and I just feel a lot of emotion yeah a lot of emo no but that's the thing you feel iMed it's so it's

a little break and immediately you feel it up immediately yeah media because you did yeah for a second you did yeah man it's I want to stop it no no you cannot stop it Cindy don't you see that that that wants to stop it cannot stop it yeah I guess yeah I mean yeah it's just for you again and I invit you again you don't need to agree with me I'm inviting you truly that which SE to see it to see this agitation to see this you see and notice the space that is allowing it

to see it yes yes go in moment that that happens something loosens up immediately really allow all give it a chance it's not about trust it's about seeing it see it's very different to be involved about about from seeing it yes and take a deep breath we can check afterwards can check again but what I mean keep it really open your attention you have you in the openness out where you are open your attention and don't allow yourself to be pulled in just allow the cloud house to do what it does not interesting when they

come how which shape they have or when they go you know already the best and the worst of it they have nothing new to tell you actually let it be all whatever you're sensing A Story free okay at least the best you can you know for the next while we're here in the meeting okay all right thank you thank you